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 Posted: Tue Jun 30, 2015 11:29 am
Nikakaeo Amu Tsukiyomi-sama the only remotely organized surface in my entire room is a shelf of books.
And even that has a few random things, including other books, stacked on top of the other books.
Everything else, including a desk chair and an orbit chair, are covered in stuff.
Mhm.
Definitely.
See, but that's not the way they work. While it's never obvious to other people....if you really know them and not the fronts they try to project.....you realize what they're really doing. I'm fairly certain my uncle got buried with the flowers they got for the b***h grandmother that said on them 'my UNCLE'S NAME', which firstly, his WIFE'S flowers should be closest to him, and why in the ******** would flowers gotten on the behalf of a senile lady who likely doesn't even know he's dead say anything other than son. (look, example of s**t pulling right there. apparently he was still his mother's even though he had moved out of the house and MARRIED SOMEONE AND HAD KIDS WITH THEM, bastards) And those ******** flowers were in the ******** casket with him the entire ******** time. Visitation, pre-church s**t visitation stuff, in the closed casket during the church services...the ride to the cemetery....the grave-side services....(at least I never saw anyone open the casket and take them out, because once you close a casket, it tends to stay closed; 200+ funerals worth of knowledge there) Where were the flowers from his wife and kids? on the outside. All they said was 'husband' and 'father'. I spent the entire ******** catholic service mentally chanting my aunt, dead uncle, and three cousins names to keep from flipping s**t and doing something. So you can see why I will not do a damn thing for one of those b*****d's funerals ever again. No flowers, no readings, hell I might even find a way to continuously down play and negate any condolences people try to give me, because I won't feel sad for any reason....other than 'why couldn't this have happened sooner and why couldn't they have gone before the only decent one?' I actually kind of want every single person who comes to those future funerals to know that I do not like those relatives, but not in any kind of outright show/display, but in a subtle manner. I want someone to ask me something akin to 'are you going to miss your xyz?' just so I can go no....and then after a fairly long pause, longer than what it 'should' be, I say 'because I'll always have memories of them'. Or even have someone outright ask if I loved/liked my xyz so I can give any answer other than an affirmative.
Part of it is I haven't been allowed to disown the ungrateful b***h. I call her, most of the time grandma MY LAST NAME, because I only have one real grandmother, and it's not this b***h, but I would never be able to (while I'm still in my parent's house) get away with calling her by her first name as a sign of disrespect. I also can't do that at the moment because my sister desperately wants the 'white picket fence' family thing and she believes that even if they do things they shouldn't, they're still family. Which that b***h isn't, but so as to not cause issues for my mother with my sister....I'm not gonna do anything at the moment. I can't even vent about those assholes in front of my sister because it upsets her, though she no longer shows that it has upset her. I just know about it from my early on ultra vehement outward displays of hatred towards most of my paternal relatives. I basically never tell those relatives anything ever, and have no plans to. When I learned that my father had told them about my dog Shakespeare, I got super pissed, because he's important to me and I don't want those assholes knowing about anything important to me, because they don't deserve to know.
my room would be relatively organized, were it not being shared with mother who has way too many articles of clothing. like. five big plastic tubs of clothes. that is too much to keep in any sort of organized fashion without at least two dressers, which there's only one of... that isn't even being used the part about the flowers gotten on behalf of the mother of the deceased confuses me. the flowers that should say something along the lines of 'son' or whatever said 'uncle [name]' or something? or did the flowers gotten on behalf of the mother of the deceased say 'son' and the ones closest said 'uncle [name]'? just a bit of confusion on that front. and gotta love tricky situations where you can't do what you really want to no matter how much you may want to because you don't want to upset those you actually care about or cause them trouble. and the knowledge of the dog is definitely something that those who don't care about you and aren't glad to know you should not know about. and i doubt i could've worded that in any more of a confusing manner than i did completely unintentionallyYeek.
Mine's more a bunch of papers and books.
I switched to open shelving for storing my clothes...because if they're in a dresser, I forget I have them.
