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 Posted: Sun Jun 26, 2005 10:16 pm
Vicious_Hideki Shini Neko Ni Vicious_Hideki Uhh.. "No" Would work. xd Well if you said yes, then theres a better chance of them thinking yuo just called them fat and are unhappy with there horribly disgusting and overweight bodies! gonk
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Posted: Sun Jun 26, 2005 10:19 pm
Vicious_Hideki Shini Neko Ni yea I never like talking about diets and stuff like that x_x I know its what they want to do in all but its not nesserly what I want to talk about. I understand some people need to lose weight for heath reasons..but just vainty pounds..well It just always bothered me and I just try to stear clear of any converstaion about loseing weight because I too find myself speechless and out of place. (main reason I didn't post anything in the weight gain thread a little while back) Woah, look at all that random code gaia shoved into my quote... whee And yeah, dieting and such have always been kinda a turnoff.. I can see how it would be a turnoff, especially if the woman is constantly downing their physical appearance and talks about nothing other than dieting. I don't talk about my dieting issues with my hubby, even though he too wants to lose weight...there are so many other things we can discuss other than "OMG I WANT TO LOSE WEIGHT RIGHT NOW!" conversations. But you have to keep in mind that because there are people in this guild who want to lose weight that there will be discussions about healthy ways of losing weight...at least we're not talking about dangerous methods of weight loss, like sticking our fingers down our throats to empty out our stomachs.
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Posted: Sun Jun 26, 2005 10:26 pm
Tessiebean Vicious_Hideki Shini Neko Ni yea I never like talking about diets and stuff like that x_x I know its what they want to do in all but its not nesserly what I want to talk about. I understand some people need to lose weight for heath reasons..but just vainty pounds..well It just always bothered me and I just try to stear clear of any converstaion about loseing weight because I too find myself speechless and out of place. (main reason I didn't post anything in the weight gain thread a little while back) Woah, look at all that random code gaia shoved into my quote... whee And yeah, dieting and such have always been kinda a turnoff.. I can see how it would be a turnoff, especially if the woman is constantly downing their physical appearance and talks about nothing other than dieting. I don't talk about my dieting issues with my hubby, even though he too wants to lose weight...there are so many other things we can discuss other than "OMG I WANT TO LOSE WEIGHT RIGHT NOW!" conversations. But you have to keep in mind that because there are people in this guild who want to lose weight that there will be discussions about healthy ways of losing weight...at least we're not talking about dangerous methods of weight loss, like sticking our fingers down our throats to empty out our stomachs.
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Posted: Sun Jun 26, 2005 10:27 pm
I'm usually pretty comfortable where I am. I don't intend to gain any weight but I also wouldn't be heartbroken if I did. Close to 300lbs and 5'5"ish I'm substantialy soft and sexy as well as big and beautiful... not to mention generally round and squishy.
I would maybe one day like to loose weight but not be skinny. I think I would do it just to have a change since I have been fat all my life. Again, never ever do I wish to be skinny, just maybe less fat every now and again. But that also depends on who I've been talking to and what I've been seeing in the media. It can fluxuate.
I think this guild is accepting people as they are and in who and how they wish to be. I don't think it has much to do about weight, other than it's a subject we can talk about without fear of anyone being too incredibly harsh about it. I generally think that this is a pretty understanding group. We not only experience discrimination about our size, and discuss it, but there are some who discuss other issues of discrimination based on age, height, sexuality, etc. So while weight is an issue that brings us all here... I think it's acceptance that different things about different people is what makes things beautiful.
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Posted: Sun Jun 26, 2005 10:40 pm
Blind Insight I'm usually pretty comfortable where I am. I don't intend to gain any weight but I also wouldn't be heartbroken if I did. Close to 300lbs and 5'5"ish I'm substantialy soft and sexy as well as big and beautiful... not to mention generally round and squishy. I would maybe one day like to loose weight but not be skinny. I think I would do it just to have a change since I have been fat all my life. Again, never ever do I wish to be skinny, just maybe less fat every now and again. But that also depends on who I've been talking to and what I've been seeing in the media. It can fluxuate. I think this guild is accepting people as they are and in who and how they wish to be. I don't think it has much to do about weight, other than it's a subject we can talk about without fear of anyone being too incredibly harsh about it. I generally think that this is a pretty understanding group. We not only experience discrimination about our size, and discuss it, but there are some who discuss other issues of discrimination based on age, height, sexuality, etc. So while weight is an issue that brings us all here... I think it's acceptance that different things about different people is what makes things beautiful.
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Posted: Mon Jun 27, 2005 12:17 am
Quote: Do you think people who do not wish to be overweight should be part of a guild that is about the 'Soft and Sexy'? Yes. Even if people don't want to be overweight there's nothing wrong with helping them understand that fat does not equal bad. Quote: Do you think that it doesn't matter if we love being overweight or if we want to lose, that we all should be welcomed in this guild? It shouldn't matter. Quote: Have you tried to gain weight yourself? Were you sucessful? Was your plan to gain weight accepted or scoffed at? I've never tried to gain weight myself. If anything I'd like to shed a couple of pounds. I don't want to be thin, because I like (nowadays) being a big girl, but I would like to tone my body somewhat. Hence I started weightlifting to tone my arms and I want to tone my belly somewhat. Quote: If you do not think intentional weight gain is acceptable/safe, have you ever tried to tell someone NOT to gain weight, even though you know that's what they desire to do? I would never tell someone what to do in these matters. I think someone's weight is personal. I wouldn't advise someone anything in this unless their weight (be it too big or too little) would put them in danger. Quote: Do you intend on losing/gaining weight or maintaining? If you decided on maintaining, how long did it take for you to be comfortable in your own skin? Losing some. I've already changed my plans in that regard. I wanted to loose a lot, but I've realized that that energy is better spend in other places. Like I said above, I just want to tone my body some nowadays.
