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 Posted: Sat Jun 27, 2015 10:50 pm
Amu Tsukiyomi-sama Exactly!
Which I really do need to get rid of some things....mostly trash...
^_^;;
Obviously.
Finding out his annoying habits. He'd have to tell me things or do things for me to discover I find them annoying...but that hasn't really happened....and he said if he had a problem, he'd tell me. And he hasn't said he has a problem with....well anything...at least not that I remember.... Closest was something about him, more than it was about me and it wasn't really a problem per se...but more him telling me how things were more than a year ago, before we ended up officially together...(official = me point blank asking him if we were.....to clarify confusion....because I was fairly sure but I absolutely refused to assume for fear of being presumptuous and wrong. And the type of reply should be /fairly/ obvious)
There are days I'm not so sure about that....there are quite a few people who at the very least deserve to be uncomfortable to varying degrees... But I'm not too concerned about how he felt at the time.....now I'm more concerned in making sure the relatives don't ******** about with the funeral and/or ruin it for my aunt and cousins. If they do, there will be polite hell to pay. (because I refuse to be the one who ruins it for my aunt and cousins...no matter how much the other relatives may deserve a good verbal dismembering)
that's what those big black garbage bags are for; you put the trash in there and then you can't even look back through it (very easily) to try and remove something you decide wasn't trash even though it really was. unless you meant like actual trash. in which case it still applies, except the look back through it part ahhh, okay. yeah, most people don't really realize their habits are annoying ones unless someone points it out to them, so. good luck finding out if he has any and what they are! and yeah, the answer is definitely fairly obvious. and if it isn't obvious to someone when you specifically said 'my boyfriend' in that description thing, there's something wrong with their hearing and/or their ability to pay attention
uncomfortable, yes. but suffer endlessly, no. there's a very large amount of people who need to feel discomfort or the like, sadly. like the texas attorney general who ordered clerks not to give marriage licenses to gay couples because 'state law is higher than federal law' and because of 'millennia of tradition' and whatever other garbage he used to justify his blatant homophobia
ick. here's to hoping that they DON'T ruin everything for everyone with the funeral and whatnot. and if they do, then they will deserve whatever they get in the form of... dang it, i had the word, but then i lost it. not retribution, not revenge, not karmic justice, but something. it would've tied the whole thing together but noooOOOOoooo, i just had to forget the word just before i started typing it. stupid word.
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Posted: Sun Jun 28, 2015 8:04 pm
Nikakaeo Amu Tsukiyomi-sama Exactly!
Which I really do need to get rid of some things....mostly trash...
^_^;;
Obviously.
Finding out his annoying habits. He'd have to tell me things or do things for me to discover I find them annoying...but that hasn't really happened....and he said if he had a problem, he'd tell me. And he hasn't said he has a problem with....well anything...at least not that I remember.... Closest was something about him, more than it was about me and it wasn't really a problem per se...but more him telling me how things were more than a year ago, before we ended up officially together...(official = me point blank asking him if we were.....to clarify confusion....because I was fairly sure but I absolutely refused to assume for fear of being presumptuous and wrong. And the type of reply should be /fairly/ obvious)
There are days I'm not so sure about that....there are quite a few people who at the very least deserve to be uncomfortable to varying degrees... But I'm not too concerned about how he felt at the time.....now I'm more concerned in making sure the relatives don't ******** about with the funeral and/or ruin it for my aunt and cousins. If they do, there will be polite hell to pay. (because I refuse to be the one who ruins it for my aunt and cousins...no matter how much the other relatives may deserve a good verbal dismembering)
that's what those big black garbage bags are for; you put the trash in there and then you can't even look back through it (very easily) to try and remove something you decide wasn't trash even though it really was. unless you meant like actual trash. in which case it still applies, except the look back through it part ahhh, okay. yeah, most people don't really realize their habits are annoying ones unless someone points it out to them, so. good luck finding out if he has any and what they are! and yeah, the answer is definitely fairly obvious. and if it isn't obvious to someone when you specifically said 'my boyfriend' in that description thing, there's something wrong with their hearing and/or their ability to pay attention
uncomfortable, yes. but suffer endlessly, no. there's a very large amount of people who need to feel discomfort or the like, sadly. like the texas attorney general who ordered clerks not to give marriage licenses to gay couples because 'state law is higher than federal law' and because of 'millennia of tradition' and whatever other garbage he used to justify his blatant homophobia
ick. here's to hoping that they DON'T ruin everything for everyone with the funeral and whatnot. and if they do, then they will deserve whatever they get in the form of... dang it, i had the word, but then i lost it. not retribution, not revenge, not karmic justice, but something. it would've tied the whole thing together but noooOOOOoooo, i just had to forget the word just before i started typing it. stupid word.The issue is more that I keep forgetting to clean my room.
