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*looking at her he spoke again being gentle moreso now than ever*I never said touching is bad. Understand this and you will see that touching is good when moderation is applied. I like to say an example and i will put myself into the fray. Moderation is rather hard to say word since it means to know when to stop in doing a definite action to answer your question and now shaking mind is plain easy is moderation you can cuddle all and hug all you want but notice that when is getting too overfriendly and touching of parts that mean something else when touched that should be stopped. For stressing what im saying i will again make an example and you will tell me if it is good or bad to do so. Example one you and i meet and in expression of affection We hugs tightly now is this bad?

Correct and thats the way it should be treated an honor as token of affection now my next example "I go meet with you in a few mins and hug you close and affectionate but my hands glide to your waist and into your buttocks while a friendly kiss is made. And hunter is there watching" Is this correct to do??

Wrong "Even if there's no intention the fact that part is touched makes the hug unappropiate you know why? because you may know is not with that intention but Hunter does not and even if he does it will bother him greatly even words used unapropiately can mean something totally different as Fox just exemplified this past few weeks. "you are mine. I have touched her in the butt and i will keep on doing it" Is this words that should come from a person that loves another in the same way you love hunter. Certainly not he is in other words hitting on you and before you actually take this in a literal way is not actual hitting, psysical hitting, This is a term when a person is actually trying to sway your feelings of love and affection toward that person in particular can be with the intention of being a mate or simply with the intention of "hitting" as in having sex with you. Do you understand this? To stress my point even further ill make another example "I go to a sleepover in your house and we sleep on the same bed but something is quite different im naked and under the sheet together then hunter bursts in" What do you think he will say??

Ok i will make it simple for you to understand but first you got to relax ok relax take deep breaths and relax

No! Is not easier when youre alone. You do mistakes i do mistake we all do mistakes we are not perfect. But understanding you did a few things wrong not everything just a few things is the start of a learning of being better and being wiser. Now i will put it this way. Hugs are good and kisses too is how they are made that makes the difference. Touching of parts that not normall in hug or a cuddle is not prudent even moreso when you have a mate. Butts the inner leg parts below or in the breasts can mean something else entirely and that should be avoided. As for were people like sleepovers are done sleeping together is not bad but this is assuming if he is sleeping naked it is also to be avoided it is very dangerous specially if your mate arrives and you two are sleeping and in that way. Now by punishing yourself is not the solution. you understan this

Now i defined you this new word to you because is more knowing what signifies it. The parts touching and situations are general in a way and this why i dont want you to seek for those just actions only. Someone can and will try to take advantage of your innocense in mind and intentionaly or unintentionally abuse it. often the words accompanied with the actions can and will be a good way to notice if it is right or wrong to do it. "For example again yesterday what was his response after Xander told him what he do was wrong can you recall his words??"

*He nod* But after thats didnt he said "I touched her butt and i will keep touching it?" In reality that part you just said was like greedy challenge to anyone who would think otherwise "Look i tapped her butt but i do something more i just pierced her belly button and i dont care anyone what you think" that was he made apparent with his words. Ziven "hitting" Also involves the use of words "Have you ever wondered how he can freely say such words when he should be more reserve in his actions? He "loves" mai but apart from one lousy growl at skye he hasnt mentioned her at all. Also if he loves mai so much wouldnt he be more reserved in his actions it is quite hurtful to see that you have hunter and he has mai and you are both acting the way you did. Not saying that should spring anger but it shows that the only target he has on his eyes is you. This is saddening for me to see on him i know he knows better than to do this. I will have a talk with him also but i will be a lot harsher. That said you knew that i love you i pledge my heart to you but i also know that if you are happy with hunter then i wont disturb your relationship in any way.

And we do not share anything special Ziven? *talking calmly to her* I known you since you first layed eyes in this place. I haved helped in many ways and helped overcome Reeve which was your first love. I loved you since back then but again i stay back as your happiness meant more to me than anything on the world. but this is not a challenge on what you have on fox you treat him like son a sibling yet. yet i do not want you to see you unhappy and this is why i am telling you this that i asked you to litsen and learn from my advice so that it doesnt happen something that would break that happiness on you i hope you understand this. My concern and care for you is far more greater than i let you see again so that you dont get sad and lonely i hated that day reeved dies you seemed so spaced out and lost. if you remeber you know that what i say is true to the very core. I have made mistakes but this time i intend to not make the same mistakes again. it wasnt a mating ritual to you to fox well... i dont know you may find out more when you spend time with him only then you will see and judge his actions now that you see more clearer. I hope you make a choice that will make you happy *he patted her head and sighs gently*