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 Posted: Thu Feb 10, 2011 9:44 am
TrueBlood225 I think if that were the case you wouldnt had gotten as far to be engaged in the first place right? Im sure you not a femm dear. I really am rather feminine (though I look like a manly-man)... I don't mind admitting it. She was really that masculine (though she looked like a girly-girl). We meshed well. (She cheated on me, moved in with an ex, and just did me wrong all around, though. She, then, tried to come back and make us into friends with benefits because she enjoyed cheating on other people.)
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Posted: Thu Feb 10, 2011 11:15 am
Ahh okay. All I can say is once a cheater always a cheater
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Posted: Thu Feb 10, 2011 9:38 pm
TrueBlood225 Ahh okay. All I can say is once a cheater always a cheater T'is true... Sadly...
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Posted: Fri Feb 11, 2011 2:47 am
Unfortunately cheating is very widespread in our culture these days. Oprah has two really interesting definitions of forgiveness (I heart Oprah) --
Forgiveness is a gift you give yourself.
Forgiveness is no longer wishing that what happened in the past didn't happen.
It's easier to say than to do. I'm still working on a few past events that hurt me deeply.
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Posted: Fri Feb 11, 2011 9:18 am
I guess that I finally have forgiven her, then... I am glad that she did what she did to me because it gave me freedom like I had never experienced before when she had totally destroyed my emotions. (I don't feel that I have to be in a relationship anymore. I am not freaked out by the thought of being alone. I have found acceptance within myself.)
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Posted: Fri Feb 11, 2011 2:15 pm
3nodding Yes, cheating has become far to common any more and often it ends-up stalling a lot of relationships before they can get good.
I am glad you found a way to forgive her Sergeant, but it can be so hard to do and is of course harder the more you loved her.
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Posted: Sat Feb 12, 2011 11:24 am
Forgiveness just takes time. At least you have recognized what she has done and grown from it.
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Posted: Sat Feb 12, 2011 1:40 pm
3nodding With time things will hopefully get better.
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Posted: Sat Feb 12, 2011 6:05 pm
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Posted: Sat Feb 12, 2011 9:15 pm
This beautiful girl came up to me trying to make conversation in the past three days... I talked to her because I wanted to talk to her. I want to be her friend, but I am afraid that she likes me as more (I am also afraid that I like her as more). I have seen how my walking into the room brings a smile to her face. My just seeing her brings a smile to my face. I am scared stupid by things... I am really not trying to have this happen to me right now.
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Posted: Sun Feb 13, 2011 6:42 am
Perhaps this is a good thing, if you need take things slowly and talk with her and get to know her.
This maybe something to help you get together with someone. 3nodding
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Posted: Sun Feb 13, 2011 9:13 am
I really do like her... She seems so innocent, so sweet, so beautiful, and so incredibly perfect. She is so shy... and she deserves the very best. I fear hurting her...
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Posted: Sun Feb 13, 2011 9:42 am
It's hard to tell, when you first meet a person, the role they'll play in your life. When I met my best friend I didn't like her. I had no idea what an amazing person she was.
JJ take Giesta's good advice. Take it slow and see what happens.
True is right too -- time heals.
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Posted: Sun Feb 13, 2011 2:23 pm
Dont be scared dear. If you like her keep talking to her. JUst be friends for a while and then when you both feel ready to take it a step further it will happen. You cant go into it fearing that you will hurt her, thats just headed for disaster. You have to be positive.
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Posted: Sun Feb 13, 2011 5:07 pm
I can be extremely positive towards the aspect of a relationship, but I still talk about my ex without realizing that I am doing it which is part of what really scares me. I am scared that I will talk to her about my ex and she will take offense to it. I am scared that it might hurt her if I mention somebody who was such a major part of my past because she will wonder whether I am really that interested in her.
I could start off with lies and make it sound understandable for me to still talk about my ex by telling her that my ex died, but I don't agree with lying and I disagree with starting off relationships with lies. (Lies are there to prove how little you really care about a person because they hurt that person when they find out that you are lying to them.) I would much rather either stay alone for the rest of my life or find somebody who can deal with the truth.
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