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 Posted: Tue May 04, 2010 12:37 pm
Byaggha Ugh. Sometimes I hate being community admin. I had to lock my guild to private again today (it's been public forever) and enforce guidelines on someone who, despite obvious great amounts of reading of scripture, was causing so much disharmony that it was distracting to the rest of the guild. I had to banhammer someone from Loving Kindness. I feel miserable. *offers gentle and loving hugs*
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Posted: Tue May 04, 2010 12:39 pm
Deoridhe *offers gentle and loving hugs* *snug* Thanks Deo. Appreciate it. I'd actually forgotten what it was like to have to do that sort of thing. The guild's been fairly cool for a long, long time - I've never had to ban anyone.
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Posted: Tue May 04, 2010 12:42 pm
Byaggha Deoridhe *offers gentle and loving hugs* *snug* Thanks Deo. Appreciate it. I'd actually forgotten what it was like to have to do that sort of thing. The guild's been fairly cool for a long, long time - I've never had to ban anyone. It's never easy. Bringing about harmony is a job in and of itself. Forseti was a god who did this a few times among his fellows - a peacemaker of sorts. He contrasts with Tyr on this; Tyr is much more letter of the law, and his manner comes in handy when you have to draw lines and lose hands. Forseti more tends to reach for solutions which cause joy for everyone.
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Posted: Tue May 04, 2010 12:46 pm
Deoridhe It's never easy. Bringing about harmony is a job in and of itself. Forseti was a god who did this a few times among his fellows - a peacemaker of sorts. He contrasts with Tyr on this; Tyr is much more letter of the law, and his manner comes in handy when you have to draw lines and lose hands. Forseti more tends to reach for solutions which cause joy for everyone. I tried the happy route first, to be honest. Encouraged a good discussion. But things kept going south around one specific poster, so I was forced into admin role in order to keep community harmony. Admittedly, even the Buddha did stuff like this with the monastic community, but I do hate having to do it - the guild's supposed to be open, a place for everyone to learn, and I can't let it be with things like this going on, because no one learns.
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Posted: Tue May 04, 2010 12:50 pm
Byaggha Admittedly, even the Buddha did stuff like this with the monastic community, but I do hate having to do it - the guild's supposed to be open, a place for everyone to learn, and I can't let it be with things like this going on, because no one learns. Yes, and that is why admins exist. That doesn't make it easy, however.
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Posted: Thu May 06, 2010 2:53 am
********. You.
You know what? I haven't shaved since January. I think that the mainstream idea of "female beauty" is a ******** construct, and gods damn you for thinking that I should conform to such an absurdity.
I can't believe you would dare make puking noises at me after finding out that I don't shave, and ******** you for saying that "I still love you" like the fact that I don't shave was a blow to the "love" you had for me and you were trying to prove that it still "persevered" such an "atrocity."
I think the way my body operates is holy, down to ever last ******** follicle. <******** you for thinking otherwise.
I can't believe you'd call me a trusted friend and turn around and treat me like s**t on the floor.
Do you have any ******** clue what it's like to face yourself in the mirror for over an hour and try so, SO hard to reassure yourself that you are beautiful? Do you have ANY ******** CLUE what it's like to convince yourself you're worthwhile so you can find value in your life, so you don't kill yourself? Do you have any idea what it's like to be 12 years old and sobbing because you have a nose that curves downward and not upward like what is traditionally "pretty?" Do you have any idea what it's like?!
EDIT: I was angry and drunk when I wrote this. Hehehehehe
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Posted: Thu May 06, 2010 8:22 pm
I once had someone tell me I would never get a boyfriend if I didn't shave my legs. stressed
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Posted: Thu May 06, 2010 10:08 pm
Deoridhe I once had someone tell me I would never get a boyfriend if I didn't shave my legs. stressed My last lover insisted that I DIDN'T shave. I had been procrastinating on doing it for fear of dealing with s**t I just dealt with, and he gave me the extra little push. Now I am a hairy sexy beast. twisted
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Posted: Fri May 07, 2010 4:27 am
Deoridhe I once had someone tell me I would never get a boyfriend if I didn't shave my legs. stressed Husband doesn't care! Which means when I do shave my legs (cause I enjoy the feeling) it's because I want to. It's the best of both sides.
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Posted: Fri May 07, 2010 7:01 am
maenad nuri Husband doesn't care! Which means when I do shave my legs (cause I enjoy the feeling) it's because I want to. It's the best of both sides. My partners have always been the same.
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Posted: Fri May 07, 2010 7:23 am
Having air conditioning wars with the roommates. There's a 7-10 degree (F) difference between the bottom floor of the house where the communal space is, and the top floor where my bedroom is, and there's only about two degrees difference between the bottom and the middle floor where the roommates' bedroom is. So if it's barely comfortable on the first and second floors (75-78 ) it's unbearable on the top (83-88 ). And when the temperature outside the top floor is also in the 80s, opening the window doesn't help, even with the fans on.
