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 Posted: Sat Apr 28, 2007 12:45 pm
I have only been a stay at home mom for a few months now. With my first 2 kids I was a single parent with full time jobs and a mother that wanted to watch my kids so I could go out with friends. I am 40 now and starting all over with an adopted baby. My husband drives truck over the road and is only home every other weekend. I do get together with my sister and some friends, but that averages less than once a week. I am not one to give advice on what to do if you are in need of the adult conversation, because at this point, I am not needing it that bad... BUT... my sister is a stay at home/home school mom of 4... she is always in need of adults and she is very outgoing. She organizes neighborhood activities, she is part of play groups and home school groups, she has her kids in 4H and other activities, etc... she has made many friends threw her kids and that works for her. Just having your kid(s) outside playing is an open invitation for someone in your neighborhood to stop by and say "HI". Take a walk with your kid(s) and see who has their kids out, they probibly wouldn't mind someone stopping and saying "HI" also.
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Posted: Mon Apr 30, 2007 1:12 am
Mom: Yeah, things are going better now that Hubby has a day job. 3nodding
In fact I've been online a lot less even becaue there are so many more things that I want to and can do.
frost-bitten-fairy: That's great! At first the hours didn't bother me so much, but I think part of it was the fact that it was coupled with living in a basement apartment. Not much daylight/sunshine between the hours and the living space.
Lil-Jo: Your sister sounds like an amazing lady!
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Posted: Fri May 04, 2007 7:19 pm
Jenannen
Lil-Jo: Your sister sounds like an amazing lady!Yea, she has a lot going on and seems to keep it together very well. Plus she has a big range of ages with her kids, 4, 6, 10, 15... and to me that would be very hard to fit together with home schooling. Her 4 year old is amaxing, at 2 she could say her A B C's, not just sing them. She just turned 4 in April and she asked me to spell Chucky Cheese today and as I spelled it she wrote it down with no hesitation on how to write the letters (and none of them were wrong or backwards).
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Posted: Fri May 11, 2007 12:59 pm
She's home schooling too? Wow!
I love my girls, but I look forward to getting little breaks from them. *giggles*
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Posted: Sat May 12, 2007 7:39 am
I agree...
Nothing against home school moms, but that is not for me. I believe that even if the school system has faults they do a lot of good for the kids. My sister's kids miss out on a lot, friends, and the fact that my sister never finished school and her oldest (almost 15) is a lot smarter than her already... He could gain a lot from teachers that are a lot more knowledgeable than my sister is. It's a good thing she uses a lot of the outside resources that are available to home schoolers.
My 21 year old would have been fine home schooled, he could have used a lot of one on one and he was not one to need a lot of friends. He would have missed out on band, and that was his strong point in school... My 18 year old had huge amounts of friends, and needed constant constant contact with them, she would have been miserable home schooled. She excells in arts. She won first and second prize in the art contest in school which gives her an art scholorship. We are having her grad party next month and she will have her art (clay, drawings, paintings, 3D paintings, etc...) displayed at her party. I am very proud of her. With our baby I plan to have her attend school like my other two... unless the schoo system falls apart in the next 4 years confused .
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Posted: Wed Jun 06, 2007 8:34 am
Well, I'm a lonely stay-at-home-mom.. And I'm here in Germany, don't speak the language too well (not enough to have any sort of stimulating, relaxed conversation with anyone who doesn't speak fluent English). I am pretty isolated.. I think I've kind of given up on social interaction.
I haven't managed to really make any friends; my husband's friends don't really have many of my interests (most of them are divorced and are total bachelours, trying to make up for the time they lost to their bad marriages; and they drink, smoke, play video games). Really not much of an environment for a pregnant woman like me who doesn't smoke, doesn't have any real interest in girls, doesn't drink, and rarely has time for video games. And, of course, doesn't speak much German.
To be honest, when I'm with my husband's friends, I'm often more lonely and bored than when I'm sitting home alone with my daughter.
And I simply don't seem to have the social skills to make my own friends. I dunno what it is, but something just doesn't seem to 'click' with the women I meet here and I don't seem to be able to get myself to persue it.
I can't say I'm staying sane, either, though. But the computer and parenting communities, my friends on LJ, and the few times I manage to get ahold of my mom on the phone are about all I have. Oh yes, and books, when I have any quiet time to read.. which rarely happens.
I don't even watch TV or movies, since we don't have a TV - we occasionally watch DVD's on the computer, or we watch movies at our friend/neighbour's. (We're in an apartment, he's just in the next door over/down.)
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Posted: Thu Jun 14, 2007 1:07 pm
*huggles* Congratulations. I didn't know you were expecting number two.
I have a hard enough time here speaking english and all. I really admire that you were able to move there to be with your sweet heart. I wish I could offer up some advice, but I don't know what to say.
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