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 Posted: Tue May 31, 2005 7:35 pm
SweetKanashimi menosea 1) ok, wither or not u get the sex xhange, its ur body, and only you know whats right, and it all depends on what you want, not what everyone else thinks 2) again, sorta the the first answer, it all depends on what feels right with you, no one call tell you what to feel, or what to like, it all depends on what makes u feel nice n comfy heart thanks!! as for ur problem, i think u should go ahead and tell ur friend...but idk wut 2 tell u about what 2 say. i only know how i came out. i kinda just started making quiet remarks that different girls my friends talked about where hot. then i directed everyone to my online diary where i wrote a blog bout my sexuality. u shouldnt have too much a problem coming out to ur best friend so long as shes not anti-gay. heart thanks!!! heart
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Posted: Tue May 31, 2005 8:16 pm
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Posted: Mon Jun 06, 2005 8:30 pm
Not sure if this applys but how do you get a guy?(im bi from now on)(pm if interested0
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Posted: Mon Jun 06, 2005 11:11 pm
alheape Not sure if this applys but how do you get a guy?(im bi from now on)(pm if interested0 well you can start with flirting, but whatever u do, please dont go posting topics that advertise your desire to have a bf. im sure we have a personals section somewhere in this guild. but really, the point isnt to "get a guy". you should wait until you find someone you like, then pursue them.
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Posted: Tue Jun 07, 2005 4:23 pm
SweetKanashimi alheape Not sure if this applys but how do you get a guy?(im bi from now on)(pm if interested0 well you can start with flirting, but whatever u do, please dont go posting topics that advertise your desire to have a bf. im sure we have a personals section somewhere in this guild. but really, the point isnt to "get a guy". you should wait until you find someone you like, then pursue them. thanks
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Posted: Tue Jun 07, 2005 4:33 pm
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Posted: Sat Jun 18, 2005 12:01 am
Heylo all.
I'm just posting here because I can't find anywhere else to put this.
Ok first off this is going to be about me and my "undercover bf" Javier (a.k.a Jay). We both like (possibly love) each other very much but my father hates non heterosexual people.
Here is how it goes:
Monday Jun 12;
I come home from over a "special friends" of mine. His name is Jay. My dad knows where I have been and starts berating me and yelling at me. He yells the usuall "You can hang out with your friends and sh**t but you don't spend time with your own family? Why don't you let Jay or whoever he is feed you, put a roof over your head, and get the stoopid things you want." I leave the house that night with my backpack full of all my stuff.
Tuesday Jun 13;
I am now living at Jay's. My dad doesn't know that I am Bi/Pans-sexual. Jay's parents know that he is and accept the fact that I am too. I have numerous bruises on my arms, legs, and chest from where my dad hit me.
Wednesday Jun 14;
I am still at Jay's house. Mr. and Mrs. Hernandez say that they love me as if I was their own child, etc. I still haven't heard from my dad.
Thursday Jun 15;
I wake up hoping it was all just a dream. My step-bro knocks on the door and asks for me. He tells me that my dad told me to come home. I refuse to go back.
Friday Jun 16;
Today was Jay's last day of school. (I got out a whole two weeks before he did because I was on Accelerated Schedule.). My dad comes over himself and demands I come home. Mrs. Sanchez calls Mp's on him to get him off of their property. Later that day both of Jay's parents ask if I wanted to be adopted.
Saturday Jun 17;
I'm sitting here deciding wheater I should say yes or not. Haven't heard from my dad.
The above is a true story. I was wondering if any of you guys had any advice on the situation..I really need it.
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Posted: Sun Jun 19, 2005 11:03 pm
Oh, wow. That's a really hard place to be in. what I would try to do is think abut it statistically, like try not to think of it personally, but look at it as if each side was a review to a movie that you wanted to see, then compare the pros and cons. In a spot like this, you gotta ask yourself- if you and Jay weren't in a relationship/ if you and him were just friends, would you still want to stay there, or would you go to your dad's house? From what you said, I'd advise staying with Jay, because you have a loving environment there, in stead of an abusive dad.
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-Imagine, if you can, not having such a close relatoinship with jay, and think about whether or not you'd like it at his house as much
-Next, compare that to how things were with your dad
-Finally, you have to choose, your friend's family who accepts you, or your real family who doesn't.
when you say you have bruises from your dad, you infer that he hit you or soemthing. whatever he did to bruise you, how often does he do that? If he does it all the time, consider that in your reasoning, but don't forget that he's your family. This is a REALLY tough issiue, and you can't let anybody else choose for you, or you'll always regret it.