The flowers that were the closest to the dead body were gotten on the behalf of the ******** grandmother. Those flowers said on them, instead of 'son', like they should have, 'my UNCLE'S NAME'. Since my grandmother couldn't have had any part in picking those flowers because she's so senile with alzheimer's that she thinks my father, her son, is her older brother and she probably doesn't even know my uncle, her son, is dead, it means that one of the blood-relative aunts came up with that idea. And that means it's a fairly subtle smack in the face to my aunt, telling her that her husband, even after they got married and had kids, wasn't actually hers and she wasn't the most important lady in his life, his mother was/is. How much of a b*****d do you have to be to do that at someone's FUNERAL, when the widow absolutely LOVED and was the right person for my uncle no matter how much his mother and sisters thought otherwise and treated his wife accordingly. A huge ******** son of a b***h, that's how much. Apparently being a huge a*****e is a genetic thing....at least to the daughters from their mother. I just... Those ******** flowers were a power play. They used the b***h grandmother as an excuse....probably said 'she'd have wanted to do this' as the reason why they should place flowers for the old whore, when they're actually doing it for themselves and whatever nepotistic, creepy, b*****d-y, whore-tastic agenda they really had.
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Posted: Tue Jun 30, 2015 1:35 pm
Amu Tsukiyomi-sama Yeek.
Mine's more a bunch of papers and books.
I switched to open shelving for storing my clothes...because if they're in a dresser, I forget I have them.
The flowers that were the closest to the dead body were gotten on the behalf of the ******** grandmother. Those flowers said on them, instead of 'son', like they should have, 'my UNCLE'S NAME'. Since my grandmother couldn't have had any part in picking those flowers because she's so senile with alzheimer's that she thinks my father, her son, is her older brother and she probably doesn't even know my uncle, her son, is dead, it means that one of the blood-relative aunts came up with that idea. And that means it's a fairly subtle smack in the face to my aunt, telling her that her husband, even after they got married and had kids, wasn't actually hers and she wasn't the most important lady in his life, his mother was/is. How much of a b*****d do you have to be to do that at someone's FUNERAL, when the widow absolutely LOVED and was the right person for my uncle no matter how much his mother and sisters thought otherwise and treated his wife accordingly. A huge ******** son of a b***h, that's how much. Apparently being a huge a*****e is a genetic thing....at least to the daughters from their mother. I just... Those ******** flowers were a power play. They used the b***h grandmother as an excuse....probably said 'she'd have wanted to do this' as the reason why they should place flowers for the old whore, when they're actually doing it for themselves and whatever nepotistic, creepy, b*****d-y, whore-tastic agenda they really had.
that'd definitely be a useful thing to have. especially since mother likes to dig through her clothes no matter how they're organized to find outfits. so mother needs to get rid of her dresser and do as you've done with clothes so in the end it was done by the other relatives using the uncle's mother as an excuse, and not done by the uncle's mother. so the blame can't rest with her. at least not entirely. it'd have to rest with the dicknuggets who did that. i do have to agree with you on that part, as well as pretty much all the negative words used to describe those who did the d**k move
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Posted: Tue Jun 30, 2015 5:49 pm
Amu Tsukiyomi-sama ...that's terrible.
Worse than mine, actually.
Though I'm fairly certain I've become allergic to more things...or worse to things I'm already allergic to...
Oh wow....do they do anything like jump on you when you get home?
Ick. That's not fun. Not anymore. They've learned. They just bark.
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Posted: Tue Jun 30, 2015 10:03 pm
Nikakaeo Amu Tsukiyomi-sama Yeek.
Mine's more a bunch of papers and books.
I switched to open shelving for storing my clothes...because if they're in a dresser, I forget I have them.
