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 Posted: Fri Aug 25, 2006 12:44 pm
Well, according to the DoD pregnancy purple book, it says it's okay to bring your baby with you when you haev to go to your postpartum 4/6 week checkup. However, I don't know if that's something fairly new or if some MTFs are just picky about it. Because when I went, I brought Logan and even though he's a baby and sleeping in the stroller, they made a big deal about the exam, but I had no other choice at the time, so they let me. From what I understand now, they are more cooperative, but it might depend on the MTF.
Now, as for doctors. I was never really one who cared to see the same doc during the pregnancy since I was going to have to switch from the Army hospital that was closer to my house to the AF one where I was actually delivering, but both have been complication free as well. For the most part, if you ask and schedule a month in advance, they're usually good about trying to do that if you ask.
Now I know if you prefer not to deliver in an MTF, you have that choice, however, it means switching from Prime to Standard, which does have out of pocket expenses.
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Posted: Fri Aug 25, 2006 2:42 pm
lunashock Well, according to the DoD pregnancy purple book, it says it's okay to bring your baby with you when you haev to go to your postpartum 4/6 week checkup. However, I don't know if that's something fairly new or if some MTFs are just picky about it. Because when I went, I brought Logan and even though he's a baby and sleeping in the stroller, they made a big deal about the exam, but I had no other choice at the time, so they let me. From what I understand now, they are more cooperative, but it might depend on the MTF. Now, as for doctors. I was never really one who cared to see the same doc during the pregnancy since I was going to have to switch from the Army hospital that was closer to my house to the AF one where I was actually delivering, but both have been complication free as well. For the most part, if you ask and schedule a month in advance, they're usually good about trying to do that if you ask. Now I know if you prefer not to deliver in an MTF, you have that choice, however, it means switching from Prime to Standard, which does have out of pocket expenses. Well you see. The MTF here is only a clinic. It does not deliver children, have in patients, or anything like that. We will be here for a few more years and I know we will be thinking of children within the next two or three. I do not want to have to meet the doctor who delivers my baby the morning of my labor. I'd like to build a strong relatioship with a doctor, this way I feel confident in him/her. I looked up providers on the Tricare site for OB/GYN. A few names popped up. Does that mean that these people are accepted and paid for by tricare prime? Let me link to this... https://www.triwest.com/triwest/unauth/apps/OnlineProviderDirectory/default.aspxI know I am getting ahead of myself by asking this now. But, I am extremely curious. And, the sites seem not to answer my questions. I still plan on calling, I just need to get my thoughts together so I know exactly what I am asking. Edit: Btw thank you for your answers. They are more insightful than the website that explains very little in detail. Edit2: Does this mean I just answered my own questions? These Civilian Providers are paid for... for the most part? Quote: TRICARE Prime Using a military hospital or clinic, or Military Treatment Facility (MTF), is the usual procedure if you have chosen to enroll in TRICARE Prime. Active duty service members are automatically eligible but must still complete the enrollment forms to be enrolled in TRICARE Prime. Your health care is then arranged and coordinated by a Primary Care Manager (PCM) at the MTF. These resources are augmented by a network of civilian doctors and clinics, who agree to treat TRICARE Prime enrollees, to charge the allowable fee for treatment, and to file claim forms for the beneficiary.
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Posted: Fri Aug 25, 2006 3:07 pm
Lol pretty much you answered it!
Before I moved out here, the MTF I was at did not do OB care or deliveries. I will say be very careful and make sure they get all that paperwork together. I ended up getting screwed because they didn't follow the guidelines or some stupid thing and I had to pay $200 out of pocket for some stupid mistake. If I had been back there, I could have contested it, but it took over a year for them to find me and get a collection agency and it was past the grace period for Tricare to fight it for me.
So, when I got my confirmation at the MTF with Logan, they gave me a letter and a number and it had referrals authorizing me to go to the civilian doc to receive care. I'm hoping things have changed for the better cause it was a HUGE PITA for me, but I know things have changed since then.
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Posted: Fri Aug 25, 2006 4:13 pm
lunashock Lol pretty much you answered it! Before I moved out here, the MTF I was at did not do OB care or deliveries. I will say be very careful and make sure they get all that paperwork together. I ended up getting screwed because they didn't follow the guidelines or some stupid thing and I had to pay $200 out of pocket for some stupid mistake. If I had been back there, I could have contested it, but it took over a year for them to find me and get a collection agency and it was past the grace period for Tricare to fight it for me. So, when I got my confirmation at the MTF with Logan, they gave me a letter and a number and it had referrals authorizing me to go to the civilian doc to receive care. I'm hoping things have changed for the better cause it was a HUGE PITA for me, but I know things have changed since then. Thanks so much for your patience with me. I get a little over-curious sometimes and MUST know the answers. (even if the answers will not apply to me for some time) Sometimes I look so desperetly for the answers, that I miss the obvious in front of me. But, I guess at least it is here for someone else if they need it. lol xd Anyway, thank you for the advise. When I get to that point, I will definetly make sure to have everything in writing... with copies.
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Posted: Tue Aug 29, 2006 1:03 pm
Alex's comes home on Friday! I am so excited, but I am also feeling nervus. It's weird I never felt like this before when he's be gone. I'll just be glad when he's home and we've gotten past that just came home akwardness.
