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the fact that he's my boyfriend is irrelevant. they were complaining on vent, i'm there. blam. kinda puts me into the conversation. Mmk.
Well one, if they were complaining on vent then keep the conversation confined to vent. No need to involve even more people.
And two, were they discussion and debating their fight or cussing and fighting like siblings? If its the former, just let them figure it out and if its the latter then I guess you can try and mediate.
But regardless of the situation, letting yourself get drawn into the situation emotionally is the worst because that just multiplies any existing problems. Try to be impartial and help them reach a compromise, but don't try and take side. Because no matter who is right, taking sides isn't going to help. If anything just try and make them agree on the small things and eventually escalate to the real problem.
I have found that most (ooc) problems in roleplaying fights stem from one or both parties not being clear on some smaller issue which impacts their view of the big picture.
That's my 2 cents, now I REALLY need some sleep.