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 Posted: Sun Jul 17, 2011 5:37 pm
It's legal. If you don't want a person near you and they constantly come near you. You can order a restraining order and be done with it.
Where I live if a person comes on your property and you find them to be threatining your allowed to kill them. (Not saying you should kill, just proving how most things are just legal...).
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Posted: Sun Jul 17, 2011 7:10 pm
village midget You need to go to the police. If your Dad is willing to go with you so much the better, it's another sensible voice who can back up what you are saying. The police will advise you what you are able to do with regard to restraining orders and injunctions. If you can, make a list/timeline of events before you go so that you can clearly make your case and ask to make a criminal charge against him. Don't wait, you have given this guy more than enough warning sadly you are not left with no choice but to act, the sooner the better. I don't want to totally freak you out but often people who behave like your ex become increasingly possessive over time. Eventually they can become bitter/resentful towards the person in your position because of feelings of rejection, and there are some extreme cases where the possessive person ends up physically attacking the person they are pursuing. I am not saying this is going to happen to you, but it's not unreasonable to play safe and take steps, like going to the police for help now. Since my birthday about a month ago, he's been pretty bitter and resentful. He just got sick of spilling everything he was feeling to me and getting nothing back from me. One of my close friends, who also dated him about three years ago, said that he gets really clingy after a break up. He left me alone for a few months, but since my birthday, he's just been an a*****e. My dad won't go to the police unless he contacts me again. I still want to go, regardless of if he does or not because it's gone on for so long and I'm just sick of it. I want him to pay for his actions, even if all that happens is that something gets on his record.
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Posted: Sun Jul 17, 2011 7:12 pm
MindxHunter It's legal. If you don't want a person near you and they constantly come near you. You can order a restraining order and be done with it. This is why I wanted to go to the police so badly. I figured if he's doing things even after I tell him to stop, even if it's just talking to me or being near me, that I can go to the police and do something about it. Others have been saying I can't go to police about this and that it's "just stupid high school drama".
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Posted: Sun Jul 17, 2011 7:20 pm
Well if your feeling threatened by him, or harrassed. Celebrities can do it, so can a highschooler. You have rights to file claims and such. This is a serious matter that is past highschool drama, in anycase it could count for stalking to a degree.
(Stalking is a crime also, it's a halarious crime)
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Posted: Sun Jul 17, 2011 7:22 pm
Shannon-Jeva MindxHunter It's legal. If you don't want a person near you and they constantly come near you. You can order a restraining order and be done with it. This is why I wanted to go to the police so badly. I figured if he's doing things even after I tell him to stop, even if it's just talking to me or being near me, that I can go to the police and do something about it. Others have been saying I can't go to police about this and that it's "just stupid high school drama". That is NOT just high school drama. You have the right to go to the police and explain to them what's going on, and the right to file a restraining order. I say go ahead and do it. Try and convince your dad to go with you because you don't want this to get any worse than it is.
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Posted: Sun Jul 17, 2011 7:22 pm
MindxHunter Well if your feeling threatened by him, or harrassed. Celebrities can do it, so can a highschooler. You have rights to file claims and such. This is a serious matter that is past highschool drama, in anycase it could count for stalking to a degree. (Stalking is a crime also, it's a halarious crime) I only feel threatened because I know what he can physically do to somebody. Though I've never seen him hit any girl before, it's still a small fear.
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Posted: Sun Jul 17, 2011 7:24 pm
PoppyNorth324 Shannon-Jeva MindxHunter It's legal. If you don't want a person near you and they constantly come near you. You can order a restraining order and be done with it. This is why I wanted to go to the police so badly. I figured if he's doing things even after I tell him to stop, even if it's just talking to me or being near me, that I can go to the police and do something about it. Others have been saying I can't go to police about this and that it's "just stupid high school drama". That is NOT just high school drama. You have the right to go to the police and explain to them what's going on, and the right to file a restraining order. I say go ahead and do it. Try and convince your dad to go with you because you don't want this to get any worse than it is. Exactly what I am saying. Harrasment, or whatever this can be considered =/= high school drama.
