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 Posted: Tue Dec 21, 2010 4:59 am
I understand masturbation making you feel bad.. I've felt that way too. I guess it's guilt from knowing that we could be doing something more respectable with our time, and loneliness to boot.
Maybe finding out ways to "explore"/experiment with your body would help... like yoga or other exercise. Yoga could help reduce your urge to crack your muscles too.
Nutrition or lack thereof could be promoting both of your problems. Joint inflammation can make you feel like you need to crack your joints. The sex drive thing is obviously teenage hormones, but then again teenagers usually eat very unhealthy foods and that doesn't help keep their hormone glands in check.
http://www.wikihow.com/Stop-Cracking-Your-Knuckles
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Posted: Tue Dec 21, 2010 1:44 pm
 Teddy Bear Cupcake When I started masturbating, it was to rebel against my parents.
Did your parents actually ever tell you that you "weren't allowed to masturbate" or anything like that? (If so, that's pretty messed up on their part.)
& -- I gotta ask -- did YOU ever tell your parents that you were masturbating, & that it was for the purpose of rebelling against them?
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Posted: Tue Dec 21, 2010 2:20 pm
Its Me Mr Pregnant I have some bad obsessions, or habits. I'd like some advice on how to either really lessen how much ) do them, or to help stop them completely(Which I understand can take as lot of time. My biggie is I've been addicted, or have made a frequent habit, of masturbation since a very young age(insertion and such). Basically since I started puberty and knew what was down there. I masturbate daily, sometimes a few times. I don't at all like the fact that I do. I dislike the fact that I've broken my own hymen at such a young age, and basically hate the fact that I masturbate. Any tips on stopping this habit? Lessening it? I crack my knuckles. A lot.. Well, not a lot, but a few times a day. It's bad for you. I don't feel like I need to, I just do it without thinking when my joints in my fingers/neck tighten and don't feel as loose as I'd like, and, it obviously makes that worse. Any tips on how to stop this? I only do my neck about once or twice a day, but I do my fingers every few hours that I'm awake, sometimes a bit more, but no more than 7 times a day. &, no being a d**k please. I won't get mad, but I wont' reply. No snarky replies like 'just get laid'. I just turned 15 a month ago, no way in hell is that happening. I want to lessen or even get rid of my need to have sexual feelings, not add to it. Also, don't tell me to do any drugs or anything bad to help cure. I'm not trading one bad habit for another.
First of all, I know that tons of people already said this, but, I still feel inclined to say it, too: There's absolutely nothing "unhealthy" or "wrong" with masturbation... There's not even anything "unhealthy" or "wrong" about masturbating a couple times a day. & it's not as unusual as you might think, either.
I know that that's somewhat irrelevent to why you want to cut down on how often you masturbate & such... However, I just feel it's very, very important that you & other teenage girls in similar situations as you have as many people tell you that as possible.
I'm assuming that the reason you masturbate is, in short, because it feels good, right? After all, that's obviously the reason why most people masturbate, & the advice I'm going to give you below is all based off the assumption that you masturbate because you like the way it feels, & that there aren't any "deeper rooted psychological issues" or whatnot. In the unlikely & awful chance that you were sexually abused or something when you were younger, then you really need to be talking to a mental health professional instead of forum people. But, assuming that that's not the case:
In order to succeed in your attempt to lessen how often you masturbate & perhaps ultimately stop entirely, you're going to have to really work at it. As I believe somebody else previously mentioned, an addiction/habit to sexual acts is very, very similar to a drug or alcohol addiction... The nature & consequences of those addictions are of course completely different; it's the process you have to go through to quit doing them that are very similar. &, unfortunately, there's simply no "easy way" to stop an addiction/habit. It's very hard. But so is life, & if you really put enough of yourself into controlling your habit then I have full faith you'll get it under control eventually.
To gain control over & break free from addictions like drugs, sex/masturbation, etc. , you really just need one thing & one thing only: willpower. It ALL eventually comes down to a matter of willpower. You're going to have to fight many, many difficult battles against yourself... or, more specifically, you're going to have to fight very, very hard the part of yourself that craves something that you in your mind & heart don't want.
Unfortunately, willpower is something you can't really teach people. If I had advice on how to maximize your willpower or whatever, I'd of course tell you. But, in my experience, willpower comes when you decide to make a really hard change & become 100 percent dedicated to making that change, no matter WHAT.
