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 Posted: Mon Dec 27, 2010 7:12 pm
I think this is more apparent when meeting or seeing strangers. You're unlikely to judge people so harshly on superficial things when you know them well, or when you know enough about their personality to judge off that. But before you reach that point, I'm fairly certain people make unconscious judgements about your appearance, and will change/adapt their attitude accordingly.
I mean, how else do we assess situations? If you see a guy wearing a ski-mask in the middle of town on a warm day, wouldn't you be alarmed? It's about assessing potential risks and benefits. It's a matter of survival. Our brains have to categorise the information we get, and it takes shortcuts to do so. If we had to take in all the information without sorting or judging it, we'd be overwhelmed. It's much simpler to think, "Oh ski-mask guy, probably a bank robber" than "Hm ski-mask could mean he's a bank robber, or some kind of performance artist, or maybe he just thinks it's fashionable, or perhaps he has some weird skin condition, or maybe he's...". And whilst it doesn't necessarily make for a nice modern society, this kind of thing was the difference between life or death in the past.
Anyway I don't think there's anything wrong about that if you're willing to revise your initial prejudices once you get to know the person. If you cling onto those initial impressions when you've been proven wrong, that's where you have the problem.
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Posted: Mon Dec 27, 2010 7:45 pm
But I mean, its not just people in ski masks. Or a guy holding a gun or something. I just mean normal every day people are judged. Like, I'm sure if I went to dunkin donuts or something, some one is looking me up and down judging me, most likely negatively.
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Posted: Mon Dec 27, 2010 7:54 pm
i've noticed that the skinny, pretty, 'popular' girls are also the girls who have no personality, or are two faced, or are rude, or just...not even worth being friends with. but they're also the people who at my 10 year highschool reunion will either have no job, no money, or still live their parents.
also, i judge people all the time. people i don't know, people i do know.
alsooooo idk what i was going to say. my eyes hurt and i can't focus uuugh
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Posted: Mon Dec 27, 2010 8:16 pm
Randomly Greek But I mean, its not just people in ski masks. Or a guy holding a gun or something. I just mean normal every day people are judged. Like, I'm sure if I went to dunkin donuts or something, some one is looking me up and down judging me, most likely negatively. Yeah I know. But it makes no difference whether it's a ski-mask or a slutty dress or funny coloured hair or pit stains on your shirt. Because you don't know where the benefits or danger is. That woman with the discolouration on her skin? Maybe she just has bad skin, maybe she's got terrible foundation on, but maybe, just maybe, she has some infectious disease, and your brain thinks 'that's not a chance I'll take'. That overweight lady in the corner, maybe she has some inherited defect which leads to weight gain, or maybe she has no self-control. Neither of those are good and so your brain goes 'hmm better not make any unnecessarily nice gestures just in case'. And in the opposite way, seeing attractive people, you'll treat them better in the hopes it'll bring benefits to you. Whether it's simply social benefits, like being friends with a pretty person makes you socially 'higher' by association. Or someone who's dressed really well might be rich, and you could benefit from that. Maybe it's more than that, and it's romantic attraction, the chance that you'd have offspring together. It doesn't matter what the thing is. Whether it's ski-masks or an ugly dress. You just adjust the scale of judgement accordingly. So it's no longer life-and-death, but it's still risks vs benefits, whatever scale you're looking at.
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Posted: Mon Dec 27, 2010 8:54 pm
And like I said, this is why I hate man kind.
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Posted: Mon Dec 27, 2010 9:18 pm
Everyone makes judgments on people's physical appearance, especially when they don't know the person and that's all they have to base their opinion off of. However, I definitely do not agree with the 90 lbs thing. I'm about 95 lbs naturally, no dieting or exercising, and (I at least like to think) I dress relatively nicely. It absolutely does not make people like me more. Just saying from my own personal experience. ANYWAY, back to judging. It happens. We're all guilty of it. However, don't let it bother you. Who cares what a random person, who you most likely will never see again, in Dunkin Donuts thinks about how you look? If, after speaking with and getting to know you, someone still judges you based on weight, clothes, money, etc screw them. They. Are. NOT. Worth. Your. Time. You deserve to have friends who like you for you (lol cliche), not for your physical appearance or possessions.
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Posted: Tue Dec 28, 2010 12:36 am
@Ennica & Retarded cow: I Can understand what you're saying, I mean I'm the same way, but can you possibly tell me you have never judged ANYONE for their looks? Or the way the dressed? Because even though I choose to like people for their personality, I will still sit there sometimes and accidentally say to myself "Wow, that chick is wearing the ugliest mother ******** shirt" or "s**t, that chick is awkwardly shaped." THEN I FEEL LIKE AN a*****e IMMEDIATELY and I'm like, people do this to me then most likely.
I barely even notice s**t about people until I know them. then I point out things about them. I will not like them any more or less because of some feature of theirs if I note it though.
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Posted: Tue Dec 28, 2010 8:19 am
Also I was thinking about this more and while it's true that I'll notice things like that ("oh he's fat" or "she has a pretty face") but I won't judge them for it until their personality gives me a reason to. What someone looks like isn't going to change how likely it is that I'll talk to them.
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