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Posted: Wed Jul 13, 2011 3:23 am
Difficulty maintaining eye contact
Often doesn't smile and has blank expressions
Stiff and awkward movements
Liking sameness and routine
Tendency to worry about things more than others
Sensitivity to noise and crowds, etc I've gone ahead and bolded everything that I have as well. I wouldn't say that it's a psychological disorder though. Whoever thought of this "selective mutism" is just spewing utter BS in my opinion. I have my reasons for these symptoms though. I don't make eye contact in any situation where I'm not looking to be aggressive. I don't smile or show expression because I often have no idea when it would be appropriate to do so (I have a tendency to deviate from 'mannerisms'), stiff and awkward movements are mostly because I'm always tense. I have no idea why. I just am. I like sameness and routine because I prefer to know what I'm going to do before I have to do it and I'd prefer not to get myself into a situation where I'll have to think quickly and perhaps end up ******** up my entire schedule. I also worry about things more than others for the same reason: I like to be prepared. I am "sensitive" to noise and crowds because: 1. I like peace and quiet. That's the reason that I like the Big Island so much and absolutely abhor Oahu. 2. It's so much easier to talk to people when you don't have to worry about background noises. 3. It's so much easier to talk to people when you don't have to worry about people overhearing/interrupting. 4. Whenever there's a group of more than around 3 people, things end up getting hectic and, IMO, aggravating. 5. It's so much easier to just sit back and relax when it's only you and a couple others.
I don't think it's a psychological disorder at all. Just because I don't like being in group environments, that automatically means there's something wrong with me? Just because I find it difficult to talk to more than one person at a time, it means that I should see a psychologist? Just because I prefer to sit back, relax, and take things slow I need to be put on some kind of medication/attend some therapy sessions? No. This is actually the exact reason I say psychology does more harm than good in your everyday situations. It makes people believe they have something wrong with them and, in that way, causes a problem in itself. I'm sure that 90% of the crap that psychologists these days will be laughed at and looked down upon 100 years from now just like how we of today laugh and look down on religious zealots and, more recently, scientologists.
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Posted: Sat Jul 16, 2011 7:45 pm
You know you're in love when you can't fall asleep...
A disorder is a label when applied to your social tendencies that may or may not improve your life. So what if you have selective mutism? So what if you don't? Who cares? Does it really matter? No. That's who you are. If you don't like being shy, then you can definitely work on that. Mostly it involves being with people who are anything but shy. They can help you. You adapt the mannerisms of your closet friends. My friend Adam is freaking nuts. He's the last person who would have social anxiety. He's always out there, saying hi to people, talking, never being afraid and never judging himself. And you know what? He's happy. And I started doing that. I stopped worrying about what people might think of me and just did it. And now I'm happy.
Just dropping my two cents.
...because reality is finally better than your dreams...
