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 Posted: Fri Apr 20, 2007 7:07 pm
pawntakesknight some of us are more self concious than most girls realize or we let on. most of the time guys dont talk about it so no one ever really figures it out. That and if another guy asks and he says "no" most of us (unless they are douches) dont press the issue. 3nodding
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Posted: Fri Apr 20, 2007 7:09 pm
thats a phrase i never hear from a girl haha. kinda wish i heard something like that more often...but i think were getting off topic haha.
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Posted: Fri Apr 20, 2007 7:16 pm
Pfft, no way. The topic just said "handsome" xp
I personally love me some chubby boys.
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Posted: Fri Apr 20, 2007 7:19 pm
ah true XP
i love elementary school and junior high. i think i can thank them for my lack of self esteem in myself and my abilities haha. sweatdrop
i figured i needed some new pictures of myself. i hadnt take a picture in 3 months. so i guess ill put them up soon. i dont believe im much of a looker.
but eh. handsome really depends on the person in general. society as a whole seems to agree on a basic form or handsom, which isnt a bad thing. just not everyone follows the same mold.
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Posted: Fri Apr 20, 2007 7:37 pm
pawntakesknight ah true XP i love elementary school and junior high. i think i can thank them for my lack of self esteem in myself and my abilities haha. sweatdrop i figured i needed some new pictures of myself. i hadnt take a picture in 3 months. so i guess ill put them up soon. i dont believe im much of a looker. but eh. handsome really depends on the person in general. society as a whole seems to agree on a basic form or handsom, which isnt a bad thing. just not everyone follows the same mold.
I think handsome is more in the face to me, than the body. But my boyfriend definately is kinda dissappointed that out of all the kinds of guys I like, he's not really any of it, but I find him attractive. I have a friend who is bigger and more like the kind of guy I imagined myself with, and I think he's very handsome, but he thinks he's ugly. If he'd just work on his appearance a bit more (take more pride in it) he'd be very attractive to a lot of girls, it's really his lack of confidence that hurts him. Just like I took my boyfriend shopping and made him try clothes he wouldn't think to try, he likes them a lot and he was embarassed to admit it... especially 'cause his sister was having such a blast helping me pick out clothes. I mean, I've had friends from two years ago that I hadn't talked to in forever, they IMed me and told me "You have definately gotten cuter" and there was no real difference in my appearance, still same face and stuff, but my confidence even in photos of me is more obvious.
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Posted: Fri Apr 20, 2007 9:42 pm
RavenRiddle No, sweetie. We're just used to having the idea of how repulsive we are drilled into our heads. To me, it's more of a "I don't deserve anyone" type thing. I haven't had one boyfriend in my entire life. Probably because of this. what she said
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Posted: Sat Apr 21, 2007 12:38 am
When it gets to the intimate point I start to fear that maybe he doesn't know what he wants. Maybe he's expecting something that he's not going to get.
Don't get me wrong, I love my body and am very confident with it.
I just think that maybe 'he,' whoever he may be at the time, might be expecting something else; and disappointing someone is a big fear of many, including me.
Probably doesn't make much sense. I've said it before, I have a hard time making sense. sweatdrop
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Posted: Sat Apr 21, 2007 4:28 am
I agree with Ghosty and pawntakesknight. "Handsome" and "Beautiful" are just words, their meaning different to everyone. I can't really make a judgement about handsomeness in guys (being a flaming dyke and all that wink ) but I can say that what I find most attractive and beautiful in women is not what society would consider "conventionally beautiful." I think big girls are the most gorgeous, sexalicious things ever to walk the planet, regardless of what society says.
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Posted: Sat Apr 21, 2007 6:18 am
Oh, one thing I forgot to say... the sucking the stomach thing I think is going to make almost any girl uncomfortable unless they've dated somebody into it before. Girls don't think of the stomach as an errogenous zone for themselves, or think that guys find them attractive because they're something we're taught to be ashamed of... even a skinny girl would probably be weirded out. You definately would need to talk to the girl before hand about it and get her feelings on it, even if the girl is nice and says nothing to you about it, she'll likely go to her friends and tell them the weird stuff you tried on her (my friends tell me this stuff all the time).
I don't care if it's Brad Pitt or Quazi Modo, if they're sucking on my stomach and I'm not expecting it or used to it they're going to get the s**t slapped out of them because I'd be so shocked and embarassed. It has nothing to do with their looks.
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Posted: Sat Apr 21, 2007 11:20 pm
Hangar â™ So we can all pretty much guess that all girls have some type of insecurity about their body, none more than plus size girls. You're hesitant about showing your bodies and what not, but I find it extra hard for me for some reason. I'm not trying to be egotistical, but most girls find me attractive, and I'm very skinny, and have defined muscle structure. So, when I try to get with bigger girls, they're almost sick to be with me or let me get intimate with them. One girl even yelled at me when I was like and suck her belly. I mean, what the hell? am I doing something wrong? or is just something I don't know?
any of you mind filling me in?â™ Honey, I loooove skinny &/or muscular guys. The problem is that they usually don't like me & it's really hard to tell if they are serious about liking me.
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Posted: Sat Apr 28, 2007 7:56 pm
most of us big girls,
are just intimidated. or still in that shy faze, we are use to people telling us that because we are not "skinny" we are not beautiful, our bodies are not acceptable and we shouldn't like them. So when someone is fine with the way we are, and they are just damned right good looking, it has hard for us to believe that they would want us.
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Posted: Mon Apr 30, 2007 11:07 am
Well that's because they're overly insecure. I'm not intimidted by pretty boys at all. But I finally grew out of my insecurities, so I can't say the same for everyone. All I can say is if a girl is awesome enough, stick with her, treat her like gold, and she'll get over it.
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Posted: Mon Apr 30, 2007 4:45 pm
i used to be like that... i was seriously freaked out if i got any kind of attention in the areas i hated (i.e: pretty much everything about me two years ago)
i'm better now though. its hard to do, but i generally just give off a big "******** you" to society norms. sometimes i'll fall pray into my old depression because of my weight and starve myself, but it never lasts long, and i always pull through.
nowadays, i like to flirt around with the "hot guys" just to show that i can do, to show that i can get the hottie
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Posted: Mon Apr 30, 2007 10:14 pm
Suicide Jade RavenRiddle No, sweetie. We're just used to having the idea of how repulsive we are drilled into our heads. To me, it's more of a "I don't deserve anyone" type thing. I haven't had one boyfriend in my entire life. Probably because of this. what she said
I didnt have my first boyfriend until I turned 23... which wasnt that long ago since I still am 23... even now I always feel like I'm not good enough... thanx to the pathetic people in my life
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Posted: Thu May 03, 2007 11:41 pm
It takes time for big girls to get used to having positive male attention. I've got a bf myself that I totally love and who adores my physical appearance and sometimes it remains difficult. And he's quite a looker as well (in my own opinion, but he's had his share of good-looking girls). When you've been used for years to be ignored (at best) by the good-looking guys it takes some time to get used to other types of behaviour by them.
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