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 Posted: Thu Aug 03, 2006 4:01 pm
I pretty much just agree with what's been said. I've seen outfits that I took one look at and said "HELL no. Not for Kerstin."
Also, it's not just clothing. Makeup is really popular here (not for younger children so much, but), I have seen girls wearing way too much makeup in magazines. I stumbled upon one case were a girl was advertising a book or magazine, she looked 18-20 years old, however in her profile (which they listed next to her picture) she was TWELVE. I was horrified. Showed the picture to my husband and asked him how old she looked in his opinion (I covered her information with my hand), he guessed 18-20, and I uncovered her age for him.
I don't mind if girls play dress-up and tend to wear makeup and racy/questionable outfits, but if they're going out of the house, they should get presentable again.
Basically, I'll let Kerstin play dressup when she's old enough, but she is not going out of the house in something that I'd not feel comfortable with. She won't be getting a Bikini (I dunno what age specifically I'll let her have one, it's something she, her papa and I will have to work out when we get there). I don't want her to wear short miniskirts, and I am going to be really picky about midriff-baring outfits. Basically, I think I pretty much have my mom's taste in outfits/makeup.
We'll just see how things go, though, but my daughter isn't going out of the house looking like Britney Spears until she is old enough to convince, with mature reasonings, her papa and I that she should dress that way.
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Posted: Fri Aug 25, 2006 3:17 pm
I will never let my daughter wear outfits like that. Any parent that does should have their head examined as far as I'm concerned. I don't care if that sounds harsh. Whoever said it becomes more of an issue when the girls are teenagers doesn't know what they are talking about. Sorry if that offends.
As a young girl, I was sexually abused by a family member and approached in an improper way at the age if five or six by a neighbor. I did not dress in these seductive clothes, I was more like a tomboy but it taught me at a young age that there's many ***** in the world and you DO NOT know who they are. They could be your neighbor, your postman, your grocer.
Dressing a child in a seductive manner, half tops, mini skirts and such, will only gain them attention from these type of people all the more. I will dress my daughter as a child as long as she is a child.
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Posted: Fri Aug 25, 2006 7:56 pm
My daughter=no clothes like that until 20.
Plain and simple. 3nodding She can fuss and whine all she wants, but it's tough love.
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Posted: Wed Oct 04, 2006 7:09 pm
It not just the clouthing. what about thoses brates dolls.. and brates babys they having them dress like a teen or even worse sorry to say but a slut.
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Posted: Thu Oct 05, 2006 12:08 am
With all the headlines off famous and infamous people being caught being ***** - why subject your children to these peoples fantasies, even. I know that there are parents out there that hope their children can be the next Britney Spears (sp?) or Justin Timberlake, but even in their days on the Mickey Mouse Club they were decently dressed. What happened?
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Posted: Wed Oct 18, 2006 8:52 am
Oh my, do I have alot that I can say here... most of it not nice.
If I have my way (and my husband agrees) my daughter will not dress that way untill she's 16-18 (at least not outside the house).
There was once my mom and I were walking around at the local mall and there is a little playarea for kids right next to the coffeeshop we stopped at and there was a dad with his little girl who was in a white halter top, denim(sp?) vest, denim miniskirt that was so short you could see half of her underwear (that said "kiss this heart ") thigh high white tights and little blue go-go boots. I wanted to so smack the dad upside his head with something large and heavy and ask what the in hell happened to let his daughter dress like that. I noticed at least one guy staring at her.
I will not let that happen to my daughter. No so long as I'm in control of what she can and cannot wear. And when she can choose for herself she'll know better. Frankly I plan to be as blunt as a bowling ball with my daughter about the "real" world, my mom was that way with me, and I also have personal experience to back up what I say to her(can't trust everyone).
I'm gonna stop here otherwise I could keep ranting for an hour. sweatdrop
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Posted: Sun Jan 21, 2007 8:45 pm
It disgusts me the things that these children are going through, for all the influences in society today. When visiting my father and my half siblings, I uncovered a very startling fact from my stepmother on my winter holidays. She informed me that Jessie, my sister who is 9, sometimes hangs with these girls at their elementary school "Popular ones" mind you; and they have a pact to have intercourse before they get to highschool. I was blown away, for when I was 9 boys were still classified with a horrid case of cooties.
Having the heart to heart with my sister, I found that she wanted to wear such clothing items as the 'hoochie' skirts, and the shirts which flaunt what they really dont have (Or need) yet, and wore makeup just for the sake of wearing makeup. I myself didn't start wearing makeup untill I was 15-16, which then was foundation to cover up the wonders of teen hormones and pimples, and some mascara.
Talking to my sister on how these things are not right in the slightest at her age, I saw something kind of 'click' when she heard about most kids, and my own past. That she had beautiful skin, and didn't need to cover it up with product. As well, if she absolutely needed to have some makeup, I showed her that bold isn't what's right, and that makeup's main purpose is to look -natural-. Plus the talk which kids should not be thinking about such adult topics like intercourse for a long while.