The flowers that were the closest to the dead body were gotten on the behalf of the ******** grandmother. Those flowers said on them, instead of 'son', like they should have, 'my UNCLE'S NAME'. Since my grandmother couldn't have had any part in picking those flowers because she's so senile with alzheimer's that she thinks my father, her son, is her older brother and she probably doesn't even know my uncle, her son, is dead, it means that one of the blood-relative aunts came up with that idea. And that means it's a fairly subtle smack in the face to my aunt, telling her that her husband, even after they got married and had kids, wasn't actually hers and she wasn't the most important lady in his life, his mother was/is. How much of a b*****d do you have to be to do that at someone's FUNERAL, when the widow absolutely LOVED and was the right person for my uncle no matter how much his mother and sisters thought otherwise and treated his wife accordingly. A huge ******** son of a b***h, that's how much. Apparently being a huge a*****e is a genetic thing....at least to the daughters from their mother. I just... Those ******** flowers were a power play. They used the b***h grandmother as an excuse....probably said 'she'd have wanted to do this' as the reason why they should place flowers for the old whore, when they're actually doing it for themselves and whatever nepotistic, creepy, b*****d-y, whore-tastic agenda they really had.
that'd definitely be a useful thing to have. especially since mother likes to dig through her clothes no matter how they're organized to find outfits. so mother needs to get rid of her dresser and do as you've done with clothes so in the end it was done by the other relatives using the uncle's mother as an excuse, and not done by the uncle's mother. so the blame can't rest with her. at least not entirely. it'd have to rest with the dicknuggets who did that. i do have to agree with you on that part, as well as pretty much all the negative words used to describe those who did the d**k moveYeah.
Definitely sounds like something she could use.
Also less clothes.
For a variety of reasons.
Yup. All the yup. I have some bad relatives on my mother's side, but they are the annoying kind, more so than the out right a*****e-d**k weasel-rat b*****d kind.
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Posted: Wed Jul 01, 2015 2:08 am
Amu Tsukiyomi-sama Yeah.
Definitely sounds like something she could use.
Also less clothes.
For a variety of reasons.
Yup. All the yup. I have some bad relatives on my mother's side, but they are the annoying kind, more so than the out right a*****e-d**k weasel-rat b*****d kind.
i've told her she has too much clothing multiple times, but she just laughs/shrugs it off each time. granted, she hasn't bought any more for a decently long while, but it's still way too much clothing glad to be able to understand properly, then! though i'd think that making that into 'd**k-weasel rat-b*****d a*****e' would make it a more properly flowing insult, but that's just me. and i'd absolutely take the annoying relatives over the other kind
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Posted: Wed Jul 01, 2015 11:18 pm
KeatonIshTak05 Amu Tsukiyomi-sama ...that's terrible.
Worse than mine, actually.
Though I'm fairly certain I've become allergic to more things...or worse to things I'm already allergic to...
Oh wow....do they do anything like jump on you when you get home?
Ick. That's not fun. Not anymore. They've learned. They just bark. Nope, it's not.
Especially since I don't know for certain unless I go have more fairly expensive blood work done.
Done at a place that doesn't submit to insurance, so if you want to do that you can...
But it's hard to explain to an insurance company why going to a guy who was a regular physician who became a holistic medicine guy for allergy testing, etc is insurance money worthy.
Because of the holistic part.
Oh dear.
Well at least they no longer jump....if only there was a nice, effective way to get them to not bark.
All the ways I can think of are fairly cruel or they probably won't work.
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Posted: Thu Jul 02, 2015 6:34 pm
Amu Tsukiyomi-sama KeatonIshTak05 Amu Tsukiyomi-sama ...that's terrible.
Worse than mine, actually.
Though I'm fairly certain I've become allergic to more things...or worse to things I'm already allergic to...
Oh wow....do they do anything like jump on you when you get home?
Ick. That's not fun. Not anymore. They've learned. They just bark. Nope, it's not.
Especially since I don't know for certain unless I go have more fairly expensive blood work done.
Done at a place that doesn't submit to insurance, so if you want to do that you can...
But it's hard to explain to an insurance company why going to a guy who was a regular physician who became a holistic medicine guy for allergy testing, etc is insurance money worthy.
Because of the holistic part.
Oh dear.
Well at least they no longer jump....if only there was a nice, effective way to get them to not bark.
All the ways I can think of are fairly cruel or they probably won't work.