Perhaps try setting goals, at least at first, & making an agreement with yourself that you're going to reach those goals no matter what. For example, maybe tell yourself: No matter WHAT, I'm NOT going to masturbate for the next 48 hours. & no matter how bad you want to, make yourself stick to that agreement. If you can stick to it, then you're definitely on the right track. If you give into your cravings before 48 hours (or however long you decide) are up... then, well, try it again the next day. After all, pretty much nobody succeeds at riding themselves of a strong habit like that without having tried & failed at least once or twice first.
& if/when you start feeling like you can't do it, or that it's too hard, or that you want to give up or whatever, remind yourself that everything you need to get your masturbation tendencies completely under control is already inside you & part of you, & that if you just keep controlling yourself & your urges & not giving into them, you'll reach your goal. The only way you can fail is if you make the decision to give up. So if you don't want to fail, don't let yourself make that decision.
Hope that helped at least somewhat. Best of luck!
(By the way, I've never had any sort of addiction to anything sexual before... However, I did have multiple really bad drug addictions when I was a teenager, both of which I successfully quit... So even though I can't relate personally to the specifics of your situation, I am mostly speaking out of personal experience & what I know works.)
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Posted: Tue Dec 21, 2010 5:38 pm
Well virginity's only important cause our society says so. I don't think anyone actually wants to have sex with a girl just to break their hymen. I'd say don't feel too bad about it being broken. Girls who do gymnastics and horse back riding break it all the time.
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Posted: Wed Dec 22, 2010 2:59 pm
pirulaso Well virginity's only important cause our society says so. I don't think anyone actually wants to have sex with a girl just to break their hymen. I'd say don't feel too bad about it being broken. Girls who do gymnastics and horse back riding break it all the time. :raises my hand.: never count out a possible Goal. I've never ******** a Virgin girl, and has nothing to do with society. I want to ******** a Virgin, and break her Hymen, for the sheer Pleasure of doing so. it is in fact, a Conquest I want to have. don't get me wrong, if she's not a total b***h (and possibly even if she is) I won't mistreat her or throw her away. I want to show all the gratitude and care for her I can if/when I get the chance to have this Treasure-Girl. of course I am objectifying, but that doesn't mean I won't count her Humanity and treat her properly. I want, as badly as could be, to ******** a Virgin girl and break her Hymen. I want pristine, tight, untouched p***y. is it realy such a horrible thing for me to want that? or is it realy so valueless? and I would let her know, exactly what I want, and be fair about it. and I would be as good to her as I can be. and I would let her know, that her Body is a Temple, and that if she let me inside her Temple I would Worship her. and she'd always have my gratitude for it. and in the same level of GREAT importance, another of my goals which people like you take for granted, is the desire, the QUEST, to be taken on a Date. an actual, Romantic, one-on-one Date. with anyone, be there any actual intention of getting together or not, but a real Date. I've never had one of those either, and I want one. these kinds of dsires are NOT things that I'm just told that I should want... they are honest desires, which tear me up at night and keep me awake. why the hell can't I have it? why is it that I have never been able to have it? why doesn't anyone want me for these things? so never assume that ANYTHING is unwanted. got it?
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Posted: Wed Dec 22, 2010 3:10 pm
Its Me Mr Pregnant And yes, the hymen part worries me because not many guys I know would take "I broke it myself" as an excuse, and would assume I've had sex before. Most people don't even know where the hymen is and what it looks like. So it's actually extremely unlikely that your partner would even notice that your hymen was already torn. Also, most hymens don't tear during sex. The thinner ones usually tear before a girl has sex, from things like masturbating, using tampons, and even riding horses. And the thicker ones may even stay intact and just stretch out of the way during sex. So if a guy ever did notice that your hymen was torn and accused you of lying about your sexual history, then it would just mean that he wasn't very educated about the female body. If that happens, feel free to educate him. There are even some wonderful sex ed guilds here on Gaia if you need any help with the details. If he still accuses you of lying, kick him to the curb. You don't need a guy who doesn't trust you.
