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They always say we're making big advances, but people still seem to be scared. I probably can't even fathom the number of straight couples happily dragging each other places, hands firmly pressed together, or kissing in public. I have yet to see a single gay couple in the street kissing casually, outside of gay-themed events or the straight guys doing it as a prank.

Are we overly-sensitive to reactions to PDAs, or is it some sort of reaction to portray an image of self control?

i always thought that was stupid. i mean, why is okay for two girls to show their love but not two guys?

stupid double standard stressed

I don't think you're totally off base, but I've found that most people have trouble believing that intense emotional/physical connection can exist between two (or more) people without it having a sexual attribute -- even between girls. When in middle school everyone started treating me not only as the weirdo I've always been, but also as some sort of dangerous or unholy figure, I didn't know what the ******** was going on. I found out years later that nearly everyone (and I mean everyone -- my mother included) thought I was having sexual liaisons with a good friend of mine at the time. Why? I'm a very physically affectionate person. I like hugging. I like snuggling. I have a tendency to use people as pillows or to touch someone on the leg or arm as a sign of compassion. And I get very excited and smiley when I see someone I have affectionate feelings for. But I never even -- this was years before I even thought I might be bi, and I rarely think of my friends in sexual terms at all. I just find the whole situation intensely irritating.

Yes! Okay, now I shall bound back amongst the mists of obscurity.

Yes, you are all having orgies, damnit! Orgies! You just...don't remember!

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(Um...sorry for the craziness -- I've been up all night trying to write a paper, and....brain...is...fried...)

I don't see how you could kiss friends. confused

Why would you kiss friends? That's stupid. I can't even hug a friend without feeling uncomfortable about it.

But then again, my bases are "screwed up". Where kissing is first base for a lot of people, hugging is my first base. 2nd base is holding hands, third base is kissing.

And sex, well, there is no fourth base, so I guess sex would be a "Home run", but I'm not that into actually doing sex with anyone.

Whatever. I just see people who's bases arent mine as premiscious idiots. =\

(I'm still on vacation. It just so happened that school had internet... And I like procrastinating. This weekend, though... -shakes fist-

I kiss my friends. Not on the mouth, generally, but on the cheek or shoulder (or the hand or leg or anywhere else that's handy. Why? Because I like them. And I'm affectionate person. It's not "bases" because it's not sexual for me at all. I mean, I snuggle and romp with my dogs and kiss their cute, soft heads -- it doesn't mean I'm in love with them. I kiss my parents. I cuddle with my siblings. Etc. I know everyone's not like that and if someone tells me to stop, I will. In a heartbeat. It's not about making other people uncomfortable -- that's the last thing I'd want to do.

But hugs are so nice.

I don't kiss my friends on the lips, on the cheeck, and, and I typically bite the shoulder from in front or behind, some arms wrists and hands too sometimes...