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Yep- there are lots of people like that. 3nodding

Oh good. biggrin My anxiety was starting to go off there for a bit. smile Thank you Esiris smile

No worries- the really only right and wrongs in BDSM are about consent and the law in my book.


That's pretty ummm.. closed minded of you, since it treats another person's hard limits as a bad thing instead of being willing to take into account how that kind of hard limit develops. confused

I suppose that can be considered closed minded. Perhaps I came off too harsh in what I said. I don't think a person should have to forcefully evolve and change. I believe is should be something people want to do. It's when people refuse to want to try new things and experience different aspects of life that bothers me. I used to be that way myself, stubborn and solid in never changing. To be honest it embarrasses me to think I was so immature. If a persona has a logical reason behind a hard limit, then let them get over it on their own if they feel they want to. It's when an illogical hard limit is placed that I feel is wrong on an evolutionary level.

I must be off. I have a patrol in around five hours so I need my rest. Or as much rest as a cot and sleeping bag will allow. Goodnight for me and good day for most of you.

Good night. smile

I can understand and agree on hard limits for safety reasons. Though on a personal level I still attempt them. It's the adrenalin rush that makes it work it. And while I am not an adrenalin junkie, my job has made it very hard to still obtain the same rush. Once your life is at risk for periods of time, you tend to get used to it. But when safety isn't a concern I don't see a reason not to try and expand ones borders. I used to be the kind of guy that would adamantly stay in my comfort zone, now I wish I never was like that. All the years I was like that just feels like a waste of time. I view it like those kids you see all the time who refuse to eat certain foods even though they have never had it. They will say and believe that even though they have never had it before, they will hate it if they even attempt to try it.

Don't get my wrong, I am far from the adventurous type. My daily life is actually pretty boring on paper. Heck, I rarely eat something new at restaurants. In a way I am still working on expanding my comfort zone myself. My wife has proven invaluable in this task. But I am no longer closed off to the rest of the world, only interested in whats in front of me and what I already know. I actively seek new things to learn now and don't have a problem with trying new things. Pretty good I think for being closed off and apathetic only four years ago. Being in the military though has slowed progress, but helped advance it in it's own way too. Due to my job I have been several places in the US and outside the country. I have met so many new people, tried new foods, tried different tobacco products like hookah, and learned all sorts of skills. I don't really have the chance to do much in my free time though. Back in garrison I was always too tired after work to do much aside from eat, play video games, and sleep. Weekends only consisted of a restaurant and movies most of the time. I look forward to the possibilities of when I leave the military. Assuming I make it back of course.