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Posted: Wed Dec 22, 2010 5:19 pm
Chieftain Twilight pirulaso Well virginity's only important cause our society says so. I don't think anyone actually wants to have sex with a girl just to break their hymen. I'd say don't feel too bad about it being broken. Girls who do gymnastics and horse back riding break it all the time. :raises my hand.: never count out a possible Goal. I've never ******** a Virgin girl, and has nothing to do with society. I want to ******** a Virgin, and break her Hymen, for the sheer Pleasure of doing so. it is in fact, a Conquest I want to have. don't get me wrong, if she's not a total b***h (and possibly even if she is) I won't mistreat her or throw her away. I want to show all the gratitude and care for her I can if/when I get the chance to have this Treasure-Girl. of course I am objectifying, but that doesn't mean I won't count her Humanity and treat her properly. I want, as badly as could be, to ******** a Virgin girl and break her Hymen. I want pristine, tight, untouched p***y. is it realy such a horrible thing for me to want that? or is it realy so valueless? and I would let her know, exactly what I want, and be fair about it. and I would be as good to her as I can be. and I would let her know, that her Body is a Temple, and that if she let me inside her Temple I would Worship her. and she'd always have my gratitude for it. and in the same level of GREAT importance, another of my goals which people like you take for granted, is the desire, the QUEST, to be taken on a Date. an actual, Romantic, one-on-one Date. with anyone, be there any actual intention of getting together or not, but a real Date. I've never had one of those either, and I want one. these kinds of dsires are NOT things that I'm just told that I should want... they are honest desires, which tear me up at night and keep me awake. why the hell can't I have it? why is it that I have never been able to have it? why doesn't anyone want me for these things? so never assume that ANYTHING is unwanted. got it? Well I can already tell you're pissed off by the way you're speaking to me. Try to calm down, you made your point. I guess there are people who thirst for virgin to love, and that she can't be one of them cause her hymen broke. I don't take anything for granted by the way, but I don't hold it against someone either. A woman who loves me and allows me to be intimate with her will have my gratitude no matter what her history is
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Posted: Thu Dec 23, 2010 12:24 pm
elyzia
First of all, I know that tons of people already said this, but, I still feel inclined to say it, too: There's absolutely nothing "unhealthy" or "wrong" with masturbation... There's not even anything "unhealthy" or "wrong" about masturbating a couple times a day. & it's not as unusual as you might think, either.
I know that that's somewhat irrelevent to why you want to cut down on how often you masturbate & such... However, I just feel it's very, very important that you & other teenage girls in similar situations as you have as many people tell you that as possible.
I'm assuming that the reason you masturbate is, in short, because it feels good, right? After all, that's obviously the reason why most people masturbate, & the advice I'm going to give you below is all based off the assumption that you masturbate because you like the way it feels, & that there aren't any "deeper rooted psychological issues" or whatnot. In the unlikely & awful chance that you were sexually abused or something when you were younger, then you really need to be talking to a mental health professional instead of forum people. But, assuming that that's not the case:
In order to succeed in your attempt to lessen how often you masturbate & perhaps ultimately stop entirely, you're going to have to really work at it. As I believe somebody else previously mentioned, an addiction/habit to sexual acts is very, very similar to a drug or alcohol addiction... The nature & consequences of those addictions are of course completely different; it's the process you have to go through to quit doing them that are very similar. &, unfortunately, there's simply no "easy way" to stop an addiction/habit. It's very hard. But so is life, & if you really put enough of yourself into controlling your habit then I have full faith you'll get it under control eventually.
To gain control over & break free from addictions like drugs, sex/masturbation, etc. , you really just need one thing & one thing only: willpower. It ALL eventually comes down to a matter of willpower. You're going to have to fight many, many difficult battles against yourself... or, more specifically, you're going to have to fight very, very hard the part of yourself that craves something that you in your mind & heart don't want.
Unfortunately, willpower is something you can't really teach people. If I had advice on how to maximize your willpower or whatever, I'd of course tell you. But, in my experience, willpower comes when you decide to make a really hard change & become 100 percent dedicated to making that change, no matter WHAT.
Perhaps try setting goals, at least at first, & making an agreement with yourself that you're going to reach those goals no matter what. For example, maybe tell yourself: No matter WHAT, I'm NOT going to masturbate for the next 48 hours. & no matter how bad you want to, make yourself stick to that agreement. If you can stick to it, then you're definitely on the right track. If you give into your cravings before 48 hours (or however long you decide) are up... then, well, try it again the next day. After all, pretty much nobody succeeds at riding themselves of a strong habit like that without having tried & failed at least once or twice first.
