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 Posted: Thu Mar 03, 2011 4:58 pm
Testicular Diabeetus Have you tried the scar gels at Walmart? they cost about fourteen bucks but it worked for me. You have to keep applying it twice a day though and it takes awhile to be able to see results. I was in a bad car wreck and the windshield shattered all over me, I was covered in cuts. And the scars were bad, but after using the gel it went away. It took almost three months but they went away. I'm going to Walmart this weekend and I will see exactly what it is called and the current price for you. =)
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Posted: Thu Mar 03, 2011 5:11 pm
Tolora Lady Kira X Tolora Lady Kira X Sometimes I look at my scars and I'm happy that I've accomplished getting over my problems.. & other times I regret my decisions & feel stupid for doing what I've done..
Hopefully, if you're like me, your scars will eventually fade away..
How bad are your scars?
And, they're not too horrible, they're white and skinny, but there's so darn many of them.
And a majority of them, I don't know how to describe it, it's like... they're still 'open.' they're healed, but they aren't completely closed. If that makes any sense. So makeup can't cover that.
What do you do when summer comes? Stay covered up or...?
The only ones you can see now are the ones on my hands, shoulder & breast..
My mom used to tell everyone what the scar on my hand was.. & I think she would do it to make me feel ashamed into not cutting myself anymore. For years it had just been the scars on my left hand.. but about a month ago I accidentally cut my other hand with my finger nail. It has left a nasty pink scar that probably won't ever go away.
The ones I'm really ashamed of are my breast scars.. they are really noticeable when I have a low cut top & one of my biggest regrets. Strangely enough.. they could easily pass as stretch marks.. but still.. even if no one else knows what they are.. I do..
I don't cover up anything & I'm not afraid to have people ask me what happened.. my past is my past.. and I'm better now & that is all that matters.
I'm sure your will fade out soon.. and fully heal.. just don't be ashamed of wearing a t-shirt.. everyone has had weak moments in their life that they regret.. some people just have to wear theirs.
That comment about your mom really burns me up, mostly because my mom is so much like that. She's always reminding me that i gave those scars to myself, and asking me ''why i would do that to her?" I think she forgets that I'm the one who actually has to live with the scars.
Are you out of school yet? Because I can see it being easier to wear whatever you want when you don't have to go to school [.And if you're still in school then you are very brave]
I'm still in school... 8th grade to be exact, and kids are SO judgemental at this age. It sucks, to say the least.
I've had the scars on my arms since junior high.. My first "cut" was in 7th grade history class.. I was upset about something & just started going at my arm & hand with a pencil.
I guess it never really bothered me about people being judgmental towards me because most of my friends were cutters & far worse off than I was.. They have really really bad scars.. and sometimes it makes me feel bad for them.
When I moved away after freshmen year.. it was hard because I was different & didn't have any friends. I wore a hoodie every day.. not because I was hiding anything.. but just because it was a force of habit.
I believe I was a senior one year.. was in math class.. the group of kids I normally talk to were talking badly about cutters.. and calling them attention whores & what not. It kinda pissed me off because if you aren't a cutter or a self harmer you probably don't know jack s**t about what these people are going through. That's like making fun of alcoholics & smokers & calling them pathetic for not being able to control themselves. Every now and then I wouldn't wear my jacket & you could see the new cuts & scars I had.. no one really said anything to my face about it before.
My advice to you.. seeing as how I am out of school & I did go through the high school life..
Just ignore them.. they are little kids & hardly know anything about life.. I know you yourself are young.. but you can have a better outlook on the situation. After high school you probably aren't ever going to see these kids again so you shouldn't take their opinions too seriously.. if you do it just makes things so much worse & more complicated for yourself. I know its hard but some day you're going to look back & be like.. wth was I worried about? Don't waste your youth worrying and feeling self-conscious.
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Posted: Thu Mar 03, 2011 5:19 pm
Lady Kira X My mom.. I knew she cared.. but still :/ she went about everything in a wrong way & it made me feel worse about myself. But she wasn't the only one making comments.. my whole family did.. and it got to the point where when someone said something badly towards me I just would leave & not talk to anyone.
