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 Posted: Sat Jun 20, 2015 12:22 am
Nikakaeo Amu Tsukiyomi-sama I know.
My point is that for him, even trying to take preventative measures doesn't usually work.
I don't think they would have all been that bad....but I definitely agree.
Mhm.
Like I said, she got upset over illogical things.
I think she was also a feminist, but I don't really remember that part too well.
I do have an actual copy of it. I'm planning on trying to watch later today, actually. I'm going to show someone it, because I love the film and they've never seen it...and since they've shown me things they like....it's about time I return the favor.
eh, understandable well, one can hope, at least. that'd be some seriously crappy luck if they were if she was, then it sounds like she's a pretty crappy one yaaaay watching things you like with friendlies! hopefully they enjoy it, too; the worst thing is when you show someone something you really like and you hope they will too and then they dislike itYeah...
And most likely....I mean, she was seriously annoying...
Never got to watch it.....because I never got to see people thursday...because stuff just went all sorts of wrong on my end. And yeah....but I can understand why someone might not like something I do. I don't feel the need to have the like it....as long as they willingly watched it with me and then was all "ehhhh, not my thing", but politely.
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Posted: Sat Jun 20, 2015 12:54 am
Amu Tsukiyomi-sama Yeah...
And most likely....I mean, she was seriously annoying...
Never got to watch it.....because I never got to see people thursday...because stuff just went all sorts of wrong on my end. And yeah....but I can understand why someone might not like something I do. I don't feel the need to have the like it....as long as they willingly watched it with me and then was all "ehhhh, not my thing", but politely.
this topic seems to be pretty much exhausted. any new ones you can think of? wow, how rude of stuff on your end. didn't it know it was supposed to go right otherwise many things would fall apart? rude. you should admonish the things that went wrong so they go right next time. and i'm pretty much the same, though it is a bit disappointing when people don't like the things that get excitedly shared. thankfully it's a disappointment that passes fairly quickly, at least
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Posted: Sat Jun 20, 2015 12:54 am
thank you for replying when you did, amu, i got a pink link in the "THANK YOU FOR REPLYING" page just now while replying to your reply
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Posted: Sat Jun 20, 2015 9:21 pm
KeatonIshTak05 Amu Tsukiyomi-sama KeatonIshTak05 Amu Tsukiyomi-sama Good.
^_^
IT was silly, but the studio or whoever thought that move would earn them more money because the audiences would go to see the other endings.
Obviously that didn't work like they'd planned. Not at all. But, Rocky Horror Picture Show had a similar thing. It bombed in theatres until they rereleased it, leaving a place for heckling lines. Half the fun of the Rocky Horror stage show was the audience participation, so when there was no spaces left in the movie where those lines would go, people hated it. But of course.
If you take the good parts out....people won't like things like that.
Mhm. Just not as fun without them. But movie people never really learn....
"Hey, this would make a great film!"
"But it works better in its original medium..."
"WHO CARES?! It'll make a ton of money from that fanbase! It just has to!"
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Posted: Sat Jun 20, 2015 10:16 pm
Nikakaeo Amu Tsukiyomi-sama Yeah...
And most likely....I mean, she was seriously annoying...
Never got to watch it.....because I never got to see people thursday...because stuff just went all sorts of wrong on my end. And yeah....but I can understand why someone might not like something I do. I don't feel the need to have the like it....as long as they willingly watched it with me and then was all "ehhhh, not my thing", but politely.
this topic seems to be pretty much exhausted. any new ones you can think of? wow, how rude of stuff on your end. didn't it know it was supposed to go right otherwise many things would fall apart? rude. you should admonish the things that went wrong so they go right next time. and i'm pretty much the same, though it is a bit disappointing when people don't like the things that get excitedly shared. thankfully it's a disappointment that passes fairly quickly, at leastUm.....hm.
Let's see....only thing I can think of is me wanting to have a near literal sign I wear that says:
"I'm not interested, go away"
To deal with guys hitting on me and being general creepers...
Because I can try to fend the more up front ones off only so well before I have to pull the smoothly inserted "I has le BF" card when they don't listen to all the other things I respond to with a negative statement:
"You doing anything after work?" "Going home" and later "I have a ride who knows exactly when to show up" followed by "My family needs me at home because a relative is dying, which is why I need to go home."
But the sign would probably backfire....
So I need another method...
And a method to make the guys who just stare and are generally creepy like that not stare...
And you're welcome.
It was really bad....but I've somehow since hung out with two other friends...one you don't know and Suisho. And those helped me recharge a bit...though not like I'd have liked....so I think I'm just a bit too much of a homebody and it's starting to drive me a bit nutty when my chances to not be stuck at home get nerfed. Seeing friends is good....but I'd still rather see le bf. And yeah. But I just never worry about it to begin with. Maybe mock get upset, but that's about it.
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Posted: Sat Jun 20, 2015 11:42 pm
Amu Tsukiyomi-sama Um.....hm.
Let's see....only thing I can think of is me wanting to have a near literal sign I wear that says:
"I'm not interested, go away"
To deal with guys hitting on me and being general creepers...
