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 Posted: Sat Oct 01, 2005 6:16 am
My thing right now is that there are certain ways I'd like things to happen (no drugs during L&D, no bottles, no pacifiers, etc.), but I'm also fully allowed to change my mind on anything. While I'd prefer those things at the moment, once it comes around to actually living with them, I may change my tune. I'm planning on asking for the pacifier that the hospital provides, just in case I decide to use it. Also, I'm planning on taking any free formula samples they'll give me, just in case, even though I'm planning on breastfeeding.
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Posted: Sat Oct 01, 2005 9:55 am
Man, I figure a hospital should be all for doing what you want! I'd be pissed too if they gave them a bottle if you specified you were breastfeeding!
I will say I don't even think my hospital fed Logan once. They were sure to wake me up or whatever to tell me I needed to feed Logan UNLESS I asked. And the thing I really should have done was asked them to take him to the nursery so I could get some sleep, but I just wasn't assertive enough for myself.
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Posted: Sat Oct 01, 2005 10:19 am
Ritza that's the best thing.
Because if you get too hung up on doing everything "right" you can end up really hating yourself if you have to change the plan.
I know, when I stopped breastfeeding Lissa I felt like such a failure. But she HAD to be with William for hours during the day while I was in class (went back to class full time 2 weeks after having her), and I didn't respond to pumping AT ALL. For months after I couldn't even talk about it without crying, I called my mom and told her we were supplementing with formula and just broke down. I felt like a failure.
BUT she's just fine, everyone is just fine. And if I'd just been more accepting that hey, you know some things MIGHT not go the way my PLAN is I might not have had such a hard time with it.
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Posted: Sat Oct 01, 2005 11:35 am
Nopen- my mom had my sister at St. Joes, she loved it there. She kept naggin me to have Sascha there. Good Sam turned out to such so I kinda wish i had listened. Also I hear they bring a steak dinner and sparkling cider for you and hubby after delievery. blaugh yummy!
Grace- The hospital where I had Sascha tried to pull the same stuff. she was premie, they said we could go home then right after I signed my discarge papers, they sent her to the nicu. They would only give me 20 min to try and feed and then they "had to" give her a bottle. I was so pissed about it, but far to sick to put up a fight.( I had pre-e). I would get horrible angsity whenever it got close to feeding and I remember just crying and beging her to eat. Finally a got a nurse who was all for breastfeeding. she got me pumping so that the bottle where atleast my milk and brought in the lactition to make sure we could get her nursung. She said something that really helped me, there is no n****e confusion, if you just keep trying no matter how they scream baby will get it eventually. I personal think there is n****e confusion, but the point was to not give up because it wasn't going perfect. That was really helpful for me (inspiration wise).
The way you feed your baby is so emotionally charged, who would imagine before they had kids. I think no matter what you give them or if you have to change you original plans, you just have to remind yourself that as long as your doing the best you can, your doing the right thing. It's so hard not to compare yourself to other moms at first. Or to get hung up on what people say. Ritza you have the right idea about not getting stuck in your plans. Don't worry either it is so much easier the second time. biggrin
And on another note come on Boo!!!
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Posted: Sat Oct 01, 2005 12:57 pm
I really hope I don't have too many problems breastfeeding. Formula is just SO expensive. We'd find a way to afford it if necessary, but it'd be nice if we didn't have to.
Anyway, the best laid plans of mice and men oft go awry...especially when they involve kids! There are so many things that you can't control with both L&D and with raising kids that I think it's best to be flexible. Have some plans, but be prepared to change them. Otherwise you'll drive yourself crazy. I'm prone to be a perfectionist so I keep having to remind myself of all of this. xd
You know, right now I'm just feeling so relieved that my in-laws decided to change their travel plans. I'd be so anxious to have Boo NOW if they were here and leaving Tuesday, but since they're not coming until after Boo will for sure be here, I can just await Boo's birth with excitement instead of stress about when he/she will be here. It's been a huge weight lifted off of me since they changed their plans. Plus, they're going to be coming for Tetravus's fall break so he'll have more time to spend with them. That'll be nice for everyone.
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Posted: Sat Oct 01, 2005 3:46 pm
Ritz, you've got a great attitude heading in! I am just so excited for you and it's great everyone else here tells their story, it makes me hopeful for any other kids we have. 3nodding
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Posted: Sat Oct 01, 2005 4:26 pm
We have a great group of parents here. heart
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Posted: Sat Oct 01, 2005 4:41 pm
My mom tried breastfeeding all three of her kids. None of us took to it. whee
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Posted: Sat Oct 01, 2005 6:56 pm
I think I was breastfed when I was a baby.
