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Ok...yeah. Personality isn't the first thing you see on a person. No. You do see a person's looks. If I want to talk to someone, I look to see if they have a friendly face, instead of the perma-scowl of serial killers and rapists. Yeah, so maybe I see looks first. But what makes me keep talking to them is their personality. What keeps me their friend is personality. What makes them datable is personality. What makes them marriable is personality. Am I lying when I say the first thing I make a point of looking for is personality? No. I SEE the physical first. I don't have to try to see it. But the real thing that I want to know and have to look for is their personality.

Once again Tessie, you seem to convey your point with great elegance.

It annoys me to know end how people assume physical interest means you disregard personalities. Is it not within the realm of conceivable possibility that there exist people who are both attractive and friendly?

I must say your compliments about my elloquence/elegance surprise me, since I think I am the FARTHEST from being elegant with my thoughts...but I'm tickled pink that you think I am *ruffles your hair* heart

I think that people are just too damn picky. They have unrealistic expectations of people...if they meet every one of their expectations BUT one, they are just not the person for them...it's bullshit.

People who are both attractive and have an awesome personality exist...but there are way too many people who equate 'being attractive' with being rail thin stare

I agree with you.
Although I do not like to admit it I usually see the looks first and then check out the personality.
Its not as though I purposely do it, its just what I look for in a guy or girl first.
Now personally is no doubt what catches your attention when you are looking for a relationship, looks may matter but like Tessie said.

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"So personality is key in keeping them...sure someone may look handsome/pretty, but that only catches your attention for a brief moment, after that there needs to be some substance to them personality wise....who wants to date a handsome/beautiful person who is dumb as a doornob or snobby or arrogant?"

That was nicely said, if I may say so myself.

Looks is what get you initially hooked on someone; personality comes into play later. Sometimes people fall in love with someone they've known for a while because of their personality and not so much of their looks. Usually people just go for looks. I don't think there's anything wrong with it, really. It's a very natural thing.

I have been trying to get together with a girl for the past 2 years. and all she is about is looks. she will not date me cause she is not "attracted" to me. and everytime she passes me up for a skinny guy she ends up being heart broken in the end.

thats how me and my fiance met. we started off as an online friendship and interestingly enough i thought he was abnoxious at first but he started to grow on me and i thought he was cute but now i think hes gorgious just because of the person he is and the way he treats me. and now we are a full blow romance, the picture in my sig, interestingly enough, we right after we had made love. it really was amazing, sex is jsut sex if it isnt with one you love. i mean physical atraction can be learned but love or chemistry is something that just happens and instant or built up connection, you can allways adapt to the way a person looks and even grow to love every flaw every little thing that might be unatractive to others. but who cares what others think, i used to be very shy about my body thinking i was fat adn ugly intill i met Shy, he made me see how beautiful i am, and just because of him i wear tigh clothes that I think look good even if thoughs around me dont, i wear them for him, he wants to show me off to the world. He thinks i gorgious and THAT is the only oppinion that matters, weather its pyhsical bueaty or inner, your beautiful to the people who know you through and through, and thats what beauty is.

i appologize for the long post and im sorry if i rammbled a lil i was jsut tryign to get a point across sweatdrop

I kind of agree, I don't wanna sound terrible or anything, but it is hard to start a relationship with someone you have no attraction too.
I still feel a little bad because last semster I was asked out buy a guy and said no because there was no attraction what so ever. But then again, he didn't have a very good personality.
I think in terms of people's looks, I tend to be attracted to really odd things.
Like noses.
Noses don't arouse me or anything o.O;;
It is just a physical trait that sometimes draws me toward a person.
I like unique noses, or other features that you don't see very often.

But I do like eyes, I would never say they are the sexiest thing on a person, because that would suggest they get you aroused, BUT I think they another trait I enjoy in a person.
I have gotten very off track, so I will just end my post now.