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Posted: Mon Jun 27, 2005 2:12 am
my drive to loose wait is purely superficial, i believe if i lost ten pounds my new/old jacket would look very awesome. i dont really care about health risks sence im young and i believe myself immortal.
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Posted: Tue Jun 28, 2005 10:52 am
Blind Insight I'm usually pretty comfortable where I am. I don't intend to gain any weight but I also wouldn't be heartbroken if I did. Close to 300lbs and 5'5"ish I'm substantialy soft and sexy as well as big and beautiful... not to mention generally round and squishy. I would maybe one day like to loose weight but not be skinny. I think I would do it just to have a change since I have been fat all my life. Again, never ever do I wish to be skinny, just maybe less fat every now and again. But that also depends on who I've been talking to and what I've been seeing in the media. It can fluxuate. I think this guild is accepting people as they are and in who and how they wish to be. I don't think it has much to do about weight, other than it's a subject we can talk about without fear of anyone being too incredibly harsh about it. I generally think that this is a pretty understanding group. We not only experience discrimination about our size, and discuss it, but there are some who discuss other issues of discrimination based on age, height, sexuality, etc. So while weight is an issue that brings us all here... I think it's acceptance that different things about different people is what makes things beautiful. O.o... *hugs blind insight* "Wow, i completly agree... " heart
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Posted: Tue Jun 28, 2005 12:33 pm
Me, Im rather content on how I am right now. Im not completely comfortable in my own skin, but I for one dont think I ever will be. But hey, if you want to gain weight, go ahead, but be safe about it. And if you want to lose weight then go ahead I still wont think any less of you.
People who do not wish to be overweight should be part of the guild. This guild was originally a place for bigger people to openly discuss being big and be comfortable. Its a place for people to go and not feel like they are being judged. Its also a place for people who like bigger people. Neither of them should be excluded It doesn't matter if we love being overweight or if we want to lose, we all should be welcomed in this guild.
I have never tried to gain weight delibrately, but I would never try to stop someone who wanted to. If thats their choice then so be it, its no my place to stop them. Ide just hope that they were safe about it ^^
Personally, I intend on maintaining. But its not because im comfortable in my own skin really. Its just because people seem to like me the way I am. I dont want to get any bigger because its hard enough to find clothes I like lol, but I dont particulalrly feel like losing any right now. Im healthy, I have comfortable clothes, people like me, why would i want to change?
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Posted: Tue Jun 28, 2005 12:51 pm
I don't think it should matter.
I love who I am in all aspect except that occasionally I feel bad about my size (its not even a constant downing). I have joined becasue I am starting for feel more "sexy" just being married and all and I would like to be around otehr like me to help motivate me. Even though I have not talked a lot about my personal issues and problems I do really appreiciate this guild becasue just posting and knowing people like me and that love people like me are reading this helps me to feel better.
I KNOW I am unhealthy and the reason why I want to lose weight is beacsue I also know heavy women and miscarages run in my family and I just want to lose the weight before I have children. I don't think being plus meand your not pretty or unhealthy I just want to be healthier before becoming a mom. I came to this guild for motivation on feeling good about the me now. To help motivate me to love me no matter what size I am. Most of the big poeple I know in real life don't love themselves the way they are.
Out of all that I know I have the most confidance and I don't want to start feeling like them because I hang around them all the time. I just needed BBW suppport. I don't think that just joining another plus sized guild would help me.
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Posted: Thu Jun 30, 2005 7:44 am
Ya know, that thread i made that this was based off of was really just to see who enjoyed the concept of Gaining O.o.. gonk
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Posted: Thu Jun 30, 2005 8:32 am
Kawaii_Senpai I don't think it should matter. I love who I am in all aspect except that occasionally I feel bad about my size (its not even a constant downing). I have joined becasue I am starting for feel more "sexy" just being married and all and I would like to be around otehr like me to help motivate me. Even though I have not talked a lot about my personal issues and problems I do really appreiciate this guild becasue just posting and knowing people like me and that love people like me are reading this helps me to feel better. I KNOW I am unhealthy and the reason why I want to lose weight is beacsue I also know heavy women and miscarages run in my family and I just want to lose the weight before I have children. I don't think being plus meand your not pretty or unhealthy I just want to be healthier before becoming a mom. I came to this guild for motivation on feeling good about the me now. To help motivate me to love me no matter what size I am. Most of the big poeple I know in real life don't love themselves the way they are. Out of all that I know I have the most confidance and I don't want to start feeling like them because I hang around them all the time. I just needed BBW suppport. I don't think that just joining another plus sized guild would help me. Should I unjoin the guild? I don;t want to bring others down should I bring up weight loss.
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