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 Posted: Tue Dec 13, 2011 4:43 am
chesiregirl Thank you very much, and it was Foster's Home for Imaginary Friends. smile I love that cartoon!!!! emotion_yatta
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Posted: Wed Dec 14, 2011 7:57 pm
I was a virgin until I was 20. I think that it's always inappropriate to have sex before you're emotionally ready to do so, whatever that means to you. If you want to wait until marriage, then wait until marriage. If you find yourself in a serious relationship with someone you want to have sex with, then do it then. If you find yourself one day with a male friend that you feel really comfortable with and just want to have sex with, then that's okay too. The important thing is to wait until you feel ready, and not a moment before. And your friend needs to screw off.
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Posted: Wed Dec 14, 2011 8:12 pm
Agreed. Just go for it when YOU want to. It can be hard to ignore others but on something like sex, you kind of have to ignore them.
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Posted: Wed Dec 28, 2011 10:04 am
Having a friend try to pressure you into it even though your views on it are different is almost as bad as a random guy trying to pressure you.
I definitely respect your views and she should too. Do what you want. Not what she says you should do.
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Posted: Wed Dec 28, 2011 11:40 am
I didn't know that avoiding babies, STD's, and emotional turmoil wad bad. emotion_awesome
Take it from me, I screwed around when I was a young teen, nothing bad happened but I did have my fair share of "oh %$^&" moments. Wait as long as you can, noting is more scary than having a pregnancy scare at sixteen years old. It messed with my mind as well, I got really close with a guy and we had sex, then he dumped me.
And I kept going back to him creating a vicious cycle of depression and emotional chaos.
Granted that may not happen to you, however sex in high school is never a good idea. =,=
Kudos to you for wanting to wait, I wish I was that smart back then.
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Posted: Wed Dec 28, 2011 1:37 pm
Honey, it's not in the LEAST bit unusual. I was a virgin until I was 19, and lost mine only when I was ready to someone that I really cared for at the time.
Don't let someone pressure you into doing something that you don't want to do. If you're not ready, or just plain have no interest, DON'T DO IT. It's your body, and your choice. If she continues to press the issue, stop talking to her. She's not a good friend if she's not taking your concerns seriously.
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Posted: Wed Dec 28, 2011 7:47 pm
I agree with everyone else, your frind needs to stop pressuring you. It's completely wrong of her to do that!
I also agree that being a virgin at 16 is normal, a good thing even.
(I have a few friends who have had pregnancy scares and one who recently had a baby. She's not married (though she is engaged) and is unemployed (baby has a very weak immune system [even when compared to other babies] so putting him in daycare would be dangerous) and if i remember right, her parents are having financial difficulties.)
I'm almost 19 and am still a virgin (and am proud to be one). I'm one of those purity ring girls. I made a promise to myself that i am going to wait until i'm married to have sex. I personally see it as cheating on my future husband, so i won't do it until then.
But what you do should depend on your own view on the subject, not what anyone else tells you you should or shouldn't do.
And remember that any man who truly loves you will respect your decisions.
Stay strong dear, you are loved. cat_3nodding
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Posted: Wed Dec 28, 2011 10:40 pm
It is normal, I know people in high school, and no one I know of has had sex. I believe that sex is an intimate things just as you. It's wrong for your friend to do that. And it's gross that your guy friend would offer that. I would define your friend exactly as you did.
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Posted: Wed Jan 18, 2012 3:54 pm
I'm turning 16 this year, I am a virgin, and I havent even had my first kiss yet, let alone a boyfriend. I remember very vividly when a girl in my class said to me last year "If you haven't made out with anyone by the end of the year your frigid" Then she told me and my friends in another class "How can you still be virgins!!?" Then she said to our teacher "they're still virgins!" My teacher said Thats good. I dont want to be like her and have heaps of sexual relationships.
Your friend was completely out of line by saying what she said. She is not a good friend by pressuring you into having sex. You can be a virgin for as long as you want. ITs your business and no elses.
I want to wait until I find the right one and when I am ready. Hardly any of my friends have had a boyfriend/girlfriend or their first kiss.
Dont worry about people who degrade you because your still a virgin. I'd rather be a 25+ year old virgin than have sex for the first time while I'm still in school.