Because I can try to fend the more up front ones off only so well before I have to pull the smoothly inserted "I has le BF" card when they don't listen to all the other things I respond to with a negative statement:
"You doing anything after work?" "Going home" and later "I have a ride who knows exactly when to show up" followed by "My family needs me at home because a relative is dying, which is why I need to go home."
But the sign would probably backfire....
So I need another method...
And a method to make the guys who just stare and are generally creepy like that not stare...
And you're welcome.
It was really bad....but I've somehow since hung out with two other friends...one you don't know and Suisho. And those helped me recharge a bit...though not like I'd have liked....so I think I'm just a bit too much of a homebody and it's starting to drive me a bit nutty when my chances to not be stuck at home get nerfed. Seeing friends is good....but I'd still rather see le bf. And yeah. But I just never worry about it to begin with. Maybe mock get upset, but that's about it.
i have no idea why guys seem to think that cashiers are interested in them, or would want to go out with them in general. my 19 year old best friend irl works at walmart as a cashier, and some guy old enough to be her grandpa tried to ask her out not too long ago. there are way too many things wrong with that than i care to think about. if there was nothing against it, i would absolutely agree with the sign that says 'i am not interested. go away' to be at pretty much every cash register. or just "DO NOT FLIRT WITH THE CASHIERS." as a thing well, at least there was the goodness of being able to hang out with them in person instead of just online. i'm not sure hwo to read the homebody part; like you want to be at home instead of other places, or you want to be other places instead of at home? either way, hopefully you get to spend more time with the friendboy than you've been able to
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Posted: Sun Jun 21, 2015 9:29 pm
Nikakaeo Amu Tsukiyomi-sama Um.....hm.
Let's see....only thing I can think of is me wanting to have a near literal sign I wear that says:
"I'm not interested, go away"
To deal with guys hitting on me and being general creepers...
Because I can try to fend the more up front ones off only so well before I have to pull the smoothly inserted "I has le BF" card when they don't listen to all the other things I respond to with a negative statement:
"You doing anything after work?" "Going home" and later "I have a ride who knows exactly when to show up" followed by "My family needs me at home because a relative is dying, which is why I need to go home."
But the sign would probably backfire....
So I need another method...
And a method to make the guys who just stare and are generally creepy like that not stare...
And you're welcome.
It was really bad....but I've somehow since hung out with two other friends...one you don't know and Suisho. And those helped me recharge a bit...though not like I'd have liked....so I think I'm just a bit too much of a homebody and it's starting to drive me a bit nutty when my chances to not be stuck at home get nerfed. Seeing friends is good....but I'd still rather see le bf. And yeah. But I just never worry about it to begin with. Maybe mock get upset, but that's about it.
i have no idea why guys seem to think that cashiers are interested in them, or would want to go out with them in general. my 19 year old best friend irl works at walmart as a cashier, and some guy old enough to be her grandpa tried to ask her out not too long ago. there are way too many things wrong with that than i care to think about. if there was nothing against it, i would absolutely agree with the sign that says 'i am not interested. go away' to be at pretty much every cash register. or just "DO NOT FLIRT WITH THE CASHIERS." as a thing well, at least there was the goodness of being able to hang out with them in person instead of just online. i'm not sure hwo to read the homebody part; like you want to be at home instead of other places, or you want to be other places instead of at home? either way, hopefully you get to spend more time with the friendboy than you've been able toSee...that's not the issue here.
The issue here is that I get hit on in general far more than I'd like to be...
So far at Teavana the only people who have hit on me are workers from next door and one guy who works elsewhere in the mall.
That's it.
I just don't like being hit on at all....you know, unless I'm interested in the person, which having a boyfriend aside, damn near none of the people who have ever hit on me interested me.
I don't think my boyfriend ever hit on me, now that I think about it and you know I'm more than okay with that...
Because flirting is different than hitting on; hitting on is not as nice or polite as flirting is...at least in my mind.
Also, that's just wrong.
Reminds me of the 60 year old slavic guy who hit on me....which was super weird more for the words used, than the age thing...
Or the dyed hair thing.
But I definitely agree that it should be a societal norm to not hit on cashiers.
....homebody means you stay home...and I tend to stay home...partly because no car, but also partly because I don't particularly hate being places by myself, but I think I'm starting to develop a very strong aversion to being most places by myself purely because of the type of people I tend to attract....and the places I'd likely want to be, though not very likely to have too many of those types there...have a high enough chance for those types that I don't want to be there without someone with me. Heck, I actually started to like skirts...but I only wear them when I have family with me or I'm with my boyfriend....wore them to work a few times and decided to never do that again...the possible extra sales because I look good are not worth the other problems a skirt (on me) can invite. ( short version is the homebody thing is I don't want to be at home...because it's not a bad place....when my father isn't home and I've gotten to the point I'm tired of living with family and having to work with the dynamic of that whole thing... ) ...friendboy? Seriously? That one is too far out there for me. And that's not going to be likely right now...partially because an uncle is dying....and partially because no car, I'm stubborn and stuff, at home so play by parent's (mom's) rules kind of thing, and things like last thursday...
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Posted: Sun Jun 21, 2015 9:43 pm
Amu Tsukiyomi-sama KeatonIshTak05 Amu Tsukiyomi-sama KeatonIshTak05 Amu Tsukiyomi-sama Good.