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Posted: Sun Jul 17, 2011 7:27 pm
Shannon-Jeva MindxHunter Well if your feeling threatened by him, or harrassed. Celebrities can do it, so can a highschooler. You have rights to file claims and such. This is a serious matter that is past highschool drama, in anycase it could count for stalking to a degree. (Stalking is a crime also, it's a halarious crime) I only feel threatened because I know what he can physically do to somebody. Though I've never seen him hit any girl before, it's still a small fear. That small fear is enough to request a lawyer. People are unpredictable (Anything is technically).
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Posted: Mon Jul 18, 2011 2:31 am
Shannon-Jeva village midget You need to go to the police. If your Dad is willing to go with you so much the better, it's another sensible voice who can back up what you are saying. The police will advise you what you are able to do with regard to restraining orders and injunctions. If you can, make a list/timeline of events before you go so that you can clearly make your case and ask to make a criminal charge against him. Don't wait, you have given this guy more than enough warning sadly you are not left with no choice but to act, the sooner the better. I don't want to totally freak you out but often people who behave like your ex become increasingly possessive over time. Eventually they can become bitter/resentful towards the person in your position because of feelings of rejection, and there are some extreme cases where the possessive person ends up physically attacking the person they are pursuing. I am not saying this is going to happen to you, but it's not unreasonable to play safe and take steps, like going to the police for help now. Since my birthday about a month ago, he's been pretty bitter and resentful. He just got sick of spilling everything he was feeling to me and getting nothing back from me. One of my close friends, who also dated him about three years ago, said that he gets really clingy after a break up. He left me alone for a few months, but since my birthday, he's just been an a*****e. My dad won't go to the police unless he contacts me again. I still want to go, regardless of if he does or not because it's gone on for so long and I'm just sick of it. I want him to pay for his actions, even if all that happens is that something gets on his record. If your father isn't willing to go then you have to accept that. That doesn't stop you from reporting it. Just walk in to your local police station and explain your situation at the front desk. I live in the UK so our definitions are probably different but this is a quote from a legal guide here - " It is the person on the receiving end who defines harassment. Once they have made it clear that behaviour is unacceptable and unwelcome, it will amount to harassment, even where others would not see the same behaviour as offensive"Go to the police. You are in the right and it doesn't matter what anybody else thinks.
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Posted: Mon Jul 18, 2011 3:05 am
Shannon-Jeva Roxy Hazard Shannon-Jeva Roxy Hazard Im not sure if that's legally harrassment, though it should be emotionally. If anything you can get a restraining order, and if he goes against it, he'll go to prison. Good luck with your a*****e ex, hope the law works in your favor My dad's been thinking of calling our regional police to see what to do about it. I don't see why it wouldn't work in my favour. I'm a straight-A student, don't have a criminal record, and I try to stay out of trouble. He's been on probation, broke into his old school, and steals all the time. rolleyes Definitely try! I'm fairly sure they would agree to help you. Im not positive if you should speak to the police first or a lawyer for a restraining order, but its worth it. And hey, you might get his a** thrown in jail rofl We don't have the kind of money for a lawyer sweatdrop I've been wanting to talk to somebody about it and see what I can do. Regardless of what I do and what happens, he'll tell his friends. His friends will then probably be after me -__-
This violent anger tearing us away
Hate, destruction, human consumption
Creates division, blinded in visionThere are lawyers who help people who are too poor for a fancy lawyer.
Take it from me, my family was on welfare for a while, and had to sue someone... we couldn't afford a fancy lawyer either, but there are lawyers who have low prices for people who don't have much money (:
But good luck with it, hopefully the police or something gets him to stop!! :/ Raging like the wave, crashing to its place
Such violent delights have violent ends
So furiously, my insanity, trapped in vanity
Scrounged in desire, raging like a fire
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Posted: Mon Jul 18, 2011 8:28 am
i definatly agree with all theese restraining order idea. esp the one person who said to get a list of the things hes done/a time line. The more you can prove to the police the more theyre not going to thing its "some high school drama".i know this one girl whos ex was doing similar stuff to her and she got a restraining order on him. He ended up trying to kill her but because of the restraining order the police got there before he could. You really should take action asap
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