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I'm straight, thanks |
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Posted: Fri Jul 08, 2005 5:09 pm
LesLover05 addrgal Well... I told a select few of my close friends... My best friend got really angry with me... This is how the convo went. Me: Jen... I have something I need to tell you... Jen: I'm listening go ahead. Me: I'm bisexual, I like both sexes. Jen: How long have you felt like this? Me: I was born this way... I didn't really notice until now. Jen: EWWWW! That is soooo sick! I can't believe you Brittany... I'm so mad right now. Don't tell me you look at me like that... do you? Me: Sometimes... Jen: What the hell Brittany go away and burn in hell. My mom found out by reading my journal.... SHE READ MY JOURNAL! I was so pissed. This was the convo after she read it... Mom: Brittany you're bisexual that disgusts me... Me: What!? HOW THE HELL DO YOU KNOW?! Mom: I have my ways... (Later that day) Me: Mom you moved my journal... Mom: What? Me: Don't say what you read it! Mom: I was looking for an empty notebook. Me: It obviously had words on it so it wasn't empty. HOW DARE YOU! I told my brother and this is how the convo went... Me: Nick... I think I'm bisexual. Nick: You're ******** kidding me right? Me: No... I like girls... I also like guys. Nick: You're a ******** moron and get the hell away from me. That's how people found out. Oh honey.. I'm so sorry. Yeah my parents are homophobes too. When I told them, they flipped out. Huggles. If u need anything let me know k? People can be so cruel.
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Posted: Fri Jul 08, 2005 6:26 pm
When I came out, I was scared as HELL! (I'm bi)
But I told my best friends first, and they already knew I was questioning my sexuality. I'd figured it out long ago. Like, quite a few months before. Me: I'm bi. Molly: So, you finally figured it out, eh? Good job! Jessica: Sweet! (she's bi, too)
Then, I told my boyfriend. I'd been going out with him for about a month, and I'd known for like.. heh, a while before that. He didn't have a good reaction. He was basically an a**, and he finally made me cry. Then, I guess once he saw that I was crying, he apologized profusely. I said it's fine, but I never forgave him. But I guess that's ok, because we're not dating anymore.
Other friends were what I was scared about, but it mostly went like this: Me: Promise you'll still be my friend no matter what, ok? Them: I promise. Me: I'm bisexual. Them: Wow, I wouldn't have guessed! How long have you known? (Among other questions about how I found out, etc.)
And I also got a few "It's so cool that you're comfortable with telling people! Congrats on being who you are!"
I haven't gone about telling everyone in the school, because it's none of their business, but I'm not stopping my friends from telling people.
I haven't told my dad yet, and I'm a little scared about that. I am going to wait until I have a girlfriend to tell him, because until then, there isn't much of a need to cause drama.
Anyway, that's my little story.
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Posted: Fri Jul 08, 2005 6:29 pm
Yonoko LesLover05 addrgal Well... I told a select few of my close friends... My best friend got really angry with me... This is how the convo went. Me: Jen... I have something I need to tell you... Jen: I'm listening go ahead. Me: I'm bisexual, I like both sexes. Jen: How long have you felt like this? Me: I was born this way... I didn't really notice until now. Jen: EWWWW! That is soooo sick! I can't believe you Brittany... I'm so mad right now. Don't tell me you look at me like that... do you? Me: Sometimes... Jen: What the hell Brittany go away and burn in hell. My mom found out by reading my journal.... SHE READ MY JOURNAL! I was so pissed. This was the convo after she read it... Mom: Brittany you're bisexual that disgusts me... Me: What!? HOW THE HELL DO YOU KNOW?! Mom: I have my ways... (Later that day) Me: Mom you moved my journal... Mom: What? Me: Don't say what you read it! Mom: I was looking for an empty notebook. Me: It obviously had words on it so it wasn't empty. HOW DARE YOU! I told my brother and this is how the convo went... Me: Nick... I think I'm bisexual. Nick: You're ******** kidding me right? Me: No... I like girls... I also like guys. Nick: You're a ******** moron and get the hell away from me. That's how people found out. Oh honey.. I'm so sorry. Yeah my parents are homophobes too. When I told them, they flipped out. Huggles. If u need anything let me know k? People can be so cruel. Agreed. That has to be one of the worst things anyone can ever experience. Are they ok with it now? And PM me if ya need someone to talk to ^^
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Posted: Fri Jul 08, 2005 6:39 pm
Nicorette Luisito XD Most people who know me at school know that I'm bi or whatever. My mom and my sister know. My mom started crying when she found out, but was sorta ok with it.. My sister on the other hand, now always lets me know which guys she thinks are hot xd . I want to come out to my cousin. But I'm scared of his reaction. Because I really care about him, and don't want things to change between us crying Your mom started crying? Wow...now I'm ultra scared about breaking it to my parents. gonk Eh don't sweat it so much. My mom started crying because she is a christian and doesn't like it. Also because her brother is gay. So I guess she was like "Oh no not my kid". But hopefully your 'rents won't be like that 3nodding
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Posted: Thu Aug 18, 2005 2:04 am
Hmm, well, the most recent reaction was when I told the people I met on the cruise that I was bi. Basically, we were playing a truth game and I said that I'd never dated.
