Masked_Ven
Just wondering;
because something happened at my friend’s birthday party last week that's been building up the frustration in head ever since. It was a silly conversation about another friend of ours, Claire at the table outside but I think she took it too far when she said “What if Claire got a sex change?” Someone I didn’t know said “What would you call that?” she replied “a b*****d,” then looked at me. I think she truly meant it as a joke but it still made me uneasy. Considering out of all those people at that party she is the only one who that knows I’m going to start transitioning soon. I understand her viewpoint and we have a very trusting friendship but I feel like this subject is building a wall between us somehow. I doubt she even remembers it and don’t know how to confront her about it.
Hi there.
I'm not going to tell you what to do, but I'll tell you what I would do.
If I were in your shoes, I would confront my friend about the situation.
No conversation leading up to it, just a simple, "Hey, you hurt my feelings by saying this the other day."
If they don't apologize or if they go further with hurting feelings, I would tell them that I'm sorry but the friendship isn't going to work out.
This is just me talking. Usually it is very easy for me to get out of a friendship if they hurt my feelings, even if I have known them for more than ten years. Sure, I miss them but things just don't work out sometimes. Stuff happens.
I hope everything works out. Good luck.
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