... Oh, right. They can test for allergies and sensitivities, can't they? I honestly couldn't say the last time I saw a proper doctor. Even that Minute Clinic in the CVS hasn't seen me in almost three years. Yeah, to the companies, Holistic simply means Bullshit unless you happen to get that one person who tries to go that route when they can, though that's getting better now from what I hear. Yeah. I can get scary and loud, so they learned pretty quick. Do not miss with the occasionally-Alpha b***h. Most days, when I'm actually home, I can ignore it. But then there are the bad days where I am all for surgically removing the bits that allow them to make any noise. I might be a terrible person because I feel no guilt about that.
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Posted: Thu Jul 02, 2015 9:03 pm
Nikakaeo Amu Tsukiyomi-sama Yeah.
Definitely sounds like something she could use.
Also less clothes.
For a variety of reasons.
Yup. All the yup. I have some bad relatives on my mother's side, but they are the annoying kind, more so than the out right a*****e-d**k weasel-rat b*****d kind.
i've told her she has too much clothing multiple times, but she just laughs/shrugs it off each time. granted, she hasn't bought any more for a decently long while, but it's still way too much clothing glad to be able to understand properly, then! though i'd think that making that into 'd**k-weasel rat-b*****d a*****e' would make it a more properly flowing insult, but that's just me. and i'd absolutely take the annoying relatives over the other kindWell I guess that's an upside.
Even if there are way too many, not adding more is good.
Yay! Meh, I'm more concerned with the contents of the insult than the order of the insult.
Random question, do you think it is normal for someone to have their girlfriend come along with their family to go and get a grand tour of the boyfriend's uncle's new house that the uncle and his family haven't moved into yet....with the uncle (And probably the rest of his family) knowing the girlfriend is coming...and that she's their cousin/nephew's girlfriend?
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Posted: Thu Jul 02, 2015 9:10 pm
KeatonIshTak05 Amu Tsukiyomi-sama KeatonIshTak05 Amu Tsukiyomi-sama ...that's terrible.
Worse than mine, actually.
Though I'm fairly certain I've become allergic to more things...or worse to things I'm already allergic to...
Oh wow....do they do anything like jump on you when you get home?
Ick. That's not fun. Not anymore. They've learned. They just bark. Nope, it's not.
Especially since I don't know for certain unless I go have more fairly expensive blood work done.
Done at a place that doesn't submit to insurance, so if you want to do that you can...
But it's hard to explain to an insurance company why going to a guy who was a regular physician who became a holistic medicine guy for allergy testing, etc is insurance money worthy.
Because of the holistic part.
Oh dear.
Well at least they no longer jump....if only there was a nice, effective way to get them to not bark.
All the ways I can think of are fairly cruel or they probably won't work.
... Oh, right. They can test for allergies and sensitivities, can't they? I honestly couldn't say the last time I saw a proper doctor. Even that Minute Clinic in the CVS hasn't seen me in almost three years. Yeah, to the companies, Holistic simply means Bullshit unless you happen to get that one person who tries to go that route when they can, though that's getting better now from what I hear. Yeah. I can get scary and loud, so they learned pretty quick. Do not miss with the occasionally-Alpha b***h. Most days, when I'm actually home, I can ignore it. But then there are the bad days where I am all for surgically removing the bits that allow them to make any noise. I might be a terrible person because I feel no guilt about that. Yup.
I kind of have no choice about seeing doctors...
Not that I see them more than what is considered normal.
I should hope it's getting better....stupid pharmaceutical companies and their tendency to be money grubbers.
I know that mode.
You never mess with an angry alpha when their angry switch is fully flipped.
To be honest, there have been times where I was all like 'things would be so much easier if you weren't here/dead and therefore also not here'....but I felt a bit bad about that because I'd be taking the dog away from more people than just me.
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Posted: Thu Jul 02, 2015 9:17 pm
Amu Tsukiyomi-sama KeatonIshTak05 Amu Tsukiyomi-sama KeatonIshTak05 Amu Tsukiyomi-sama ...that's terrible.
Worse than mine, actually.
Though I'm fairly certain I've become allergic to more things...or worse to things I'm already allergic to...
Oh wow....do they do anything like jump on you when you get home?
Ick. That's not fun. Not anymore. They've learned. They just bark. Nope, it's not.
Especially since I don't know for certain unless I go have more fairly expensive blood work done.
Done at a place that doesn't submit to insurance, so if you want to do that you can...