My brother, on the other hand, had a problem with breastmilk and/or formula, and if I remember correctly, my mother raised my brother on apple juice instead. That continued until he was between 10 - 12, I don't remember when he stopped liking it as much.
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Posted: Sat Oct 01, 2005 8:31 pm
lunashock Man, I figure a hospital should be all for doing what you want! I'd be pissed too if they gave them a bottle if you specified you were breastfeeding!. Yeah. See that's a big issue I think. If I had changed my mind from breastfeeding, it wouldn't have been such a big deal. and, you know what else. I had post pardom depression for almost six months! and the midwife in my OB's office was always nagging me to exercise and fatigue myself because teh heavy exercise would help release the endorphins i needed to fight the depression. In some ways, I have always wondered if some of that was related to the fact I didn't get to nurse him. I wonder if pershaps I would have been able to have a better bonding experience that way. Oh, and did i mention that I thougth I had found the perfect sitter for him. Oh, turns out she is moving to lansing next week. crying Lansing is over an hour away. I am having her see with her friends who might be interested to do it.
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Posted: Sat Oct 01, 2005 9:06 pm
Hey just give me a holler if you have b/feeding problems! LOL...hospitals actually get paybacks for sending you home w/ formula so it's not in their best interest to listen to a breastfeeding mom when she says no bottles. I'm only speaking for the US. I'm not sure how it works in other countries, but here there are paybacks.
My son actually had a family history of milk and soy allergies and they still pushed for a bottle. Gave it to him against my will and ended up air lifting him b/c it almost killed him. So, I tend to get a little testy with doctors now who don't listen to me. I DO TRY to be nice though mrgreen
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Posted: Sun Oct 02, 2005 8:20 pm
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*posts and runs*
Photo of the signing off the paperwork...
Mah self and mah oldmate Monique doin' what we do. 3nodding
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Posted: Sun Oct 02, 2005 10:02 pm
awww so pretty! I love the father son matching suits! 4laugh
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Posted: Mon Oct 03, 2005 12:18 am
I'm curious about something, so I hope it's ok if I ask a question...
For a long time, I've had the decision that when I get married, I'd like to have it done at the Anglican church I've grown up in. I'd also like to have my former Revered (priest) do it - For as long as I've been at the church, up until earlier this year, she was there, and so she's a very familiar face. I told this to my mom, and she found out that although the revered has now retired (we have a new one), our old reverend still has certain "powers" (well, clergy abilities xd ) that will allow her to perform weddings and funerals after she has retired etc.
However, she also told my mom that she doesn't allow videotapes or cameras at weddings because they are a "holy event", or something like that. I went to my counsin's wedding when I was 12, when she got married in California (my family flew down for the wedding), and her wedding was videotaped. We have a copy of it sitting in our bookshelf.
I guess to make a long story short, I'm looking for advice - should I consider asking my new reverend what her usual proceedings are regarding videotapes and such, or should I stick with my old reverend? I'd love to have our former reverend do it because of her past history with my church, and she's the one I'm more familiar with, but her anti-videotape policy is something that I really don't like, and I'm wondering if our new reverend (whom I don't know too well yet) does things differently.
I know I shouldn't worry about it for a long time, since I'm only 19 and am not planned on getting married within the next few years (I think xd ), so there's no rush. But it's something that's sort of bothered me every once in awhile. It also worries me that one day I might grow up and forget some of the memories that are important to me, such as my first date, my wedding, etc. I have a really really bad memory, and I'm scared that it will only deteriorate as I get older.
Sorry for rambling, and thank you to anyone who actually read through all of the above. sweatdrop heart
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Posted: Mon Oct 03, 2005 7:38 am
Nikolita, I think with something like that you have to decide which is the higher priority: having the reverend you want or having the videotape from the wedding. Would having that particular reverend there make the wedding more special for you? Would she be more likely to do things the way you want them? Would you watch a video from your wedding or would having photographs be enough? Do remember you can always have video taken at the reception. It's really up to you. I know that I am not presonally a home video type person. I don't want to see myself on tape and would never watch my wedding if we had had it videoed. I would have an easy decision on something like this, but if having a video of your ceremony is important to you, it's not such an easy decision.
In other news, chocolate cake doesn't work for inducing labor, but it sure tastes good! xd (Mexican food and walking the mall don't work either.)
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