I've had the scars on my arms since junior high.. My first "cut" was in 7th grade history class.. I was upset about something & just started going at my arm & hand with a pencil.
I guess it never really bothered me about people being judgmental towards me because most of my friends were cutters & far worse off than I was.. They have really really bad scars.. and sometimes it makes me feel bad for them.
When I moved away after freshmen year.. it was hard because I was different & didn't have any friends. I wore a hoodie every day.. not because I was hiding anything.. but just because it was a force of habit.
I believe I was a senior one year.. was in math class.. the group of kids I normally talk to were talking badly about cutters.. and calling them attention whores & what not. It kinda pissed me off because if you aren't a cutter or a self harmer you probably don't know jack s**t about what these people are going through. That's like making fun of alcoholics & smokers & calling them pathetic for not being able to control themselves. Every now and then I wouldn't wear my jacket & you could see the new cuts & scars I had.. no one really said anything to my face about it before.
My advice to you.. seeing as how I am out of school & I did go through the high school life..
Just ignore them.. they are little kids & hardly know anything about life.. I know you yourself are young.. but you can have a better outlook on the situation. After high school you probably aren't ever going to see these kids again so you shouldn't take their opinions too seriously.. if you do it just makes things so much worse & more complicated for yourself. I know its hard but some day you're going to look back & be like.. wth was I worried about? Don't waste your youth worrying and feeling self-conscious.
I'm not going to say you're 'lucky' for having friends that were worse off than you , because that sounds horrible, but I guess you were lucky for having friends who understood
Most of my friends wouldn't understand cutting at all. I have a little amount of friends who do understand it and accept it, which is good.
And, thanks. I cann't say that I'm going to go to school in short sleeves tomorrow, but I'll quit having a panic attack every time I have to wear a short sleeve dress for show choir or something.
and that IS true, what you said, about never seeing them again after I graduate. But thats just so far away. I don't want to be that 'weirdo emo girl' for 5 years. [I hate the word emo ... but thats what people call cutters at my school -__-]
Thanks heart
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Posted: Thu Mar 03, 2011 5:23 pm
A friend of mine used to cover them up, but she's a lot better now and just ignores them. If you ignore them chances are most other people will too.
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Posted: Fri Mar 11, 2011 10:41 pm
Well, before you try to cover them up, ask yourself why you're covering them up in the first place, is it because they bother you or is it everybody else with the problem? Do you think that they detract from your looks or personality? Ultimately, do you feel like you're depriving yourself of what you want because of something you got over a long time ago?
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Posted: Sat Mar 12, 2011 4:18 am
Isn't there some kind of specific laser surgery meant to diminishing the outward appearance of scars? Maybe it was just a dream "/
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Posted: Sat Mar 12, 2011 6:35 pm
use make-up. try foundation? i never tried that before though lol just suggestion.
or you can start cutting in places that people won't notice. shoulders? high up on the legs? not tryin to encourage you or anythin but ya.
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Posted: Sat Mar 12, 2011 7:26 pm
Tolora Today my Dermablend that I ordered and payed $50 for came in the mail.
And guess what?
It didn't cover a f***ing thing.
Backstory: My entire left arm has scars running up it from months of self harm. I am so past that now and just want to MOVE ON. Summer is coming, and i thought it would be nice to be able to wear short sleeves.
That expensive Dermablend, my LAST option, didn't even work.
I'm exasperated. I don't know what to do anymore. I've tried everything else.
all my hope for being a normal person who could wear normal tank tops etc just came crashing down.
Does anyone have any advice at all? any last resorts to cover those damn scars?
please?
*grumbles* Dermablend my a**, that stuff didn't even work... What's Dermablend? Have you seen a dermatologist? I'm sure you have, but I just wanted to make sure. I used to have a scar on my hand and I would open up vitamin E gel caps and rub it on the scar. Its a slow cure but it go away after few months. I have scars on alot of my body that I'm pretty sure wont go away, In the end, I think you just accept them and move on. Chances are people around you will too
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