^_^
IT was silly, but the studio or whoever thought that move would earn them more money because the audiences would go to see the other endings.
Obviously that didn't work like they'd planned. Not at all. But, Rocky Horror Picture Show had a similar thing. It bombed in theatres until they rereleased it, leaving a place for heckling lines. Half the fun of the Rocky Horror stage show was the audience participation, so when there was no spaces left in the movie where those lines would go, people hated it. But of course.
If you take the good parts out....people won't like things like that.
Mhm. Just not as fun without them. But movie people never really learn....
"Hey, this would make a great film!"
"But it works better in its original medium..."
"WHO CARES?! It'll make a ton of money from that fanbase! It just has to!"
If they learned, the movie industry would be a whole different monster.
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Posted: Sun Jun 21, 2015 10:31 pm
KeatonIshTak05 Amu Tsukiyomi-sama KeatonIshTak05 Amu Tsukiyomi-sama KeatonIshTak05 Amu Tsukiyomi-sama Good.
^_^
IT was silly, but the studio or whoever thought that move would earn them more money because the audiences would go to see the other endings.
Obviously that didn't work like they'd planned. Not at all. But, Rocky Horror Picture Show had a similar thing. It bombed in theatres until they rereleased it, leaving a place for heckling lines. Half the fun of the Rocky Horror stage show was the audience participation, so when there was no spaces left in the movie where those lines would go, people hated it. But of course.
If you take the good parts out....people won't like things like that.
Mhm. Just not as fun without them. But movie people never really learn....
"Hey, this would make a great film!"
"But it works better in its original medium..."
"WHO CARES?! It'll make a ton of money from that fanbase! It just has to!"
If they learned, the movie industry would be a whole different monster. Definitely.
I don't know if I'd be more or less afraid of that movie industry...
Probably less....because if they learned how to not screw up good things....then who knows what all positive changes might happen.
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Posted: Sun Jun 21, 2015 10:47 pm
Amu Tsukiyomi-sama See...that's not the issue here.
The issue here is that I get hit on in general far more than I'd like to be...
So far at Teavana the only people who have hit on me are workers from next door and one guy who works elsewhere in the mall.
That's it.
I just don't like being hit on at all....you know, unless I'm interested in the person, which having a boyfriend aside, damn near none of the people who have ever hit on me interested me.
I don't think my boyfriend ever hit on me, now that I think about it and you know I'm more than okay with that...
Because flirting is different than hitting on; hitting on is not as nice or polite as flirting is...at least in my mind.
Also, that's just wrong.
Reminds me of the 60 year old slavic guy who hit on me....which was super weird more for the words used, than the age thing...
Or the dyed hair thing.
But I definitely agree that it should be a societal norm to not hit on cashiers.
....homebody means you stay home...and I tend to stay home...partly because no car, but also partly because I don't particularly hate being places by myself, but I think I'm starting to develop a very strong aversion to being most places by myself purely because of the type of people I tend to attract....and the places I'd likely want to be, though not very likely to have too many of those types there...have a high enough chance for those types that I don't want to be there without someone with me. Heck, I actually started to like skirts...but I only wear them when I have family with me or I'm with my boyfriend....wore them to work a few times and decided to never do that again...the possible extra sales because I look good are not worth the other problems a skirt (on me) can invite. ( short version is the homebody thing is I don't want to be at home...because it's not a bad place....when my father isn't home and I've gotten to the point I'm tired of living with family and having to work with the dynamic of that whole thing... ) ...friendboy? Seriously? That one is too far out there for me. And that's not going to be likely right now...partially because an uncle is dying....and partially because no car, I'm stubborn and stuff, at home so play by parent's (mom's) rules kind of thing, and things like last thursday...
well, that's better than having customers do it, then. though at the same time it's not, because you'll run into them again and they'll probably do it again. which is very rude if you tell them about disinterest and current relationship status being not single. flirting IS nicer than being hit on. you can pass flirting off as casual conversation, while hitting on someone is making it blatantly obvious you want some sort of relationship with them and you can't really pass it off as being something it's not. little things with big differences it is indeed, as is the 60 year old guy. i'm curious as to the words used, but have no need to know them if they don't wish to be shared. and i'm certain that pretty much every cashier ever would also agree with that the long version makes it sound like 'likes to be at home' and the short version says 'do not like to be at home' so now i'm even more confused than i was before. i can understand perfectly what you mean by the 'when father is not home' thing though; hopefully today wasn't too bad for you with him due to being "THE DAY OF THE FATHER BUY HIM THINGS AND TELL HIM YOU LOVE HIM I DON'T CARE IF YOU HAVE A BAD RELATIONSHIP WITH YOUR DAD IT IS HIS DAY AND IS MORE IMPORTANT THAN MOTHER'S DAY" today. and what happened thursday? you can't just start something like that and trail off in text. though if you really don't want to share what happened then you don't have to do so
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Posted: Mon Jun 22, 2015 1:16 am
Nikakaeo Amu Tsukiyomi-sama See...that's not the issue here.
The issue here is that I get hit on in general far more than I'd like to be...
So far at Teavana the only people who have hit on me are workers from next door and one guy who works elsewhere in the mall.