And a bunch of stuff I was fairly sure others wouldn't let me toss....
But I should be able to now.
Thank you. Yup.
Mhm. Because unless Federal law goes "look to the states", that is absolute s**t. And the guy likely is doing this partially as a stunt to help him be re-elected, cuz it's Texas and politicians love getting re-elected.
Was it 'return'? But as it is, so far, they haven't done anything to ruin the funeral. Had to deal with a family where the mother told me "he has autism, it won't get through to him." about her youngest child....when I tried talking to him at all. And later on, the kid tried to go outside and to stop him, she ended up hitting him - twice. If he has autism the absolute LAST THING you should do is hit the kid! Holy ********. I ended up half-babysitting the three other kids....and unlike their parents, I ACTUALLY EXPLAINED THINGS TO THEM. Gave them ******** REASONS for why an action was incorrect. All the parents did, and I will say they seemed fairly overwhelmed and deal with the kids dvery day, was go "no" or "I'm not going to repeat myself again (for stuff like sit down)" and never give a reason why. They hadn't even explained funeral home etiquette to the kids, best that I could tell.
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Posted: Sun Jun 28, 2015 8:21 pm
Amu Tsukiyomi-sama The issue is more that I keep forgetting to clean my room.
And a bunch of stuff I was fairly sure others wouldn't let me toss....
But I should be able to now.
Thank you. Yup.
Mhm. Because unless Federal law goes "look to the states", that is absolute s**t. And the guy likely is doing this partially as a stunt to help him be re-elected, cuz it's Texas and politicians love getting re-elected.
Was it 'return'? But as it is, so far, they haven't done anything to ruin the funeral. Had to deal with a family where the mother told me "he has autism, it won't get through to him." about her youngest child....when I tried talking to him at all. And later on, the kid tried to go outside and to stop him, she ended up hitting him - twice. If he has autism the absolute LAST THING you should do is hit the kid! Holy ********. I ended up half-babysitting the three other kids....and unlike their parents, I ACTUALLY EXPLAINED THINGS TO THEM. Gave them ******** REASONS for why an action was incorrect. All the parents did, and I will say they seemed fairly overwhelmed and deal with the kids every day, was go "no" or "I'm not going to repeat myself again (for stuff like sit down)" and never give a reason why. They hadn't even explained funeral home etiquette to the kids, best that I could tell.
ahh, okay. well, then, time to bring out the big black garbage bags to fill up with those things, then! don't you just love how some politicians try to get themselves reelected, like by breaking federal law in favor of state law, or by saying they'll set themselves on fire if same-sex marriage is made legal? both things done/said by texas officials, too! gotta love the state of the homophobic sexist white men who run more people than they've ever met
i have no idea if it was return or not, but thanks for the attempted help. and that sounds like the kind of parent who'd be a part of Autism Speaks, which is never something someone would want to have attributed to them. like, ever. i'll bet the parents were amazed at how well you got them to behave, or how much they liked you, or something that amazed them because of the simple act of your explaining why they couldn't or shouldn't do something. seriously, if every parent would just explain why people shouldn't do things, without going 'because i said so' as the complete bullshit reason, then there'd be a lot more well-behaved kids, probably. though i can't really say anything on the 'funeral home etiquette' part since i've been to funerals and have no idea what it is. unless it's "sit quiet and don't bother people" or something along those lines
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Posted: Sun Jun 28, 2015 8:28 pm
Amu Tsukiyomi-sama .....not a bad idea, except I don't like big purses...
And anything I'd bring for food would be fairly loud... ^_^;;
My dog isn't usually too barky...but he does get whiny at times.
*shrugs* To each their own, but at least it's always an option. I don't even like to snack during movies if I'm not home. My stomach freaks out too easily. I do, however, like to smuggle drinks in. My dogs bark. At everything. Three dogs can get extremely loud.
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Posted: Sun Jun 28, 2015 10:03 pm
Nikakaeo Amu Tsukiyomi-sama The issue is more that I keep forgetting to clean my room.
And a bunch of stuff I was fairly sure others wouldn't let me toss....