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Posted: Sun Jul 17, 2011 5:13 pm
Roxy Hazard Wow, that just described 9/10 teenagers. This kind of seems like those stupid "illnesses" that probably exist but people misinterpret or even misdiagnosis the symptoms for. That also seemed to describe any shy, achieving student. So I guess thats me, and my honors classmates
EDIT: After my rant, I read the entry above me and I wholeheartedly agree. Well sure, it seems something like ADD (Everyone basically has it) The symptoms aren't making the difference, the main thing about this 'illness' is that if people or a person chats with you and if your having difficulty responding back out of fear and won't respond then yes you probably have this. It's an anxiety disorder and stress isn't uncommon in people, but most anxiety disorders is more of a contiuation of these problems (You don't have it if it only happened to you once or twice). Basically I have these symptoms, just about most of them (Except I smile and laugh with friends) and I still talk to them. Maintaining eye contact raises anxiety in most people that aren't used to it because it's a bit of an emotional connection (Animals use it to intimidate another). Sameness and routine is in everyone, unless you enjoy being impulsive (We sit at the same spots on the bus or class because it makes us feel safe). Worry about things is personality and paranoia, it's a little uncommon and deals with many other phsycological disorders. MANY people don't like to talk about their feelings. There are two kinds of people which is introverted and extroverted. This would be intro, and some people are more comfortable about talking with themselves because they've had better reactions and experinces from others. (Everyone has a fear of social embarrassment, and everyone can be brave to face the music ect.) Being very shy? There's nothing we can truly measure how shy a person can truly be, (You'd have to give examples. Would you not walk over to a guy you liked or if he walked over to you would you get away at all costs?) There are many disorders that deal with sleep problems and moodiness (Most americans have sleep problems)
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Posted: Mon Jul 18, 2011 11:42 am
MindxHunter Roxy Hazard Wow, that just described 9/10 teenagers. This kind of seems like those stupid "illnesses" that probably exist but people misinterpret or even misdiagnosis the symptoms for. That also seemed to describe any shy, achieving student. So I guess thats me, and my honors classmates
EDIT: After my rant, I read the entry above me and I wholeheartedly agree. Well sure, it seems something like ADD (Everyone basically has it) You know you're in love when you can't fall asleep...
...no, not really...
...because reality is finally better than your dreams...
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Posted: Mon Jul 18, 2011 12:15 pm
Umbrae Ac Silentium MindxHunter Roxy Hazard Wow, that just described 9/10 teenagers. This kind of seems like those stupid "illnesses" that probably exist but people misinterpret or even misdiagnosis the symptoms for. That also seemed to describe any shy, achieving student. So I guess thats me, and my honors classmates
EDIT: After my rant, I read the entry above me and I wholeheartedly agree. Well sure, it seems something like ADD (Everyone basically has it) You know you're in love when you can't fall asleep...
...no, not really...
...because reality is finally better than your dreams... Ok I'll count the people that have autism and other people that can be very focused on one task at hand. Yes, indeed really.
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Posted: Mon Jul 18, 2011 5:01 pm
MindxHunter Umbrae Ac Silentium MindxHunter Roxy Hazard Wow, that just described 9/10 teenagers. This kind of seems like those stupid "illnesses" that probably exist but people misinterpret or even misdiagnosis the symptoms for. That also seemed to describe any shy, achieving student. So I guess thats me, and my honors classmates
EDIT: After my rant, I read the entry above me and I wholeheartedly agree. Well sure, it seems something like ADD (Everyone basically has it) You know you're in love when you can't fall asleep...
...no, not really...
...because reality is finally better than your dreams... Ok I'll count the people that have autism and other people that can be very focused on one task at hand. Yes, indeed really. You know you're in love when you can't fall asleep...
Try again. Do you have ADD?
...because reality is finally better than your dreams...
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Posted: Mon Jul 18, 2011 5:19 pm
Indeed. As many doctors could and would sign papers and give me medication for it.
I'll keep trying
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Posted: Tue Jul 19, 2011 3:26 am
I agree with Umbrae to a certain degree. Except this "disorder" seems to go beyond being shy so much as it is to just be speechless when in certain situations. Like a baby meeting a stranger for the first time. A lot of times the infant will either stay completely silent or start crying. I think that is the behavior this "disorder" is addressing. Still just because I choose not to talk with people (except online since most of you will never meet me in real life anyway) doesn't mean there's something wrong with me. Anyway here's a little quote I found today in regards to Glenn Gould: "Many simply can't accept that such superior talents can exist, for such extraordinary talents indict their own militant mediocrity. Thus they medicalize this talent away, making it not a matter of a gift, but of pathology. Just as vice has been pathologized, so is virtue being pathologized. Such is the brave new world." I think this quote really brings into perspective what's going on in the world. Everyone is being diagnosed with something to explain any abnormalities they may have regardless of whether they are harmful, neutral, or beneficial. Just because they're not like Mr. Average Joe or Mrs. Average Jane there must be something wrong with them.
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