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They do have a point. You shouldn't tell them. If you really want to, then yes, you should wait until there is a calm atmosphere. But I would suggest at least waiting until you're old enough to live by yourself just incase you need to get away. I'm sorry, but that's the best I can do.

thanks for all the advices it really helps i don't think I will tell them any time soon. in part to the fact that they are getting divorced, and they take out all their angery on me and my sister.but overall thanks everyone

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Sexual orientation. Preference isn't the PC term anymore, as it implies choice.
Anyway: Don't bring it up. However, if you're comfortable with your orientation, you could beat them to it and talk about it. It really depends on the situation: ie, do people ask you about it? Also, if the people already know, then there's really no point in denying it.


I have a request:
I'm the president of my school's GSA, as I was this past year. I want to get more done than just the DoS and information on Matthew Shephard and TDoR. I want to stop my clubmembers from coming to the meetings just to talk as though it's a regular lunch period. I want to accomplish something, as this is the last year I will be at my high school, and I want to at least try to set something up so that the club can continue.
I feel horrible for our advisor because she sits there, trying to get us into things, and everyone just talks and eats.
Any ideas of things I can do? Activities?

Also, the Republican club (yeah right; they're just the Christian club all over again, only they try unsuccessfully to make themselves look political) has begun trying to "recapture" the school. Last year, there was an article in the school paper that was about how "the poor little Republicans didn't feel safe on a campus where the Liberals and gays ruled." Please. I live in an unincorporated area that, rumor has it, was founded by a member of the flipping KKK.
I just want to make my campus safe and friendly. I'm sick of bigots.

Not to sound like a stick in the mud, but at the high school level, (don't know if it's different with college clubs, since I haven't had the pleasure) unless you have an agenda, and you are all motivated toward that goal, it's going to be just a "lets gather to eat type thing." I was the vice-president of the Anime club at my high school, and it was extremely hard to make the club manageable. I'm willing to bet if I returned to my high school, it would be in the shitter still -_-'. Id even be so bold as to put money on that more then 50% of HS clubs have no real direction, they are just a gathering of like minded individuals, unless they are headed by some big-wig teacher with an agenda or the students have one already in place.

Right now I cant stop trembling. my moms bf's sugar is way off and he is a diabetic and hes all angry and he tried fighting with me. He came in the kitchen while me and my bro were talking and he was doing some chores my mom asked him to do when her bf started yelling at us and told us to get out and he started blaming us for all his problems and all my moms and i told him we were just talking to her and that my bro was doing chores and he got up in my face and yelled at me. He called me worthless white trash and Ive heard him call us dirty filthy devil worshipping jews. If I had said something else I know he would have attacked me.....I cant stop trembling....my hands all shakey.....

I'd have to agree with high school clubs being disorganized or full of hooligans. The clubs I was in was largely like that, even the LEO club (community service group, a jr. lions club). College clubs seem more organized, the people tend to be a bit more mature and a little less chatty. There are exceptions, but it can be hard to get them to focus.

I've not got much leadership experience, but I could try to suggest some things. Do you have discussions, or is your group more event oriented? Or people just want to hang out and have fun? Those are important things to consider. You may just have to accept that they're crumb-bums and don't really want to get things done to make changes in your community.
If you haven't tried discussions before, I'd suggest it. We do that every meeting here. Pick a topic, either do a bit of internet research yourself or find someone else in the group who's interested in looking up gay issues. Such topics as defining bisexuality (some people have diff definitions), transgender issues, negative and positive stereotypes, coming out stories (or if people aren't out, tell stories about how you came to question or discover your sexual orientation), gay history, a specific gay role-model, other things that make up your identities besides your sexuality (what you like to do, religion, politics, hobbies, whether you're emo or preppy, etc), conflicts between religion and gays, gays and the military, abuse in same-sex relationships, hate crimes, current advancements in the gay marriage issue, etc.
((Sorry for that huge list, I tried to think of all the discussions I've had in 1.5 years of pride meetings.))

Another thing you could do would be to find speakers to come in and talk about gay issues. That might be hard to do because of the zero-budget of high schools (don't expect anyone famous, they generally cost thousands of dollars to get to come to colleges), but even if you just got in contact with a local gay adult (whether author or musician or tv newscaster, I don't know) or even someone's family member, to talk about their experiences. This might be hard to have as an event for the general school public (limited support from high school staff and parents being big problems), but it would be fun for just your gsa, and informative.

Other events you could do in your school could include a gay history month event of some sort (october is gay history month), day of silence, coming out day (in october, forget the date), matthew shepherd event, for educational events.
For fun events, you could do movie showings (show gay movies, like Mambo Italiano, which is the only one I can think of at the moment 'cos I'm silly) that are either serious/documentary or cinematic/comedy/drama. You could have a pizza party and play gay jeopardy with trivia. You could have a party where you made posters not to advertise but just to spread positive messages about gays. Or if you can get permission, you could have a drag show or a drag ball (the difference being a show, only a few people dress up and do some musical numbers in drag, and at a ball, people dress in drag and dance around... I think either would be fun... but it'd be hard to do in lots of schools, I'm sure).

So I'm not sure how applicable all these ideas are. It largely depends on how accepting your school and community are, and how driven and serious your group is. I would say start small, try working on in-group fun events, speakers, or discussions while getting positive publicity out into the school and community. When the time is right, you might be able to do bigger school-wide events.

And finally, don't get too frustrated or depressed if you find that your community isn't accepting. It takes time, and it might not be the way you'd like it now, but just by having a gsa it makes it that much better. You're there for your peers.
And also, don't get too upset if your gsa members aren't as focused as you'd like them to be. If it helps any, you'll be in college soon, where the gsa's tend to be much more productive and focused. ^_^


hope that helps some.... ^^;;

Im 14, And I Took A "Gay Test" A Couple Of Months Ago, I Came 48% Gay, I Todl A Few Mates Thinking It Was Funny. The Making Fun crying
Problem Is I Think I Might Be Gay/Bi Coz I'm Interesting In Gay Things, And Have Loads Of Girl-Friends.. And Get On Well With Them
Although In A Class, I Got Told Hormones Interfere With Your Feelings. I Dno Wot To Do sad Be True To Myself And Say Im Gay/Bi Or Keep Denying And Pretend Im Not In A Homophobic School stare