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 Posted: Tue May 24, 2005 7:59 pm
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Posted: Tue May 24, 2005 8:20 pm
Everything else remaining the same, no, I would definitely not choose to be a lesbian. Obviously, I don't see anything wrong with it, but I know how difficult it is.
But I'm not, I'm bi. Would I choose to be bi? I'm tempted to say no, but it's not as obvious an answer as choosing to be a lesbian. While some gay/lesbian people will say that I can just act straight, that's not quite true. I could try to deny any attraction to women, but I'd be lying to myself and covering up something that I feel very strongly should not be necessary to cover up. I kind of like not caring about someone's gender as far as sexual attraction goes, and I can't imagine suddenly not being attracted to someone were I to find out they're not the gender I thought they were. I like the doubled potential-partner pool whee but it's obvious based only on the list of partners I've had that it's a hell of a lot easier to find MWLW than it is to find WWLW.
I guess the dilemma here is that though in this society it's easier to be straight, all of us would prefer to live in a society where your sexual orientation doesn't matter. And working towards such a society is a lot easier and healthier than trying to deny or even change your sexual orientation.
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Posted: Tue May 24, 2005 8:36 pm
La Veuve Zin Everything else remaining the same, no, I would definitely not choose to be a lesbian. Obviously, I don't see anything wrong with it, but I know how difficult it is. But I'm not, I'm bi. Would I choose to be bi? I'm tempted to say no, but it's not as obvious an answer as choosing to be a lesbian. While some gay/lesbian people will say that I can just act straight, that's not quite true. I could try to deny any attraction to women, but I'd be lying to myself and covering up something that I feel very strongly should not be necessary to cover up. I kind of like not caring about someone's gender as far as sexual attraction goes, and I can't imagine suddenly not being attracted to someone were I to find out they're not the gender I thought they were. I like the doubled potential-partner pool whee but it's obvious based only on the list of partners I've had that it's a hell of a lot easier to find MWLW than it is to find WWLW. I guess the dilemma here is that though in this society it's easier to be straight, all of us would prefer to live in a society where your sexual orientation doesn't matter. And working towards such a society is a lot easier and healthier than trying to deny or even change your sexual orientation. Amen
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Posted: Thu May 26, 2005 4:21 am
Honestly I have no idea ... Im bisexual and sometimes Im glad I like guys and girls sometimes I just want to like guys sometimes I just want to like girls ... But I doubt any str8 guy will want to be gay cause they are sexists ... so I have no idea would I choose to be gay ...
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Posted: Sun May 29, 2005 7:14 pm
I think I would, I know what the complications are thoug, I go through them all the time but still... i don't think I would trade it in to be straight, being with someone of the same sex helps us understand one another on a personal level. I dunno, I think I would find it harder to be with a guy and open up to them as I did with my girlfriend. I like my life though so I can't complain, I like being gay lol so I find no problems and I do not want to be not gay, I don't want to be totally straight... exclaim exclaim
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Posted: Sun May 29, 2005 8:10 pm
Heero-perfectsolider-yuy I think I would, I know what the complications are thoug, I go through them all the time but still... i don't think I would trade it in to be straight, being with someone of the same sex helps us understand one another on a personal level. I dunno, I think I would find it harder to be with a guy and open up to them as I did with my girlfriend. I like my life though so I can't complain, I like being gay lol so I find no problems and I do not want to be not gay, I don't want to be totally straight... exclaim exclaim I dont think having the same sex helps you to understand each other on a personal level... thats completely an individual basis and I believe its very similar between men and women as it is between two women or two men... I may be a girl... but to be honest I relate much much more to men than I do to women. Actually... heh... I may be digging myself a little hole here... but our whole universe is based off of yin and yang... black and white, men and women... In relationships its often very similar... two similar personalities can clash... I think sometimes lesbians have it tougher in relationships... two people with estrogen pumping gallore, just wanting to kill each other... lol, that can be a lot rougher than just one person with estrogen gallore... Sometimes, not always... but yeah, the point being... just because you're both women, doesnt mean you relate any easier... When it comes down to it, its a person relating to another person...
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Posted: Sun May 29, 2005 9:17 pm
Heero-perfectsolider-yuy I think I would, I know what the complications are thoug, I go through them all the time but still... i don't think I would trade it in to be straight, being with someone of the same sex helps us understand one another on a personal level. I dunno, I think I would find it harder to be with a guy and open up to them as I did with my girlfriend. I like my life though so I can't complain, I like being gay lol so I find no problems and I do not want to be not gay, I don't want to be totally straight... exclaim exclaim I agree ...
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Posted: Sun May 29, 2005 9:59 pm
Im bisexual, but I would really choose to be straight is I could be. Because so many people hate people who are, bi, gay, les, ect.....
But I cant not be bisexual, if anyone understands that. XP
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Posted: Mon May 30, 2005 2:52 am
if i could choose i would choose to be bi, it just seems so much easier, im a lesbian, and i found that people would be more accepting for some unknown reason. of course i wouldn't want to be straight cos that not how i see my self
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Posted: Mon May 30, 2005 9:06 am
Don't flame me, just hear me out.