That's it.
I just don't like being hit on at all....you know, unless I'm interested in the person, which having a boyfriend aside, damn near none of the people who have ever hit on me interested me.
I don't think my boyfriend ever hit on me, now that I think about it and you know I'm more than okay with that...
Because flirting is different than hitting on; hitting on is not as nice or polite as flirting is...at least in my mind.
Also, that's just wrong.
Reminds me of the 60 year old slavic guy who hit on me....which was super weird more for the words used, than the age thing...
Or the dyed hair thing.
But I definitely agree that it should be a societal norm to not hit on cashiers.
....homebody means you stay home...and I tend to stay home...partly because no car, but also partly because I don't particularly hate being places by myself, but I think I'm starting to develop a very strong aversion to being most places by myself purely because of the type of people I tend to attract....and the places I'd likely want to be, though not very likely to have too many of those types there...have a high enough chance for those types that I don't want to be there without someone with me. Heck, I actually started to like skirts...but I only wear them when I have family with me or I'm with my boyfriend....wore them to work a few times and decided to never do that again...the possible extra sales because I look good are not worth the other problems a skirt (on me) can invite. ( short version is the homebody thing is I don't want to be at home...because it's not a bad place....when my father isn't home and I've gotten to the point I'm tired of living with family and having to work with the dynamic of that whole thing... ) ...friendboy? Seriously? That one is too far out there for me. And that's not going to be likely right now...partially because an uncle is dying....and partially because no car, I'm stubborn and stuff, at home so play by parent's (mom's) rules kind of thing, and things like last thursday...
well, that's better than having customers do it, then. though at the same time it's not, because you'll run into them again and they'll probably do it again. which is very rude if you tell them about disinterest and current relationship status being not single. flirting IS nicer than being hit on. you can pass flirting off as casual conversation, while hitting on someone is making it blatantly obvious you want some sort of relationship with them and you can't really pass it off as being something it's not. little things with big differences it is indeed, as is the 60 year old guy. i'm curious as to the words used, but have no need to know them if they don't wish to be shared. and i'm certain that pretty much every cashier ever would also agree with that the long version makes it sound like 'likes to be at home' and the short version says 'do not like to be at home' so now i'm even more confused than i was before. i can understand perfectly what you mean by the 'when father is not home' thing though; hopefully today wasn't too bad for you with him due to being "THE DAY OF THE FATHER BUY HIM THINGS AND TELL HIM YOU LOVE HIM I DON'T CARE IF YOU HAVE A BAD RELATIONSHIP WITH YOUR DAD IT IS HIS DAY AND IS MORE IMPORTANT THAN MOTHER'S DAY" today. and what happened thursday? you can't just start something like that and trail off in text. though if you really don't want to share what happened then you don't have to do soSince my Teavana location is closing wednesday and we're all being transferred to other locations AND I'm gonna be a barista...
Muahahaha, never seeing those guys again/I'm behind a counter pretty much the whole time at work now and mostly hidden to boot.
I was more irked that the guy couldn't take a hint from my constantly saying no to literally everything he suggested.
EVERYTHING.
"what are you doing after work?" "Going home/fam needs me because relative dying/I have a ride that's picking me up/I don't like clubs/70 food allergies" And the one that got the not creepy-staring one to leave me alone "It upsets my boyfriend since everything he cooks, I can't eat"
Jackass.
I said no politely, did he want me to outright go "Sorry, you look nice enough, but no matter how many times you ask I'll never be interested." or worse?
I like flirting better because hitting on feels like I'm being attacked, has nothing to do with whether it can be passed of as normal conversation or not.
Because most of the time, if I'm being hit on, the other person doesn't stop if I respond in a negative manner....flirting usually does since the person isn't a jackwipe.
If I realize that's happening, that is.
Oh, the 60yr old said: "A saint has died in heaven today" I looked confused, because theoretically, saints, specifically in heaven, CAN'T die.
"An angel is wearing black" I was wearing the black uniform shirt from the grocery store I worked at back then.
"Your name is the same as my wife's, would you like to switch?" Firstly, WTF. secondly, I replied "I don't think that will work" and got "Well, it would work well for me." in return with a small laugh.
"What worm is keeping you from my arms?" Seriously, cassanova you will never be and again, WTF. "The one who puts up with me" "He must be a saint" "He is."
And thankfully the dude had to leave.
And that was in the express lane WITH OTHERS BEHIND HIM.
