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I had the most amazing dream ever.

For real, how you gonna just leave us hangin like that Madame? You know full damn well we all want to know what it is! What is the most amazing dream ever???

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Rally: Did he smoke a pipe?

I think its funny(and by that I mean strange) how women get this image of a man in their head. If they find a man who resembles this image, its good and they are happy for awhile, but then they look for specific details to suit and MAKE him this image man and those details grow and evolve through time as well. If the man doesnt live up to perfection to the image status of the dreamed man, the woman will begin to look at him poorly and try to change him into being this imagined man. They forget to see the real person behind this almost dream-like "man" they have found. The details dont match up so they grow to resent the man for "tricking" them for seeing this ideal man. I bring this up because this has happened to me very recently and no matter how I tried to let her appreciate the person offered, the person standing there in front of her,instead of the person that could be, she would never see me for what I was. She would call me her "dream man" and that was nice at first because I didnt know what that meant, but then I knew that when I disappointed her in ANY fashion, she would hold it in her heart againt a checklist of things I didnt match up with to her imagined dream man and then hold it against me for not being him.

Now dont take this as some kind of anti women thing, because its not, nor is it a "pro man" thing. I'm just saying that a man is a man and thats all he can be. No man can live up to the "dream man, because he will have to constantly change WITH her ever changing wants and whims to remain this dream man, even if he does match the initial image. To do this, the man would lose himself and then become something farther from the dream man image that she first imagined, because he is only human.

My point is that perhaps women should learn to understand that in a world of dead heroes, there is only so much a man can do to suit her while remaining himself. A man is not allowed to be a man in this world anymore. There is no more lion to fight off to protect the village or whatever and even if there were, the average everyday man would not even be ALLOWED to fight it anymore. We are become worker drones in a life of bland dreary repitition, doomed to repeat the same set of hours and tasks to have even a wife and children, a home and food. A man will change for a woman, believe that, he will change things he does, things he says, people he associates with, habits and alot more....for her, but at what cost? Will women have him change until he is no longer even a shade of his former self? In that case, he wasnt the one in the first place and the image of the imaginary man caused heartache for the both of you. He is disappointed because he lost what could have been a good life because he could not match up to the dream man's perfect-ness, a man that does not even exist in reality. He is compared to a dream and will surely fail, thats why it is a dream. She will lose faith in men TO match that perfect man image, while losing a good future with a good man for wanting him to be near perfect. This is why I say it is funny/strange. Why do that to yourself or him in the first place? IF you happen to meet him, then great, but dont try to change every man you meet that might have similar qualities and potential to be this perfect man, instead, let your perfect man image become what the real man is naturally. See him for his deeds and merit him with the credit deserved in those deeds served for you. Then the two will be able to meet halfway in the middle instead of one trying to meet the desired image of the other.

PS. Sorry for getting ultra serious, but I needed to vent this out. Thanks for giving me a place to do that!

PSS. @Madame: It sounds like western times dream. Was it a cowboy of times gone by or was it modern?

I never meant to localize you in my ramble. I only made an observation of every woman I have ever dealt with. Men might do this as well, but not as often as women, thats why there are TONS of chick flicks that romance the idea of the "perfect man". Like I said, I'm sorry if you fel tI judged you, I wasnt. I only meant to ramble an observation based on my own experiences in life with women. Your dream just happened to be the catalyst.

ok I know I haven't been in the guild for sometime (I was busy, so sorry if I haven't posted in any of the roleplays) and I'm missing out on some things :/

@ Madame It does sound like you had a very good dream and thats good that had a "Dream Man" so I think it would be good for you to find the right person for you base off your dream (except trying to change them of course :/)

@ Xero Sorry to hear your Story Xero, But I have to agree with Madame and Aki on this one, I had have friends that look for either their "Dream Man/Woman" but they where never happy when they found the right person that was like there dream person and it often annoys me they complain that the person wasn't like there the one they dreamed about

@Aki I have to agree as I stated through my own experiance. I also believe gender has nothing to do with it but people are just ignorant to understand (not trying to bunch anybody together here)

I fail to see how there are "sides" at all. That would be like me saying all men are sex-crazed assholes, and Rally (for example) saying, "I see your side, but I'm staying out if it". How would that make you feel if the tables were turned? Obviously I know not all guys are like that. Just like I know that not all women are shallow like Xero seems to be implying. The point is, it was offensive. And I know from personal experience that men are JUST as bad for that kind of idealistic behavior.