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Me: June 23, 1983
Him: August 19, 1983

Notes: We get along pretty well, though sometimes I get randomly snappy for no reason (I don't think this is a sign incompatability as much as hormone shifts), we're engaged and have a little one together. n.n

Me: September 13th - Virgo
Him: June 22nd - he's like a Cancer very much even though he's on the cusp

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Me: September 13th - Virgo
Him: June 22nd - he's like a Cancer very much even though he's on the cusp

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Both of you are inclined to mood changes that, at times, can irritate each other. For example, Cancer experiences periods of melancholy, tenderness, concern, worry, nostalgia and sentimentality, which Virgo may not understand or sympathise with. Virgo can suddenly become irritated and irascible over minor annoyances, and at such times, is capable of intense sarcasm and criticism, which can be extremely disconcerting to Cancer's tender, sensitive feelings. Virgo must be prudent, and Cancer must strive to be forgiving when things to a little awry. However, you are both capable of enormous devotion to one another (and to your children if you have them), and taking care of one another comes naturally to you.

Both of you have the emotional habits of worry, anxiety, and over-concern about loved ones or life in general. You are both caring and supportive, but you express this in different ways. Cancer is more emotional, compassionate and tender, and appears more sympathetic than Virgo, who wants to help but may seem unemotional and critical at the same time. Virgo's support is often shown by doing something practical, taking care of something concrete and tangible (running errands, doing the shopping, take care of business, etc.) while Cancer empathises with others' feelings and personal experiences far more easily.

Virgo is fastidious and particular about food, health, and personal habits, and can be very fussy about order, tidiness, cleanliness, proper behaviour, etc., which makes Virgo difficult to life with sometimes. Irritability over others' inefficiency, lack of punctuality, or sloppiness is also a habit of Virgo's. Virgo's perfectionism is also turned inward as well, so that Virgo may feel inadequate or that accomplishments are "never enough". Learning self-acceptance, self-love, and relaxation are important for Virgo's well-being, and Cancer can contribute significantly to this because Cancer is more accepting and non-judgmental than Virgo is. Cancer, on the other hand, has a lot of emotional ups and downs and appreciates Virgo's quiet devotion and faithfulness.

Virgo is often critical and coldly analytical of Cancer's ideas, and Cancer is likely to feel belittled by Virgo. If both of you are able to offer criticisms and comments with a helpful, positive attitude, then this astrological influence need not be overwhelming, but the tendency to feel blocked and frustrated in your communications is very strong. You must make sincere efforts to listen receptively and sympathetically!

Virgo is fascinated, intrigued, and sometimes even mesmerised by Cancer's inner qualities. You draw out each other's deepest, hidden feelings, drives, needs, and ambitions. The uncovering of your inner needs and hopes is likely to cause both of you to undergo some major personality changes as a result of this relationship. You share a deep, inner bond; this is not a light or superficial relationship!

Together the two of you have good instincts regarding investments, planning for the future, and awareness of the long-term effects of your actions. This is a boon and bodes well for the longevity of your relationship. Though not very glamorous, perhaps one of the greatest assets you have as a couple is your ability to simply wait out bad times, and to maintain realistic hope in the face of your problems.

You work well together on the level of practical, mundane affairs and could function very well as business partners. When you blend your energies, financial matters, investments, and plans for future security tend to work out quite well. Because you are able to cooperate to be faithful to your shared aims and goals, you make a successful team.

Romantic illusions and fantasies, erotic imagination and dreams of perfect Love all play a crucial role in your relationship. To avoid being severely disappointed and disillusioned, it would be good to recognise from the start that your partner is not a Goddess or God, is not meant to rescue or save you from your problems, and is, in fact, a lot less perfect than you believe! More likely possibilities, such as pretending to be something that you are not, or trying to rescue your partner from his or her own predicaments, can be equally trouble-producing. Either or both of you are apt to feel you were seduced or lured into the relationship under false pretences, but probably you simply fooled yourselves!

If you are willing to accept the less than beautiful and ideal aspects of one another, an authentic relationship based on compassion as well as eroticism can evolve. If you can't do this, the more tragic implications of the phrase "love is blind" will certainly become clear to you both in time.

The two of you really enjoy each other's company! Cancer has a great deal of confidence in Virgo and is able to see Virgo's best qualities. You are very encouraging and supportive of each other, helping each other to be more confident, open new doors, and advance and grow in both inner and outer ways. This positive note of good will and harmony is also invaluable in helping the two of you overcome differences in temperament and other stressful aspects of your relationship discussed elsewhere in this report.