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Well, that's not a problem. Some people LOVE to care for other people, and even always want to feel needed. Other people, not so much. There's no wrong or right to it. It takes special people to care for severely handicapped children, and it's definitely not something that's right for everybody. Knowing that your child will never do the things you see kids on movies or in magazines do, will probably never get married or have their own children, well... that's not okay with some people... myself included.
This isn't something you should feel bad about. Even though people will try to make you feel like a monster. This is something you probably don't want to advertise to just anyone, just like stances on abortion or circumcision, there are people who will try to rip you a new one for your opinion. I know, because I've had plenty of people tell me I'm a monster or I shouldn't have children and I just could care less. If they want to have a child who is disabled and spend their entire lives caring for them, then more power to them. But it's just not for everybody, myself very much included.

LOL about twins... only because my friend and I just had this conversation a week ago... two days before she found out that there's TWO babies in her stomach!
One newborn is hard enough, two I can only imagine. I doubt you'd end up neglecting one. More you'd feel like you can never give both the attention they deserve and you'd feel stretched thinner than Lindsay Lohan.
I, for one, have NO idea what I would do if I got pregnant with twins. I know for quintuplets or more, some doctors offer women the option of destroying one or more of the fetuses early in development, but I doubt they'd let you do that with twins!
I think I'd go insane, or just carry them around for the first 6 months in dual slings with a boob hanging out into each one, feeling like a major milking cow, LOL.

I hope all of that makes you feel more secure in your opinions. You know you can always PM me as well, even if it's just for emotional support or venting.

I don't know. i don't think that I would abort just because the fetu isnt developing "perfectly" i would have to see what the degree is, ten make a dcision off of that. I would also have to take into accont if I myself where capable of handing the situation. Based off f that I could make a decision.

Well for me, it would depend on how sever the disability was. If I ever have kids sever allergies, back deformaties, and brain disorders I am expecting to some degree (I have bad allergies to dust and pollen; scoliosis and back problems; along with auditory processing disorder); but if my kid's brain isn't formed in the skull, I'll have to, sadly, fold.