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 Posted: Sat Sep 25, 2010 9:50 pm
broken_bleeding_angel Yes I meant you Usa lol. XD Yay! I'm a bunny! Thanks for taking me along with you! heart (usagi=rabbit, usa=bunny because it's cuter) whee
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Posted: Sat Sep 25, 2010 9:50 pm
lilchibiusa Lack of communication is usually what starts conflict, so I think there are some things that we can all do to keep conflict at a minimum in here. 1) Never assume that someone is attacking you or trying to offend you. Chances are that you misread the post or the person who posted it didn't convey the post in a manner that easily understood. Instead of getting defensive, gently ask for clarification. 2) Do not post when angry. Take a few minutes to calm down, and then post in a calmer state of mind. The best part is that no one will notice this part since this is a forum site. 3) If there is a problem going on, talk about the problem instead of talking about the flaws of a particular person. Leave your feelings out of discussion. 4) Remember that the person reading your posts cannot see your facial expressions or hear your tone of voice. These make up over half of the message being conveyed. Emoticons are your friends when you think that someone might be touchy. They let your audience know in what manner your message is to be taken. biggrin Here is the thing though, I wasn't directing my post of being felt left our or attacked to anyone, just the group as a whole. I know all the rest of you are in college or graduated from college, so that makes me the only one from a high school (except maybe one other co-host, but not sure) so subjects feel alot more touchy to me. neutral I am sorry if I may come out like I am yelling. If I am yelling I would use Caps Lock. I learned that if I kept stuff bottled in, even from posts, then things get worse to the point where I explode on everyone, so yeah, I am sorry for that. neutral
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Posted: Sat Sep 25, 2010 10:02 pm
Epcot Illuminations lilchibiusa Lack of communication is usually what starts conflict, so I think there are some things that we can all do to keep conflict at a minimum in here. 1) Never assume that someone is attacking you or trying to offend you. Chances are that you misread the post or the person who posted it didn't convey the post in a manner that easily understood. Instead of getting defensive, gently ask for clarification. 2) Do not post when angry. Take a few minutes to calm down, and then post in a calmer state of mind. The best part is that no one will notice this part since this is a forum site. 3) If there is a problem going on, talk about the problem instead of talking about the flaws of a particular person. Leave your feelings out of discussion. 4) Remember that the person reading your posts cannot see your facial expressions or hear your tone of voice. These make up over half of the message being conveyed. Emoticons are your friends when you think that someone might be touchy. They let your audience know in what manner your message is to be taken. biggrin Here is the thing though, I wasn't directing my post of being felt left our or attacked to anyone, just the group as a whole. I know all the rest of you are in college or graduated from college, so that makes me the only one from a high school (except maybe one other co-host, but not sure) so subjects feel alot more touchy to me. neutral I am sorry if I may come out like I am yelling. If I am yelling I would use Caps Lock. I learned that if I kept stuff bottled in, even from posts, then things get worse to the point where I explode on everyone, so yeah, I am sorry for that. neutral That was just some advice I'm offering as a whole for everyone to use in the future to defuse conflicts. I picked up a whole bunch of stuff like that from counseling and getting a psychology minor. I left out the bits that I felt were complete BS such as the "When you _______, I feel _________" statements. Seriously! That never did anyone a bit of good! xp Senior year is a rough year, but at least it isn't as bad as junior year when you're applying for college and worrying with scholarships. Enjoy your senior year. Colleges barely even notice what kind of grades you make that year. I'm not saying to not try, but I am saying that you shouldn't need feel so much pressure over this year. I learned in psychology that the brain doesn't stop growing until you are about 22 or 23, and high school students' brains are in a growth spurt. Their brains are going through mylinization (sp?), and detaching and re-attaching pathways that make the brain rather unstable at times. So, I guess some things are to be expected, but they are more easily controlled when they have to be slowed down to go through a computer keyboard. Even if you don't intend to be offensive, people can easily take things the wrong way. Try your best to be as un-ambiguous in your message as possible. It usually helps. Btw, this is just general advice, and I am not attacking you. See, un-ambiguous! biggrin
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Posted: Sat Sep 25, 2010 10:32 pm
@Epcot: It sincerely felt like you were jumping me for mentioning the Hades room. And we had a lot of quality in our posters. We just also had a couple of morons that we dealt with in the first day or so. It just so happened we had a lot more quality posts.
I know you were talking to everyone as a whole but I had to respond from my point of view rather than as everyone since I am not everyone. I just used the apology posts as a quote point.
As for being a high school senior, it's a long way from stress for you. Once you hit college or work, things will get worse. Try to find a good, constructive hobby to use as an outlet for the stress. It will help you out a lot. That's from my own experiences.
And I mostly left the thread for a while because I had to get my little niece, who I'm starting to raise and might adopt soon, back to sleep because she's teething and is in pain from it.
@Chibi: No. I honestly was going to use one room as a test to see if I was wanted anywhere at all in the planning of the ball and this room was by request from a friend of mine. (They think I'm am angry person. LOL ) Big reason I want the position of Calm. To not be angry and start conflicts.
I know a bit about psychology as well but tend to shy from it since all I've known in my life and family is psychopaths. Not even exaggerating. I am being rather calm about the situation and calmly stating how I feel about it. I have no reason to yell on the internet since it will be forgotten rather quickly anyway. My others posts are fairly un-ambiguous as well since I was referring to drama in general.