But as everyone has already stated, there is a distinct difference which these kids should know what is appropriate and what is not. I just hope that parents start to realize the risks it can put their children it with the risks of ***** looming and teen sex-idols on the uprise. Sometimes, I miss the times of tye-dye full outfits and those shin long, long sleeve dresses I wore as a child. D:
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Posted: Tue Jan 23, 2007 12:37 am
I am SO glad to see there are other parents out there who feel that this is degrading and demeaning. It has been interesting to hear how my daughters's friends respond to these styles and how my boys's friends have. some of the boys's friends have said it would be fun to see how far they would get - but no way would they be thinking engagement or marriage with these hot little numbers. After all, in their minds, that is not what is being "offered" to them.
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Posted: Tue Jan 23, 2007 3:01 pm
I am SO crazy about appropriate clothing, makeup, etc.
My daughter is only 2. However, last summer, trying to even get a decent swimsuit was impossible. They were all bikinis! Now, maybe I'm old fashioned, but I don't even approve of bikinis for teenagers. Tankinis are negotiable, but there's no need to show that much skin when you're a child. There's just not.
My daughter will not wear short-short skirts or shorts or dresses. Nothing that shows her stomach. And nothing that shows off whatever boobs she may have.
I just refuse.
And don't even get me started on those god-forsaken Bratz dolls. I honestly think that if you let your daughter have them, that's bad parenting. I'm sure lots of parents would be offended by that statement, but the way I see it, you're the PARENT. You're supposed to guide your children, help them grow up in the best way possible, surrounding them with positive examples, etc.
There's NOTHING positive about anything Bratz related. Nothing. Telling your kids through your actions that it's okay to be a kiddie prostitute is wrong.
Man, I could rant all day about this stuff. It's just...it kills me when I see these poor kids looking porn stars when they're just children...I mean, what you do when you're an adult is one thing, but children...? How can the parents neglect their child's welfare so much and think it's okay?
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Posted: Sun Feb 04, 2007 4:23 am
I remember watching a commercial for Bratz Dolls.. the commercial was for some date package, and the outfit that the Bratz Girl was going to wear for her boy was just... well, I gaped in astonishment. She seriously looked like a whore. I remember "Movie Date Skipper". She wore a upper-shin length twirly skirt, and a pretty, blue sweater (knitted or something, and it covered EVERYTHING, it was long-sleeved, though it didn't have a turtle neck).. and none of it was skin tight. And she looked AWESOME, and appropriate for her presumed age.
As for Bratz in general, I don't have much opinion on them.. the boys are all 'pretty boys' who look like Justin Timberlake with too much makeup; and the girls just look.... weird. And they have what we artsy types refere to as 'big head syndrome'. Considering that parents used to, and still do, b'tch and whine about Barbie and the way she and her friends look, I'm surprised Bratz (and the Barbie My Scene dolls) ever got off the drawing board.
I dunno if I would stop Kerstin from playing with them in general, but I'd have a talk with her about the way they dress, if she likes it, if she thinks it's appropriate, if she wants to dress that way, and what she thinks those types of clothing are actually saying to people about the wearer.
(My mom always did that for me when I bought an outfit for my Barbie Doll that she found questionable.. it always had me thinking - she also told me straight out that makeup on young children does not look pretty, and too much makeup NEVER looks good, not even on fashion models.)
The fact is that little girls want to look 'beautiful' (they want this as a child, but certainly want it as they get older). And in this modern society, it seems that 'beautiful = sexy'. You rarely see hot outfits on fashion magazine covers that don't reveal too much skin.. and if the parents don't step in and take an active roll in their child's image of beauty, then that is the impression these girls will grow up thinking is 'beautiful, feminine and appropriate.'.
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Posted: Sun Feb 04, 2007 1:15 pm
Even the Barbie dolls have pushed the limit sometimes, though, haven't they?
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Posted: Sun Feb 04, 2007 5:51 pm
yes they have.. but atleast you can controle the offites better on barbies then you can on the bratz dolls... But yes barbie dolls clouthing can get out of controlle too...
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Posted: Sun Feb 04, 2007 8:33 pm
lizzmeyer3 yes they have.. but atleast you can controle the offites better on barbies then you can on the bratz dolls... But yes barbie dolls clouthing can get out of controlle too... I have noticed that Barbies have been trying to be more like barbies, with the clothes & new faces
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Posted: Sun Feb 25, 2007 6:44 pm
My 10-year-old grand daughter, that I have custody of - attempts to wear things that I draw the line to:
(She wears a 32-B bra, by the way . . .)
No tummy buttons or butt cracks go to school: distracting for education & others.
Yes, it's commercialism, when she wants make-up and all the bangles and piercings and tattoos, too.
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Posted: Mon Feb 26, 2007 1:35 am
What has been hard for me is when I have taken such a strong stand and as they turn 18 and older to not realize why I took such a hard stand - and for them not to know that they don't need to adverise what they really aren't selling!
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