In a way, I did choose to be a lesbian, but only by virtue of the word.
Technically, I could live my life as a straight woman. I could marry and have children and be socially acceptable (although I must say, the gay community is making considerable headway with social acceptance).
I could choose to deny myself. I chose to be true to my feelings. I choose not to deny who I'm attracted to. The label, the lifestyle, these were things I accepted to feel true to who I am.
For the sake of arguing with me, you may say "omg but denying yourself isn't a choice you must be true to yourself!" No, you don't. I think we don't have to hide our attractions anymore, but we most certainly could. It was too dangerous for us in the past, as someone previously stated, to be gay.
Don't misunderstand what I mean by choice. I think gays, lesbians, and bisexuals are predispositioned to be attracted to their gender. Some of us have stonger tendencies than others. My view stems from neurological research done on our brains that shows an abnormality in one of our brain structures. A spot of some sort that's a different size than that of heterosexuals. Of course there's a trove of other studies to look up on, but that was the first study I'd familiarized myself with. I also agree with Kinsey's 0 to 6 scale of sexual attraction. Look it up, it's very interesting.
On the topic of marriage, I don't care for it. All I want is for Civil Unions to have the same rights as a marriage. I don't feel the need to be coupled in the eyes of God through a religious practice. The religious zealots can stop screaming about defiled marriages so I can have some peace. (This is not a personal attack on religious gays who wish to marry, just a personal indifference that I'm sharing)
Furthermore, though I greatly appreciate what the activists and the movements have done for laws and acceptance for gays, I stay out of such things myself. Though I am completely out to family and friends and anyone who cares to know, I show no signs of gay pride and I do not march. It's not in my character and I don't want my sexuality to run my life. I am an artist and a musician that happens to be a lesbian, not vice versa. That's not actually relevant to anything, but since this comment is getting so long, what's another paragraph?
My girlfriend and I would like to adopt someday. So many children don't have homes already. Granted, there would have to be gay adoption laws in place. Go, activists, go. <3
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Posted: Mon May 30, 2005 12:44 pm
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Posted: Mon May 30, 2005 12:48 pm
My ma was fine with it she does not care. biggrin
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Posted: Mon May 30, 2005 1:06 pm
..... *having some posting issues*
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Posted: Mon May 30, 2005 1:12 pm
im lez and if i had the choice i stsy this way, i like how i am biggrin
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Posted: Mon May 30, 2005 1:34 pm
Leyndrasha In a way, I did choose to be a lesbian, but only by virtue of the word. Better way to put this: No you DIDNT choose to be a lesbian, you are a lesbian, but you did choose to live your lesbian lifestyle. Ok... I'm going to have my activist moment here... This is geared towards everyone, not just you Leyndrasha. I dont think any of us want to be defined firstly by our sexuality... however that is the world we live in today. We cannot choose what other's will label us as, and I think it's a bad idea to not have gay pride just because you dont want to be seen first and foremost as a lesbian or gay man. We are in the middle of our equality movement... it is so important that we are all out there showing our pride, marching... You dont have to make it your whole life, thats for the activists, but every day when you come home to your girlfriend... being a lesbian IS your life... and I'm sure (or I hope) its just as important a piece of you as is being an artist and a musician. I dont want to be seen as a lesbian actress who listens to punk music and plays rugby but you know, some people are just going to view me that way, that is our world today and I cannot help that... however I'm fighting to change that... But until we are equal and mainstream lesbian will be a word that many will define me as first and foremost... It is so important that we are out, even if it means just a little rainbow sticker on your car, because the more people riding around with them on their car, the more people realize that gays are everywhere... not just in drag shows on the Vegas strip and at construction sites. Could you imagine if every gay person in America had a rainbow sticker on the back of their car in the center of the window... could you imagine the impact that would have if a straight person was driving down the street and looked around and saw five cars around him with those stickers...? People are still having to realize that we're everywhere, and that we are a huge part of the population, that we are your doctors and musicians and teachers and chefs... We have to have a much louder voice for the government and America to hear us... they've noticed us shouting in the background a couple times, like with San Francisco, and Massachusetts, but we're still not loud enough... I do a lot but I'm one person... when the African American's (who... unfornately for them couldn't hide the fact that they were black, obviously) fought... they came out in a million man march... thats a loud voice... No, I dont want to be defined as a lesbian... but I'm not going to pretend like its not there... I join my fellow gays at gay parades... I vote, and for the love of all that is rainbow if you do nothing else, PLEASE vote or these anti gay legislations will keep passing. But I mean... on the back of my car I have rugby stickers, theatre stickers, punk band stickers... its only fitting that I have gay stickers amongst that... With every gay sticker thats displayed, and every gay t-shirt thats worn we get louder... You dont have to make your whole life about being gay... but just have some gay pride... I know it doesnt seem important but it is... and people will define you by your sexuality, but that will change... thats why its important that you show your pride now... now is the time, because later it wont matter anymore that your gay... and people who even see your rainbow stickers, wont see you as a lesbian artist and musician but a musican and artist who is also a lesbian. Anywho, lol I'll stop preaching now...
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