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Posted: Thu Jan 19, 2012 2:19 pm
My_Red_Stars I'm turning 16 this year, I am a virgin, and I havent even had my first kiss yet, let alone a boyfriend. I remember very vividly when a girl in my class said to me last year "If you haven't made out with anyone by the end of the year your frigid" Then she told me and my friends in another class "How can you still be virgins!!?" Then she said to our teacher "they're still virgins!" My teacher said Thats good. I dont want to be like her and have heaps of sexual relationships.
Your friend was completely out of line by saying what she said. She is not a good friend by pressuring you into having sex. You can be a virgin for as long as you want. ITs your business and no elses.
I want to wait until I find the right one and when I am ready. Hardly any of my friends have had a boyfriend/girlfriend or their first kiss.
Dont worry about people who degrade you because your still a virgin. I'd rather be a 25+ year old virgin than have sex for the first time while I'm still in school. Thanks for the support, that girl is mean. I'm glad the teacher supported y'all. I haven't been kissed either; and I've only had two boyfriends, one when I was in 8th grade and one when I was in 9th grade, but they didn't last long and they weren't very intimate. It was sort of "testing the waters". I would like having a sweet boyfriend very much, and to have my first kiss, but I'm definitely not ready for sex. Not that never being kissed and/or never having a boyfriend/girlfriend is bad, it's just my personal preference that I would like one.
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Posted: Thu Jan 19, 2012 2:56 pm
Totally a virgin at 16, well when I was 16, and dealing with horribly awkward relationships too. Being a virgin till you find the right guy is a good idea in theory. Sadly the right guy at the time, might turn out to be the wrong one later on, but don't regret the choice you made in the moment.
Also, your friend is pushing the envelope yes, but likely her background has a lot to do with how she treats sex, most of the time personal insecurities and feelings of worthlessness unless there's someone saying they love you. It's sad to say, but in most cases that's why a girl wants to insist on her friends doing the same things she's doing, so she can feel that her choices aren't looked down on by her peers, and bring you all to the same level. Maybe dig a little and ask exactly why she's so sex obsessed, and if the answers are a little vague, digging deeper could help get to why she doesn't seem to respect herself much as a person.
Course this is merely speculation on my part, so you can feel free to disregard it. ^w^
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Posted: Thu Jan 19, 2012 7:53 pm
chesiregirl So, once in my math class, I was on the subject of some old cartoon with some kids at my table. Aside from myself and my two friends, the table entirely consisted of males. Someone pointed out something about the cartoon (doesn't really matter) and I was like, "OMG THIS CRUSHED MY CHILDHOOD!" Then...one of my female friends said something that really pissed me off. She said, "Girl, you really need to have sex." I was so offended, and she said in what was apparently supposed to be a consoling tone, "No, no, I get it, I used to be like you. I used to nerd out about everything, but then I had sex and now I think about sex all the time." I tried to explain to her that I was waiting until I was in a serious relationship with a boy I really cared about, and that I just wasn't ready until then, and that sleeping with someone that I had only dated a handful of months wasn't alright with me. To me, sex is something intimate and special, especially if it's your first time. She said, "It's okay to date a guy a couple of months and then have sex." and said she was going to set me and my friend up with two guys for us to date for a couple months before having sex with. I was disgusted. She even said she found a boyfriend by asking some random guy, "Hey wanna have sex?" Everything she said horrified me. Now, I usually do not use the term "whore", and she is my friend, but everything she said about sex made me perceive her as MY definition of a "whore" - a female who has many different sexual partners, and does not value the intimacy of sex, and has sex ONLY for the pleasure, and NOT as a way of showing love or affection to someone you care about. Not only was I not ready and I didn't think practically anyone in High School is ready for that step emotionally, but I really don't think I should be worrying about sex and unplanned pregnancy and protection and whatnot at this point in my life. The worst part was when the guy who sat across from me offered to be my "first time". Sure, I can read about people having sex and think about it and stuff. I mean, I know what sex is like, but thinking about having sex with a specific person makes me blush. I don't even like the guy. I think he's ignorant, stupid, and foolish. I think he's a redneck who isn't really going to go anywhere, and I think it's disgusting that he does drugs. I definitely would NOT want to sleep with, kiss, or even DATE him! sad Anyway, is it really so unusual to be a virgin in High School? The only people my age who I KNOW are virgins are nerdy like me. Keep telling your friend no. I am 20 years old and in my sophomore year of college and I am a very proud virgin. One reason I am a virgin is because, like you, see sex as something special. That in part has to do with my religion. I am a WELS Lutheran and I ardently do not believe in sex before marriage. I am waiting until I am married to have sex. All religion aside, I am actually scared of sex. When I was 13, I dated for the first time and I was almost raped by my boyfriend. During that same time, I was being sexually abused by a family member. I have been scarred ever since. I am nervous around guys since my trust has plummeted. I will not be alone or date a guy until I feel more comfortable around him, which is actually kind of rare. There are only a few guys that I fully trust. Anyways, back to you. This is YOUR life and no one can tell you what to do as far as sex is concerned. It is a serious step in a relationship and it pisses me off when people talk about sex lightly. Take your time and only have sex when you are ready, no matter how long that might take.