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Posted: Tue Aug 29, 2006 6:21 pm
Homecomings are often more stressful and akward then the seperations were: I hope all goes well! heart
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Posted: Tue Aug 29, 2006 7:25 pm
The nervousness I can totally sympathize with. I hope the homecoming goes well for you guys though! heart
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Posted: Wed Aug 30, 2006 2:27 am
Angiemademe Alex's comes home on Friday! I am so excited, but I am also feeling nervus. It's weird I never felt like this before when he's be gone. I'll just be glad when he's home and we've gotten past that just came home akwardness. My mom used to get super nervous when it would be time for my dad to come home. She would always worry about things that didn't actually matter. For example; if the house was clean enough, if she was pretty enough, if we were dressed properly, and a whole bunch of other things that really never mattered to dad. He was only happy to be home and be with the family. But, I so know how she felt now. lol
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Posted: Wed Aug 30, 2006 4:29 pm
Thanks for the reassurance ladies. It really helps.
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Posted: Sat Sep 02, 2006 11:36 am
xd He's home safe and sound. I was worried for nothing. Hooray!
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Posted: Sun Sep 03, 2006 1:47 pm
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Posted: Mon Sep 25, 2006 3:44 pm
We got some good news (on top of having the baby of course), life changing good news.
Hubby got accepted into the ACEP program where the army will pay for him to just go to school full time for 2 years to get his BS in nursing. So, this means that first he will be an officer after all this ( eek going to be totally weird), and this pretty much cements the going career thing.
We've been waiting on eggshells and he's worked his tail off to get this for years. I have to admit, while I'm so happy this means a lot of positive changes for us, it's still hard for me to swallow. I thought I would be totally 100% happy, but part of me is a bit saddened by it. Blah, just some venting.
On a grr note, I don't get why DEERS is so screwed up. First, they keep trying to put Liam on my stepson's address. How the HECK can he and my hubby live in Alabama when I clearly delivered here in Texas? And for some off the wall reason, even though we've done everything we're supposed to do after a baby being born, they have Liam under Tricare Standard. Everything I've read says newborns are automatically enrolled in Prime for a certain amount of days. And of course I can't take care of it, it has to be hubby and he's got to wing it some how since he works nights. ARGH why is something so simple overly complicated?
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Posted: Tue Nov 07, 2006 10:25 am
I just found out from my husband yesterday that my husband is being activated in May for a 2 year tour in Iraq.......I had a hard enough time with 1 month, I don't know how I'm going to handle 2 years. He's going to miss so much with the baby. Anson won't even remember his daddy. We'll have only been married a year. This is so unfair. His unit wasn't even scheduled to go back over until 2009. So we weren't even going to have to deal with this. Then some idiot chickens out about volunteering to go over and my husband takes the fall for it by getting lent to a different unit who is going over now.
I probably shouldn't be so angry...but I cant help it. I can't even stop crying about it.
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Posted: Tue Nov 07, 2006 1:52 pm
First, it's understandable. It's upsetting and a devestating thing to hear. It's okay to cry, I know it hit me hard last year.
However, this is the nature of the beast. You did marry a Reservist, a military man. The sacrifices we make as spouses sometimes gets overlooked, this is that price. We don't want to go through it, but we do it because we have to.
Unfortunately, that's a mantra with the military. Nothing is set in stone, don't believe everything you hear. Things change, promotions get set back, deployments moved up. It's a really pessimistic outlook, but that's the military. Stability and predicability are things you're never going to get in the military, it's something to get used to as soon as you can.
I do want to say while your anger and hurt is valid, please don't be insulting to those who might initially voluteered and changed their mind. My husband volunteered initially to go back over there in 07, but turns out he got accepted into this school that was almost 5 years he's worked for.
Anson will only forget his daddy if you want that. Pictures, pictures, pictures. Tell him stories, talk to him. Have AJ videotape himself reading stories or just things to play for Anson. Heck, get a build-a-bear or something similiar with the sound chip and have him tell him he loves him. Communications have come a LONG way since this war first started. I know some other members here whose hubbies were over there in OIF I can attest to that.
Stay strong for the baby, that's what I had to tell myself. Allow yourself some time to yourself to cry and whatnot, but don't let it consume you. Give yourself a goal. I told myself I could have 3 days after he left to mope and that was it. I also tried very hard (wasn't the easiest) not to get upset in front of Logan. I wanted it to be happy times.
Make sure you educate yourself and hopefully his unit is highspeed and will do all the necessary SRP stuff (i.e. Tricare, will and testaments, etc.). Attend the FRG meetings, get your phone tree, ask questions. If it works out best for you and you can swing it financially, move back with family (however the military will not pay for you to PCS).
I know it's a lot to take in, it's a heartbreaking thing to hear. Stay strong, you can do this with lots of love and strength.
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Posted: Tue Nov 07, 2006 1:53 pm
Deployments are rough.
Chris was deployed barely two weeks after we got married, we didn't even get to live together before he left. More then likely, he'll be getting shipped out for another rotation in about a year. His first deployment was in March 'o3.
I know this may not be comforting now, but things are so much better organized now and the conditions are better. When Chris went, there was no email, no phone communications, no PXes for them to buy things. For a long time, he was living on one MRE a day and a half-liter of water...in 140* heat, I kid you not. It's come so far since then.
Anywho, if you have any concerns or want to vent, some of us have been there. You can do this. 3nodding
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