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 Posted: Sat Aug 11, 2007 6:15 am
Yesh, I'm good now thanks, still got a cough though. Oh yes I always wonder whats going on in the guild when I don't get on for a while ninja
But the wondering about Ceribri in particular really only started when I got on and saw the thread xd
Heheh, high five for being unpopular!! schools aren't exactly very tolerant of people who are different. But that's half the fun of it I guess, after a while the not fitting in becomes almost a great thing!!!
Either that or I'm just insane.
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Posted: Sat Aug 11, 2007 10:27 am
Freaj Yesh, I'm good now thanks, still got a cough though. Oh yes I always wonder whats going on in the guild when I don't get on for a while ninja But the wondering about Ceribri in particular really only started when I got on and saw the thread xd Heheh, high five for being unpopular!! schools aren't exactly very tolerant of people who are different. But that's half the fun of it I guess, after a while the not fitting in becomes almost a great thing!!! Either that or I'm just insane. You're not insane..we all are! And I think we all wonder at times about this nutty guild... ninja
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Posted: Sun Aug 12, 2007 4:00 am
We're not insane, it's the rest of the world that is!
And as to being unpopular at school, welcome to my world. I'm glad I've left.
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Posted: Sun Aug 12, 2007 12:39 pm
katybutterfly We're not insane, it's the rest of the world that is! And as to being unpopular at school, welcome to my world. I'm glad I've left.
Seems like we're all popular here! ^^ Yay us!
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Posted: Sun Aug 12, 2007 2:00 pm
Oh, yeah. rolleyes
Other kids used to slap me around, steal my stuff, tear up & scribble on my drawings, call me names...you name it. I don't miss 'em one bit. :XP:
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Posted: Tue Aug 14, 2007 12:39 pm
Wow... isn't there ANYONE in the world who liked school? I'm still repressing all memory of highschool and most of primary school too.
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Posted: Wed Aug 15, 2007 7:14 am
Eirwyn Oh, yeah. rolleyes
Other kids used to slap me around, steal my stuff, tear up & scribble on my drawings, call me names...you name it. I don't miss 'em one bit. :XP: Try getting eggs smashed on you, chucked into patches of nettles, battered around the head with a jumper that had been rolled into more or less a club, and being threatened with having your hair set on fire. That's what I call being bullied, and that happened to me.
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Posted: Wed Aug 15, 2007 12:26 pm
katybutterfly Eirwyn Oh, yeah. rolleyes
Other kids used to slap me around, steal my stuff, tear up & scribble on my drawings, call me names...you name it. I don't miss 'em one bit. :XP: Try getting eggs smashed on you, chucked into patches of nettles, battered around the head with a jumper that had been rolled into more or less a club, and being threatened with having your hair set on fire. That's what I call being bullied, and that happened to me. Wow. I knew I was lucky before with going to a private school, but wow. That's ten times worse than the stories my IRL friends told me... o_0
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Posted: Thu Aug 16, 2007 4:59 am
Ceribri katybutterfly Eirwyn Oh, yeah. rolleyes
Other kids used to slap me around, steal my stuff, tear up & scribble on my drawings, call me names...you name it. I don't miss 'em one bit. :XP: Try getting eggs smashed on you, chucked into patches of nettles, battered around the head with a jumper that had been rolled into more or less a club, and being threatened with having your hair set on fire. That's what I call being bullied, and that happened to me. Wow. I knew I was lucky before with going to a private school, but wow. That's ten times worse than the stories my IRL friends told me... o_0 Sorry, but it's true. That's why I'm quite shy IRL. You only get the online version of me.
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Posted: Thu Aug 16, 2007 7:15 am
I used to be downright withdrawn. I also learned how not to go to the bathroom all day, because I knew I'd get cornered in there. Sometimes they'd steal my glasses & laugh at me when I started crying. My mom would say, "Well, don't let them do that." rolleyes How helpful. But if I tried to fight back, guess who got whisked off for lecturing? Teachers have GOT to let kids stand up for themselves. It will NOT make evil warlords of them if they defend themselves from attack. Preventing a kid from defending him or her self results in a very frustrated, angry, introverted kid who internalizes all their aggression. Is THAT healthy? It also results in a kid who will be a victim all the time because they're getting programmed that way, and the bullies are programmed to hit them because they know they're safe targets.
