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 Posted: Fri Sep 08, 2006 2:37 pm
kittylin Silriel Have you tried talking with the girl?
exclaim We have a winner! exclaim Seriously. Even though communication doesn't always end the way we'd like it to, at least it ends.We're such chickens as human beings (That's awfully positive), trying to prolong these inevidable conversations that will get us answers, because we're so afraid they're not the answers we want, so we do everything we can concieve of to get around it somehow to make sure we only get the answers we want. But all that will do is complicate things and draw out the terrible suspense. And probably muck up a chance you had at the answer you wanted to begin with. Just talk with her, be as open minded and honest as possible. Are you truly concerned about her going on this double date with her parents there, or are you just concerned about it because it's not fair you didn't get to go with her instead? He heh... sweatdrop Before you know how to be honest with others, you have to learn to be honest with yourself. What is it you really want to accomplish by having this conversation? Do you want to simply let her know your feelings for her, (and likely that you're willing to wait on that until you're both 16?) That's true. I'm a coward anyway. redface Do you really think this guy might have less than honorable intentions, Maybe. and you want to do your best just to warn her, as her friend? Make sure you have all these thoughts organized in your mind, refresh yourself of your own intentions, and then, I'm sorry, but you're just gonna have to be completely honest with her. Don't say such horrible things! gonk
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Posted: Fri Sep 08, 2006 2:46 pm
I guess that one of my main problems is the fact that she isn't very open about her feelings as far as I have seen. She refuses to comment on what she thinks about this other guy, but she goes on a lot more stuff with him than with me. And it is not because he asked. I don't know. I guess I can just think happy thoughts until I turn sixteen.
I also have a few reasons that I don't talk to her a lot.
1. We don't go to the same school.
2. I rarely sit with her at anything. (The main reason for this is that the other guy counts seats and makes sure he sits by her.)
3. Anytime we go anywhere in a car, she falls asleep.
I guess that I will just have to wait and see what the remainder of this final year is like. The deep breath before the plunge. /gandalf . Maybe it will all just blow up in his face.
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Posted: Fri Sep 08, 2006 3:48 pm
wow...i didn't think the NO dating until age 16 rule could be interpreted. reading here, apparently it "can".
The prophet said NO dating until 16. that means NONE. not even GROUP.
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Posted: Fri Sep 08, 2006 10:49 pm
Maki Minakoaino wow...i didn't think the NO dating until age 16 rule could be interpreted. reading here, apparently it "can". The prophet said NO dating until 16. that means NONE. not even GROUP. [/rant] But where does that leave hanging out with a group of friends? No need to be paired off or anything, no need to have even numbers, just a bunch of good friends? Because I can see how that is both completely different, and in some cases, a little too close. Riffe! I want to commend you! I know I was a little harsh in my last post, but you still considered it all honestly and didn't just get defensive like most people would. I'll tell you what a guy said to me once; He confessed that he loved me, but aknowledged that he could only really hope to be my friend, and he didn't intend to pressure me into any kind of relationship I wasn't willing to be a part of. The truth was, I already liked him, and for a little while I didn't tell him. But when I did, we had a very important, very special relationship that lasted nearly four years. He's not my husband, if only because he's not LDS, and I count myself extravagantly blessed that my husband is every bit as sweet and kind and patient and understanding as he was. And on top of that, I sleep safe at night knowing my husband is worthy of his priesthood. Even if things don't work out with this girl, trust in the Lord, be a little patient, do your best, and He will bless you.
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Posted: Sat Sep 09, 2006 8:35 am
kittylin Maki Minakoaino wow...i didn't think the NO dating until age 16 rule could be interpreted. reading here, apparently it "can". The prophet said NO dating until 16. that means NONE. not even GROUP. [/rant] But where does that leave hanging out with a group of friends? No need to be paired off or anything, no need to have even numbers, just a bunch of good friends? Because I can see how that is both completely different, and in some cases, a little too close. Riffe! I want to commend you! I know I was a little harsh in my last post, but you still considered it all honestly and didn't just get defensive like most people would. I'll tell you what a guy said to me once; He confessed that he loved me, but aknowledged that he could only really hope to be my friend, and he didn't intend to pressure me into any kind of relationship I wasn't willing to be a part of. The truth was, I already liked him, and for a little while I didn't tell him. But when I did, we had a very important, very special relationship that lasted nearly four years. He's not my husband, if only because he's not LDS, and I count myself extravagantly blessed that my husband is every bit as sweet and kind and patient and understanding as he was. And on top of that, I sleep safe at night knowing my husband is worthy of his priesthood. Even if things don't work out with this girl, trust in the Lord, be a little patient, do your best, and He will bless you. no group dates. there's a difference between dating and being with friends.--even 14 year olds can dance with the opposite sex, right?
