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 Posted: Mon Feb 14, 2011 2:34 am
sweatdrop No lies, that would be something best never done in a relationship.
Lies in a realtionship are like.........Termites in a tree, slowly they work thier way in and then eat away all of the structure and durability then all you are left with is rotten wood...an analogy.. sweatdrop
Just be slow with it, and try telling her a bit at a time about your self and as well try to be cautious but let her know what if any problems have happened when you feel and think she is ready for that info.
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Posted: Mon Feb 14, 2011 8:55 am
I agree with True and Giesta
Take it slow
Don't lie
Don't talk about past relationships. If you have something to say on the subject, talk to a friend or minister/priest/counsellor.
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Posted: Mon Feb 14, 2011 3:54 pm
I try not to lie to anybody for any reason unless I just really have a problem with the person and I am forced to talk to the person because of friends wanting to hang out with both me and the other person at the same time. (I can fake a smile and a friendly attitude like a pro.)
I try not to talk about my ex-fiancee, but sometimes I start talking about her without even meaning to and I want to beat the ever-loving tar out of myself when I do. I am so used to talking about her that my mind just travels in that direction and my filter doesn't recognize that it is coming out of my mouth until I have already said it.
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Posted: Mon Feb 14, 2011 9:40 pm
Dont lie to the girl. That never works.
And its okay to talk about your ex sometimes. Just not at first.Think about what your saying before you say it.Inless the girl asks about your past dating history or untill you guys really really get to know each other and are dating she dosnt need to know every little think about your ex and everything that has happened between you.
Not that it isnt important to you to have a girl you may now to love know, but just dont tell her till the time is right.
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Posted: Tue Feb 15, 2011 7:28 am
I think everyone says things before thinking.
Seems to me (I could be wrong) that you talk about your ex but it's not productive, it doesn't lead to resolution or closure. That's what's needed I think.
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Posted: Tue Feb 15, 2011 1:16 pm
3nodding But indeed, take things slowly and if your ex- comes up then try to only talk as little as possible about that situation.
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Posted: Tue Feb 15, 2011 3:00 pm
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Posted: Tue Feb 15, 2011 4:27 pm
Maybe it is more that I am comfortable talking about my ex with those who knew her and that I wouldn't talk about her with somebody who didn't know her. I know that I rarely talk about her when it comes to my friends outside of my inner-most groups who I talked with her about while I was still with her. I will gladly admit that she made me miserable for the majority of our relationship if anybody asks about that situation, though. (It is extremely true... She treated me really poorly and I couldn't ever really let some of the things that she did to me drop out of my mind.)
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Posted: Wed Feb 16, 2011 5:03 am
There's no such thing as a problem without a gift for you in its hands. You seek problems because you need their gifts. -- "Illusions: Adventures of a Reluctant Messiah" by Richard Bach
It's a little book, mostly about two guys flying around in old planes and some walking through walls.
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Posted: Wed Feb 16, 2011 4:09 pm
JJ dont try so hard dear. I know how hard it is to forget an ex that had meen such a big part of your life. Its hard.. It took me over a year to realy be over my one ex.. You just HAVE to stop talking about her and thinking about her so much.
Throw everything she gave you away and put all your pictures away. Thats the only way you will be able to forget her dear..I know its hard but its the only way.
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Posted: Wed Feb 16, 2011 4:55 pm
I can't find it in me to throw away the State blanket that she gave me... I have tried, but it is State... We never did take pictures, though. She didn't like having her picture taken because she thought that she was ugly.
I think that I am losing my mind, though... I keep on seeing her everywhere I go.
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Posted: Wed Feb 16, 2011 5:12 pm
The only thing I have from my ex is a teedy bear.But I put it awayin the closet. Maybe you could try just packing it away if you cant throw it out? Its not heathy tobe likt this about a girl dear...
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Posted: Wed Feb 16, 2011 8:03 pm
Yeah... I know... It is so hard to not be this way when she is the only girl that has ever given me the time of day, though...
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Posted: Thu Feb 17, 2011 1:06 am
It can be hard to get over a person and especially in those circumstances you mentioned.
It is like that with my cousin who died a little while back for about 3 or 4 days everywhere I saw her and people who lkooked like her.
I still from time to time see her in peoples faces and in different places I daydream and remember her. 3nodding
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Posted: Thu Feb 17, 2011 2:42 am
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