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 Posted: Thu Jan 20, 2011 2:12 pm
Chieftain Twilight Aakosir Chieftain Twilight I know that I would feel extremely disheartened if any children of mine were to refer to me by name instead of as my title of parenthood..... one of the most important goals in my life is to be a parent, after all. to hear myself refered to as anything other than a parental title by a child of mine would feel like the biggest sign of my failure as a parent ever.... one of my main motivations for everything I do is perfectionism. redface
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Posted: Thu Jan 20, 2011 2:23 pm
Aakosir Chieftain Twilight Aakosir Chieftain Twilight I know that I would feel extremely disheartened if any children of mine were to refer to me by name instead of as my title of parenthood..... one of the most important goals in my life is to be a parent, after all. to hear myself refered to as anything other than a parental title by a child of mine would feel like the biggest sign of my failure as a parent ever.... one of my main motivations for everything I do is perfectionism. redface I think it would be very helpful to some people. smile leastways it sounds like the info in it is accurate.
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Posted: Thu Jan 20, 2011 2:32 pm
Chieftain Twilight Aakosir Chieftain Twilight Aakosir Chieftain Twilight I know that I would feel extremely disheartened if any children of mine were to refer to me by name instead of as my title of parenthood..... one of the most important goals in my life is to be a parent, after all. to hear myself refered to as anything other than a parental title by a child of mine would feel like the biggest sign of my failure as a parent ever.... one of my main motivations for everything I do is perfectionism. redface I think it would be very helpful to some people. smile leastways it sounds like the info in it is accurate.
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Posted: Thu Jan 20, 2011 2:43 pm
Aakosir Chieftain Twilight Aakosir Chieftain Twilight Aakosir Chieftain Twilight I know that I would feel extremely disheartened if any children of mine were to refer to me by name instead of as my title of parenthood..... one of the most important goals in my life is to be a parent, after all. to hear myself refered to as anything other than a parental title by a child of mine would feel like the biggest sign of my failure as a parent ever.... one of my main motivations for everything I do is perfectionism. redface I think it would be very helpful to some people. smile leastways it sounds like the info in it is accurate. who's the author? and who is is credited in that book with informing?
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Posted: Thu Jan 20, 2011 7:30 pm
Chieftain Twilight Aakosir Chieftain Twilight Aakosir Chieftain Twilight one of my main motivations for everything I do is perfectionism. redface I think it would be very helpful to some people. smile leastways it sounds like the info in it is accurate. who's the author? and who is is credited in that book with informing?
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Posted: Thu Jan 20, 2011 9:46 pm
Aakosir Chieftain Twilight Aakosir Chieftain Twilight I know that I would feel extremely disheartened if any children of mine were to refer to me by name instead of as my title of parenthood..... one of the most important goals in my life is to be a parent, after all. to hear myself refered to as anything other than a parental title by a child of mine would feel like the biggest sign of my failure as a parent ever.... one of my main motivations for everything I do is perfectionism. redface Wow. Alright now I don't feel so abnormal of a guy anymore. Thank you.
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Posted: Fri Jan 21, 2011 7:44 am
Aakosir Chieftain Twilight Aakosir Chieftain Twilight Aakosir Chieftain Twilight one of my main motivations for everything I do is perfectionism. redface I think it would be very helpful to some people. smile leastways it sounds like the info in it is accurate. who's the author? and who is is credited in that book with informing? I'll have to take a look at this book myself sometime. whee
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Posted: Tue Jan 25, 2011 8:31 pm
I personally find it weird when kids call parents by their given names. It's like there isn't a parent-child heirarchy anymore. Just people.
Disrespect or not I think depends on the parents and how they want to handle it, and what the kids mean by calling their parents by name. Are they seeing them as inferiors, or as peers - or is it just another name for mom or dad? Or is it a way of distinguishing a step-parent from parent? Or something else like that?
Then again I don't see a problem with calling grandparents/aunts/uncles by name and not title - though as most of my family has/had nicknames so I wasn't really calling them by their "name" but by an affectionate family nick-name. (My great-grandmother for instance was call "Gem" by family and close friends - her real name was Naomi.) Grandma on the other hand will always be Grandma. I'd never dare refer to her as anything else. I guess it is based on my relationship with the person?