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Posted: Sat Sep 09, 2006 8:52 am
Maki Minakoaino kittylin Maki Minakoaino wow...i didn't think the NO dating until age 16 rule could be interpreted. reading here, apparently it "can". The prophet said NO dating until 16. that means NONE. not even GROUP. [/rant] But where does that leave hanging out with a group of friends? No need to be paired off or anything, no need to have even numbers, just a bunch of good friends? Because I can see how that is both completely different, and in some cases, a little too close. Riffe! I want to commend you! I know I was a little harsh in my last post, but you still considered it all honestly and didn't just get defensive like most people would. I'll tell you what a guy said to me once; He confessed that he loved me, but aknowledged that he could only really hope to be my friend, and he didn't intend to pressure me into any kind of relationship I wasn't willing to be a part of. The truth was, I already liked him, and for a little while I didn't tell him. But when I did, we had a very important, very special relationship that lasted nearly four years. He's not my husband, if only because he's not LDS, and I count myself extravagantly blessed that my husband is every bit as sweet and kind and patient and understanding as he was. And on top of that, I sleep safe at night knowing my husband is worthy of his priesthood. Even if things don't work out with this girl, trust in the Lord, be a little patient, do your best, and He will bless you. no group dates. there's a difference between dating and being with friends.--even 14 year olds can dance with the opposite sex, right? I think so but no pairing off as previously said. No "close", or "dirty" dancing, none of that but if you said hey wanna dance then it is all good! But no saying hay you and me wanna get a drink go sit on the couch and then maybe dance. I hang out with friends that are girls but never even pair off or anything, I just say hay wanna come over and invite several friends boys and girls. (Sorry I kinda went off topic) I am with the oppisite sex more then with my own! That is because girls are nicer at a middle school level. I don't date them or pair off with anyone so it is all good. At least i think so xp
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Posted: Sat Sep 09, 2006 7:45 pm
Hanging out with a group of friends is not dating.
Quoting For the Strength of Youth:
"Do not date until you are at least 16 years old. Dating before then can lead to immorality, limit the number of other young people you meet, and deprive you of experiences that will help you choose an eternal partner."
That's pretty much all of the regulations it says, I think that the rest (Single dating, etc. Is up to interpretation.
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Posted: Sat Sep 09, 2006 8:14 pm
Itesa As far as I know, the "no dating before 16" rule is a "no one-on-one dating before 16" rule. Meaning that at your age, you could double or group date. I suggest talking with your parents about the rule and how they interpret it. Actually, you are supposed to start group dating at 16 too, sorry... sweatdrop
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Posted: Sat Sep 09, 2006 8:16 pm
My parents say if you like someone in the group alot, it's a date..
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Posted: Sat Sep 09, 2006 9:20 pm
Emmalyn Rose My parents say if you like someone in the group alot, it's a date.. but what if he or she doesn't like you? what if you like two of them?
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Posted: Mon Sep 11, 2006 2:45 pm
Emmalyn Rose My parents say if you like someone in the group alot, it's a date.. That's why it's called a group date. kittylin but what if he or she doesn't like you? what if you like two of them? 1. emo 2. Gives new meaning to the phrase double date, huh?
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Posted: Tue Sep 12, 2006 11:15 am
Emmalyn Rose Itesa As far as I know, the "no dating before 16" rule is a "no one-on-one dating before 16" rule. Meaning that at your age, you could double or group date. I suggest talking with your parents about the rule and how they interpret it. Actually, you are supposed to start group dating at 16 too, sorry... sweatdrop I was simply explaining it as I had been taught it by my mother. Before most of you were born, probably. Blah.
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Posted: Tue Sep 12, 2006 2:22 pm
Judging by your profile, you were told when to date before we were born, but we were born before you will be born and thus a space-time-continium destroying wormhole is created and we will all surely die.
Thanks a lot.
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Posted: Thu Sep 14, 2006 2:16 pm
New question, this one is more specific.
There is a youth dance this Saturday, which is as I said, the main time that I ever get to spend time with her. What would be a good way to see if she likes me or maybe hint that I like her without being very blunt or obvious?
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