Of course, because of people like ^
Because of people like the guys who work next to me (until wednesday and then SO LONG SUKAHS), people I've run into at banquets, a bar I was at for a meeting I didn't want to attend but had to anyway, on the street, and many other places, I don't like being out places by myself unless I'm super positive no one would hit on me or be weird at me. Like a library. Though even then that doesn't always work. I don't like being at home, but because dealing with people hitting on me and the types who generally decide to hit on me....I do not want to subject myself to that s**t more than I have to. If people understood that if someone is turning you down multiple times and subtly moving away or getting defensive....is not interested in dealing with them and to GO THE ******** AWAY.....I'd be more okay with being places by myself. There are actually times I'm damn glad my mother has to drive me places, because it really kills a guy's 'mood' to hit on me when a mother shows up. And that's helped me a few ******** pizza beard. (guy who has a pizza-slice shaped beard, is trying to look cooler than he is, and I've learned that he DID TIME IN JAIL and he comes off as not trustworthy in general. Mostly my infamous 'radar system' telling me he's untrustworthy...and then I learned about his jail time) My father never wants things for father's day (because apparently every day is father's day....which is ******** isn't when your father doesn't understand some very basic concepts tied to being a father....like PROTECTING YOUR CHILD IF THEY SAY SOMEONE IS MAKING THEM FEEL UNSAFE) and I was at work for a good chunk of it and what bits I wasn't at work he was mostly asleep for. Thursday my sister took the car to work, I didn't have enough money to take a cab to le bf's or even semi-near le bf's, I live near no feasible bus routes, we only have two cars and both were gone, tried to do stuff later after my sister got home from work but that ended up not working out either....and I flipped out because every time I have a shot at a full day with le bf, it gets fully or partially nerfed...and I'd been super excited and happy that for once there was no way that would happen this time....except it did. Plus being stir crazy from being either at home, work, or someplace with family because I have no other option...and being drained from dealing with people and being hit on and just....I recharge by seeing le bf....because for some reason he accepts me and my crazy and doesn't demand I be anything but myself...and doesn't get upset with me when I freak out or massively fail or a lot of things. And it's really nice being around someone who doesn't get mad at you and is far more patient with you than you will likely ever be able to comprehend why they are that way. So yeah. It's nice not having to be 'on'...and not getting the chance to have time where you don't feel like you have to be 'on' and functioning better than you can at whichever given time....causes me major problems at times...like becoming depressed and lethargic, crying fits because I know what I have to deal with between 'now' and the next day there's a chance to see le bf/recharge...friends help....but not as much as he does...and it's really hard to explain without it sounding like he's some kind of object or something equally bad sounding to me....
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Posted: Mon Jun 22, 2015 3:53 am
Amu Tsukiyomi-sama Since my Teavana location is closing wednesday and we're all being transferred to other locations AND I'm gonna be a barista...
Muahahaha, never seeing those guys again/I'm behind a counter pretty much the whole time at work now and mostly hidden to boot.
I was more irked that the guy couldn't take a hint from my constantly saying no to literally everything he suggested.
EVERYTHING.
"what are you doing after work?" "Going home/fam needs me because relative dying/I have a ride that's picking me up/I don't like clubs/70 food allergies" And the one that got the not creepy-staring one to leave me alone "It upsets my boyfriend since everything he cooks, I can't eat"
Jackass.
I said no politely, did he want me to outright go "Sorry, you look nice enough, but no matter how many times you ask I'll never be interested." or worse?
I like flirting better because hitting on feels like I'm being attacked, has nothing to do with whether it can be passed of as normal conversation or not.
Because most of the time, if I'm being hit on, the other person doesn't stop if I respond in a negative manner....flirting usually does since the person isn't a jackwipe.
If I realize that's happening, that is.
Oh, the 60yr old said: "A saint has died in heaven today" I looked confused, because theoretically, saints, specifically in heaven, CAN'T die.
"An angel is wearing black" I was wearing the black uniform shirt from the grocery store I worked at back then.
"Your name is the same as my wife's, would you like to switch?" Firstly, WTF. secondly, I replied "I don't think that will work" and got "Well, it would work well for me." in return with a small laugh.
"What worm is keeping you from my arms?" Seriously, cassanova you will never be and again, WTF. "The one who puts up with me" "He must be a saint" "He is."
And thankfully the dude had to leave.
And that was in the express lane WITH OTHERS BEHIND HIM.
Of course, because of people like ^
Because of people like the guys who work next to me (until wednesday and then SO LONG SUKAHS), people I've run into at banquets, a bar I was at for a meeting I didn't want to attend but had to anyway, on the street, and many other places, I don't like being out places by myself unless I'm super positive no one would hit on me or be weird at me. Like a library. Though even then that doesn't always work. I don't like being at home, but because dealing with people hitting on me and the types who generally decide to hit on me....I do not want to subject myself to that s**t more than I have to. If people understood that if someone is turning you down multiple times and subtly moving away or getting defensive....is not interested in dealing with them and to GO THE ******** AWAY.....I'd be more okay with being places by myself. There are actually times I'm damn glad my mother has to drive me places, because it really kills a guy's 'mood' to hit on me when a mother shows up. And that's helped me a few ******** pizza beard. (guy who has a pizza-slice shaped beard, is trying to look cooler than he is, and I've learned that he DID TIME IN JAIL and he comes off as not trustworthy in general. Mostly my infamous 'radar system' telling me he's untrustworthy...and then I learned about his jail time) My father never wants things for father's day (because apparently every day is father's day....which is ******** isn't when your father doesn't understand some very basic concepts tied to being a father....like PROTECTING YOUR CHILD IF THEY SAY SOMEONE IS MAKING THEM FEEL UNSAFE) and I was at work for a good chunk of it and what bits I wasn't at work he was mostly asleep for. Thursday my sister took the car to work, I didn't have enough money to take a cab to le bf's or even semi-near le bf's, I live near no feasible bus routes, we only have two cars and both were gone, tried to do stuff later after my sister got home from work but that ended up not working out either....and I flipped out because every time I have a shot at a full day with le bf, it gets fully or partially nerfed...and I'd been super excited and happy that for once there was no way that would happen this time....except it did. Plus being stir crazy from being either at home, work, or someplace with family because I have no other option...and being drained from dealing with people and being hit on and just....I recharge by seeing le bf....because for some reason he accepts me and my crazy and doesn't demand I be anything but myself...and doesn't get upset with me when I freak out or massively fail or a lot of things. And it's really nice being around someone who doesn't get mad at you and is far more patient with you than you will likely ever be able to comprehend why they are that way. So yeah. It's nice not having to be 'on'...and not getting the chance to have time where you don't feel like you have to be 'on' and functioning better than you can at whichever given time....causes me major problems at times...like becoming depressed and lethargic, crying fits because I know what I have to deal with between 'now' and the next day there's a chance to see le bf/recharge...friends help....but not as much as he does...and it's really hard to explain without it sounding like he's some kind of object or something equally bad sounding to me....