& if/when you start feeling like you can't do it, or that it's too hard, or that you want to give up or whatever, remind yourself that everything you need to get your masturbation tendencies completely under control is already inside you & part of you, & that if you just keep controlling yourself & your urges & not giving into them, you'll reach your goal. The only way you can fail is if you make the decision to give up. So if you don't want to fail, don't let yourself make that decision.
Hope that helped at least somewhat. Best of luck!
(By the way, I've never had any sort of addiction to anything sexual before... However, I did have multiple really bad drug addictions when I was a teenager, both of which I successfully quit... So even though I can't relate personally to the specifics of your situation, I am mostly speaking out of personal experience & what I know works.)
I get what you're saying.. so, should I really challenge myself, or can I lower 48 hours to 24, then when I get that, do 48, then 3 days, 4, 5, etc? 'Cuz I just really feel like I need to control it and your advice seems really good.
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Posted: Thu Dec 23, 2010 12:25 pm
Chieftain Twilight pirulaso Well virginity's only important cause our society says so. I don't think anyone actually wants to have sex with a girl just to break their hymen. I'd say don't feel too bad about it being broken. Girls who do gymnastics and horse back riding break it all the time. :raises my hand.: never count out a possible Goal. I've never ******** a Virgin girl, and has nothing to do with society. I want to ******** a Virgin, and break her Hymen, for the sheer Pleasure of doing so. it is in fact, a Conquest I want to have. don't get me wrong, if she's not a total b***h (and possibly even if she is) I won't mistreat her or throw her away. I want to show all the gratitude and care for her I can if/when I get the chance to have this Treasure-Girl. of course I am objectifying, but that doesn't mean I won't count her Humanity and treat her properly. I want, as badly as could be, to ******** a Virgin girl and break her Hymen. I want pristine, tight, untouched p***y. is it realy such a horrible thing for me to want that? or is it realy so valueless? and I would let her know, exactly what I want, and be fair about it. and I would be as good to her as I can be. and I would let her know, that her Body is a Temple, and that if she let me inside her Temple I would Worship her. and she'd always have my gratitude for it. and in the same level of GREAT importance, another of my goals which people like you take for granted, is the desire, the QUEST, to be taken on a Date. an actual, Romantic, one-on-one Date. with anyone, be there any actual intention of getting together or not, but a real Date. I've never had one of those either, and I want one. these kinds of dsires are NOT things that I'm just told that I should want... they are honest desires, which tear me up at night and keep me awake. why the hell can't I have it? why is it that I have never been able to have it? why doesn't anyone want me for these things? so never assume that ANYTHING is unwanted. got it? Keep the rude s**t out of my topic. Got it? smile
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Posted: Thu Dec 23, 2010 12:27 pm
LorienLlewellyn Its Me Mr Pregnant And yes, the hymen part worries me because not many guys I know would take "I broke it myself" as an excuse, and would assume I've had sex before. Most people don't even know where the hymen is and what it looks like. So it's actually extremely unlikely that your partner would even notice that your hymen was already torn. Also, most hymens don't tear during sex. The thinner ones usually tear before a girl has sex, from things like masturbating, using tampons, and even riding horses. And the thicker ones may even stay intact and just stretch out of the way during sex. So if a guy ever did notice that your hymen was torn and accused you of lying about your sexual history, then it would just mean that he wasn't very educated about the female body. If that happens, feel free to educate him. There are even some wonderful sex ed guilds here on Gaia if you need any help with the details. If he still accuses you of lying, kick him to the curb. You don't need a guy who doesn't trust you. Yeah.. I used to think it was inside the v****a(I even thoguht it was a bone/cartilage, someone told me it was, an older person too, they were like 16.). But that helped, I really do feel more comfortable now. I didn't know this, they don't really teach it to you at school so thanks.