But it's hard to explain to an insurance company why going to a guy who was a regular physician who became a holistic medicine guy for allergy testing, etc is insurance money worthy.
Because of the holistic part.
Oh dear.
Well at least they no longer jump....if only there was a nice, effective way to get them to not bark.
All the ways I can think of are fairly cruel or they probably won't work.
... Oh, right. They can test for allergies and sensitivities, can't they? I honestly couldn't say the last time I saw a proper doctor. Even that Minute Clinic in the CVS hasn't seen me in almost three years. Yeah, to the companies, Holistic simply means Bullshit unless you happen to get that one person who tries to go that route when they can, though that's getting better now from what I hear. Yeah. I can get scary and loud, so they learned pretty quick. Do not miss with the occasionally-Alpha b***h. Most days, when I'm actually home, I can ignore it. But then there are the bad days where I am all for surgically removing the bits that allow them to make any noise. I might be a terrible person because I feel no guilt about that. Yup.
I kind of have no choice about seeing doctors...
Not that I see them more than what is considered normal.
I should hope it's getting better....stupid pharmaceutical companies and their tendency to be money grubbers.
I know that mode.
You never mess with an angry alpha when their angry switch is fully flipped.
To be honest, there have been times where I was all like 'things would be so much easier if you weren't here/dead and therefore also not here'....but I felt a bit bad about that because I'd be taking the dog away from more people than just me. Well, now that I finally have insurance, my only excuse to not see doctors is a matter of being convinced I'll get the bad ones. We don't generally trust doctors in my family because we've got a record of getting terrible ones. Mhm. Disease is big business. They're not giving that up. That's why other countries have cures for different kinds of cancers, but we don't in the US. No money in curing patients. Nope. Not at all. I just kind of wish I wasn't half-flipped at all times. There's usually no reason for it. I don't feel bad about that when it comes to the chihuahua. When people say they love our dogs, I just tell people to take them. Then my mom gets mad at me. =I
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Posted: Thu Jul 02, 2015 9:27 pm
KeatonIshTak05 Amu Tsukiyomi-sama KeatonIshTak05 Amu Tsukiyomi-sama KeatonIshTak05 Amu Tsukiyomi-sama ...that's terrible.
Worse than mine, actually.
Though I'm fairly certain I've become allergic to more things...or worse to things I'm already allergic to...
Oh wow....do they do anything like jump on you when you get home?
Ick. That's not fun. Not anymore. They've learned. They just bark. Nope, it's not.
Especially since I don't know for certain unless I go have more fairly expensive blood work done.
Done at a place that doesn't submit to insurance, so if you want to do that you can...
But it's hard to explain to an insurance company why going to a guy who was a regular physician who became a holistic medicine guy for allergy testing, etc is insurance money worthy.
Because of the holistic part.
Oh dear.
Well at least they no longer jump....if only there was a nice, effective way to get them to not bark.
All the ways I can think of are fairly cruel or they probably won't work.
... Oh, right. They can test for allergies and sensitivities, can't they? I honestly couldn't say the last time I saw a proper doctor. Even that Minute Clinic in the CVS hasn't seen me in almost three years. Yeah, to the companies, Holistic simply means Bullshit unless you happen to get that one person who tries to go that route when they can, though that's getting better now from what I hear. Yeah. I can get scary and loud, so they learned pretty quick. Do not miss with the occasionally-Alpha b***h. Most days, when I'm actually home, I can ignore it. But then there are the bad days where I am all for surgically removing the bits that allow them to make any noise. I might be a terrible person because I feel no guilt about that. Yup.
I kind of have no choice about seeing doctors...
Not that I see them more than what is considered normal.
I should hope it's getting better....stupid pharmaceutical companies and their tendency to be money grubbers.
I know that mode.
You never mess with an angry alpha when their angry switch is fully flipped.