yaaay, no more ability for them to bother you on their break/after their shift/before their shift/whenever without going far out of their way! AND being able to avoid people like that in the future! let's just hope you don't end up getting any new people you have to work with who do that kind of thing woooooow. that must've been a seriously annoying person to deal with. nobody should have to try THAT HARD to make strangers stop trying to talk to them (at the very least. because that's clearly not what those people are after) you have a very good point, there. i'd forgotten about that VERY important distinction. 'hitting on' people should be a social tradition that vanishes, and gets replaced with flirting as a whole. or at the very least replaced with silly pickup lines that can be laughed at and retold as a funny work story instead of an unpleasant memory well then. those are definitely some... unique lines. especially for an express lane customer holding up the line. because nobody should have to deal with people like that, ESPECIALLY not people who are just trying to do their job of scanning items, taking money, giving change and sometimes bagging items yeesh. why do guys have to be so annoying and rude? this is why i get along better with girls than i do with guys. you don't have to worry about them being super gross to girls... at least, not in the same way. i can understand your reasoning of wanting to be alone and home being the easiest/safest place for that, yet not wanting to be there all the time, then. pizza beard sounds really irritating and creepy and just. no thank you. take your slice and toss it in the trash where it belongs. while still attached to you. and that sounds like it majorly sucked. i know what you mean about the whole recharge thing, and getting depressive and whatnot when you 'run low'. that's how i am with friends in general, though i don't have any one that helps 'recharge' more than others. hopefully next time you get the chance to have a whole day with him, something doesn't come along to ******** it all up again
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Posted: Mon Jun 22, 2015 11:50 am
Nikakaeo Amu Tsukiyomi-sama Since my Teavana location is closing wednesday and we're all being transferred to other locations AND I'm gonna be a barista...
Muahahaha, never seeing those guys again/I'm behind a counter pretty much the whole time at work now and mostly hidden to boot.
I was more irked that the guy couldn't take a hint from my constantly saying no to literally everything he suggested.
EVERYTHING.
"what are you doing after work?" "Going home/fam needs me because relative dying/I have a ride that's picking me up/I don't like clubs/70 food allergies" And the one that got the not creepy-staring one to leave me alone "It upsets my boyfriend since everything he cooks, I can't eat"
Jackass.
I said no politely, did he want me to outright go "Sorry, you look nice enough, but no matter how many times you ask I'll never be interested." or worse?
I like flirting better because hitting on feels like I'm being attacked, has nothing to do with whether it can be passed of as normal conversation or not.
Because most of the time, if I'm being hit on, the other person doesn't stop if I respond in a negative manner....flirting usually does since the person isn't a jackwipe.
If I realize that's happening, that is.
Oh, the 60yr old said: "A saint has died in heaven today" I looked confused, because theoretically, saints, specifically in heaven, CAN'T die.
"An angel is wearing black" I was wearing the black uniform shirt from the grocery store I worked at back then.
"Your name is the same as my wife's, would you like to switch?" Firstly, WTF. secondly, I replied "I don't think that will work" and got "Well, it would work well for me." in return with a small laugh.
"What worm is keeping you from my arms?" Seriously, cassanova you will never be and again, WTF. "The one who puts up with me" "He must be a saint" "He is."
And thankfully the dude had to leave.
And that was in the express lane WITH OTHERS BEHIND HIM.