But I should be able to now.
Thank you. Yup.
Mhm. Because unless Federal law goes "look to the states", that is absolute s**t. And the guy likely is doing this partially as a stunt to help him be re-elected, cuz it's Texas and politicians love getting re-elected.
Was it 'return'? But as it is, so far, they haven't done anything to ruin the funeral. Had to deal with a family where the mother told me "he has autism, it won't get through to him." about her youngest child....when I tried talking to him at all. And later on, the kid tried to go outside and to stop him, she ended up hitting him - twice. If he has autism the absolute LAST THING you should do is hit the kid! Holy ********. I ended up half-babysitting the three other kids....and unlike their parents, I ACTUALLY EXPLAINED THINGS TO THEM. Gave them ******** REASONS for why an action was incorrect. All the parents did, and I will say they seemed fairly overwhelmed and deal with the kids every day, was go "no" or "I'm not going to repeat myself again (for stuff like sit down)" and never give a reason why. They hadn't even explained funeral home etiquette to the kids, best that I could tell.
ahh, okay. well, then, time to bring out the big black garbage bags to fill up with those things, then! don't you just love how some politicians try to get themselves reelected, like by breaking federal law in favor of state law, or by saying they'll set themselves on fire if same-sex marriage is made legal? both things done/said by texas officials, too! gotta love the state of the homophobic sexist white men who run more people than they've ever met
i have no idea if it was return or not, but thanks for the attempted help. and that sounds like the kind of parent who'd be a part of Autism Speaks, which is never something someone would want to have attributed to them. like, ever. i'll bet the parents were amazed at how well you got them to behave, or how much they liked you, or something that amazed them because of the simple act of your explaining why they couldn't or shouldn't do something. seriously, if every parent would just explain why people shouldn't do things, without going 'because i said so' as the complete bullshit reason, then there'd be a lot more well-behaved kids, probably. though i can't really say anything on the 'funeral home etiquette' part since i've been to funerals and have no idea what it is. unless it's "sit quiet and don't bother people" or something along those lines.....if I remember...
and no one can help me because I have NO IDEA what's lurking in my room that I don't want people to know about.
(mainly candy-type wrappers)
If by love, you mean think they need to spend a long time on the other side of their words/laws/actions, then yes.
She didn't say much past 'I hope they take your suggestion' and the 'don't try to talk to my kid because it's useless' comment to me. So I have no idea if she was impressed or not. Seemed fairly ungrateful or at least didn't think to stop and recognize that someone didn't just go away and stop trying to interact with her son. Hell, I even asked point blank if I could interact with the kid and she said yes. But that was it.
Funeral etiquette is basically: be dressed appropriately, don't run around, don't misbehave, be respectful. NORMAL THINGS. The only difference is that they're at a funeral home and you can use 'we have to respect the dead person' or a more child-friendly version of that, as part of the reason why they need to behave a certain way.
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Posted: Sun Jun 28, 2015 10:06 pm
KeatonIshTak05 Amu Tsukiyomi-sama .....not a bad idea, except I don't like big purses...
And anything I'd bring for food would be fairly loud... ^_^;;
My dog isn't usually too barky...but he does get whiny at times.
*shrugs* To each their own, but at least it's always an option. I don't even like to snack during movies if I'm not home. My stomach freaks out too easily. I do, however, like to smuggle drinks in. My dogs bark. At everything. Three dogs can get extremely loud. This is true.
I can understand that...though mine may take a few days to flip out on me...
Oh dear....I can very easily imagine.
Definitely not fun, that.
One good at high-pitched (toned?) and loud barks when he's being super demanding is enough for me...
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Posted: Mon Jun 29, 2015 1:54 am
Amu Tsukiyomi-sama .....if I remember...
and no one can help me because I have NO IDEA what's lurking in my room that I don't want people to know about.
(mainly candy-type wrappers)
If by love, you mean think they need to spend a long time on the other side of their words/laws/actions, then yes.
She didn't say much past 'I hope they take your suggestion' and the 'don't try to talk to my kid because it's useless' comment to me. So I have no idea if she was impressed or not. Seemed fairly ungrateful or at least didn't think to stop and recognize that someone didn't just go away and stop trying to interact with her son. Hell, I even asked point blank if I could interact with the kid and she said yes. But that was it.