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Posted: Sat Jun 25, 2005 5:47 am
sir_elithiel Heylo all. I'm just posting here because I can't find anywhere else to put this. Ok first off this is going to be about me and my "undercover bf" Javier (a.k.a Jay). We both like (possibly love) each other very much but my father hates non heterosexual people. Here is how it goes: Monday Jun 12; I come home from over a "special friends" of mine. His name is Jay. My dad knows where I have been and starts berating me and yelling at me. He yells the usuall "You can hang out with your friends and sh**t but you don't spend time with your own family? Why don't you let Jay or whoever he is feed you, put a roof over your head, and get the stoopid things you want." I leave the house that night with my backpack full of all my stuff. Tuesday Jun 13; I am now living at Jay's. My dad doesn't know that I am Bi/Pans-sexual. Jay's parents know that he is and accept the fact that I am too. I have numerous bruises on my arms, legs, and chest from where my dad hit me. Wednesday Jun 14; I am still at Jay's house. Mr. and Mrs. Hernandez say that they love me as if I was their own child, etc. I still haven't heard from my dad. Thursday Jun 15; I wake up hoping it was all just a dream. My step-bro knocks on the door and asks for me. He tells me that my dad told me to come home. I refuse to go back. Friday Jun 16; Today was Jay's last day of school. (I got out a whole two weeks before he did because I was on Accelerated Schedule.). My dad comes over himself and demands I come home. Mrs. Sanchez calls Mp's on him to get him off of their property. Later that day both of Jay's parents ask if I wanted to be adopted. Saturday Jun 17; I'm sitting here deciding wheater I should say yes or not. Haven't heard from my dad. The above is a true story. I was wondering if any of you guys had any advice on the situation..I really need it. That sounds pretty horrible. I wish I could be there for random hugs and stuff. I don't really know too much about situation's like that, but what seems true is that it's your choice, and that the only route you should go is the one that makes you happy. Seems to me like staying with the Sanchez's would be the right way forward, seeing how your Dad treats you like s**t. I don't know how you feel really tho, I've never been in such a situation, and it really sucks that you have to go through that crap. If you wanna talk about it more fully with me (*shrug* random offer) my MSN is on my profile. I hope so ******** bad you do ok. Good luck and my heart is with you.
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Posted: Sun Jun 26, 2005 11:39 pm
What do u do when every one has turned there back on u , even your own church?
Just for being Bi.
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Posted: Tue Jun 28, 2005 10:11 pm
OwnTheWeak202 What do u do when every one has turned there back on u , even your own church? Just for being Bi. Move on. Ive been there (and still am) My family, and a lot of my friend are Mormon. It doesn't work out too well with me being gay. I've just learned to live with the pain, and find people who will accept me for who I am.
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Posted: Fri Jul 01, 2005 3:55 pm
Hokay. Here's the thing. I'm bisexual, and that I know for a fact. But, my friends and family all diss homosexuals and bisexuals. They indirectly offend me. But, I'm afraid to tell them. I want to, but I dont know how they will react. I've told only one friend of mine, and she's cool with it. But, I'm afraid to tell anyone else. Help? ;_;
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Posted: Sat Jul 02, 2005 5:44 pm
I need help i need to know how to tell my grandpernts that i'm bi??
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Posted: Sat Jul 02, 2005 11:37 pm
wordman Oh, wow. That's a really hard place to be in. what I would try to do is think abut it statistically, like try not to think of it personally, but look at it as if each side was a review to a movie that you wanted to see, then compare the pros and cons. In a spot like this, you gotta ask yourself- if you and Jay weren't in a relationship/ if you and him were just friends, would you still want to stay there, or would you go to your dad's house? From what you said, I'd advise staying with Jay, because you have a loving environment there, in stead of an abusive dad. basically -Imagine, if you can, not having such a close relatoinship with jay, and think about whether or not you'd like it at his house as much -Next, compare that to how things were with your dad -Finally, you have to choose, your friend's family who accepts you, or your real family who doesn't. when you say you have bruises from your dad, you infer that he hit you or soemthing. whatever he did to bruise you, how often does he do that? If he does it all the time, consider that in your reasoning, but don't forget that he's your family. This is a REALLY tough issiue, and you can't let anybody else choose for you, or you'll always regret it. Yes...I know that much but I was just looking for advice. I did think it over like you guys said...My dad hits me more often than you could think. You would think I'd be tougher by now. My step-mum doesnt even help me or try to stop him when he does hit me. Plus he's a drunkard and she's...well...her. I don't want to grow up around that. my step-bro is a freak. I have thought about it and they think it best if I go live back with my real mum. Even though she may not be able to afford me like they could (they are in the military) I would be able to live my own life and stuff. I agreed and am on my way stateside to Cali after my Sophorme year in High school, which leaves me about a year to say good-bye. Jay's dad retires in a few months and they said they will try to go someplace near O Side(where I will be). I thank you all for your help. My bruises have healed but there is still so much that time cannot erase. Thank you all again.
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Posted: Sun Jul 03, 2005 5:02 pm
my questions: How am I going to tell my parents tht i'm a lesbian, I mean even my friends don't know, how am I supposed to tell them? crying
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