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Hey everyone, I'm new. But don't worry I already introducted myself. Heh.
Anyways, I'm glad this topic is on here. My fiance is joining the Air Force. He hasn't yet, we have to do a few things before he does. After he gets out of basic training we plan on getting married.
I guess I can honestly say I feel good and bad about it. He mostly wanted to join for the college money, and also the health benefits and such. He really hates the idea of being deployed, but if that happened we would deal with it. We already survived a long distance relationship, so deployment (although more dangerous) isn't too bad for us. Of course we really don't want it.
I really didn't want to deal with the moving as well. I'm an Army Brat, so is he. So we both know what its like. When we do have children (which hopefully isn't way-way-way too long) I feel a bit bad about taking them in an out of schools. I don't know maybe I'm the only one who feels this way?

Okay I finally mustered up the courage to venture in here.

My husband is US Army and we're expecting our first little one in about 4-5 months.

He just got back from a 4 day drill out at the base and I've found with being pregnant that I'm far more needy and clingy than normal. Anyways while he was gone I became extremely depressed and weeping, and insanely missed him. By insanely I mean, I called his voicemail just to hear his voice.

Anyways, both Pirate and Luna told me to stop by and to have something to occupy myself for the times he is gone. Especially when he's gone for 2 wks in august.....4 wks before the baby is born.

And I was wondering if anyone had any suggestion for a new military wife to keep herself occupied while her hubby is away??

*pokes about the book* biggrin

I think that sounds like a lot of fun and if it's something you can get into, don't be afraid to! I tend to be a bit of a dork and engross myself onto online ventures or reading or a random craft.

Well I hope you move goes smoothly, and you like VA. It's alot differant than the Northwest, (your orginally for Seattle, right) so hopeful it won't be too much of a culture shock for you, lol.

Heh I got this forwarded to me, being the sap I am (and a tad hormonal), I laughed and cried at some of these:

You might be a military spouse if...

If you know what an LES is and can read it.

If you know "going to the commissary" means the same as "going to the grocery store".

If you've ever stood way down the dairy section aisle of the commissary waiting to be checked out by a cashier.
(This usually happens on paydays.)

If you're broke by around the 12th and 27th of every month.

If you spend at least one day a week sleeping by yourself.

If that one day a week is no big deal to you.

If one week or one month away from your spouse is no big deal either.

If you spend more time with your neighbors than your spouse or have ever felt "married" to one or more of your friends.

If you've ever checked your email multiple times a day in hopes your spouse has written you and know how horrible email being "down" is.

If the thought of another deployment makes you cringe.

If you've ever stood helpless while your kids cry for Daddy (or Mommy), wishing you could tell them it wouldn't be long but knowing it's not true...and ended up crying with them.

If "sleeping with another man" means letting your son sleep with you while Daddy's gone.

If you've ever felt a twinge of jealousy seeing a couple enjoy each other's company in public somewhere while your spouse was gone.

If, upon hearing of a military member's death, you cry for their spouse and children and want to hold your spouse a little tighter or email them if they aren't with you.

If you've had your spouse's picture as the desktop background on your computer so you can feel like they're still with you.

If you've ever talked to that picture, smiled at it, cried to it, and in some weird way felt better afterwards.

If you've ever made a paper chain that was long enough to circle your entire living room (or more) and removed the links one by one down to the Las! T when your spouse was finally coming home.

If you've ever had to add (or remove) links to that chain because the arrival date changed.

If you've ever cried tears of joy at a homecoming...but secretly ached inside knowing the happiness was short-lived and your spouse would be leaving again.

If you've ever felt weird, or almost "wrong", sleeping with your spouse after a long separation (who is this stranger?).

If you know most of your spouse's workmates by their last name only.

If you have a power of attorney, USE it, and freak out when it expires.

If you know that not everyone accepts a power of attorney, despite the fact it gives you permission to practically BE your spouse.

If you've ever argued that fact with someone in person or over the phone and gotten nowhere.

If you've ever informed your spouse of your baby's arrival by sending an American Red Cross.

If you've spent almost all the holidays in any given year without your spouse.

If you've ever avoided touching your spouse until they thoroughly showered off the mace-like product they had sprayed on them during training.

If you accidentally got some on your hand anyway, didn't know it, and rubbed it in your eyes. (OUCH!)

If you know what "leave" is and have looked forward to being able to use it.

If you've ever reassured your spouse while they worried over making rank...telling them everything would be fine either way.

If you've ever celebrated when they made it...but knew you'd have to wait months before seeing the pay raise.

If you have perfected the military cut, even though you have had no previous hair cutting experience.

If you own a sewing machine that's mainly used to sew patches on your spouse's uniforms, and you do it well.

If you've ever stood quietly and proudly on the sidelines while your spouse was recognized for the work they'd done.

If anything on this list made you laugh, cry, or at least nod your head in agreement...you might be a military spouse!

Ah yes, the parts about POA brought back some deployment memories. It's true though...not everyone will accept them and they should. eek

Hehe. I've seen that before. I love it :]

I found this through a googled site & i wanted to share it with you ladies :]

Recipe For A Military Wife
1 1/4 c. Patience
1 tsp. Courage
1 lb. Adaptability
3/4 c. Tolerance
Dash of Adventure
Splash of Humor

With the above ingredients add 2 tablespoons elbow grease, leave alone for 6 months. Marinate with salty tears. Pour off excess fat. Sprinkle every so often with money. "Knead" dough until payday. Season with international spices. Bake for 20 years or until done. Serve with PRIDE!

3nodding I know how tough that can be: Chris works 24on/24off shifts, so I'm alone every other day and lose about 1/3 of the time he is home to sleeping. Depending on MOS, you can be left with a lot of time to yourself.