Funeral etiquette is basically: be dressed appropriately, don't run around, don't misbehave, be respectful. NORMAL THINGS. The only difference is that they're at a funeral home and you can use 'we have to respect the dead person' or a more child-friendly version of that, as part of the reason why they need to behave a certain way.
well, try to remember to just bring a garbage bag in there and then next time you think 'i need to pick up and throw away a bunch of this stuff' you'll have a bag ready to fill up! and who needs help? help with cleaning up one's room is never needed! you never know what kinds of things someone could find that you've forgotten you didn't want people to see that's pretty much exactly what i meant, so yay for being on the same page!
huh. well it's still ridiculously rude of her to have said it was useless to try and interact with her child. that's the kind of thing that leads to not having a child anymore. did the small ones appreciate the attention, i'm guessing is the more important question to ask?
ahh, okay. that's fairly normal, then. doesn't seem like there'd need to be any special term for it, unlike 'funeral attire' which does need the special term because apparently you're supposed to dress up all fancy-like to say goodbye to a person who can't even see you. and yay for more valid excuses!
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Posted: Mon Jun 29, 2015 7:04 pm
Nikakaeo Amu Tsukiyomi-sama .....if I remember...
and no one can help me because I have NO IDEA what's lurking in my room that I don't want people to know about.
(mainly candy-type wrappers)
If by love, you mean think they need to spend a long time on the other side of their words/laws/actions, then yes.
She didn't say much past 'I hope they take your suggestion' and the 'don't try to talk to my kid because it's useless' comment to me. So I have no idea if she was impressed or not. Seemed fairly ungrateful or at least didn't think to stop and recognize that someone didn't just go away and stop trying to interact with her son. Hell, I even asked point blank if I could interact with the kid and she said yes. But that was it.
Funeral etiquette is basically: be dressed appropriately, don't run around, don't misbehave, be respectful. NORMAL THINGS. The only difference is that they're at a funeral home and you can use 'we have to respect the dead person' or a more child-friendly version of that, as part of the reason why they need to behave a certain way.
well, try to remember to just bring a garbage bag in there and then next time you think 'i need to pick up and throw away a bunch of this stuff' you'll have a bag ready to fill up! and who needs help? help with cleaning up one's room is never needed! you never know what kinds of things someone could find that you've forgotten you didn't want people to see that's pretty much exactly what i meant, so yay for being on the same page!
huh. well it's still ridiculously rude of her to have said it was useless to try and interact with her child. that's the kind of thing that leads to not having a child anymore. did the small ones appreciate the attention, i'm guessing is the more important question to ask?
ahh, okay. that's fairly normal, then. doesn't seem like there'd need to be any special term for it, unlike 'funeral attire' which does need the special term because apparently you're supposed to dress up all fancy-like to say goodbye to a person who can't even see you. and yay for more valid excuses!....the likely outcome would be the garbage bag just sitting there and not getting used...
^_^;;
YAY!
Yes. The eldest said, and I quote 'You're really fun to play with." and a couple other versions of that, as well as saying that to his mother. Pretty sure the two girls said something positive too, but I don't remember. And the youngest, the one diagnosed with autism, I didn't really interact with all that much, but the important thing is I STILL INTERACTED WITH HIM.
Mhm. And in many ways, funerals are more for the living than the deceased. Because it's not like they'll be able to know what's going on, y'know.....since they're DEAD.
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Posted: Mon Jun 29, 2015 8:15 pm
Amu Tsukiyomi-sama ....the likely outcome would be the garbage bag just sitting there and not getting used...
^_^;;
YAY!
Yes. The eldest said, and I quote 'You're really fun to play with." and a couple other versions of that, as well as saying that to his mother. Pretty sure the two girls said something positive too, but I don't remember. And the youngest, the one diagnosed with autism, I didn't really interact with all that much, but the important thing is I STILL INTERACTED WITH HIM.
Mhm. And in many ways, funerals are more for the living than the deceased. Because it's not like they'll be able to know what's going on, y'know.....since they're DEAD.
oh. well, then, good luck getting your room junk free!... eventually. maybe yay for positive interaction with children who need it! good to hear that the children were able to have good memories be made for a change, and especially that the one who probably needed it most got some interaction, even if it wasn't much
unless the person wakes up while lying in the casket and suddenly gets stares from everyone in the room and has no idea what the heck is going on because it looks like a funeral but they don't remember going to one and then they realize they're the one in the coffin and then a million and two questions arise as to what happened and why they were in a coffin
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Posted: Mon Jun 29, 2015 8:41 pm
Amu Tsukiyomi-sama KeatonIshTak05 Amu Tsukiyomi-sama .....not a bad idea, except I don't like big purses...