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Posted: Sat Dec 25, 2010 11:20 pm
pirulaso Chieftain Twilight pirulaso Well virginity's only important cause our society says so. I don't think anyone actually wants to have sex with a girl just to break their hymen. I'd say don't feel too bad about it being broken. Girls who do gymnastics and horse back riding break it all the time. :raises my hand.: never count out a possible Goal. I've never ******** a Virgin girl, and has nothing to do with society. I want to ******** a Virgin, and break her Hymen, for the sheer Pleasure of doing so. it is in fact, a Conquest I want to have. don't get me wrong, if she's not a total b***h (and possibly even if she is) I won't mistreat her or throw her away. I want to show all the gratitude and care for her I can if/when I get the chance to have this Treasure-Girl. of course I am objectifying, but that doesn't mean I won't count her Humanity and treat her properly. I want, as badly as could be, to ******** a Virgin girl and break her Hymen. I want pristine, tight, untouched p***y. is it realy such a horrible thing for me to want that? or is it realy so valueless? and I would let her know, exactly what I want, and be fair about it. and I would be as good to her as I can be. and I would let her know, that her Body is a Temple, and that if she let me inside her Temple I would Worship her. and she'd always have my gratitude for it. and in the same level of GREAT importance, another of my goals which people like you take for granted, is the desire, the QUEST, to be taken on a Date. an actual, Romantic, one-on-one Date. with anyone, be there any actual intention of getting together or not, but a real Date. I've never had one of those either, and I want one. these kinds of dsires are NOT things that I'm just told that I should want... they are honest desires, which tear me up at night and keep me awake. why the hell can't I have it? why is it that I have never been able to have it? why doesn't anyone want me for these things? so never assume that ANYTHING is unwanted. got it? Well I can already tell you're pissed off by the way you're speaking to me. Try to calm down, you made your point. I guess there are people who thirst for virgin to love, and that she can't be one of them cause her hymen broke. I don't take anything for granted by the way, but I don't hold it against someone either. A woman who loves me and allows me to be intimate with her will have my gratitude no matter what her history is 1.) no, not angry, I was drunk when I wrote that, and worked myself up into a ... well, not quite hysterics. xd 2.) not nessesarilly Love... I just want to ******** a Virgin. it's a purely Carnal Desire. 3.) and I of course won't base my decisions of whether or not to be intimate and/or romantic with someone on something as silly as whether they are a virgin. o.o or else I'd have never been laid besides the times I were raped. xp and that's no good. in fact, my fiance has outdone my "conquests" of the entire previous year in only a single month. o_O; as long as I have no STDs to worry about, and I'm Sexually Attracted to the person, I'm willing if they are. anywho, sorry for being so... passionate. xd I'm going to stay away from such reckless partying for a while. xp
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Posted: Sat Dec 25, 2010 11:22 pm
Its Me Mr Pregnant Chieftain Twilight pirulaso Well virginity's only important cause our society says so. I don't think anyone actually wants to have sex with a girl just to break their hymen. I'd say don't feel too bad about it being broken. Girls who do gymnastics and horse back riding break it all the time. :raises my hand.: never count out a possible Goal. I've never ******** a Virgin girl, and has nothing to do with society. I want to ******** a Virgin, and break her Hymen, for the sheer Pleasure of doing so. it is in fact, a Conquest I want to have. don't get me wrong, if she's not a total b***h (and possibly even if she is) I won't mistreat her or throw her away. I want to show all the gratitude and care for her I can if/when I get the chance to have this Treasure-Girl. of course I am objectifying, but that doesn't mean I won't count her Humanity and treat her properly. I want, as badly as could be, to ******** a Virgin girl and break her Hymen. I want pristine, tight, untouched p***y. is it realy such a horrible thing for me to want that? or is it realy so valueless? and I would let her know, exactly what I want, and be fair about it. and I would be as good to her as I can be. and I would let her know, that her Body is a Temple, and that if she let me inside her Temple I would Worship her. and she'd always have my gratitude for it. and in the same level of GREAT importance, another of my goals which people like you take for granted, is the desire, the QUEST, to be taken on a Date. an actual, Romantic, one-on-one Date. with anyone, be there any actual intention of getting together or not, but a real Date. I've never had one of those either, and I want one. these kinds of dsires are NOT things that I'm just told that I should want... they are honest desires, which tear me up at night and keep me awake. why the hell can't I have it? why is it that I have never been able to have it? why doesn't anyone want me for these things? so never assume that ANYTHING is unwanted. got it? Keep the rude s**t out of my topic. Got it? smile aye. didn't mean it to be rude. blunt, obviously, that was on purpose. just making a point. I will watch myself.
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Posted: Mon Dec 27, 2010 12:32 pm
Its Me Mr Pregnant elyzia
First of all, I know that tons of people already said this, but, I still feel inclined to say it, too: There's absolutely nothing "unhealthy" or "wrong" with masturbation... There's not even anything "unhealthy" or "wrong" about masturbating a couple times a day. & it's not as unusual as you might think, either.
I know that that's somewhat irrelevent to why you want to cut down on how often you masturbate & such... However, I just feel it's very, very important that you & other teenage girls in similar situations as you have as many people tell you that as possible.