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Posted: Thu Aug 16, 2007 11:46 am
I don't know if I feel lucky or not but all the worst bullying I got was either verbal or psychological. My mum taught me to fight back at a very early age so I was always ready to defend myself (I got into so many fights in Primary school... not that I'm proud of that but I was so used to it in England and I found that they weren't used to girls fighting back in Scotland) but in Highschool it wasn't physical, so I couldn't hit back, so I lost all self-esteem and social skills because in the end no matter how hard you try you do start to believe the horrible things people say about you.
Not that it matters now. I'm out of there and good-riddance to it. I shall have my vengeance through my writing and the rest of my life shall be happiness and light.
Hey... this thread is now a throw-off-your-psychological-shackles thread. Well done Ceribri. whee
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Posted: Fri Aug 17, 2007 4:51 am
Surely that's a good thing though, Roobarb. It shows that we are comfortable discussing things within this guild that we might find difficult to talk about IRL.
Eirwyn, I know exactly what you mean. I defended myself one time and got put in Senior Management Detention (detention with either the Head or Deputy Head), and a letter got sent home. Mum put in my planner (which had to be signed by the form tutor every week) that I had been told to retaliate if the bullying continued, which was what I was doing. It got to the point that I was afraid to get on the bus to and from school, instead getting a bus 5 minutes later in the mornings and half an hour later in the afternoons, because if I was on the same bus as the bullies, I was trapped.
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Posted: Fri Aug 17, 2007 12:02 pm
Roobarb I don't know if I feel lucky or not but all the worst bullying I got was either verbal or psychological. My mum taught me to fight back at a very early age so I was always ready to defend myself (I got into so many fights in Primary school... not that I'm proud of that but I was so used to it in England and I found that they weren't used to girls fighting back in Scotland) but in Highschool it wasn't physical, so I couldn't hit back, so I lost all self-esteem and social skills because in the end no matter how hard you try you do start to believe the horrible things people say about you. Not that it matters now. I'm out of there and good-riddance to it. I shall have my vengeance through my writing and the rest of my life shall be happiness and light. Hey... this thread is now a throw-off-your-psychological-shackles thread. Well done Ceribri. whee I'm glad I can talk about it. My school has no physical bullying either, only what Roobarb said, verbal or psychological. And she's right, you end up starting to believe what they say. I'm such the inverted person that I usually sat either by myself or with one person, or a teacher came over and sat with me once in a while.. because I just didn't fit in somehow, even though I was invited by the 'popular kids' to come over to their table....I realized later that it was because they wanted to look good in the teacher's eyes, because inevitably I'd end up just sitting there quietly eating my lunch.
It's gotten better over the years, as the change in classmates provides both great friends and lesser enemies. Even though it still happens, I've got a group of people that are more than happy to back me up.
And Roobarb, isn't this a good thing? I'm glad that we can talk about this kind of stuff in the guild, because I know personally that it helps to know that you're not alone when it always seems that you are.
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Posted: Fri Aug 17, 2007 4:26 pm
Wow, Katy--they actually put down on paper that you were to retaliate? Wish someone would've done that for me. I suspect it's because I was kid back in the 60's & 70's--all that peace, love & so on, you know. They were determined that just ignoring a bully makes the bully go away. How stupid is that? Of course they aren't going to leave, they've got a perfect little sheep right in front of them to torment! Yet you'd see this moronic idea for ages, even in cartoons. I think they STILL try to tell toddlers to just ignore a bully, don't fight back. The most positive thing they suggest is to go tell on the bully. Now, in kid society, who likes a RAT? The fact that you're telling on a bully is beside the point, the fact is you're bringing in the adult gestapo on kid politics. So that really doesn't solve much either.
Ya notice something, don't ya...? I'm nearly 45 & I'm still this venomous about those years. Like I said, you end up with a kid who internalizes all their negative feelings. If they'd let me punch a couple of bullies in the head, it sure would've felt good! twisted
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Posted: Sat Aug 18, 2007 6:13 am
Yep. Thing is, I'd been bullied since I was 5 and I'd just had enough. About a year after that, I tried "something silly", because the bullying had become more verbal than physical. I'd fake being ill to try and get off school, but it didn't always work. I'd cry myself to sleep, try to make myself ill, anything to avoid going in. It finally stopped when my Head Of Year noticed the cuts on my arms. He sent a message to the teacher I was meant to be in a lesson with that I was with him, took me into his office, sat me down and said "Right, what's going on?"
That's because I didn't dare tell on the bullies, for exactly the reason you said. Even if I did tell, I don't think anyone took me seriously, so things got out of hand. I've got the scars to remind me.
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