And anything I'd bring for food would be fairly loud... ^_^;;
My dog isn't usually too barky...but he does get whiny at times.
*shrugs* To each their own, but at least it's always an option. I don't even like to snack during movies if I'm not home. My stomach freaks out too easily. I do, however, like to smuggle drinks in. My dogs bark. At everything. Three dogs can get extremely loud. This is true.
I can understand that...though mine may take a few days to flip out on me...
Oh dear....I can very easily imagine.
Definitely not fun, that.
One good at high-pitched (toned?) and loud barks when he's being super demanding is enough for me...
Mine will be sick within half an hour sometimes. It's incredibly annoying since it's also unpredictable. Something I was fine with a week or two before could set me off. Don't even get me started on breakfast foods. We've got two big dogs and a chihuahua. I'm actually glad to be employed just so I don't have to be home with them.
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Posted: Mon Jun 29, 2015 10:02 pm
Nikakaeo Amu Tsukiyomi-sama ....the likely outcome would be the garbage bag just sitting there and not getting used...
^_^;;
YAY!
Yes. The eldest said, and I quote 'You're really fun to play with." and a couple other versions of that, as well as saying that to his mother. Pretty sure the two girls said something positive too, but I don't remember. And the youngest, the one diagnosed with autism, I didn't really interact with all that much, but the important thing is I STILL INTERACTED WITH HIM.
Mhm. And in many ways, funerals are more for the living than the deceased. Because it's not like they'll be able to know what's going on, y'know.....since they're DEAD.
oh. well, then, good luck getting your room junk free!... eventually. maybe yay for positive interaction with children who need it! good to hear that the children were able to have good memories be made for a change, and especially that the one who probably needed it most got some interaction, even if it wasn't much
unless the person wakes up while lying in the casket and suddenly gets stares from everyone in the room and has no idea what the heck is going on because it looks like a funeral but they don't remember going to one and then they realize they're the one in the coffin and then a million and two questions arise as to what happened and why they were in a coffin....yeah....
Thanks.
Yeah....though if the kid has autism, he might not really want to interact with non-family...especially since he's like three.
...supposedly that's happened before. Someone was in a coma and woke up at their funeral. But I think that's more of a myth than a reality.
Relatives still pulled s**t today, I didn't ruin the funeral. I want to strangle some relatives, but shall instead throw things in their face when they ask me to participate in anyone else's funeral (meaning the ones I super despise). Means when grandma finally snuffs it, I will tell them no to any thing they ask me to do. And I know they'll make some ******** huge catholic church ceremony piece of s**t and want the entire family to participate in it and I refuse to. Because I do not and cannot respect that grandmother, because of the way she treated my family for my entire life. She never respected us and tried to make us like her so she could basically win by having my sister and I be all 'but we want to go see grandma!' and make us visit more often. OR she'd give us clothes, not because she thought we'd like them, but because she thought the clothes we wore weren't nice enough....meaning they weren't brand name. Hell, best example of what a b***h she was, is that when I was like 4, I wanted either a blue dress with white polka dots or a white dress with blue polka dots. Pretty sure my mother said I had wanted that grandmother specifically to make them. The dresses she sewed for me looked nothing at all like what I'd wanted. One was this sailor thing...and the rest were made from absolutely hideous fabrics that were like all-over parrots in the jungle or mish-mash teddy bears and toys print. What kind of a*****e completely disregards what their 4 year old granddaughter wants for a homesewn dress? Especially if they specifically wanted YOU to make it, it's not terribly expensive like buying a dress in a store, AND when she definitely had more than enough money to buy the tiny amount of fabric required for a toddler dress. We still have those ******** things. And some of the dresses she made for other cousins, which look just as god-awful. I have no reason to respect such a person and therefore no reason to do anything past showing up to the funeral, for the which (not that most of them know this) they should be eternally grateful I'm even doing that. Because I don't think the b***h even deserves the tiny amount of respect just showing up would imply.
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Posted: Mon Jun 29, 2015 10:13 pm
KeatonIshTak05 Amu Tsukiyomi-sama KeatonIshTak05 Amu Tsukiyomi-sama .....not a bad idea, except I don't like big purses...
And anything I'd bring for food would be fairly loud... ^_^;;
My dog isn't usually too barky...but he does get whiny at times.
