Ms Jo
' How would you feel if mommy was pregnant? ' He didn't say anything for the longest time, then he actually teared up. " I don't want a baby brother or sister... " he whispered, " If we had one...I wouldn't be loved anymore. I felt so bad! Darien hardly ever cries and when he does I know it's something bad. Naturally I told him that he'd always be loved and I asked him why he thought that he wouldn't be. He said that one of his friends was a middle child and never got any attention. I told him it was a load of hoo-ha and that if he didn't get any attention it was because he was lying to my baby!
Children are very resilient. But they are also great observers and do not always interpret in light of their own situations. It is like telling the 3 year old toddler if she/he runs into the street they WILL get hit by a car - what if they or a friend do 90 times and don't. We need to teach them MAY and that things cycle - you MAY be busy with a new baby - but you will ALWAYS love him. He is YOURS and nothing changes that. You will need him and his love and humor even more with a new baby. Just like us, they need to feel secure and needed.
Very nice. I had to talk to him again today because apparently he refused to take home an egg baby in home ec. class. What I don't get is why were my girls so mature by 12 and he still acts like a 7 year old?
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