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Alright...I'm Catholic, lemme say that. Don't think I"m a religious nut, any Christian can tell you how frustrating it is to talk to me about "evolution is not real," "Gay people are all sinners" etc. Same goes for premarital sex. I won't do it, because personally, I attach to people and I just do'nt wannna bond that closely and have a stronger possibility of breaking up. It'd tear me up. No matter how selfish guys call me for not having sex, just don't need it, and I'm not taking that kinda risk, more on my emotional than physical health.

It's like a lot of people have said. It's not about sex, it's about the responsibilities you take on yourself. Getting into a car doesn't work, just like getting in a bed doesn't give you any reason to fear pregnancy. Once you get into a car and speed, drink, let yourself be distracted, etc. then it become compareable to having sex. The car is no longer an everyday tool. It is now a potentially dangerous tool. Cars are always dangerous, yeah, but once you stop being a good driver, you should be prepared to accept a speeding ticket or having your license revoked if you get pulled over. Once you get in bed, or anywhere really, and have sex, there is a possibility that due to your direct actions, you'll get pregnant. When you get a ticket, do you tear it up or do you go pay the fine? Possibly appealing, but hey, don't forget you were speeding or driving dangerously somehow, so what's the chances of that working? If you weren't driving dangerously, you're fine, you won't get in trouble. If you're not having sex, you're fine, you won't get pregnant. Sex is dangerous, I think we all realize that. STDs, pregnancy, etc. Even safe sex is a risk. Abortion is not accepting responsibility. It is accepting that something didn't go as planned, and there's an easy way out at the expense of at least one other human.

Is it responsible to prevent that child from being a burden? Just wondering, how many people in the world have never been burdens? I think about....none. I can guarantee that everyone viewing this now has been a burden, and that every person in here who is or was a burden for someone is treasure for another. It is irresponsible to decide someone's fate without even knowing him or her. It is irresponsible to decide he or she is better off dead without giving that person a chance. It is irresponsible to assume that what is the easiest way for you to keep living like you do is the best thing for the fetus. Abortion is nothing but harmful towards the fetus. To say a fetus is better off never being born is the same as what they said years ago about slavery. They are better off as slaves because free blacks have a hard life, what with lynchings and all. Slaves were given no choice. People who didn't know them were deciding what they were worth and what would make thier lives better. To judge another without knowing him or her is irresponsible. Aborting to keep the child from being a burden is irresponsible.

Maybe it could be argued that it is responsible for people already born, but it is not responsible to abort for the sake of the fetus to keep that child from the harshness of the world. It is making an assumption based off of your own experiences, failing to take into account the personality of the individual or that the situation may change drastically within the first few years of that child's life.

For the people who say "No sex until you are ready for children", does the word "Condom" mean anything to you? Some people are childfree, you know.

And that doesn't even begin to cover the damage it causes to your bank account.

Also, keep in mind, if it's an unwanted pregnancy, then the risk of damage to mental health as well as physical health exists. If you support abortion for health purpose, it'd damn well better include mental health.

Cars are potentially dangerous even when you are a good/responsible driver. All three car wrecks I have been in, were due to someone running a red light, a drunk driver, and someone who thought a stop sign was optional.

So, safe sex can be comparable to safe driving. ANYTHING CAN HAPPEN. Even if you are a responsible driver, you still can get into a problem from someone else failing to be safe as well or even from your brakes failing. Even if you are responsible with sex, you can still get pregnant because of the devices not working properly.

I realized the car thing about a few months after I posted, but I realized it somewhere else and haven't been here in a year I think sweatdrop

To the cop having a bad day, you appeal in court and you don't have to pay the fine if you weren't doing anything wrong. Especially if it was that time of month for police.

To getting into bed being compared to getting into a car and driving safely, I think it's more compareable that you get into bed and someone rapes you. It's completely the fault of someone else. Getting into a car and doing everything you can to prevent an accident but someone else drives unsafely and gets you in an accident is not due to your actions. The burden is completely on someone else's, whereas, if you have consentual safe sex, you're still not doing all you can to prevent pregnancy. You are willingly risking the life of another individual by risking bringing it into being knowing that you will abort.

I'm not saying don't have recreational sex. I'd be a hypocrite if I did that, I'm not planning on getting married and saying, "Get out the chart, let's map my fertility to get us some babies!" Recreational sex can be a wonderful thing for a relationship, and not necessarily within a marriage, either. I don't really care who has sex, why they have sex, where they have sex, how they have sex. I only care once they bring a human being into the world, stop and say, "Well we aren't ready for this," and kill the human being. It is not responsible in my opinion and can't be.

If you want to be child free, get your tubes tied. I personally think doctors are too strict about hysterectomies. But no matter how safe you try to make your sex, there is ALWAYS the danger of creating a new life, and if your situation is in a way where you feel you need to kill that human even though it's your fault he or she is there in the first place, I don't call abortion a responsible option. You run the risk, you knew the consequences, it's not responsible to kill someone just because you want to have sex.

Very good point. I'll have to think about that.

Most of us don't care if you have sex or not or don't want kids and don't care if you have sex for pleasure or what not, it's the abortion we disagree with.

You think all of us just what sex for kids? Exspecially when married? Then a lot of us won't have sex often then....We like sex for pleasure too and not all of us want kids either, the real difference is we disagree with abortion in we do get pregnant.