*shrugs* To each their own, but at least it's always an option. I don't even like to snack during movies if I'm not home. My stomach freaks out too easily. I do, however, like to smuggle drinks in. My dogs bark. At everything. Three dogs can get extremely loud. This is true.
I can understand that...though mine may take a few days to flip out on me...
Oh dear....I can very easily imagine.
Definitely not fun, that.
One good at high-pitched (toned?) and loud barks when he's being super demanding is enough for me...
Mine will be sick within half an hour sometimes. It's incredibly annoying since it's also unpredictable. Something I was fine with a week or two before could set me off. Don't even get me started on breakfast foods. We've got two big dogs and a chihuahua. I'm actually glad to be employed just so I don't have to be home with them. ...that's terrible.
Worse than mine, actually.
Though I'm fairly certain I've become allergic to more things...or worse to things I'm already allergic to...
Oh wow....do they do anything like jump on you when you get home?
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Posted: Mon Jun 29, 2015 10:39 pm
Amu Tsukiyomi-sama ....yeah....
Thanks.
Yeah....though if the kid has autism, he might not really want to interact with non-family...especially since he's like three.
...supposedly that's happened before. Someone was in a coma and woke up at their funeral. But I think that's more of a myth than a reality.
Relatives still pulled s**t today, I didn't ruin the funeral. I want to strangle some relatives, but shall instead throw things in their face when they ask me to participate in anyone else's funeral (meaning the ones I super despise). Means when grandma finally snuffs it, I will tell them no to any thing they ask me to do. And I know they'll make some ******** huge catholic church ceremony piece of s**t and want the entire family to participate in it and I refuse to. Because I do not and cannot respect that grandmother, because of the way she treated my family for my entire life. She never respected us and tried to make us like her so she could basically win by having my sister and I be all 'but we want to go see grandma!' and make us visit more often. OR she'd give us clothes, not because she thought we'd like them, but because she thought the clothes we wore weren't nice enough....meaning they weren't brand name. Hell, best example of what a b***h she was, is that when I was like 4, I wanted either a blue dress with white polka dots or a white dress with blue polka dots. Pretty sure my mother said I had wanted that grandmother specifically to make them. The dresses she sewed for me looked nothing at all like what I'd wanted. One was this sailor thing...and the rest were made from absolutely hideous fabrics that were like all-over parrots in the jungle or mish-mash teddy bears and toys print. What kind of a*****e completely disregards what their 4 year old granddaughter wants for a homesewn dress? Especially if they specifically wanted YOU to make it, it's not terribly expensive like buying a dress in a store, AND when she definitely had more than enough money to buy the tiny amount of fabric required for a toddler dress. We still have those ******** things. And some of the dresses she made for other cousins, which look just as god-awful. I have no reason to respect such a person and therefore no reason to do anything past showing up to the funeral, for the which (not that most of them know this) they should be eternally grateful I'm even doing that. Because I don't think the b***h even deserves the tiny amount of respect just showing up would imply.
well, if it makes you feel any better, i'm just as bad when it comes to cleaning up my desk. if i don't do it as soon as the junk becomes junk, it just. piles up and up until the desk isn't even visible anymore. just junk that makes sense. especially because of the low number age
that would've been amusing to read in the paper, or in any form of written media for sharing news stories
how rude of them. they need to leave s**t-pulling for when there isn't a funeral going on for a dead relative
wow. i'm amazed you haven't disowned her from how horrible she sounds. or whatever the equivalent of disowning is for an older relative. i would've never lasted as long as you while still calling her by her relation-granted title, nor would i have allowed such a butt-ugly-sounding dress to remain in existence if i were in your position. she sounds like a complete a**, that old woman does
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Posted: Tue Jun 30, 2015 12:02 am
Nikakaeo Amu Tsukiyomi-sama ....yeah....
Thanks.
Yeah....though if the kid has autism, he might not really want to interact with non-family...especially since he's like three.
...supposedly that's happened before. Someone was in a coma and woke up at their funeral. But I think that's more of a myth than a reality.