Of course, because of people like ^
Because of people like the guys who work next to me (until wednesday and then SO LONG SUKAHS), people I've run into at banquets, a bar I was at for a meeting I didn't want to attend but had to anyway, on the street, and many other places, I don't like being out places by myself unless I'm super positive no one would hit on me or be weird at me. Like a library. Though even then that doesn't always work. I don't like being at home, but because dealing with people hitting on me and the types who generally decide to hit on me....I do not want to subject myself to that s**t more than I have to. If people understood that if someone is turning you down multiple times and subtly moving away or getting defensive....is not interested in dealing with them and to GO THE ******** AWAY.....I'd be more okay with being places by myself. There are actually times I'm damn glad my mother has to drive me places, because it really kills a guy's 'mood' to hit on me when a mother shows up. And that's helped me a few ******** pizza beard. (guy who has a pizza-slice shaped beard, is trying to look cooler than he is, and I've learned that he DID TIME IN JAIL and he comes off as not trustworthy in general. Mostly my infamous 'radar system' telling me he's untrustworthy...and then I learned about his jail time) My father never wants things for father's day (because apparently every day is father's day....which is ******** isn't when your father doesn't understand some very basic concepts tied to being a father....like PROTECTING YOUR CHILD IF THEY SAY SOMEONE IS MAKING THEM FEEL UNSAFE) and I was at work for a good chunk of it and what bits I wasn't at work he was mostly asleep for. Thursday my sister took the car to work, I didn't have enough money to take a cab to le bf's or even semi-near le bf's, I live near no feasible bus routes, we only have two cars and both were gone, tried to do stuff later after my sister got home from work but that ended up not working out either....and I flipped out because every time I have a shot at a full day with le bf, it gets fully or partially nerfed...and I'd been super excited and happy that for once there was no way that would happen this time....except it did. Plus being stir crazy from being either at home, work, or someplace with family because I have no other option...and being drained from dealing with people and being hit on and just....I recharge by seeing le bf....because for some reason he accepts me and my crazy and doesn't demand I be anything but myself...and doesn't get upset with me when I freak out or massively fail or a lot of things. And it's really nice being around someone who doesn't get mad at you and is far more patient with you than you will likely ever be able to comprehend why they are that way. So yeah. It's nice not having to be 'on'...and not getting the chance to have time where you don't feel like you have to be 'on' and functioning better than you can at whichever given time....causes me major problems at times...like becoming depressed and lethargic, crying fits because I know what I have to deal with between 'now' and the next day there's a chance to see le bf/recharge...friends help....but not as much as he does...and it's really hard to explain without it sounding like he's some kind of object or something equally bad sounding to me....
yaaay, no more ability for them to bother you on their break/after their shift/before their shift/whenever without going far out of their way! AND being able to avoid people like that in the future! let's just hope you don't end up getting any new people you have to work with who do that kind of thing woooooow. that must've been a seriously annoying person to deal with. nobody should have to try THAT HARD to make strangers stop trying to talk to them (at the very least. because that's clearly not what those people are after) you have a very good point, there. i'd forgotten about that VERY important distinction. 'hitting on' people should be a social tradition that vanishes, and gets replaced with flirting as a whole. or at the very least replaced with silly pickup lines that can be laughed at and retold as a funny work story instead of an unpleasant memory well then. those are definitely some... unique lines. especially for an express lane customer holding up the line. because nobody should have to deal with people like that, ESPECIALLY not people who are just trying to do their job of scanning items, taking money, giving change and sometimes bagging items yeesh. why do guys have to be so annoying and rude? this is why i get along better with girls than i do with guys. you don't have to worry about them being super gross to girls... at least, not in the same way. i can understand your reasoning of wanting to be alone and home being the easiest/safest place for that, yet not wanting to be there all the time, then. pizza beard sounds really irritating and creepy and just. no thank you. take your slice and toss it in the trash where it belongs. while still attached to you. and that sounds like it majorly sucked. i know what you mean about the whole recharge thing, and getting depressive and whatnot when you 'run low'. that's how i am with friends in general, though i don't have any one that helps 'recharge' more than others. hopefully next time you get the chance to have a whole day with him, something doesn't come along to ******** it all up againWell, most of the people at teavana, aside from the one jerk co-worker, are all really nice and don't hit on each other.
I learned there's actually a "you can't hang out together outside of work rule-thing, so kinda kills that whole thing.
It was, especially since he told me that he was going to check on his tables AND COME BACK.
Which he did.
So after le bf comment, I went and hid in the back room for the remainder of my break.
I read something recently that perfectly describes what I deal with and it's a "you're a female in a space subconsciously deemed to be 'owned' by men....meaning pretty much any place other than where a 50's house wife would usually be: the kitchen, the house (but only technically in that case), the nursery, and the sewing type room.
And so a lot of guys, because of how men are supposedly more 'powerful' than females...they feel they have the right to hit on a lady.
And the only way to get them to back off is to essentially say "I'm someone else's thing"
And even then some real classy gents tell you they'd be better than what you have.
Which I've only even had people tell me that online and boy did I go off on them....though I'm fairly sure one was 100% joking...you just do not joke about that kind of thing with me and you DO NOT say s**t about how I'll "eventually realize how worthless he is".
Because that is the kind of self-important, narrow-minded, asinine bullshit many guys tell themselves and are totally wrong about.
Because if you're saying s**t like that, unless you've literally watched a dude treat the female in question like trash, you think you're better than you are and you're just looking to 'win' some petty ego battle you have in your head.
Yeah....it makes for a really hilarious story when I tell it, because I give the lines a slavic accent...
But just no.
That won't win you a lady's interest, especially the bit about switching with his wife...
