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 Posted: Fri Feb 09, 2007 1:55 am
Warrior Of Valhalla LorienLlewellyn It's all right. You had to learn it and see it for yourself. Nothing is a waste. You probably learned a lot. You probably learned a lot about who you are, who you want to be with, and what you want out a relationship. That's all knowledge that you can put to good use in the future. You sound like a very nice boy, while she sounds like an "absolute horror of a human being" to quote As Good As It Gets. xp In the future, don't be afraid to explore. Don't let this scare you. But at the same time, don't let anyone rush you too much, and never let anyone verbally abuse you. I have to admit that I am glad that she will be gone. i suppose. i like older women, mostly because they're more mature....some miight see that in both areas...personality and body. i see it in peronsality. i've been told i have then intellegence of a 35 year old and the manners of a 17th century gentlemen. that mostly why i look for older women...i don't like GIRLS my age for that exact reason. they're too immature. not to mention they're still in school and like to chatter about boys girls and what not. i can'[t stand it. But....i guess i won't make that mistake again, i realise i'm better off alone...no one bothers me, no one gets under my emotions. I can never be made to cry, get mad, upset or anything. i'll be myself in the fact that i have no pity for anyone...and won't need pity from others. love is inconsequential for me from what i've gathered from my gods..and my father oden has spoken to me that this is my path. and if it is not, then he'll show me my way in the future. and ney till then. Maybe you shouldn't rule out people your own age. Maturity does not automatically come with age. There are probably girls at your school dating guys older than them because they think the ones their own age are too immature. You never know. Still, it's good to have alone time. ^_^
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Posted: Fri Feb 09, 2007 10:34 am
Rinaqa Maybe you shouldn't rule out people your own age. Maturity does not automatically come with age. There are probably girls at your school dating guys older than them because they think the ones their own age are too immature. You never know. Still, it's good to have alone time. ^_^ True. You say you like older women because they are more mature, yet look at your ex. It sounds like she certainly acted far more immature than she should have for her age. If someone is older that does not always mean that they are more mature. You can easily look for a decent person your age rather than an awful person who just happens to be older. Also, if you are not really ready for the sexual aspect of the relationship, that might be another reason to wait on the whole "dating older women" thing. If you want to take some time off from dating for a while, that's fine. Just don't stop dating because you think you have to or because you don't think you could find anyone. Maybe you could start brushing up on your sex ed since it sounds as though your ex might have filled your head with nonsense. That way you can learn, grow, and be prepared when that time comes for you again.
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Posted: Fri Feb 09, 2007 11:56 am
the only women my age which are intrested in me are common wenches and whores. i won't degrade me honor by mingling with that.
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Posted: Fri Feb 09, 2007 11:57 am
Rinaqa Warrior Of Valhalla LorienLlewellyn It's all right. You had to learn it and see it for yourself. Nothing is a waste. You probably learned a lot. You probably learned a lot about who you are, who you want to be with, and what you want out a relationship. That's all knowledge that you can put to good use in the future. You sound like a very nice boy, while she sounds like an "absolute horror of a human being" to quote As Good As It Gets. xp In the future, don't be afraid to explore. Don't let this scare you. But at the same time, don't let anyone rush you too much, and never let anyone verbally abuse you. I have to admit that I am glad that she will be gone. i suppose. i like older women, mostly because they're more mature....some miight see that in both areas...personality and body. i see it in peronsality. i've been told i have then intellegence of a 35 year old and the manners of a 17th century gentlemen. that mostly why i look for older women...i don't like GIRLS my age for that exact reason. they're too immature. not to mention they're still in school and like to chatter about boys girls and what not. i can'[t stand it. But....i guess i won't make that mistake again, i realise i'm better off alone...no one bothers me, no one gets under my emotions. I can never be made to cry, get mad, upset or anything. i'll be myself in the fact that i have no pity for anyone...and won't need pity from others. love is inconsequential for me from what i've gathered from my gods..and my father oden has spoken to me that this is my path. and if it is not, then he'll show me my way in the future. and ney till then. Maybe you shouldn't rule out people your own age. Maturity does not automatically come with age. There are probably girls at your school dating guys older than them because they think the ones their own age are too immature. You never know. Still, it's good to have alone time. ^_^ and i'm not in school anylonger. i graduated. or..i will be in may but yeah. i'm not in school. i won't be again untill fall and thats going to be in vermont and i highly doubt anyone there woudl be intrested in a Gentlemen like gothic pagan.
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Posted: Fri Feb 09, 2007 12:10 pm
Warrior Of Valhalla and i'm not in school anylonger. i graduated. or..i will be in may but yeah. i'm not in school. i won't be again untill fall and thats going to be in vermont and i highly doubt anyone there woudl be intrested in a Gentlemen like gothic pagan. You assume too much, and it's not even logical! xp Why wouldn't they like you? There are all kinds of people in all kinds of places. You never know who you will meet. The nice thing about college is that every single semester is so fresh and new. You never know what new people will be in your classes.
