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Awesome idea, and I'm not even being sarcastic:

Think they're crazy? Go tell them so. Tell them they don't represent the majority of pro-choicers. Tell them they don't speak for you. Tell them you're pro-choice and you disagree!

I argue with stupid pro-lifers all the time. Do I have a counterpart? Noooo....

Yeah I ment don't.

Anyways, as for adoption, I think that all depends.

I know quite abit of people that were adopted or were in Foster Care. Some people were happy and got adopted into a good family and some people were miserable ( but I also know alot of people that weren't adopted and still had alot of family problems).

basically as you said it's good for some and bad/ traumatic for others. All depends on the person and situation.

I rather give it up for adoption, I don't think I could deal with abortion and that would be harder to explain to my family (if I ever got pregnant).

Sorry I hope I didn't offend you and I was mainly asking that question to all the pro-choicers to hear what everyone had to say.

By the way, I stopped going to the ADT thread long about. I felt that posting on that forum was pointless (all people seem to do in there is insult each other so it wasn't much of a debate anymore).

Maybe I'll try to explain my situation a little bit more. I have PTSD and an anxiety disorder (yes, PTSD is an anxiety disorder, but apparently I have more than one). I was diagnosed with depression, although I probably don't have it anymore and am not being treated for it. I take two anti-anxiety medications to function. Medication A I take every day at night and I can't come off of without breaking down. I was forced to come off of Medication A for a couple of days because I ran out of pills and the pharmacy couldn't refill me for a bit, and I was a wreck. I require this medication to function. This is the medication that has unknown effects on fetuses/embryos/etc. My other medication, Medication B, I take as needed. Depending on my stress level, I may not need to take it at all for weeks. Or I may need to take it daily for a while. I could come off of Medication B, but only if I gave up anything that required me to be able function consistently. For example, I couldn't work or go to school because my stress would get to a level where I needed to take medication or go home and wait it out. This medication is known to cause fetal defects. Thus, outside of an abortion, these are my options:

1) Continue both medications and hope they continue to work the way they do when I'm not pregnant. If they worked the same, I could continue school unless the pregnancy itself unbalanced me. If they worked differently, all bets are off. Doing this, I'd be risking that either or both medications harm the fetus. If all went well, this option would have the least stress on me (and keep in mind that stress affects the fetus).

2) Continue Medication A and discontinue Medication B. I would have to move home for the duration of the pregnancy, but as long as the pregnancy didn't unbalance me and Medication A kept working, my life would not be in danger. Doing this, the fetus would be safe from Medication B (which is known to cause defects) but not from Medication A (which may or may not be safe). Both the fetus and I would have to deal with an increased stress level.

3) Discontinue both medications and check myself into a mental hospital for the duration. My stress level would be through the roof, and thus might be a threat to the fetus.

Now, these are all absolutely options. I likely wouldn't die unless I tried to discontinue Medication A without checking into a hospital. Yes, my life would be negatively affected in an extreme way. But miyo_esparanza says hers would be as well. And although it wouldn't be good to keep taking the meds while being pregnant, these meds just come with a chance that the fetus will be deformed. With an abortion, the fetus is guaranteed to be dead.

I never said that all choicers were horrible monsters. However, on this issue, I can see the selfishness. And as mentioned earlier, selfishness is not always bad. however, in my opinion, since I feel that feti are people yet to be born and hold them to a high value, this selfishness IS bad, at least in this one case. This is not to say that I think you walk down the street kicking babies and punching the elderly. I just disagree with and dislike your stance on this one issue.

Okay, I can understand and accept that.
Let's at least be happy that at this point this isn't a decision that I have to make, and let's hope it's one that I NEVER have to make.

FYI, I'm Miranda. XD Everyone calls me by my real name.

I'm not trying to sound snarky, honest here:

This is all conditional on you becoming pregnant. And you know how to avoid pregnancy, right? There are even things you can do to lessen your chance of ever being raped (and some birth control will work whether you consent to intercourse or not).

I'm in a similar situation, with severe depression and anxiety, plus I'm in a rather demanding college program, and I don't ever want biological children--several genetic illnesses run in my family.

But I've had virtually no problem avoiding pregnancy while having a normal sex life. I don't even take hormonal birth control. I know I have very little chance of ever getting pregnant through rape, and if I don't consent to any behaviour that could get me pregnant...well...I won't get pregnant! Simple as that.

Absolutely this is conditional on me getting pregnant. After all, I can't have an abortion if I'm not pregnant. And I'm sure that both sides (pro-life and pro-choice) can agree that preventing an unwanted pregnancy is better than having an abortion. But every day women get pregnant when they don't want to be, even when they think they won't.