Relatives still pulled s**t today, I didn't ruin the funeral. I want to strangle some relatives, but shall instead throw things in their face when they ask me to participate in anyone else's funeral (meaning the ones I super despise). Means when grandma finally snuffs it, I will tell them no to any thing they ask me to do. And I know they'll make some ******** huge catholic church ceremony piece of s**t and want the entire family to participate in it and I refuse to. Because I do not and cannot respect that grandmother, because of the way she treated my family for my entire life. She never respected us and tried to make us like her so she could basically win by having my sister and I be all 'but we want to go see grandma!' and make us visit more often. OR she'd give us clothes, not because she thought we'd like them, but because she thought the clothes we wore weren't nice enough....meaning they weren't brand name. Hell, best example of what a b***h she was, is that when I was like 4, I wanted either a blue dress with white polka dots or a white dress with blue polka dots. Pretty sure my mother said I had wanted that grandmother specifically to make them. The dresses she sewed for me looked nothing at all like what I'd wanted. One was this sailor thing...and the rest were made from absolutely hideous fabrics that were like all-over parrots in the jungle or mish-mash teddy bears and toys print. What kind of a*****e completely disregards what their 4 year old granddaughter wants for a homesewn dress? Especially if they specifically wanted YOU to make it, it's not terribly expensive like buying a dress in a store, AND when she definitely had more than enough money to buy the tiny amount of fabric required for a toddler dress. We still have those ******** things. And some of the dresses she made for other cousins, which look just as god-awful. I have no reason to respect such a person and therefore no reason to do anything past showing up to the funeral, for the which (not that most of them know this) they should be eternally grateful I'm even doing that. Because I don't think the b***h even deserves the tiny amount of respect just showing up would imply.
well, if it makes you feel any better, i'm just as bad when it comes to cleaning up my desk. if i don't do it as soon as the junk becomes junk, it just. piles up and up until the desk isn't even visible anymore. just junk that makes sense. especially because of the low number age
that would've been amusing to read in the paper, or in any form of written media for sharing news stories
how rude of them. they need to leave s**t-pulling for when there isn't a funeral going on for a dead relative
wow. i'm amazed you haven't disowned her from how horrible she sounds. or whatever the equivalent of disowning is for an older relative. i would've never lasted as long as you while still calling her by her relation-granted title, nor would i have allowed such a butt-ugly-sounding dress to remain in existence if i were in your position. she sounds like a complete a**, that old woman doesthe only remotely organized surface in my entire room is a shelf of books.
And even that has a few random things, including other books, stacked on top of the other books.
Everything else, including a desk chair and an orbit chair, are covered in stuff.
Mhm.
Definitely.
See, but that's not the way they work. While it's never obvious to other people....if you really know them and not the fronts they try to project.....you realize what they're really doing. I'm fairly certain my uncle got buried with the flowers they got for the b***h grandmother that said on them 'my UNCLE'S NAME', which firstly, his WIFE'S flowers should be closest to him, and why in the ******** would flowers gotten on the behalf of a senile lady who likely doesn't even know he's dead say anything other than son. (look, example of s**t pulling right there. apparently he was still his mother's even though he had moved out of the house and MARRIED SOMEONE AND HAD KIDS WITH THEM, bastards) And those ******** flowers were in the ******** casket with him the entire ******** time. Visitation, pre-church s**t visitation stuff, in the closed casket during the church services...the ride to the cemetery....the grave-side services....(at least I never saw anyone open the casket and take them out, because once you close a casket, it tends to stay closed; 200+ funerals worth of knowledge there) Where were the flowers from his wife and kids? on the outside. All they said was 'husband' and 'father'. I spent the entire ******** catholic service mentally chanting my aunt, dead uncle, and three cousins names to keep from flipping s**t and doing something. So you can see why I will not do a damn thing for one of those b*****d's funerals ever again. No flowers, no readings, hell I might even find a way to continuously down play and negate any condolences people try to give me, because I won't feel sad for any reason....other than 'why couldn't this have happened sooner and why couldn't they have gone before the only decent one?' I actually kind of want every single person who comes to those future funerals to know that I do not like those relatives, but not in any kind of outright show/display, but in a subtle manner. I want someone to ask me something akin to 'are you going to miss your xyz?' just so I can go no....and then after a fairly long pause, longer than what it 'should' be, I say 'because I'll always have memories of them'. Or even have someone outright ask if I loved/liked my xyz so I can give any answer other than an affirmative.