To be honest, there have been times where I was all like 'things would be so much easier if you weren't here/dead and therefore also not here'....but I felt a bit bad about that because I'd be taking the dog away from more people than just me. Well, now that I finally have insurance, my only excuse to not see doctors is a matter of being convinced I'll get the bad ones. We don't generally trust doctors in my family because we've got a record of getting terrible ones. Mhm. Disease is big business. They're not giving that up. That's why other countries have cures for different kinds of cancers, but we don't in the US. No money in curing patients. Nope. Not at all. I just kind of wish I wasn't half-flipped at all times. There's usually no reason for it. I don't feel bad about that when it comes to the chihuahua. When people say they love our dogs, I just tell people to take them. Then my mom gets mad at me. =I ....while I've never gotten a truly terrible doctor...partially because I avoided one guy...
I've certainly got little faith in most doctors because in my family we generally have to know more than the doctor does...and the doctor will either do nothing or tell us we're wrong/it's nothing...
And later is turns out we were right and they were flagrantly wrong.
I can't blame you for that.
Until today I'd been running on negative reserves for dealing with other people....and then I had to deal with my hateful relatives for two days straight and they did crap you should never do...
So that made it way worse.
I'm still mostly not back to even having a positive reserve for dealing with others.
Well if the dog isn't your dog, then I can see why she'd get upset.
But if the Chihuahua is your dog....
The times when I get like that about my dog usually coincide with bouts of being depressive or totally stressed out of my mind over something and his being mildly annoying is making things worse.
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Posted: Fri Jul 03, 2015 4:11 pm
Amu Tsukiyomi-sama Well I guess that's an upside.
Even if there are way too many, not adding more is good.
Yay! Meh, I'm more concerned with the contents of the insult than the order of the insult.
Random question, do you think it is normal for someone to have their girlfriend come along with their family to go and get a grand tour of the boyfriend's uncle's new house that the uncle and his family haven't moved into yet....with the uncle (And probably the rest of his family) knowing the girlfriend is coming...and that she's their cousin/nephew's girlfriend?
that it definitely is. especially when we have to pack it all up and move it to another place of residence every few months as of late the order of the insult can make it either more effective or less effective. "Your father smelt of elderberries and your mother was a hamster!" sounds more strange than "Your mother was a hamster and your father smelt of elderberries!", for example
i wouldn't know what is or isn't normal, to be honest. so as far as i know it could be perfectly normal or it could be as far from normal as one could get. i'd take it as a sign that the one inviting the girlfriend and their family are comfortable with the girlfriend and don't mind or enjoy their company, personally, and that's what matters more than 'normal' imo
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Posted: Fri Jul 03, 2015 10:35 pm
Amu Tsukiyomi-sama ....while I've never gotten a truly terrible doctor...partially because I avoided one guy...
I've certainly got little faith in most doctors because in my family we generally have to know more than the doctor does...and the doctor will either do nothing or tell us we're wrong/it's nothing...
And later is turns out we were right and they were flagrantly wrong.
I can't blame you for that.
Until today I'd been running on negative reserves for dealing with other people....and then I had to deal with my hateful relatives for two days straight and they did crap you should never do...
So that made it way worse.
I'm still mostly not back to even having a positive reserve for dealing with others.
Well if the dog isn't your dog, then I can see why she'd get upset.
But if the Chihuahua is your dog....
The times when I get like that about my dog usually coincide with bouts of being depressive or totally stressed out of my mind over something and his being mildly annoying is making things worse.
None of the doctors my relatives have gone to can diagnose anything. It took years for my aunt's sarcoidosis to even be acknowledged, years for anyone to find the weird s**t going on in my dad's spine, and my grandmother's skin was basically falling off before they figured out her autoimmune disease (though, to be fair, autoimmune diseases can be tricky, and she had three different strains of the same one at the same time. =I ) That's why I had a blanket fort in my closet for four months. Needed a hiding place from the world. Nope. The dogs are all hers. If they were mine, I wouldn't have gotten them to begin with. I like dogs, but only when they are not living in my house.
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Posted: Fri Jul 03, 2015 10:36 pm
Nikakaeo Amu Tsukiyomi-sama Well I guess that's an upside.
Even if there are way too many, not adding more is good.
Yay! Meh, I'm more concerned with the contents of the insult than the order of the insult.