But the roommates don't really seem to realize this. Particularly Mary, the roommate that doesn't have a lease because she's the girlfriend of our actual lease-holding roommate Beth who suddenly decided she couldn't live in her own place anymore and moved in with us a few months ago, but she was supposed to spend half the week at her parents' house and now spends all her time at our house, and she was given a key to the house by Beth with zero discussion with us, and we would never have chosen to live with her full time and knew that when she was only spending the night two days a week for the year and a half previous.
So I turn the air conditioning on and Mary turns it off because now she cares whether it's on because she's been contributing to the utilities for a month now (but doesn't pay rent), and it's fine for her to watch TV on the first floor and Beth to be at her desk on the second floor without the air conditioning on when we're dying on the third floor. Or because Beth's room is comfortable with the fan on and window open but that doesn't help at all on the third floor in the middle of the afternoon.
And we've suddenly cropped up several maintenance problems in the house, like the oven's electric starter is broken so we can't use it, and there's a hole in the kitchen ceiling with water dripping out of it from the second floor bathroom; on top of the problems we already had like the shower on the third floor being poorly designed so the water doesn't drain properly, and our closet system fell apart months ago because it wasn't installed properly. My girlfriend has been living in the house for three years now and the landlord, who happens to be a friend, has never fixed the shower, and hasn't wanted to fix the closet even though it will probably lose him many prospective tenants after we leave. And now he's not fixing the hole in the ceiling or the oven until who knows when. And the roommates could CALL HIM and tell him about the common area problems because he's their landlord too and they have his number, but instead they wait for my girlfriend to take care of it because he's her friend.
And my girlfriend has to show the house to new tenants since we're all moving out after this month, but she works all the time so she has to do that in the little free time she has, because the landlord trusts her and doesn't want to have to come up from the county to do it himself. And now there may be someone who wants to take the top floor and if she does, the landlord wants my girlfriend to coordinate with her so she can be present when prospective tenants for the other available rooms are shown the house so she can know who she'll possibly be living with. And when my girlfriend told him that would be enormously inconvenient for her, his idea of a solution was to give said tenant, if she signs a lease, a key EARLY so she'd be able to show the house herself--when our leases go through the end of May and none of us want strangers in the house when we're not there! I don't care how nice she seems.
Thank the gods we're moving. But we're paying rent on two places for May so things are EASIER, not so we have somewhere to go when we are forced to bail on the current place because things are RIDICULOUS, even though we're paid through the end of the month. burning_eyes
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Posted: Fri May 07, 2010 10:18 am
Oh, s**t.
I am going through that period where I romanticize Houston and crave going back. Just to run around, see my friends from high school, anarchists at the collective, etc. This is horrible. Because now, it is either this or Summerstar, because I can only take one week off from work.
Shitttt.
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Posted: Fri May 07, 2010 6:42 pm
My roommates convinced my mother that me moving out and farther away from the university was a good thing.
After all, seeing all of the garbage and recycling accumulate for three weeks and being shoved to the middle of the kitchen when there's nobody cleaning it up (I've been at home for three weeks for my in between term break) sure tells people about your cleanliness. rolleyes
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Posted: Sat May 08, 2010 10:39 am
My sister-in-law complains that I haven't contributed to the house for the past two weeks, when I had nothing left TO contribute. Then when I offer to give her my $200 of food stamps for the last month I'll be getting them, she refuses and tells me not to eat any more of her food. She won't let me pay for the kids' summer daycare nor the rent that we'd agreed on when I found out I was hired. She wants me out in four days and is already erasing any sign of me, including taking away anything I ever gave the kids.
I took care of the kids so she could work. I tried to make myself invisible just like she wanted when she lost her job due to injury and they didn't need someone to watch the kids anymore. Admittedly, I spent more than I should have out of my tax refund to buy kitchen tools, wanting to extend the food budget by being able to make more food from scratch. But I did also buy the house's food for a month, for two kids and three adults. I cut back to smaller meals and only two a day. I make sure nothing of mine is visible during the day so she can feel like I have no presence there.
I have defended her to my brother and my family when they called her crazy and when they blamed her for everything wrong in their relationship! I have criticized my brother for keeping secrets from her! And since she made my brother be the messenger for all her complaints and never showed a sign of anger to me, I thought my brother was lying to manipulate me into sympathizing with him when he told me she had said this or that. That is, until I heard it for myself yesterday, how loudly and viciously she complains to him about me. She'd even gotten me to doubt the contributions he makes to the house, but now that I've seen how easily she overlooks what other people are doing for her or how she refuses them, I feel terrible for letting her instill that doubt in me.
What the hell did I do to this woman to make her so hostile?! scream
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Posted: Sat May 08, 2010 10:50 am
Czidnoma What the hell did I do to this woman to make her so hostile?! scream Likely nothing. If she was used to contributing to the home in a certain way and no longer is able to, she may be feeling that her value has been diminished and is taking it out on those around her.
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