Debbie: So you've never had a boyfriend or girlfrien--oh, wait, I almost said girlfriend, too-- Me: Oh, that's entirely possible, since I'm bi. *everyone looks at me for a second* Debbie: Oh, really? Okay! So then, you've never had a boyfriend or girlfriend before? *and life moves on*
So far, just about everyone I've told has been cool with it. Rey actually had a very adverse reaction, since she's a highly conservative Christian, but she said that because it was me, she wouldn't ditch me and it was okay (comforting, eh?). I might have made Anna a little uncomfortable, but no one else seemed to mind much. 3nodding
I do know that I'm really lucky that everyone's so supportive, or at least tolerant, of this. It could just be the people I know, or the people I choose to tell, but I'm glad anyway. I'm so sorry for all of you who have had to suffer negative experiences...
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Posted: Wed Aug 31, 2005 4:36 pm
((sorry i posted twice!!))
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Posted: Wed Aug 31, 2005 4:37 pm
I didnt have to tell my parents that i was lez they found out because someone downloaded Spyware on my PC and told my mom. i was really sad at first but my mom understood. Iam still trying to convince her that iam straight so she wont know anything. its really sad though because i wanted to tell her, not her finding out. v.v
>.<
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Posted: Wed Aug 31, 2005 6:05 pm
The first to know was my friend Caroline. It sorta went down like this.
Caroline: Kristen do you like Megan? Me: What?! Caroline: Well, do you like Megan as more then a friend? Me: Yes . . . but I've got a boyfriend and I don't want to tell him I want to date one of my friends. Caroline: so you're bi. That's cool. someday you'll tell them your sexuality.
A few weeks later my bf found out and dumped me. I came out to my friends, Megan was shocked and I thought she didn't like me anymore because she started to aviod me. We cleared up the mess and she fully excepts me for who I am. All my friends do. I told my mom and she was completly fine with it. I have such a cool lesbian for a mother. I haven't told my dad in person but he read my old journal and excepted me for who I am.
But when it got around at school, well my school life became a living hell. Teachers gave me dirty looks and rumors were spread like mad. I didn't give a sh!t. When I got into high svchool it didn't matter what my sexual preference was. There are plent of gays, lesbians, and bis at school. We even ut with those that are straight.
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Posted: Sat Sep 03, 2005 10:39 am
Yup. I have yet to tell my mom and dad about my preference, but I've gotten a number of reactions:
Alise VS Rebecca
Somehow, we got into the convo about "cute boys"...
Alise: Yah, I'm still with Josh, what about you? Me: Ummmm...well, I don't like boys that much... Alise: Are you lesbian? *Slightly backs away* Me: No, I like Mr. Hurta Alise: Oh, a teacher? Ok
She went very well, but when I said once "he touched my hand"...everyone looked at me like I had problems or something...but when other kids say it...they don't give...
2 friends VS Rebecca:
Leah- she might have had the best reaction of everyone:
Me: Ummm....yea...you know who I like, right? Leah: No, who? *Tells* Leah: Oh, ok. You like adults, I've seen him before...
Patricia acted a bit weird, considering that this guy is her band teacher..but she went well
Friend: At least I don't like Mr. Hurta!! Silence Patricia: You like HIM? *laughs* I can't believe it Leah: Don't tell anyone, that'd be mean Patricia: I won't, nobody would believe me.
Others said that I should get correctional therapy, but I think that that's BS... neutral
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Posted: Wed Sep 21, 2005 1:44 pm
Considering I've only really started to know what bisexual means and I've only realized I am bi one month ago I haven't told that many people (I don't want to broadcast it at school, it's a Catholic school and I'm scared shitless that they'll tell my parents before I do and take try to convert me to hetro.) Actually the only reason it actually leaked out to 3 of my friends was because we got on the subject of same sex marriages and I just blurted it out to defend my case.
They actually all seemed pretty cool about it, one of my friends was a tiny bit shocked but suppositly they always knew since I give off a gay vibe or something. Actually my one friend who is a girl actually thought it was really cool and said now atleast there will be someone that she can talk about girl stuff with xd and the one guy friend sort of shrugged it off and said it was cool to my suprise considering the whole school is really religous and strict.
Anyways that was yesterday and today they were still cool with it. But I have no clue what to say to my parents, my mom has gay friends and says that it's perfectly fine to be bi or gay but I still think she'd be stunned if I turned out bi. my dad, I haven't the fainst clue, again he says it's alright but I can just imagine how akward the conversation would be.
So yeah
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Posted: Mon Oct 03, 2005 5:24 pm
I'm bi... or bi-curious as some people would say because I've never done anything with a girl.
reaction when I told my friends around the end of last school year:
Paul(he's gay): we still don't know how many apple's Julie has! *looks at me* How many apple's do you have Julius? *everyone shuts up and stairs at me* Me: *looks at everyones smiles and intimidating looks**my face starts to burn* four. everyone: *gasp!* Melanie(also Bi): I never would have thought! Me: yah, I've kinda just come to admit it to myself... I've pushed it away since like grade four.
