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 Posted: Fri Apr 28, 2006 11:54 pm
Well, if you don't want to face any problems with conception, I'd say try before your 27 because that's the age that women become less fertile at. But other than that, I'd say that the best time would be when you and your fiance feel that your financially stable enough to bring another life into the world.
One of my exes that I'm on somewhat good speaking terms with just told me about a week ago that his fience is 4 months pregnant and neither one of them are even close to being ready to take that responsibility. He's turning 19 next month and she's not turning 18 until October. So just be glad that you don't have to worry about keeping a roof over a child's head in addition to yours.
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Posted: Sun Jul 16, 2006 6:41 am
Eh I wouldn't have kids until my career was solid. Meaning, after grad-school and after a firm foundation in my line of work. So if I graduate college at 22, gradschool at 25, then spend about two years in my line of work... hm 27 seems a bit young still. Well up to the person I suppose but I guess 27. This is all assuming you're not going to be a friggin housewife, understand.
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Posted: Sun Jul 16, 2006 5:27 pm
Blech, I'm not having kids.
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Posted: Sun Aug 06, 2006 9:30 pm
Well, he's obviously had a hard time with this topic and needs to know that he can trust you with something like that. That you won't take his babies away from him.
Please don't take any offense to that!
Anyway you just need to let him know that you're going to be there for him for the rest of your life.
I think that as long as you're ready for the baby, and you can take care of it - you're fine.
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Posted: Fri Aug 11, 2006 8:50 pm
I don't really like little kids...but if I were to have them, I'd have to agree with the person who said 27 was a good age...although, 27 is a good age to do a lot of things.
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Posted: Fri Aug 11, 2006 10:20 pm
I think that assigning an age to having kids is like assigning an age to maturity. There are lots of 30 year olds who are too immature to have kids, and 20 year olds who have been ready for years. I think the real question isn't "when should I have kids?" so much as "am I ready to have kids?". I don't think a set age is proper, nor accurate. I think it's all a matter of maturity, finances, and preperation. I don't think having a certain birthday means one is more skilled at raising children than someone else.
On top of that I think it's a question that will have to be answered by both people in the relationship. Rushing to have kids when your significant other isn't ready is just asking for issues and is being kind of selfish in a way. I think it's something that would require a nice long talk between the couple in question.
Personally if it were me the only thing holding me back is some of my youth left that I need to waste, and money. Other than that, I'm totally there.
Oh yeah, and I wouldn't even consider being engaged at 19... I think that's just throwing yourself into trouble.
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Posted: Tue Sep 05, 2006 12:41 pm
Ndoki I think that assigning an age to having kids is like assigning an age to maturity. There are lots of 30 year olds who are too immature to have kids, and 20 year olds who have been ready for years. I think the real question isn't "when should I have kids?" so much as "am I ready to have kids?". I don't think a set age is proper, nor accurate. I think it's all a matter of maturity, finances, and preperation. I don't think having a certain birthday means one is more skilled at raising children than someone else. I must agree with you on that note. 3nodding Personally, I'm very good with children, but I know that I do not want any child(ren) until I've completed my education, have a stable and decent-paying job, and above all am in a committed relationship with somone else who is ready for taking on the burden of being a parent. I also would like to wait until I'm at least 30, so that I'll have some time to travel and live it up before becoming a mother. Alongside that, I don't want to procreate. The way I see it, there are too many children already in this world who are unloved and uncared for, so instead of creating another mouth for this world to feed, I'd much rather care for a child who is already here and in need of a loving home/family, thus, adopting. That being said, there tend to be two main schools of thought on the topic of when to have children. Some people believe that having children while you're still young is good, since you'll still be active and relatively young when(and if) you have grandchildren, and thusfourth be able to enjoy them. Alongside that, you'll still be young and able to live it up once your children are out on thier own. However, the other school of thought argues that if you have children older you will likely be more mature and more financially prepared (though such is not always the case), and alongside that, you can enjoy your early adulthood without having to worry about family matters. Dispite knowing that I would make a wonderful mother (or so all my relatives, as well as the families I babysit for say), I have no desire to have a child anytime soon. I'm 16, and right now I just want to get a sound education, work on my creative endeavors, and just enjoy life as a free-spirited individual! Eventually the time will come when I'll want a child, but I've likely got at least a good decade ahead of me before I have to worry about any of that. cool
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Posted: Tue Sep 05, 2006 1:20 pm
I'd say about 30 ia probably a good age, but it really depends on factors like your relationship and financial situation.
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Posted: Sun Oct 22, 2006 3:30 am
Children absolutely repulse me. Having to dote on a wrinkled useless helpless wad for years...isn't my cup of tea. If you're planning to have children, however....may whatever fluffy thing in the sky have mercy on your soul.
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Posted: Wed Oct 25, 2006 11:00 pm
raze_allender One of the things I want most in my life is to have children. My fiance and I are getting married in May. My question to you all is, what age is the best to have children? We're both twenty one and I want to have one not long after we get married and he doesn't want one for awhile (granted he has two children already (his son was put up for adoption by the mom and the mom of his daughter won't let him see her)). late twenties kids are expensive
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Posted: Fri Nov 10, 2006 3:53 am
Currently I don't want to have children. I never have. My boyfriend feels the same, but if we ever do change our minds, I think we'll adopt. The children don't have to be of my blood to love them as my own.
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Posted: Sat Nov 18, 2006 1:25 am
i've oftern heard your never ready to have kids...
age really isn't as important as maturity and financial stability..
i was 24 when my son was born...i was still too young as i hadn't finished college and well just many reasons...but i coped....
i would say....not age but when you can be financially independant (you and your spouse/so) for about two years......and have extra money...then it might be time to think about kids...
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Posted: Sat Nov 18, 2006 2:45 pm
If I do have children, I don't want to have them until my 30's, maybe late 20's. Part of it depends on if and when I end up getting married, and what my husband wants as well. But I'm not in a hurry to have children.
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Posted: Mon Jan 22, 2007 2:44 pm
I think it really depends on you. I am 22, getting married in March and my Fiance brought up the kids topic. He is 28 and ready. I am 22 and scared. I have seen how much work they can be (I have a sister who was born when I was 13) but so has he, as he raised his brothers for 5 years. We agreed that after we move (we are moving across country in April) and get a house, which will prob be a year, we will have them. I am nervous but excited.
I think my thing is that I know that cute baby will grow into a horrid teen. BUT also I dont want to risk dying alone, and I want to make my contribution to the world by bringing up kids in the way I feel they should be.
Oh and kids are smelly and sticky and kinda gross.
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Posted: Tue Jan 23, 2007 1:03 pm
I think you need to wait
Personally I dont want kids
if it really comes down to it, then at least not more than one
I find pregnancy disgusting
And I'm not exactly looking forward to giving birth and having such major responsibilities
and personally, I recent that people have more than 2 kids
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