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 Posted: Thu Jan 25, 2007 1:44 am
Other Questions to Discuss With Your Teenager on the Subject of Sexuality
1) What factors influence your views about sex?
2) What is the hardest aspect of sex, dating, and relationships that you and your peers deal with?
3) What aspects of your life right now contribute to your self-control? What aspects take away from self-control?
4) In what ways could you be spending your time to make yourself a better friend or person?
5) What are some of the benefits of abstinence? Do you believe you have the skills or commitment to wait to have sex until marriage? Why or why not? How can I help you in this process?
6) What do you think are the reasons teens get sexually involved? What are your peers looking for in a relationship?
7) What do you like the best about you right now? What do you like the least? If you could change one thing about your looks, what would it be? What is the best thing about your looks? What internal quality do you like best about yourself? What internal quality would you like to improve upon?
8 ) Can you tell the difference between love and infatuation? What do the two look like?
9) When you think about getting married some day, what do you want in a future mate? What type of lifestyle do you want? What kind of education or work will it take to achieve that? What could get in the way of that? What internal qualities will it take in your marriage when you don't "feel" like you're "in love"?
10) If you were 70 years old and had to write about your life - what would you say? What dreams or goals would you have achieved? What do you want your life to look like? What must you do today to realize those dreams down the road? How could being involved prematurely in sex derail those dreams?
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Posted: Thu Jan 25, 2007 1:51 am
To Date or Not To Date?
Dating is a parental values issue and one that should be decided upon as early as possible before your teen starts adolescence. How you view dating and marriage will determine the expectations your teenager has when he goes to middle and high school. If a parent decides his child won't date until 16, then the child is being raised with the expectation that 16 is the magic number that will allow him to date. If, on the other hand, you as a parent don't believe in dating and want your teen to pursue a friendship that could lead to courtship and marriage, your approach and messages will be very different. The key is to be consistent with your messages and expectations.
If you decide you will allow your teenager to date, guidelines are very important. He should be encouraged to group date rather than go out alone. Group dating allows your teen to become friends first with his date. There are many resources and ideas for safe group dating. It is also important that your teen already be trained in situations that could occur in group dating or singular dating. Discuss these possible situations before they occur and give your child specific statements about how to say "No!" Having a game plan is always better than letting things go to chance.
One popular method of transferring your values on dating and relationships to your teen is by taking him for a special night to talk about the value of abstinence until marriage. Many parents give their teen a ring or some other special piece of jewellery to remind him of his vows of abstinence. The movement of "True Love Waits" from the Southern Baptist Sunday School Board has many materials and ideas to help you and your teen not only make a vow of abstinence until marriage, but to spread the news on high school campuses as well.
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Posted: Thu Jan 25, 2007 1:53 am
Conclusion
When you look at the vast number of things your child should be aware of in the area of sexuality, it would be much easier to walk away and leave the job to someone else. But this is a critical arena in which our children need us. How we live our family life and how we prepare our children to enter adulthood affects our society as a whole. You know and love your child more than anybody else. YOU are the expert. And yes, we can launch our children responsibly into their sexuality and adulthood.
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Posted: Thu Jan 25, 2007 1:54 am
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Posted: Thu Jan 25, 2007 1:55 am
This sticky is now open! heart
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Posted: Fri May 04, 2007 7:18 pm
The whole thing was very conservative. O__o
It appeared to be tolerant of homosexuality, but at the end, it encouraged the parent to try and convince thier offspring to end their homosexual activities. I'm not a parent, but my views are really different. As well as my own parents.
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Posted: Tue Jul 31, 2007 8:51 am
Radioactive Lollipops The whole thing was very conservative. O__o It appeared to be tolerant of homosexuality, but at the end, it encouraged the parent to try and convince thier offspring to end their homosexual activities. I'm not a parent, but my views are really different. As well as my own parents. In which section does it say that?
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