(the apple system goes like this: if gay people have one apple and straight people have five apples, how many apples do you have? Three is obiously 50/50 as its in between 1 and 5)
When I told my boyfriend of almost two years:
(he's driving me home from his house. Its the middle of July) Me: Tom... I have something I need to tell you... Tom: whats that? Me: well... lets see... Tom: come on, out with it. Me: I'm bi Tom: ok... and? Me: thanks... I love you too stare Tom: No, I think its kinda cool. (note: he knows I like a friend of ours, she's 22, and now he doesn't think its all that cool sweatdrop )
I haven't told anyone else really... I refuse to tell my parents. And if my oldest step-sister(who is a year younger than me) was to find out, she'd shun me. Because she's just that f***ing judgemental. stressed
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Posted: Sun Oct 09, 2005 4:48 am
first person i told was over email. along the lines of something like this
me: maddie i have something to tell you but you have to promise not to tell anyone
maddie: i promise, the first thing that poped in my mined was that you have feelings for me second thing was that you have feelings for tom WHAT IS IT
me: no not tom and not you girls more in general
maddie: oh honey thats cool
second person i told (over msn) me:i have something to tell you mr X: what is it (me freak out and not say anything) Mr X: is is your sexuality? me: no.. mr x what is it then? me: my sexuality i like girls mr x: yeh dyke lol guess what im bi me: i couldn't tell
quite light hearted really
when i told my mum she started to cry and compared me to my siblings her word
stevens a drug addict tina has dickhead boyfriends and your a lesbian
that hurt the most
but she is ok with it now i think, but its hard cos she wants me to be straight. i know this by coments like 'oh isnt he cute' or 'i bet you wouldn't mind him saving' YES I WOULD actually but its good i dont feel the need to tell people, i dont have a girlfriend when i do i might tell people but untill then it has nothing to do with them
one of my not so close friends found out and stoped talking to me all together. she hates my whole group now but no one except me and maddie really now why her lose anywho
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Posted: Sun Oct 09, 2005 7:39 am
Well...I erm..came out just that yesterday. The whole thing came up when my brother saw me with some guy in an IM, and even though I made him swear up and down he told anways stare . But it wasn't quite so bad, cause my parents(they don't beleive that you can like both, in their minds its either one or the other confused ) thought I really was just gay. But meh, I talked to them, told them, and they said that they love me no matter what I do or what choices I make. They gave me that whole "You'll find yourself and what you are one day" speech, I cried for a while, it was pretty emotional. I asked my mom for my dad's razors at one point, but she laughed and said that they were the new quatros with moisturizer and stuff on them so I'd have to scrape at my wrists for hours lol . But, that made me feel alot better that I finally got to tell my parents and talk to them about it, and I have closure about their opinions which is good. 3nodding
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Posted: Fri Oct 14, 2005 7:16 pm
Aurei Well...I erm..came out just that yesterday. The whole thing came up when my brother saw me with some guy in an IM, and even though I made him swear up and down he told anways stare . But it wasn't quite so bad, cause my parents(they don't beleive that you can like both, in their minds its either one or the other confused ) thought I really was just gay. But meh, I talked to them, told them, and they said that they love me no matter what I do or what choices I make. They gave me that whole "You'll find yourself and what you are one day" speech, I cried for a while, it was pretty emotional. I asked my mom for my dad's razors at one point, but she laughed and said that they were the new quatros with moisturizer and stuff on them so I'd have to scrape at my wrists for hours lol . But, that made me feel alot better that I finally got to tell my parents and talk to them about it, and I have closure about their opinions which is good. 3nodding *grumbles* I hate that speech. That is hilarious, though, about the razors mrgreen I mean, a little sad that you were thinking about that.. but funny nonetheless since you are better now heart
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Posted: Sat Oct 15, 2005 5:11 am
Anaithnid Aurei Well...I erm..came out just that yesterday. The whole thing came up when my brother saw me with some guy in an IM, and even though I made him swear up and down he told anways stare . But it wasn't quite so bad, cause my parents(they don't beleive that you can like both, in their minds its either one or the other confused ) thought I really was just gay. But meh, I talked to them, told them, and they said that they love me no matter what I do or what choices I make. They gave me that whole "You'll find yourself and what you are one day" speech, I cried for a while, it was pretty emotional. I asked my mom for my dad's razors at one point, but she laughed and said that they were the new quatros with moisturizer and stuff on them so I'd have to scrape at my wrists for hours lol . But, that made me feel alot better that I finally got to tell my parents and talk to them about it, and I have closure about their opinions which is good. 3nodding *grumbles* I hate that speech. That is hilarious, though, about the razors mrgreen I mean, a little sad that you were thinking about that.. but funny nonetheless since you are better now heart Tis much better now, but meh thats what I felt like. I mean, the ideal that I could never even go near the computer again, which is really my passion^^, and the fact that I had been betrayed and forced out and made to be a bad guy, wasn;t too much help for my mind. But ah wells, thats mood swings for ya. rolleyes
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