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 Posted: Sat Jun 25, 2005 8:57 am
DetermindGopher well im bi, i guess you could say im still 'in the closet bi' though. The reason is because my best friend is homophobic slightly. Im ve trying to figure out how to tell her with out having her flip out on me, yea i know " If shes really your friend, your sexuality wont matter". The thing is, i dont think she notices that shes homophoobic, or at least doesnt ean to make homophobic comments. any ideas? hmmm, the best i can recommend is that you tell her that u really need to alk to her, and remind her about how long u 2 have been friends. Then slowly switch the topic to gay rights, sam sex marriage etc. then (assuming you can tell that she's comfortable talking about it) tell her, "well i'm bi" I dunno, i'm just an old fool, i'm sure others here have better advice.
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Posted: Sat Jun 25, 2005 1:24 pm
Spartan-42O DetermindGopher well im bi, i guess you could say im still 'in the closet bi' though. The reason is because my best friend is homophobic slightly. Im ve trying to figure out how to tell her with out having her flip out on me, yea i know " If shes really your friend, your sexuality wont matter". The thing is, i dont think she notices that shes homophoobic, or at least doesnt ean to make homophobic comments. any ideas? hmmm, the best i can recommend is that you tell her that u really need to alk to her, and remind her about how long u 2 have been friends. Then slowly switch the topic to gay rights, sam sex marriage etc. then (assuming you can tell that she's comfortable talking about it) tell her, "well i'm bi" I dunno, i'm just an old fool, i'm sure others here have better advice. Well im so much afraid of telling her as her looking at me differently. For about 2 years ive been experimenting with the idea and i told her about it and she kept asking me thinks like " do you have a crush on me?" and acting weird like me and her hug ALOT shes like my twin and last time i told her ablout it she stopped all pyshical contact with me. what ended up happening was i told her i was straight at the time thinking so but now i know for sure im bi, i just dont want her to look at me differently
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Posted: Sat Jun 25, 2005 11:10 pm
DetermindGopher Spartan-42O DetermindGopher well im bi, i guess you could say im still 'in the closet bi' though. The reason is because my best friend is homophobic slightly. Im ve trying to figure out how to tell her with out having her flip out on me, yea i know " If shes really your friend, your sexuality wont matter". The thing is, i dont think she notices that shes homophoobic, or at least doesnt ean to make homophobic comments. any ideas? hmmm, the best i can recommend is that you tell her that u really need to alk to her, and remind her about how long u 2 have been friends. Then slowly switch the topic to gay rights, sam sex marriage etc. then (assuming you can tell that she's comfortable talking about it) tell her, "well i'm bi" I dunno, i'm just an old fool, i'm sure others here have better advice. Well im so much afraid of telling her as her looking at me differently. For about 2 years ive been experimenting with the idea and i told her about it and she kept asking me thinks like " do you have a crush on me?" and acting weird like me and her hug ALOT shes like my twin and last time i told her ablout it she stopped all pyshical contact with me. what ended up happening was i told her i was straight at the time thinking so but now i know for sure im bi, i just dont want her to look at me differently aww... *hugs* well, you should have someone there for support.
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Posted: Fri Jul 01, 2005 11:13 pm
Damn it really died down here...hmmm.... *does cartwheel* hehehehehe....
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Posted: Sat Jul 02, 2005 12:06 am
Well, I have something that I feel like ranting about right now, even though it happened a long time ago. I just never really go to talk with anyone about it.
One of my best friends, who has been since about third grade, has always been homophobic. When I started coming out to my friends at school (she goes to a different one), I was debating whether or not I should tell her. Over the summer I finally decided to tell her the truth, because I hated that she was my closest friend and she was the only one of my friends that didn't know. I could never seem to find the right time to say it. The first time I was going to tell her, we were at my house taking quizzes on Quizzilla, and one of them was "What kind of girlfriend are you?" and he result said that she was most likely lesbian. She flipped out, and I couldn't bring myself to say it. Then, the next time, we were walking, and we started talking about gays in movies, and she said that she thought it was disgusting, and that it shouldn't be allowed to happen. The third time, I just forced myself to tell her. And she didn't react anywhere near as badly as I thought she would. She was actually pretty okay with it.
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Posted: Sat Jul 02, 2005 1:05 am
I'm bisexual, or possibly Bi-curious, im a bit unsure, because i've never had a b/f or g/f but, I still same I'm bi, anyways. I'm kinda open about it. I dont tell everyone, but, you could probably guess. xD
anyways uhh idunno what to write uh. . i guess ill post later. ja ne!