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Posted: Thu Jan 19, 2012 11:39 pm
chesiregirl My_Red_Stars I'm turning 16 this year, I am a virgin, and I havent even had my first kiss yet, let alone a boyfriend. I remember very vividly when a girl in my class said to me last year "If you haven't made out with anyone by the end of the year your frigid" Then she told me and my friends in another class "How can you still be virgins!!?" Then she said to our teacher "they're still virgins!" My teacher said Thats good. I dont want to be like her and have heaps of sexual relationships.
Your friend was completely out of line by saying what she said. She is not a good friend by pressuring you into having sex. You can be a virgin for as long as you want. ITs your business and no elses.
I want to wait until I find the right one and when I am ready. Hardly any of my friends have had a boyfriend/girlfriend or their first kiss.
Dont worry about people who degrade you because your still a virgin. I'd rather be a 25+ year old virgin than have sex for the first time while I'm still in school. Thanks for the support, that girl is mean. I'm glad the teacher supported y'all. I haven't been kissed either; and I've only had two boyfriends, one when I was in 8th grade and one when I was in 9th grade, but they didn't last long and they weren't very intimate. It was sort of "testing the waters". I would like having a sweet boyfriend very much, and to have my first kiss, but I'm definitely not ready for sex. Not that never being kissed and/or never having a boyfriend/girlfriend is bad, it's just my personal preference that I would like one. No problem smile
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Posted: Sun Feb 26, 2012 6:48 pm
J e n R e i Wow. I'm sorry but your friend is ******** whore and a bad friend. No friend is suppose to pressure their friend into sex if their not ready. I am almost 18 and I am still a virgin. And I am a nerd but I just don't look it but I get a lot more respect because I am still a virgin and just don't have sex with anyone. Sex should be with someone special that you love and someone that loves you back. Ur friend is going to end up getting hurt or prego. girls like that do. And its annoying,when people see that you are nerdy or look a certain way the assume your a virgin and then if you loose you virginity you look like a new person and act a certain way. I am in my last year of high school and there are very few virgins. even people that are nerds aren't virgins. Just wait till the time is right. People act like being a virgin at 16 is the new 40 year old virgin. You're right. This such friend is now hurt by a boyfriend who allegedly only wanted her for sex, and she is currently pregnant and feels horrible because people keep telling her to get an abortion, and I believe the father is the same guy who hurt her. She was crying on Friday about the guy, and I just found out today (Sunday) that she's going to have a baby. So they happened at the same time. I don't want that to be me.
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Posted: Sun Feb 26, 2012 7:06 pm
chesiregirl J e n R e i Wow. I'm sorry but your friend is ******** whore and a bad friend. No friend is suppose to pressure their friend into sex if their not ready. I am almost 18 and I am still a virgin. And I am a nerd but I just don't look it but I get a lot more respect because I am still a virgin and just don't have sex with anyone. Sex should be with someone special that you love and someone that loves you back. Ur friend is going to end up getting hurt or prego. girls like that do. And its annoying,when people see that you are nerdy or look a certain way the assume your a virgin and then if you loose you virginity you look like a new person and act a certain way. I am in my last year of high school and there are very few virgins. even people that are nerds aren't virgins. Just wait till the time is right. People act like being a virgin at 16 is the new 40 year old virgin. You're right. This such friend is now hurt by a boyfriend who allegedly only wanted her for sex, and she is currently pregnant and feels horrible because people keep telling her to get an abortion, and I believe the father is the same guy who hurt her. She was crying on Friday about the guy, and I just found out today (Sunday) that she's going to have a baby. So they happened at the same time. I don't want that to be me. Yeah,learn from her dumb mistakes. I am now 18 and still a virgin.
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