| What's the hardest part of commng out? |
| Telling Parent/Gardian |
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33% |
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| Telling Friends |
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1% |
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| Knowing who to tell/who NOT to tell |
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| Finding the perfect time to tell them |
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5% |
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| Two or more of the above |
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46% |
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 Posted: Sun Feb 13, 2005 5:38 am
i havent came out yet.... sweatdrop i duno how or when im gonna... im scared too.. if i tell my friends then they wont ever talk to me... and im the only daughter of my moms... but im bi so its not just girls... but ive been thinking alot about telling my family and friends... im thinking i'll tell my oldest bro first...
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Posted: Sun Feb 13, 2005 10:02 am
Cisum I've been comming out slowly now for almost a year... THus far it's been pretty easy, although i've only told friends and on relitives yet. I know personally the hardest part will be tell my mother. Only becaus ei'm her only daughter and well, she'll want me to marry a man a be happy and "normal"... How about all of you? What's the hardest part of coming out, do you think? Feel free to describe any personal experiance, or future fears... >>sighs<< My parents "say" they accept me for who I am. But since the day they found out they give me the "What did I do wrong" look. I mean when I told a couple of my aunts and cousins that I could trust at a christmas party my mom was all like "OMG What will they think of ME!?".... >>sighs<< They thought I was doing it for the attention or to get girls to like me basue I'm "Sensitive" But that all changed when they walked in on my ex bf and I in kind of..."compromising" positions..... So yeah... now they seem to look at me like I'm a freak. So much for parents loving their children no matter what crying
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Posted: Sun Feb 13, 2005 10:04 am
shayloup I haven't come out ever, and i don't know if I ever will. this is my first day actually telling anyone (you guys) that I'm Bi. Hehe well good for you. At least you can be you here. I think the girls of t.A.T.u. said it best.... "Be in love... Be Yourself... We are."
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Posted: Sun Feb 13, 2005 8:06 pm
I would have to say the hardest coming out is the family one. I don't care who knows it...people at school, work, friends, strangers...but my family is another story. My cousin Tara is gay and they talk about her all the time and it's almost like they shun her. I'm closest with her and her girlfriend, and that makes it easier on her. I once told my mom that I didn't care that she was gay and I don't think anyone else should either. My mom said she agreed, but she still acts weird around her... *hugs self* But I can't let that get me down cuz more people have it harder then me! biggrin
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Posted: Sun Feb 13, 2005 8:30 pm
Phoenux >>sighs<< My parents "say" they accept me for who I am. But since the day they found out they give me the "What did I do wrong" look. I mean when I told a couple of my aunts and cousins that I could trust at a christmas party my mom was all like "OMG What will they think of ME!?".... >>sighs<< They thought I was doing it for the attention or to get girls to like me basue I'm "Sensitive" But that all changed when they walked in on my ex bf and I in kind of..."compromising" positions..... So yeah... now they seem to look at me like I'm a freak. So much for parents loving their children no matter what crying That's the reaction i'm afraid of most... i hope thigs get better for you.
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Posted: Sun Feb 13, 2005 9:14 pm
Cisum Phoenux >>sighs<< My parents "say" they accept me for who I am. But since the day they found out they give me the "What did I do wrong" look. I mean when I told a couple of my aunts and cousins that I could trust at a christmas party my mom was all like "OMG What will they think of ME!?".... >>sighs<< They thought I was doing it for the attention or to get girls to like me basue I'm "Sensitive" But that all changed when they walked in on my ex bf and I in kind of..."compromising" positions..... So yeah... now they seem to look at me like I'm a freak. So much for parents loving their children no matter what crying That's the reaction i'm afraid of most... i hope thigs get better for you. Thank you... I'm allright now... but I was really broken up about it a couple days ago...
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Posted: Mon Feb 14, 2005 1:00 pm
Cisum I've been comming out slowly now for almost a year... THus far it's been pretty easy, although i've only told friends and on relitives yet. I know personally the hardest part will be tell my mother. Only becaus ei'm her only daughter and well, she'll want me to marry a man a be happy and "normal"... How about all of you? What's the hardest part of coming out, do you think? Feel free to describe any personal experiance, or future fears... I first came out in 99. That makes it...almost 6 years. The thing that one has to remember is that "coming out" is a lifelong process. Every new friend I make, or each new job I get, I'll have to come out all over again. It's not an easy thing. I was very lucky in that everyone has accepted me and my partner (my parents treat her like a daughter). I actually wrote my coming out story as my thesis to graduate college. Please feel free to read it--it's long, but may help. http://www.pathetic.org/library.php?i_memberid=4675&mode=folder&i_folderid=1041620086
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Posted: Mon Feb 14, 2005 2:19 pm
It was all kind of hard. I guess a lot of people think their situation is particularly sensitive, so I won't go saying mine was, because that might just be me. In the end, I'm glad I did come out. Especially since it was my closet-issues that nearly cost me my longtime bf, back near the start of our relationship.
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Posted: Mon Feb 14, 2005 4:56 pm
hey, im new to this guild... im having trouble telling people i dunno if i can trust my friends with the fact that i am bi i know my mom would practically disown me and i am afraid to come out... i trusted one person and so far she is my only true friend... should i tell my family and friends?
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Posted: Mon Feb 14, 2005 5:42 pm
I told my friends three years ago and my mother two years ago. My biggest fear is telling my father. He wont be as accepting as my mother.
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Posted: Mon Feb 14, 2005 10:35 pm
The hardest part of coming out will be telling my parents. gonk
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Posted: Tue Feb 15, 2005 7:29 am
I'm pretty damn open about it sweatdrop
I came out at the end of last school year when I was in the 8th grade...it kinda moved like wild fire through my school sweatdrop
I however didnt come out to my father till a few months ago.. to which he replied "I do not support the life style but I'll support you"
I lucked out and coming out to my sis was major easy since shes lesbain xp
As for the rest of my family? I'll wait a few years....or not tell them tell I'm engaged xd
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Posted: Thu Feb 17, 2005 4:36 pm
RevanStar As for the rest of my family? I'll wait a few years....or not tell them tell I'm engaged xd Congratulations! I hope your family can all be happy for you, that's great.
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Posted: Thu Feb 17, 2005 8:15 pm
I came out to my friends and im pretty sure my teachers know....but its kinda hard for me to come out to my mom....i dont know how she'll react to it sweatdrop
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Posted: Tue Feb 22, 2005 9:26 pm
TL Rox Ur Sox I came out to my friends and im pretty sure my teachers know....but its kinda hard for me to come out to my mom....i dont know how she'll react to it sweatdrop Hopefully you and your mommy have a good enough relationship that she will be proud to say it to the whole world!
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