Part of it is I haven't been allowed to disown the ungrateful b***h. I call her, most of the time grandma MY LAST NAME, because I only have one real grandmother, and it's not this b***h, but I would never be able to (while I'm still in my parent's house) get away with calling her by her first name as a sign of disrespect. I also can't do that at the moment because my sister desperately wants the 'white picket fence' family thing and she believes that even if they do things they shouldn't, they're still family. Which that b***h isn't, but so as to not cause issues for my mother with my sister....I'm not gonna do anything at the moment. I can't even vent about those assholes in front of my sister because it upsets her, though she no longer shows that it has upset her. I just know about it from my early on ultra vehement outward displays of hatred towards most of my paternal relatives. I basically never tell those relatives anything ever, and have no plans to. When I learned that my father had told them about my dog Shakespeare, I got super pissed, because he's important to me and I don't want those assholes knowing about anything important to me, because they don't deserve to know.
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Posted: Tue Jun 30, 2015 1:32 am
Amu Tsukiyomi-sama the only remotely organized surface in my entire room is a shelf of books.
And even that has a few random things, including other books, stacked on top of the other books.
Everything else, including a desk chair and an orbit chair, are covered in stuff.
Mhm.
Definitely.
See, but that's not the way they work. While it's never obvious to other people....if you really know them and not the fronts they try to project.....you realize what they're really doing. I'm fairly certain my uncle got buried with the flowers they got for the b***h grandmother that said on them 'my UNCLE'S NAME', which firstly, his WIFE'S flowers should be closest to him, and why in the ******** would flowers gotten on the behalf of a senile lady who likely doesn't even know he's dead say anything other than son. (look, example of s**t pulling right there. apparently he was still his mother's even though he had moved out of the house and MARRIED SOMEONE AND HAD KIDS WITH THEM, bastards) And those ******** flowers were in the ******** casket with him the entire ******** time. Visitation, pre-church s**t visitation stuff, in the closed casket during the church services...the ride to the cemetery....the grave-side services....(at least I never saw anyone open the casket and take them out, because once you close a casket, it tends to stay closed; 200+ funerals worth of knowledge there) Where were the flowers from his wife and kids? on the outside. All they said was 'husband' and 'father'. I spent the entire ******** catholic service mentally chanting my aunt, dead uncle, and three cousins names to keep from flipping s**t and doing something. So you can see why I will not do a damn thing for one of those b*****d's funerals ever again. No flowers, no readings, hell I might even find a way to continuously down play and negate any condolences people try to give me, because I won't feel sad for any reason....other than 'why couldn't this have happened sooner and why couldn't they have gone before the only decent one?' I actually kind of want every single person who comes to those future funerals to know that I do not like those relatives, but not in any kind of outright show/display, but in a subtle manner. I want someone to ask me something akin to 'are you going to miss your xyz?' just so I can go no....and then after a fairly long pause, longer than what it 'should' be, I say 'because I'll always have memories of them'. Or even have someone outright ask if I loved/liked my xyz so I can give any answer other than an affirmative.
Part of it is I haven't been allowed to disown the ungrateful b***h. I call her, most of the time grandma MY LAST NAME, because I only have one real grandmother, and it's not this b***h, but I would never be able to (while I'm still in my parent's house) get away with calling her by her first name as a sign of disrespect. I also can't do that at the moment because my sister desperately wants the 'white picket fence' family thing and she believes that even if they do things they shouldn't, they're still family. Which that b***h isn't, but so as to not cause issues for my mother with my sister....I'm not gonna do anything at the moment. I can't even vent about those assholes in front of my sister because it upsets her, though she no longer shows that it has upset her. I just know about it from my early on ultra vehement outward displays of hatred towards most of my paternal relatives. I basically never tell those relatives anything ever, and have no plans to. When I learned that my father had told them about my dog Shakespeare, I got super pissed, because he's important to me and I don't want those assholes knowing about anything important to me, because they don't deserve to know.
my room would be relatively organized, were it not being shared with mother who has way too many articles of clothing. like. five big plastic tubs of clothes. that is too much to keep in any sort of organized fashion without at least two dressers, which there's only one of... that isn't even being used the part about the flowers gotten on behalf of the mother of the deceased confuses me. the flowers that should say something along the lines of 'son' or whatever said 'uncle [name]' or something? or did the flowers gotten on behalf of the mother of the deceased say 'son' and the ones closest said 'uncle [name]'? just a bit of confusion on that front. and gotta love tricky situations where you can't do what you really want to no matter how much you may want to because you don't want to upset those you actually care about or cause them trouble. and the knowledge of the dog is definitely something that those who don't care about you and aren't glad to know you should not know about. and i doubt i could've worded that in any more of a confusing manner than i did completely unintentionally
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