I went through a phase when I was about 2 or 3 where I discovered that my dad had a name other than daddy. I tried calling him by his name for a couple of days - mostly because of the novelty. It made me feel special. I think I thought his real name was special for some reason. But then went back to calling him daddy. I think it made him a bit uncomfortable, but he just gently corrected me a time or two, and let me move past the phase with out making a big deal of it.
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Posted: Wed Jan 26, 2011 7:35 am
Verene I personally find it weird when kids call parents by their given names. It's like there isn't a parent-child heirarchy anymore. Just people. Disrespect or not I think depends on the parents and how they want to handle it, and what the kids mean by calling their parents by name. Are they seeing them as inferiors, or as peers - or is it just another name for mom or dad? Or is it a way of distinguishing a step-parent from parent? Or something else like that? Then again I don't see a problem with calling grandparents/aunts/uncles by name and not title - though as most of my family has/had nicknames so I wasn't really calling them by their "name" but by an affectionate family nick-name. (My great-grandmother for instance was call "Gem" by family and close friends - her real name was Naomi.) Grandma on the other hand will always be Grandma. I'd never dare refer to her as anything else. I guess it is based on my relationship with the person? I went through a phase when I was about 2 or 3 where I discovered that my dad had a name other than daddy. I tried calling him by his name for a couple of days - mostly because of the novelty. It made me feel special. I think I thought his real name was special for some reason. But then went back to calling him daddy. I think it made him a bit uncomfortable, but he just gently corrected me a time or two, and let me move past the phase with out making a big deal of it.
My entire family calls my grandmother Moo. It's funny, but it is what we call her. We used to call her mommom, but someone change it to Moo and it stuck. At least, it's not Stink XD My grandfather called her that.
Our daughter is doing better at calling him Daddy now. I think it was just a phase, because she heard me call him Matt.
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Posted: Wed Jan 26, 2011 7:44 am
rmcdra Aakosir Chieftain Twilight Aakosir Chieftain Twilight I know that I would feel extremely disheartened if any children of mine were to refer to me by name instead of as my title of parenthood..... one of the most important goals in my life is to be a parent, after all. to hear myself refered to as anything other than a parental title by a child of mine would feel like the biggest sign of my failure as a parent ever.... one of my main motivations for everything I do is perfectionism. redface Wow. Alright now I don't feel so abnormal of a guy anymore. Thank you.
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Posted: Wed Jan 26, 2011 8:06 am
I think it's stupid that people get upset. It's your name!! That's what everyone else calls you and that's what your kids should be allowed to call you too.
Think of it this way = Do you call your child... "child"? No. So they shouldn't have to call their parents "mom" or "dad".
I find it cold and distant when people never ever refer to their parents by their actual names.
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Posted: Wed Jan 26, 2011 8:56 am
No, you don't call your daughter "daughter", but there are some poeople who do. I personally can not stand when people call their kids son or daughter. It sounds degrading.
I have a bunch of names that I call my daughter, from babe to her name.
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Posted: Thu Jan 27, 2011 9:38 am
my dad's parents had him call them by their last names, Mr. Smith, Mrs. Smith.
so cold!
"daddy" seems much warmer...
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Posted: Thu Jan 27, 2011 11:22 am
chessiejo my dad's parents had him call them by their last names, Mr. Smith, Mrs. Smith. so cold! "daddy" seems much warmer...
Ha, just thought of this. A lot of people see Mom and Dad as a title. It means more than just being the father or mother, but also being their kin and elders. Some people don't think this was, and that's odd to me.
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Posted: Thu Jan 27, 2011 9:10 pm
Well, I call my children, my boy and my girl. I also call them by many titles as well. In fact, normally I only call them by their names to get their attention. I think it helps create a less formal more enjoyable atmosphere myself. I love to hear my kids call me mom (most of the time) LOL, but like I said before, there are only 2 people in the world who can genuinely address me as such, and it brings a great amount of pride to me.
It really is just in the way you are brought up I suppose. Most people mirror what the society they live in do, yet if you ask each person what their way of doing means to them, then you will get a different meaning from each person...
Case in point, this thread here. I don't suppose there is a wrong way. Each of us have a different reason for why we address our parents a certain way or how we want to be addressed as parents. From respect, to affection, to it's just the way it's done. Actually, this was really an awesome question to ask. It is going to make me think a bit harder the next time I am in Wal-mart and see kids addressing their parents by name.
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