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 Posted: Sat Jul 22, 2006 1:36 pm
Hehe, you could always watch the Da Vinci Code, and ask her what she thinks of the pagans... though not really the best pagan movie... best pagan movie I have ever seen was the Wicker Man, but the people end up killing some one, so that might not be good... umm every talk to her about religion on a general subject, and feel her out. Tell her you are cerious about other faiths and see how she reacts.
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Posted: Mon Aug 07, 2006 4:30 pm
I would just wait until your out of the house.But thats just my opinion.And Thats what I'm doing right now. xd
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Posted: Wed Aug 09, 2006 7:34 am
~good clean fun~ i really think it would be better not to tell her so soon, especially if you are having doubts. When you truly think the time is right you will tell her. Also, since you have not been studying very long, you might possibly change your mind about your religion (not saying you are) but i didnt tell my dad for about 3 or 4 years after i started practicing. When you do tell her, it will take a lot off your shoulders about not telling her because at least she will know. She might not talke it okay but she might possibly accept it. Tell her some silly rules like " i won't kill any animals in the process" or "i wont catch the house on fire" and allow her to make some rules for you, but like i said, i f you dont feel comfortable dont do it. Maybe you could start by asking her how she feels about non-christian religions. Maybe telling her would be the right thing but maybe not. Just give it some more thought. Yeah, that's true. If you don't feel comfortable coming out of the "broom" closet with your family, you don't have to. My family doesn't know, and quite frankly, I don't plan on telling them until I move out of their house.
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Posted: Wed Aug 09, 2006 6:27 pm
Me and my sister are both interested in Wicca and my mom knows. My mom isn't religous at all and when we were explaining wicca to her she really didn't care all that much. My dad would probably flip though. My moms boyfriend thinks it's all "Devil worshiping" but his thought doesn't on the subject anyway.
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Posted: Thu Aug 17, 2006 3:31 am
my personal opinion here...the second ur 18, ur parents cant say anything about ur religion choices, and if they try to keep u from being u, as painful as it is, they have no right to be part of your life. The path to enlightenment and the path that provides the least stress-filled life is paved by removing those who cant let you be yourself. My family is jewish. My parents used to make me go to the synegogue all the time (and yes...i know that probably isnt spelled right). ANYWAY....after i turned 17...(because ive been asserting my own religious independence) ive refused to go to the friday night services and i only go to new year services.
I havent personally told them that i have chosen wicca, but considering ive had my parents buy me all my magick-related books and my tarot cards, i believe they get the idea.
Getting your friends to encourage and be comfortable with your religion choice is a good first step. This will help in the eventual break to the family. (Ive even got my friends to buy me crystals for my circle casting supplies when they go on vacation. ) Let them be comfortable with you, and when you feel accepted, it helps you accept yourself. But dont ever let them affect the way you feel in a negative way. If they help you feel accepted, it should only be a comforting way because this will let you know that these people should be true friends. (as ive learned from experience, those friends who have accepted my choice of wicca have remained my friends for years and have never betrayed my trust while those who didnt, well...did.)
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Posted: Mon Aug 28, 2006 12:13 pm
Coming out of the broom closet was really hell for me. My dad thinks wiccans worship Satan, and I'm just like yeah whatever, because it was really late and I was too tired to argue. He also said that he wasn't going to stand by while I get into this, but I don't know what he can do, since I'm 18 and considered an adult.