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Posted: Sat Jul 02, 2005 8:38 am
Spartan-42O DetermindGopher Spartan-42O DetermindGopher well im bi, i guess you could say im still 'in the closet bi' though. The reason is because my best friend is homophobic slightly. Im ve trying to figure out how to tell her with out having her flip out on me, yea i know " If shes really your friend, your sexuality wont matter". The thing is, i dont think she notices that shes homophoobic, or at least doesnt ean to make homophobic comments. any ideas? hmmm, the best i can recommend is that you tell her that u really need to alk to her, and remind her about how long u 2 have been friends. Then slowly switch the topic to gay rights, sam sex marriage etc. then (assuming you can tell that she's comfortable talking about it) tell her, "well i'm bi" I dunno, i'm just an old fool, i'm sure others here have better advice. Well im so much afraid of telling her as her looking at me differently. For about 2 years ive been experimenting with the idea and i told her about it and she kept asking me thinks like " do you have a crush on me?" and acting weird like me and her hug ALOT shes like my twin and last time i told her ablout it she stopped all pyshical contact with me. what ended up happening was i told her i was straight at the time thinking so but now i know for sure im bi, i just dont want her to look at me differently aww... *hugs* well, you should have someone there for support. heheh ~hugs~ thank you ^_^ sorry i didnt respond right away right now im on vacation so i havent been able to get on
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Posted: Sat Jul 02, 2005 10:29 am
Eh, i'm a little leery of posting this...
I'm just kind of afraid one of my friends might end up reading this, but, what the hell.
Well, um...i'm pretty certain i'm bi. I've known that I was for quite a while now, but, I was always denying it. I always told myself that it was just a phase, that these feelings would just disappear some day. Well, they haven't. So, now, i'm just trying to accept it. I mean, I can't change who I am, right? So, why worry about, why keep denying it? I shouldn't be ashamed of who I am.
Anyway, um, well, it's like this....besides just being bi, i'm kind of in love with one of my friends. Of course, I haven't told her, nobody, aside from one of my friends even knows that i'm bi. I'm afraid to tell them. It's not that they're homophobic or anything, it's just scary. I'm scared of what they'll say, if maybe they'll treat me differently once they know. I just really don't want that to happen.
The one friend that does know was totally cool about it. She told me it was "no big deal". Which gave me a ton of confidence, unfortunately, it hasn't been enough to tell my other friends, yet....
Anyway, I just thought i'd post this....
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Posted: Sat Jul 02, 2005 6:11 pm
phriedphishphan I guess at the moment I'm bi-curious. I'm currently dating a girl, who I've been dating for a very long time. But, over the past few months, I've become very fond of one of my gay male friends, and we've become very close. My situation is just very complicated right now. eek O.o Manage a trois anyone? lol jk, It's really up to you to make the choice; just make the choice that feels right to you.
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Posted: Sat Jul 02, 2005 6:14 pm
I don't think I've said this before, but I'm also bi. Thing is I have a female preference becasue I haven't met any guys who weren't complete jerks and that has kinda pushed me a bit away from there lol. So I guess that kinda puts me at Bi-curious I guess, cuz I've been physically attracted to a couple of guys.
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Posted: Sat Jul 02, 2005 6:56 pm
Freshpaint987 Eh, i'm a little leery of posting this... I'm just kind of afraid one of my friends might end up reading this, but, what the hell. Well, um...i'm pretty certain i'm bi. I've known that I was for quite a while now, but, I was always denying it. I always told myself that it was just a phase, that these feelings would just disappear some day. Well, they haven't. So, now, i'm just trying to accept it. I mean, I can't change who I am, right? So, why worry about, why keep denying it? I shouldn't be ashamed of who I am. Anyway, um, well, it's like this....besides just being bi, i'm kind of in love with one of my friends. Of course, I haven't told her, nobody, aside from one of my friends even knows that i'm bi. I'm afraid to tell them. It's not that they're homophobic or anything, it's just scary. I'm scared of what they'll say, if maybe they'll treat me differently once they know. I just really don't want that to happen. The one friend that does know was totally cool about it. She told me it was "no big deal". Which gave me a ton of confidence, unfortunately, it hasn't been enough to tell my other friends, yet.... Anyway, I just thought i'd post this.... ohh..hon... *gives you a big warm hug* it's ok, i understand how hard it can be sometimes. Just understand, if they really are your friends, they won't mind.
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Posted: Sat Jul 02, 2005 7:01 pm
I agree with Spartan, real friends won't care if you bi, straight, gay or whatever, if they have a problem with it then they aren't worth calling friends I think. just go for it with that in mind ^_^.