Random question, do you think it is normal for someone to have their girlfriend come along with their family to go and get a grand tour of the boyfriend's uncle's new house that the uncle and his family haven't moved into yet....with the uncle (And probably the rest of his family) knowing the girlfriend is coming...and that she's their cousin/nephew's girlfriend?
that it definitely is. especially when we have to pack it all up and move it to another place of residence every few months as of late the order of the insult can make it either more effective or less effective. "Your father smelt of elderberries and your mother was a hamster!" sounds more strange than "Your mother was a hamster and your father smelt of elderberries!", for example
i wouldn't know what is or isn't normal, to be honest. so as far as i know it could be perfectly normal or it could be as far from normal as one could get. i'd take it as a sign that the one inviting the girlfriend and their family are comfortable with the girlfriend and don't mind or enjoy their company, personally, and that's what matters more than 'normal' imoI can bet.
Which that is really unfortunate, by the way.
Perhaps it does, but could that not also be a case of the version which is heard first is usually the version most people think sound better?
.....the reason I was asking, besides the terribly obvious part of it having happened recently, is because in my mind, being brought along to see a relative's new and not moved into house for a house tour of ALL the rooms....means I'm basically accepted as part of the family....or that someone very strongly wants me to be part of the family....which I have basically been told that before...though more in the 'I can see myself marrying you and I like that' way than in a 100% non-verbal gesture-y show of 'you is family/I wants you be in family'. And I have a very hard time allowing myself to make such a guess without...well, without hearing it from the person...because I don't want to incorrectly assume anything. I presume that's what was being done....but I'm not sure...and I plan to try and make myself just not worry about it unless I really need to. (I'm trying to not be all 'happy-squee-stuffs' about anything remotely like that without more concrete implications/proof-stuffs. I'll be 'happy-squee-stuffs' about other things....just not that)
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Posted: Fri Jul 03, 2015 10:47 pm
KeatonIshTak05 Amu Tsukiyomi-sama ....while I've never gotten a truly terrible doctor...partially because I avoided one guy...
I've certainly got little faith in most doctors because in my family we generally have to know more than the doctor does...and the doctor will either do nothing or tell us we're wrong/it's nothing...
And later is turns out we were right and they were flagrantly wrong.
I can't blame you for that.
Until today I'd been running on negative reserves for dealing with other people....and then I had to deal with my hateful relatives for two days straight and they did crap you should never do...
So that made it way worse.
I'm still mostly not back to even having a positive reserve for dealing with others.
Well if the dog isn't your dog, then I can see why she'd get upset.
But if the Chihuahua is your dog....
The times when I get like that about my dog usually coincide with bouts of being depressive or totally stressed out of my mind over something and his being mildly annoying is making things worse.
None of the doctors my relatives have gone to can diagnose anything. It took years for my aunt's sarcoidosis to even be acknowledged, years for anyone to find the weird s**t going on in my dad's spine, and my grandmother's skin was basically falling off before they figured out her autoimmune disease (though, to be fair, autoimmune diseases can be tricky, and she had three different strains of the same one at the same time. =I ) That's why I had a blanket fort in my closet for four months. Needed a hiding place from the world. Nope. The dogs are all hers. If they were mine, I wouldn't have gotten them to begin with. I like dogs, but only when they are not living in my house. ....yeah...never anything that bad...
Just doctors doing idiotic things like give someone the double male dose of a drug...when that was two times the allowable amount for a female....
(and ouch, those are super nasty. I hope your Grandmother got better after they finally figured stuff out)
Oh, I hide in my room a fair bit.....but that causes problems for others and gets me into trouble for not doing house work.
It also doesn't help that I'm an extrovert....with one person who is the best at recharging my batteries....
Who I don't get to see as often as I want and sometimes need.
Agreed.
Though I can handle one dog just fine.
But it also so happens that he think I and my mother are his mother...
So he has mommy (me) and other mommy (my mom)
But I prefer animals I don't have to remember to take care of.
This reminds me....I need to either teach my dog how to sleep alone....get him a bed thing I can put near my bed....or teach him bed-sharing etiquette.
That dude, even if he's about the size of a loaf of bread, can be very problematic...
Warm, cuddly, and adorable.
But problematic.
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