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Posted: Mon Jan 22, 2007 2:08 pm
blackgold Yeah, I haven't been very active. But...I've been worried about what were to happen if my family saw me in this guild. But, I've been studying Wicca for maybe a year now, but I can't say I've really..."learned anything." For all it seems I may have only studied for a month! But I keep telling myself, "I'll tell my mom tonight. I'll finally tell her." But the problem is...I've told myself that for at least 3 months. I can't work up courage. And whenever I'm about to say it, either I choke about it and shut up, or she says something that makes me re-think. I've already told my oldest brother. And he took it really well, but he's the major catholic in my family. ((My dad and younger brother are Presbetarian*sp?* so is my step family and I don't know what my mom is.)) And the odd thing is, I have gotten a dream where I told my mom, and, though she's shocked, is ok with it. And also, her boyfriend is atheist. But I still can't tell her! I keep envisioning where she throws me out of the house, or hates me, or even worse, calls my uncle ((who was a priest)) and have him do an 'exorcism.' I know if I want to be comfortable around her, I have to tell her, but I just can't! Not at the moment. If anyone has any advice for me, please share. BB, blackgold I have tried many times to ease into telling my father. My mother already suspects it. I think she thinks I'm going through a phase... although if she were to realize that the "phase" has lasted for about 2 years then I don't think she'd call it that. I could tell my mom easily. It's my dad I'm worried about. He's a pretty devout Christian, though some of his beliefs could easily be considered very, very non-Christian. Funny thing is, my mom loves to just sit outside and look around, and let the Earth just... fill her up. She says it makes her feel at one with God. It's times like those that I want to say, "Yes, I feel at one with the Goddess." We're not that different, them and I. My dad will sit outside all night with me just looking at the stars and admiring everything about the Earth as well. I think telling them could be easier said than done in my case. As for you, I think you'll know when you're supposed to tell them. If your mom happens to be like mine, and enjoys the Earth herself, tell her while she's absolutely calm. In the best mood possible. Just- I'm probably not helping, lol, but honestly, just... I think you'll know. Though this thread is really old so you've probably already told her. eek
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Posted: Wed Feb 21, 2007 7:14 pm
blackgold Yeah, I haven't been very active. But...I've been worried about what were to happen if my family saw me in this guild. But, I've been studying Wicca for maybe a year now, but I can't say I've really..."learned anything." For all it seems I may have only studied for a month! But I keep telling myself, "I'll tell my mom tonight. I'll finally tell her." But the problem is...I've told myself that for at least 3 months. I can't work up courage. And whenever I'm about to say it, either I choke about it and shut up, or she says something that makes me re-think. I've already told my oldest brother. And he took it really well, but he's the major catholic in my family. ((My dad and younger brother are Presbetarian*sp?* so is my step family and I don't know what my mom is.)) And the odd thing is, I have gotten a dream where I told my mom, and, though she's shocked, is ok with it. And also, her boyfriend is atheist. But I still can't tell her! I keep envisioning where she throws me out of the house, or hates me, or even worse, calls my uncle ((who was a priest)) and have him do an 'exorcism.' I know if I want to be comfortable around her, I have to tell her, but I just can't! Not at the moment. If anyone has any advice for me, please share. BB, blackgold
Only none of my family knows. gonk
And youre right little opportunites pop up, but you always end up chickening out.
I remember one time we had ordered chinese food and my fortune said something about "now is a good time to tell your secrets" or something to that affect and my mom just laughed and she was like "you don't have any secrets!" sweatdrop
Its so hard.
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Posted: Thu Apr 12, 2007 1:32 pm
I'm sorry I didn't read this whole thread, but I have some ideas for you. I apologize in advance if it's been said already.
You could bring up something relating to the topic, like, simply asking your mom what she thinks of people who follow other religions, not implying that you actually do. If she doesn't go off on a crazy rant, take it from there. Ask her what she thinks of the specific religion you are following, still without telling her that you practice it. If she's okay with that religion, then there you go, you -might- have a chance to tell her then.
I really don't think you should just go out and be all,
HEY MOM LOOL IM WICCA :B
I do think it requires an actual long conversation.
I know from what I've browsed in this thread, others have said that she doesn't need to know yet, but I understand what you're feeling, I think. I want my family to know what religion I practice, but as of yet, I still haven't said anything. It's not that I think they -must- know, I just would like them to.
Of course, if there isn't a decent way to tell them, that's when the problems come. :/
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Posted: Wed Apr 25, 2007 10:09 am
Well, I can understand being nervous.
But hopefully this can give everyone some courage:
My fellow Wiccan and I recently held an assembly where we explained what Wicca was in its most basic way and pretty much admitted to our entire high school that we were Wiccan.
It was a good experience, because then no one got the wrong idea and everyone understood what we believed.
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Posted: Fri Oct 17, 2008 8:53 pm
I got a similar problem, but I'm a satanist doing witchcraft with strict Christan parents. I may never tell them the truth because they also found out, and said they would disown me, so sometimes you may never to take it to grave.
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