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Posted: Sat Jul 02, 2005 11:05 pm
Freshpaint987 Eh, i'm a little leery of posting this... I'm just kind of afraid one of my friends might end up reading this, but, what the hell. Well, um...i'm pretty certain i'm bi. I've known that I was for quite a while now, but, I was always denying it. I always told myself that it was just a phase, that these feelings would just disappear some day. Well, they haven't. So, now, i'm just trying to accept it. I mean, I can't change who I am, right? So, why worry about, why keep denying it? I shouldn't be ashamed of who I am. Anyway, um, well, it's like this....besides just being bi, i'm kind of in love with one of my friends. Of course, I haven't told her, nobody, aside from one of my friends even knows that i'm bi. I'm afraid to tell them. It's not that they're homophobic or anything, it's just scary. I'm scared of what they'll say, if maybe they'll treat me differently once they know. I just really don't want that to happen. The one friend that does know was totally cool about it. She told me it was "no big deal". Which gave me a ton of confidence, unfortunately, it hasn't been enough to tell my other friends, yet.... Anyway, I just thought i'd post this.... That's understandable. It's really scary for most people when they first start coming out. But it's my experience that most people (especially not pro-gay or neutral people) don't treat you any differently, unless it's they're giving you even more respect. You take all the time you need to tell your friends, though, don't worry about it too much.
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Posted: Sun Jul 03, 2005 5:38 pm
Spartan-42O Freshpaint987 Eh, i'm a little leery of posting this... I'm just kind of afraid one of my friends might end up reading this, but, what the hell. Well, um...i'm pretty certain i'm bi. I've known that I was for quite a while now, but, I was always denying it. I always told myself that it was just a phase, that these feelings would just disappear some day. Well, they haven't. So, now, i'm just trying to accept it. I mean, I can't change who I am, right? So, why worry about, why keep denying it? I shouldn't be ashamed of who I am. Anyway, um, well, it's like this....besides just being bi, i'm kind of in love with one of my friends. Of course, I haven't told her, nobody, aside from one of my friends even knows that i'm bi. I'm afraid to tell them. It's not that they're homophobic or anything, it's just scary. I'm scared of what they'll say, if maybe they'll treat me differently once they know. I just really don't want that to happen. The one friend that does know was totally cool about it. She told me it was "no big deal". Which gave me a ton of confidence, unfortunately, it hasn't been enough to tell my other friends, yet.... Anyway, I just thought i'd post this.... ohh..hon... *gives you a big warm hug* it's ok, i understand how hard it can be sometimes. Just understand, if they really are your friends, they won't mind. Thanks. And yeah, I know that. And, I'm sure they'll all be okay with it. But, it's just, like, taking that first plunge, I guess you'd say, that's going to be the hardest. I know that once I tell them, it'll just be such a big relief, it's just I can't seem to work up the nerve to tell them. I'm also not exactly sure how to start a conversation like that....
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Posted: Mon Jul 04, 2005 9:26 pm
Freshpaint987 Spartan-42O Freshpaint987 Eh, i'm a little leery of posting this... I'm just kind of afraid one of my friends might end up reading this, but, what the hell. Well, um...i'm pretty certain i'm bi. I've known that I was for quite a while now, but, I was always denying it. I always told myself that it was just a phase, that these feelings would just disappear some day. Well, they haven't. So, now, i'm just trying to accept it. I mean, I can't change who I am, right? So, why worry about, why keep denying it? I shouldn't be ashamed of who I am. Anyway, um, well, it's like this....besides just being bi, i'm kind of in love with one of my friends. Of course, I haven't told her, nobody, aside from one of my friends even knows that i'm bi. I'm afraid to tell them. It's not that they're homophobic or anything, it's just scary. I'm scared of what they'll say, if maybe they'll treat me differently once they know. I just really don't want that to happen. The one friend that does know was totally cool about it. She told me it was "no big deal". Which gave me a ton of confidence, unfortunately, it hasn't been enough to tell my other friends, yet.... Anyway, I just thought i'd post this.... ohh..hon... *gives you a big warm hug* it's ok, i understand how hard it can be sometimes. Just understand, if they really are your friends, they won't mind. Thanks. And yeah, I know that. And, I'm sure they'll all be okay with it. But, it's just, like, taking that first plunge, I guess you'd say, that's going to be the hardest. I know that once I tell them, it'll just be such a big relief, it's just I can't seem to work up the nerve to tell them. I'm also not exactly sure how to start a conversation like that.... just follow your heart, everyting else will just get in your way.
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