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Posted: Sat Sep 25, 2010 10:32 pm
Thank you for that Usa. I'm sure all of us appreciate it regardless if we say so or not. ^w^
Anyways I am going to bed. I'm to tired and sore to stay awake any longer.
Night!
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Posted: Sat Sep 25, 2010 10:40 pm
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Posted: Sat Sep 25, 2010 11:39 pm
It looks like things are back under control again. heart I hate fighting (but acting fighting is okay). It looks like everyone has expressed their opinions, and......oh... forget it. xp I'm too sleepy to think right now. *yawns* I'm going to bed now. I love all of you bunches and bunches! heart *hugs* See you later!
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Posted: Sat Sep 25, 2010 11:40 pm
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Posted: Sun Sep 26, 2010 3:53 am
Oh god, I missed so much...
@Jackie You're not leaving, right? I hate to poke the fire again, but you were one of the people who helped me learn how to roleplay, and introduced me to a wonderful guild. I can't force you to do anything (heck, no one can!) but I think this ball and this room need you. They need you to improve. [/corniness]
Ooh, a niece? If you don't mind, what's her name?
@Epcot Alright, that's good to know. It's just if you chose me because of a certain thing in my application, then I know what you hosty people are looking for.
I'm a sophomore in high school. Not really in college. biggrin
Exploding? My dad used to do that all the time, and what he did for that was think about whether or not the explosion was worth it, just think. That pauses the rage for a second and then you have MORE time to think.
@Chibi (or Usa - yay Usa-chan!) What caused my parents to divorce was lack of communication. Go figure.
Emoticons cannot take place of real facial expressions. In this way, chatting and texting lose so much value from talking on the telephone. Uummm... Always try to think how you can make it better, not how someone else is wrong?
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Posted: Sun Sep 26, 2010 10:42 am
I answer to just about anything as long as I can figure out that someone is addressing me. biggrin
It would be great to hear voices and see faces, but we're kind of limited by the very nature of this being a forum site. But, it does really have its advantages. You can easily lie about the way you're feeling, which can be a good thing. If you are really sad and you need to be cheered up, you can post little hearts and smiley faces, and pretend you are in a happy mood. And, that lets me get in a better mood faster than having to explain why I am sad to a concerned friend. It's also nice because you can come across as being calm and collected when you're really not. No one has to know that you are ranting about someone/something to yourself while typing something pleasant on the computer. The internet really is a great escape from reality. Reality stinks. Reality says that I have to get a job in one month so I can start paying back my student loans. xp
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Posted: Sun Sep 26, 2010 7:25 pm
SorceressJacklyn Epcot Illuminations I apologize again to people, but I can get defensive quick if I feel like I may either be left out of everything or feel like I am getting attacked personally. Sorry in advance, and sorry about my last post. I wasn't trying to leave you out and even said the statement wasn't meant to cause offense. But you really jumped the gun and I am extremely hurt about that. If we are to work together, we can't get angry at one another so easily. I know you did a great job on your room last year but I was going by RP activity and post count in my original statement. And yes, I know you apologized but it's stuff like this that I was afraid of when I decided to go out on a limb and actually apply for co-host. I do speak what I am thinking and if it's going to cause riffs, I might not be a good fit here. NOOOOO!!!! Jackie!!!!! NOOOO!!!!! gonk you are NOT leaving! You're so helpful and awesome and nice and awesome(!!!) you DO NOT deserve to be in any other room! You're too awesome!!!!! You're staying here, no?
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Posted: Sun Sep 26, 2010 7:30 pm
Can I calmly say something chibi, at my school senior year is the most stressful as that is when Our school has students apply for college. My school is an IB school so I am already taking college level courses. On top of that, I have to apply and check out colleges for music, I have to take the SAT, I have work, I am competing in the largest of industries (music) and I am making sure everything this year goes exactly as planned or my plans will go down the drain. So yeah the comment earlier saying I don't have stress is completely false. My whole future is on the line this year and I don't want to screw up this time. Sure I don't pay mortgage yet but I pay taxes, going to have to sign-up for the draft in 10 months, trying to further my minor in political science and broadcasting media. My regents tests won't count at the schools I am looking at as they are not in New York or California. I screwed up on grades last year so yes this year extremely counts. sweatdrop gonk
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Posted: Sun Sep 26, 2010 7:42 pm
@Paradox: I am staying for now. And my niece's name is Isabella Rose.
@Teddy: I'm staying! I'm staying! Please relax.
@Epcot: I mean no offense to this but wouldn't it be wiser to focus on school than work on the ball this year then? If everything rides on it, I know I would be putting that first...
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Posted: Sun Sep 26, 2010 7:49 pm
My last year of high school I was doing all that and raising my friends kid. I often had to skip classes to go take care of her.
Didn't make it into a college, which I am sad about, but I don't regret taking care of my friend's kid. She needed a good mom and I was glad to be that mom that she needed. I miss her so much now that I've moved away. T^T
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Posted: Sun Sep 26, 2010 9:25 pm
SorceressJacklyn @Paradox: I am staying for now. And my niece's name is Isabella Rose. @Teddy: I'm staying! I'm staying! Please relax. @Epcot: I mean no offense to this but wouldn't it be wiser to focus on school than work on the ball this year then? If everything rides on it, I know I would be putting that first... Yay!!! *jump with joy!*
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