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 Posted: Sat Jun 09, 2007 10:27 am
Ikonik Angel I'd have to say yes, but it wouldn't be fair on the other person. Not only would they have an asexual on their hands, I'm also rather emotionally unstable and prone to irrational mood swings.
As for putting their S.O. before me, my friends haven't really got a chance. I'm too...intrusive? I'm very hard to ignore and I'll just do what I want regardless, within reason. For example, a friend of mine went to the prom with his girlfriend but ended up spending about half the night dancing with me and the rest with his other friends.
That's another reason I don't have a boyfriend. I'm so used to just doing what I want, I never bother to actually ask them out. And I've only ever agreed to go out with one person and that lasted for a grand total of four days (didn't see him for three), and I think was when I first realised (subconsciously) that I was asexual. But when the people I'm close to do get girlfriends, I tend to get a little jealous... usually they haven;t asked me out either, so I've no idea if I would have said yes. Which makes it somewhat worse. Well my girly is asexual too, so it doesn't matter on that point. I guess if you ever really fall in love with some one then you'll want to spend time with them and ask them out. A hell you might even find some one willing to put up with your mood swings too. I know my girly gets them quite frequently, but she never takes them out on me, so I don't mind.
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Posted: Sat Jun 09, 2007 5:20 pm
I sort of like one of my best friends and I think he may like me (I know he used to) but he's very sexual so it wouldn't be fair on him. Shame, really.
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Posted: Sun Jun 10, 2007 9:11 pm
At this point in my life, I would say that I don't want a companion. I've been asked out before by nice guys, guys who are polite, considerate, and would never pressure me into having sex, but I turned them down.
It's not them that's the problem. It's me. I'm a deathly shy person and I don't trust people easily, due to past betrayals in my life by people who were close to me. A lot of that has made me who I am today: a nervous, anti-social girl. It's too much of a hassle for me to be in an intimate relationship. I feel more comfortable by myself. I like my space.
Maybe when I'm older, and have gotten past some of my anxieties, especially on a social level, I might be able to form closers bonds with people, mainly friends. The relationship notion is still a coin-toss for me.
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Posted: Mon Jun 11, 2007 10:26 pm
Right now, I'm pretty happy not having a companion. I'm used to being alone, and for the most part, I enjoy it. I've never really felt the need to have someone that's closer to me than a friend.
I think that even if I wanted a companion, it would be extremely difficult for me to find one. I'm very, very socially inept, to a point where I'll go to extremes to avoid social contact with other people. Also, I have this idealistic world-view that I would sacrifice almost anything for, save my family. Most people tend to get slightly freaked out by that.
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Posted: Sat Jun 16, 2007 11:28 am
Hey, xRolling_Starx, I have a question: if you wanted a companion, how would you overcome your social ineptitude?
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Posted: Sun Jun 17, 2007 11:14 pm
Well personally for me... I am usually a loner type but at this point in time I would kind of want a companion to spend my time with. Mainly just someone that I am comfortable around and willing to share my thoughts with. But that is just my opinion and my views. I have gone a while just sitting with friends and what not so I could last a while longer for that as well. That or it could just be my wanting to fully experience what I have seen others have as they are with their companions. Or that I had so much in common with my ex that I just enjoyed being around her and thought more about that than anything sexual and what not. I dunno... I'm confused now. I just think that later on I would like a companion.
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Posted: Mon Jun 18, 2007 8:44 pm
Xumbra Hey, xRolling_Starx, I have a question: if you wanted a companion, how would you overcome your social ineptitude? I guess I'd have to toughen up a bit, and get used to being around people/talking to people. It might take some time, and I might never be as social as a normal person, but I think that if I really wanted a companion, I'd be willing to work harder to become less socially inept.
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Posted: Mon Jun 18, 2007 8:55 pm
xRolling_Starx Xumbra Hey, xRolling_Starx, I have a question: if you wanted a companion, how would you overcome your social ineptitude? I guess I'd have to toughen up a bit, and get used to being around people/talking to people. It might take some time, and I might never be as social as a normal person, but I think that if I really wanted a companion, I'd be willing to work harder to become less socially inept. Why would you want to be like a normal person anyway?
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Posted: Tue Jun 19, 2007 1:24 pm
Normal is as normal does.
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Posted: Tue Jun 19, 2007 4:15 pm
Yeah. Don't be normal, be unique. Just like everybody else.
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Posted: Tue Jun 19, 2007 4:57 pm
If you want to make a change whether to be different or to be more like the crowd, do it because you want to do it and because you think it will make you happy. Don't listen to what anyone else trys to tell you if you know it's the right thing for you.
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Posted: Thu Jun 21, 2007 11:02 am
RandomDent I like to be alone most of the time. My happiest time in my life was when I lived all alone in a flat above a shop. I did everything whenever I wanted and all I had to worry about was whether I had enough money to feed my cat. But there were times when I got lonely and wished someone else was there (usually after finding a moth that needed squishing - urgh I hate moths) and I hate that my friends put their partners before me. I'd quite like to do it to them, see how they like being blown off. But I don't miss other people often enough to be in a relationship. I will crave company, maybe, once a fortnight. Which is not really fair for the other person. That's exactly how I feel. And I hate moths too!
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Posted: Thu Jun 21, 2007 2:33 pm
A friend of mine abhors moths. She starts crying whenever she sees one.
It does feel good to be free, free to pursue whatever hobbies you wish. But it feels better to have a companion with whom you can share your hobbies.
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Posted: Thu Jun 21, 2007 3:23 pm
Xumbra A friend of mine abhors moths. She starts crying whenever she sees one.
It does feel good to be free, free to pursue whatever hobbies you wish. But it feels better to have a companion with whom you can share your hobbies. I have cried because of my 'phobias' but I only really badly fear things like moths and the dark if it's suddenly there. If I'm slowly aware of it or in a good mood then I can cope. Once I was in the middle of the hallway and alone for the night and suddenly the fuse went and there was a blackout and I must have sat there crying for about ten minutes. I'm pathetic sometimes D:
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Posted: Thu Jun 21, 2007 7:51 pm
RandomDent Xumbra A friend of mine abhors moths. She starts crying whenever she sees one.
It does feel good to be free, free to pursue whatever hobbies you wish. But it feels better to have a companion with whom you can share your hobbies. I have cried because of my 'phobias' but I only really badly fear things like moths and the dark if it's suddenly there. If I'm slowly aware of it or in a good mood then I can cope. Once I was in the middle of the hallway and alone for the night and suddenly the fuse went and there was a blackout and I must have sat there crying for about ten minutes. I'm pathetic sometimes D: You may claim to be pathetic but you are who you are. If you didn't have those fears it may make you into a person that clashed with those around you. I can say that I have only one true fear in this world as of now. The rest ended up leaving me and I kinda wish that I did have more to fear. Maybe then I would end up taking better care of my body and not take as many risks sweatdrop
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