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Posted: Fri Feb 09, 2007 12:14 pm
LorienLlewellyn Warrior Of Valhalla and i'm not in school anylonger. i graduated. or..i will be in may but yeah. i'm not in school. i won't be again untill fall and thats going to be in vermont and i highly doubt anyone there woudl be intrested in a Gentlemen like gothic pagan. You assume too much, and it's not even logical! xp Why wouldn't they like you? There are all kinds of people in all kinds of places. You never know who you will meet. The nice thing about college is that every single semester is so fresh and new. You never know what new people will be in your classes. ma'am, i'm a pessamist. ( i don't know the right spellign for that) and its common for me to think that way. i'm not always right, but a good deal of the time i am. and in this reguard, i'm pretty sure, that sadly, i'll be right.
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Posted: Fri Feb 09, 2007 5:09 pm
Warrior Of Valhalla ma'am, i'm a pessamist. ( i don't know the right spellign for that) and its common for me to think that way. i'm not always right, but a good deal of the time i am. and in this reguard, i'm pretty sure, that sadly, i'll be right. You don't know that no one will want you. Not all women want the exact same thing and the exact same kind of man.
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Posted: Fri Feb 09, 2007 11:17 pm
LorienLlewellyn Warrior Of Valhalla ma'am, i'm a pessamist. ( i don't know the right spellign for that) and its common for me to think that way. i'm not always right, but a good deal of the time i am. and in this reguard, i'm pretty sure, that sadly, i'll be right. You don't know that no one will want you. Not all women want the exact same thing and the exact same kind of man. true, but i've had enough experience in being shot down to know that...something about my outter appearence doesn't exactly...appeal to many.
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Posted: Sat Feb 10, 2007 1:31 pm
With an attitude so down on yourself, honestly, it's no surprise you're not having much luck nor experience.
The thing I find attractive is CONFIDENCE and humility. I know they seem like contradictory terms, but they can coexist. I also think you need to work on being more openminded and not quite so judgemental. Alone time sound like a great idea.
I'm sorry you had to go through this ugly scenario. Learn from it, but don't let it bog you down with angst. You'll just end up utlizing a self-fulfilling prophecy. You'll be alone if you don't try to otherwise.
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Posted: Sat Feb 10, 2007 2:08 pm
lunashock With an attitude so down on yourself, honestly, it's no surprise you're not having much luck nor experience. The thing I find attractive is CONFIDENCE and humility. I know they seem like contradictory terms, but they can coexist. I also think you need to work on being more openminded and not quite so judgemental. Alone time sound like a great idea. I'm sorry you had to go through this ugly scenario. Learn from it, but don't let it bog you down with angst. You'll just end up utlizing a self-fulfilling prophecy. You'll be alone if you don't try to otherwise. i'm negitive because i've been made to think that way for over 10 years. you try a live through 10 years of hell of school being told your worthless no one will ever love...you start to think they're right after about the 8th year.
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Posted: Mon Feb 12, 2007 12:54 pm
How old are you?
Anyways, I'm going to guess with your graduating/upcoming you are 18? Yes, negative influences can be hard to overcome, but you also have to mature to the point to realize screw what they told you. Middle and high school are crap compared to the freedom of college.
So you listened to them, believe them, and still are having a hard time. Work on yourself before trying to add someone else in the mix. Probably advice on deaf ears, but worth a shot.
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Posted: Mon Feb 12, 2007 6:33 pm
lunashock How old are you? Anyways, I'm going to guess with your graduating/upcoming you are 18? Yes, negative influences can be hard to overcome, but you also have to mature to the point to realize screw what they told you. Middle and high school are crap compared to the freedom of college. So you listened to them, believe them, and still are having a hard time. Work on yourself before trying to add someone else in the mix. Probably advice on deaf ears, but worth a shot. yeah i'm 18, and yeah i've still got a hard time getting over that stuff. but like..i still have nightmares about those days. its not something i could just forget easily. I guess you could, compare me to a veitnam vet. they're memories and what not never leave them. thats like me i can vividly rememebr everythign that went on back then.
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Posted: Wed Feb 14, 2007 9:57 am
confused Have you been to war? I'd hardly call yourself a Vietnam veteran because of some childhood discretions. My husband is an OIF veteran and has actually seen some REAL ******** up s**t. He doesn't use it as an excuse (he had PTSD when he came back too). Of course he'll never forget, but part of being mature is learning to move on and use it to make yourself a better, positive person.
But no, I would never call you a veteran unless you're actually one.
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Posted: Fri Feb 16, 2007 1:53 am
We've all got s**t. We all deal.
My s**t? I'm half-bald. I wear a wig. Do you know the kind of stigma that gives a girl, how much it knocks her confidence, how much people make fun of her for it? No? That in a school of a thousand people, when twenty percet are assholes, that means two hundred people commenting, whispering, laughing? Do you know how many people are actually bullied? Try a majority. Do you know what you should think of the people who bully others? "Poor buggers." 'Cause they're neglected and insecure. So trust me. I KNOW what it's like to be lonely and feel so ******** ugly that you'll never be in a relationship. You know what you look like, you can change it if you want to. I may have this condition for the rest of my life. It's the most unpredictable thing that I know of and I have to deal with it daily.
And yet I've had two serious relationships - one which lasted a year and a bit, and the one I am currently in which has gone on for six months now. And they both knew, and LOVED ME ANYWAY.
The memories will remain, but leave them where they belong. THE PAST.
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