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 Posted: Sat Mar 31, 2007 2:44 pm
I believe in teen love, because I love mine, and it is not just lust. We have not had sex for the simple reason that I want him to have a future, and I got him his first job with my family. He told me that he was going through a period of self discovery, and did not know what he wanted to be, and I realised he had talents on the computer, so I got my grandfather to hire him to make a web page for his company, I am so proud of him! And I love his mother, father, and sisters, just because they have worked so hard to make him the most beautiful person I know!
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Posted: Tue May 15, 2007 6:12 pm
I think teens can love. The reason they say this is because teens are young, so they haven't had as much experience as adults when it comes to this field. Teens are looked down upon on this subject because of their age, so many adults will look at them like "immature children". I think that in order to know what love is, you need to be mentally mature no matter what age you are. In order to discover it, you need to really have in-depth experience with relationships. The younger masses, on average, may have a habit of confusing crushes, infaturations, lust, and any other minor detail into "love". After years of wisdom, you will see the boundary clearer and clearer each time. If you're still asking about love, here's my opinion. It's a little outdated, but it's the most valid opinion I have so far. Just click on the linky at the end of this sentence. http://www.xanga.com/Shi_Musouka/512596526/item.html?nextdate=1152143058&direction=n#1152143058WARNING: FF7 Spoiler at the beginning of the blog. There's a lot of better things you can do with your time. You just need to figure out what is more significant to you; love or "something else". There is no wrong answer to this one, just dishonest answers.
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Posted: Tue May 22, 2007 2:00 am
I think love is up to the person. There's really no way to say, "HE loves that girl, but that guy only THINKS he loves her."
Everyone feels things differently, so what each person considers to be love is important definition wise to them, and them only. What one person feels is love can be completely different from someone elses' definition, and neither are wrong.
For teens, love is more based in infatuation and social desire... but to them, it's every bit as real as the stable and mature relationships of adults. That is teen love... the love we experience at each stage in life is no lesser in any way than love we experience later on will be.
The boy you "loved" in 4th grade who was your first kiss is just as important as the boy you "loved" who you let take your virginity.
Every love is a step towards more in depth, mature love, and you can't progress without the beginning steps, regardless of age.
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Posted: Thu Jul 19, 2007 10:56 am
i don't really think its that teenagers can't love as much as adults... i think that its the fact that an adult has already gone through love numerous times... so they are wiser to the world and they know the differance between true love, sought after love, and infatuation.
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Posted: Tue Nov 27, 2007 5:59 pm
Teenagers can love. If they couldn't, I wouldn't still be in a relationship as an adult that started when I was a teenager. I know without a doubt that I love my boyfriend, and I've known it for years. I think it mostly depends on the maturity of the people in the relationship, and luck. I think adults might think that teens can't love because many of them aren't lucky enough the meet the right person when they're that young, so they get together and break up with people every few months, or years. Also, a lot of teens don't always make the most mature choices, when it comes to who they're dating, how far to go in the relationship, and reasons for breaking up. And many teens base their interest in a person by what they look like, before knowing their personality. That isn't to say that all teens do this, or that adults do not do these things. There's immature adults out there as well.
I was lucky enough to meet the right person at fourteen. Which sounds extremely young. But at twentyone we are still together and love each other. I was also lucky, in a way, to meet him online. I got to know his personality first before ever knowing what he looked like, and he got to know me as well without knowing what I looked like. So it was all personality in the beginning of the relationship. We've been through a lot together, we've gotten through a lot of arguments as well, things that many people simply break up over to avoid conflicts and working things out. He's the only person who I've ever worked this hard for to maintain a relationship, because I love him. And it paid off, because now, after going through all of that, our relationship is better and we care about each other even more.
I really think it depends on the people in the relationship. What kind of people they, if they're right for each other, and can handle a mature relationship. It doesn't have much to do with age.
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Posted: Thu Dec 06, 2007 9:52 am
A human beings mental development works like this.
As a small child the main motivation is need, but it quickly - if in a proper and healthy environment, learns what it is to be loved and to love.
Next, a child learns to imitate. That's how children are supposed to discover who they are, by imitation. So if very small children are professing love and kissing, that is them IMITATING - their brain has not developed to allow them to be sincere in a sexual love.
Next, you have the middle school age. Children of this age have trouble discerning separate emotions, their brain has not yet developed enough to allow them to notice subtle signals in expression, tone, stress etc. This is normally the case until they are around 14 years old. If you gave a 14 year old a card with 20 different faces with different emotions, they would identify most as 'angry.'
Give a 16 year old the same test, and they will identify most of the expressions correctly. That is because they have learned to read deeper. There is hardly any difference between a 16 year old's thinking and that of a 20 year's old. Obviously there is a difference in experiences, but not in maturity.
Ages 18 - 25 are spent mastering impulse control over emotions. That's why you have "college kids" going and doing crazy things you'd never see a 45 year old dad do.
Are you going to say because the brain isn't fully mentally developed until you're 25 years old you should not have romantic relations until then! NO NO NO NO NO!
A "MATURE" relation ship, "ADULT" relationship can blossom realistically as early as 16 years of age. If you are younger than that and feel something for someone, gage that yes - YOUR FEELINGS ARE REAL, but they can be mislead. You are being cheated - you will appreciate romance more if you wait just a few years, and where's the harm in that?
GOOD THINGS come to those who wait - until AT LEAST 16 years!
Wish you all love!
-Woade
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Posted: Fri Dec 07, 2007 6:21 am
i think that we teens are very much capable of loving something or someone. BUT i think there is a difference between loving a person and being IN love with a person.
Personally i dont think u can put an age on an emotion. that to me is ridiculas. I am 15 years young, and i can say without a doubt that i am IN LOVE with my boyfriend. ive known him for almost 4 years. and we've been dating for about 9 1/2 months. theres nothing i wouldnt do for him.
honestly. we skip school to chill with eachother. i live 2 hours away from him. but i see him like every 2 days. my weekends revolve around him. i wake him up in the morning for school at 7am [which is y im awake now at 6am]
he calls EVERYDAY then at night to say goodnight. we've been through alot of s**t together. including embarassing situations, oi vay.
ive cut, and he's been there.
he's cried and ive been there.
he's my best friend and now my boy friend.
i can say i love him.
u guys wanna argue?
fine go ahead, say what u want as often as u want.
but that still doesnt change the way i feel about him.
it wont change the butterflies i get thinkin bout him.
or the goofy smile i get when i see him.
my inability to speak when he's touching me....the words of passions we exchange while in eachothers arms.
<3
Love+Teens=110% Capable smile
[but thats just my opinion]
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Posted: Sat Apr 05, 2008 2:07 pm
I dont relaly belive in either, I think all people are capable of love, be them young or old. I do understand why parents and adults say us teens can't love, I have a friend who is a very good example of why. We have a tendancy of switching boy/girl friends all the time and saying that we love them. I think that is mostly because we don't really know what love is, we just think that because we find some one attractive that we love them. Teens cna be rather jumpy at times, like I'll admit, I told my ex I loved him, but I did that to make him feel wanted, as well as myself, but now I am in love. I think that everyone can love, but that sometimes we don't realise it, or we mistake it for lust or something like that. You don't know that you're inlove, until you are, and it may not even be evident.
(and I realise theres a lot of typos... I'm too lazy to fix them)
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