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I wanted to point out Cherry's response because it seems it was lost in the sea of text. I didn't see it before. Sorry.

I was worrying about this as well, but with these types of feelings I didn't want to jump to conclusions. When you're in it, you have no choice but to put all your trust in. Sometimes you really gotta work hard... although, I have personal belief that good relationships don't require a lot of work. In this current case, the obstacle could be well worth the hurdle for the time being. Once everything is out on the table, it may be a bit different.

If it does continue this way though, I will have to agree with Cherry. As previously stated I don't like that mentality. sweatdrop If I was in your position and I had to keep going on with that I wouldn't even.... someone who doesn't know what they want, is the worst type of company.

How do I put it? D:

When people get into a relationship many times that initial spark sort of begins to fade. It's more-so an understanding than a feeling, but a feeling all the same. It's more realistic for couples to be forward with each other because they know each other so well. Of course this all depends on who... some people prefer to dance around it, some are strange, and open relationships... but they are happy. All I am saying is, It's tough to be "real" in a relationship when the spark is present. It's an infatuation. That type of infatuation is a double edged sword that makes you happy and dulls your senses.

You get really worried, you stress yourself... you aren't who you were before than. Essentially you're not being real. There are two different types of butterflies. You have bad ones in your stomach. She's not necessarily instilling confidence in you. You're doing what you can. So don't be that tough on yourself. emotion_c8 If I didn't understand the feeling so much, I would say more... but it's something that you need to work out and decide for yourself whether it's worth it or not. That experience is going to help you in the longer run.

That's cool with me. It's really simple when it boils down to it. You can't think of it as a complicating mess. It can be sometimes, but most of the time putting your heart into it determines what ya get out of it. It's your road. Realistically speaking confusion is the worst enemy.

Hey I am glad to hear things cleared up a bit.

Rocky.

She's so closed and won't discuss what's on her mind. Talked at work and she seems... iffy. Not really discussing how she feels but certainly not being all "it's over".

Rumors been spreading around our unit that we've been dating, so I don't know if it is a defense mechanism or what. Otherwise, not allowing much contact outside of work. emotion_eyebrow

I could understand building a barrier for work, but insofar as not communicating even out of work? That's where I'm confused. And it's really tearing at me.

Update from work. I am infuriated beyond belief. When I get home I am going to lay out my mind and that is that. I can't stay angry forever and tonight is the end. It is all on her after today. If she wants to continue this anger and avoiding me and not talking to me, she can go ahead, because if she doesn't provide remedy, I am done. D-O-N-E. Done.

Yeh. What toon said. You could save yourself a lot of grief but on the other side of the coin that's not an easy question to answer when you're sort of blind to it from infatuation. That is essentially the very same spark I spoke of. In time you will learn to keep your emotions in check so that they don't completely overtake you. That comes with a lot if experience in the field. Don't get me wrong it's fine to feel it... I would just like to quote myself when i say it's a double edged sword. it's understood you care about her but what about her is worth the anger? Just be honest to her but more importantly yourself. Everyone goes through it. Take it step by step.

-heavy sigh-

The sooner this summer ends. razz