Because of the reasons I listed above. Perceived entitlement/ownership. Which is funny, because ALL babies start out as female initially....that's the reason why men have nipples. Maybe that's should be the rallying banner for equality "We all started out female"....plus, that'd seriously screw with those anti-gay marriage people...since we all started out as females...technically EVERY marriage is same-sex. Not that they'd really get my point. Anyway, I digress. So yeah....home is not a fun place for me....it's not a bad home...but years of 'dad really isn't a dad except in dna contribution'...takes a toll when the father in question will never understand what he did. And when you try to explain how badly he basically abused you (emotional/mental)......he turns it back on you and eventually makes you basically rescind what you said...as well as accusing you of 'saving up stamps'...rather than sincerely acknowledging that he ******** up. My boyfriend is like my father because he probably has asperger's (or so he's said) and he's so smart he makes me feel stupid (in comparison; which is a very rare occurrence let me tell you and something I really like actually). Past that, he is willing to protect me and is actually there for me...something I've only ever really gotten from my mother and sister... Thank you for the hoping a full-day actually happens. I hope you find a recharge person. Because everyone deserves to have that.
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Posted: Mon Jun 22, 2015 2:10 pm
Amu Tsukiyomi-sama Well, most of the people at teavana, aside from the one jerk co-worker, are all really nice and don't hit on each other.
I learned there's actually a "you can't hang out together outside of work rule-thing, so kinda kills that whole thing.
It was, especially since he told me that he was going to check on his tables AND COME BACK.
Which he did.
So after le bf comment, I went and hid in the back room for the remainder of my break.
I read something recently that perfectly describes what I deal with and it's a "you're a female in a space subconsciously deemed to be 'owned' by men....meaning pretty much any place other than where a 50's house wife would usually be: the kitchen, the house (but only technically in that case), the nursery, and the sewing type room.
And so a lot of guys, because of how men are supposedly more 'powerful' than females...they feel they have the right to hit on a lady.
And the only way to get them to back off is to essentially say "I'm someone else's thing"
And even then some real classy gents tell you they'd be better than what you have.
Which I've only even had people tell me that online and boy did I go off on them....though I'm fairly sure one was 100% joking...you just do not joke about that kind of thing with me and you DO NOT say s**t about how I'll "eventually realize how worthless he is".
Because that is the kind of self-important, narrow-minded, asinine bullshit many guys tell themselves and are totally wrong about.
Because if you're saying s**t like that, unless you've literally watched a dude treat the female in question like trash, you think you're better than you are and you're just looking to 'win' some petty ego battle you have in your head.
Yeah....it makes for a really hilarious story when I tell it, because I give the lines a slavic accent...
But just no.
That won't win you a lady's interest, especially the bit about switching with his wife...
Because of the reasons I listed above. Perceived entitlement/ownership. Which is funny, because ALL babies start out as female initially....that's the reason why men have nipples. Maybe that's should be the rallying banner for equality "We all started out female"....plus, that'd seriously screw with those anti-gay marriage people...since we all started out as females...technically EVERY marriage is same-sex. Not that they'd really get my point. Anyway, I digress. So yeah....home is not a fun place for me....it's not a bad home...but years of 'dad really isn't a dad except in dna contribution'...takes a toll when the father in question will never understand what he did. And when you try to explain how badly he basically abused you (emotional/mental)......he turns it back on you and eventually makes you basically rescind what you said...as well as accusing you of 'saving up stamps'...rather than sincerely acknowledging that he ******** up. My boyfriend is like my father because he probably has asperger's (or so he's said) and he's so smart he makes me feel stupid (in comparison; which is a very rare occurrence let me tell you and something I really like actually). Past that, he is willing to protect me and is actually there for me...something I've only ever really gotten from my mother and sister... Thank you for the hoping a full-day actually happens. I hope you find a recharge person. Because everyone deserves to have that.
that's an odd, yet useful rule. wonder where that one came about? wow. some people REALLY don't know when to quit. forcing someone to hide in their own workplace to get away from you is really shitty, and i hope even he saw that and that is exactly why i dislike men. that and if you do anything that they see as damaging to their fragile masculinity they react like a literal child. not to mention that mindset has been around for thousands and thousands of years, so the idea of men owning women is far beyond archaic and outdated. and thankfully you haven't had to deal with people telling you that in person, because it's easier to do that online where they can't end up causing a big scene that people would probably side with them on because stupid friggin reasons he probably thought that it was a line that'd make you feel honored, but no, that isn't an honoring thing to say. it's creepy huh. i'd thought that while in the development phase, they're both male and female before deciding on a sex. though that'd still make your argument against the anti-same-sex-marriage people valid. i can understand why home isn't a fun place due to having a father who is one only in name due to having lived with it myself, but not for as long as you've had to. that i'm thankful for, and can only hope you don't have to deal with it for much longer. and i can bet that finding someone you deem smarter than yourself is an unusual thing, from what i recall from when the creeper threads were still a thing. but it's definitely good you have another person who'll stick by you no matter what. and thanks, though it's unlikely to be so. it seems to be a thing that happens with strong emotional bonds and bonds of trust, and since it's the same for me with all my friends, i won't have a singular person like that. though it'll probably be lesser quality due to being spread out over multiple people
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Posted: Mon Jun 22, 2015 8:06 pm
Amu Tsukiyomi-sama Definitely.
I don't know if I'd be more or less afraid of that movie industry...
Probably less....because if they learned how to not screw up good things....then who knows what all positive changes might happen.
Perhaps. We'd just find other stuff to complain about, though.
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