I'm assuming that the reason you masturbate is, in short, because it feels good, right? After all, that's obviously the reason why most people masturbate, & the advice I'm going to give you below is all based off the assumption that you masturbate because you like the way it feels, & that there aren't any "deeper rooted psychological issues" or whatnot. In the unlikely & awful chance that you were sexually abused or something when you were younger, then you really need to be talking to a mental health professional instead of forum people. But, assuming that that's not the case:
In order to succeed in your attempt to lessen how often you masturbate & perhaps ultimately stop entirely, you're going to have to really work at it. As I believe somebody else previously mentioned, an addiction/habit to sexual acts is very, very similar to a drug or alcohol addiction... The nature & consequences of those addictions are of course completely different; it's the process you have to go through to quit doing them that are very similar. &, unfortunately, there's simply no "easy way" to stop an addiction/habit. It's very hard. But so is life, & if you really put enough of yourself into controlling your habit then I have full faith you'll get it under control eventually.
To gain control over & break free from addictions like drugs, sex/masturbation, etc. , you really just need one thing & one thing only: willpower. It ALL eventually comes down to a matter of willpower. You're going to have to fight many, many difficult battles against yourself... or, more specifically, you're going to have to fight very, very hard the part of yourself that craves something that you in your mind & heart don't want.
Unfortunately, willpower is something you can't really teach people. If I had advice on how to maximize your willpower or whatever, I'd of course tell you. But, in my experience, willpower comes when you decide to make a really hard change & become 100 percent dedicated to making that change, no matter WHAT.
Perhaps try setting goals, at least at first, & making an agreement with yourself that you're going to reach those goals no matter what. For example, maybe tell yourself: No matter WHAT, I'm NOT going to masturbate for the next 48 hours. & no matter how bad you want to, make yourself stick to that agreement. If you can stick to it, then you're definitely on the right track. If you give into your cravings before 48 hours (or however long you decide) are up... then, well, try it again the next day. After all, pretty much nobody succeeds at riding themselves of a strong habit like that without having tried & failed at least once or twice first.
& if/when you start feeling like you can't do it, or that it's too hard, or that you want to give up or whatever, remind yourself that everything you need to get your masturbation tendencies completely under control is already inside you & part of you, & that if you just keep controlling yourself & your urges & not giving into them, you'll reach your goal. The only way you can fail is if you make the decision to give up. So if you don't want to fail, don't let yourself make that decision.
Hope that helped at least somewhat. Best of luck!
(By the way, I've never had any sort of addiction to anything sexual before... However, I did have multiple really bad drug addictions when I was a teenager, both of which I successfully quit... So even though I can't relate personally to the specifics of your situation, I am mostly speaking out of personal experience & what I know works.)
I get what you're saying.. so, should I really challenge myself, or can I lower 48 hours to 24, then when I get that, do 48, then 3 days, 4, 5, etc? 'Cuz I just really feel like I need to control it and your advice seems really good.
I'm really glad that my advice was useful to you smile
& your idea about first aiming for going 24 hours without masturbating, & then once you've achieved that aiming for 48 hours, & then 3 days, etc. sounds like a really, really good plan. I definitely think you should try something like that first, since bad habits/addictions are generally easier to stop if you take things gradually. Hopefully that plan will work for you, & will make an already very challenging goal somewhat less challenging & more manageable to achieve.
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Posted: Mon Dec 27, 2010 12:34 pm
Maybe you can find another outlet...like drawing or writing stories...maybe keeping a journal.
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Posted: Mon Dec 27, 2010 1:35 pm
i dont know how to help with the habit of cracking your joints, but as for masturbation, i think i can help here. so you fap a lot and dont like that you do? well theres your problem. there is nothing morally wrong about female masturbation. in actuality, theres nothing wrong about any sort of masterbation, but religious types tend to disagree. but even if you are religious, the bible says nothing about female masturbation being bad. just cryptic mambo-jambo about "omg guys dun waste your seed or god will KILL YOU," with seed meaning semen. women, as far as i can tell, do not have semen. and anyway if you really gave a damn about the morality of it, you probably would kick the habit on your own (actually i could be wrong, female orgasms are supposed to be more INTENSE so i guess itd be harder to kick than if you were a dude).
and if you dont like it for health purposes, im pretty sure nothing bad happens from eÎss masturbation. ive heard that in guys it makes your d**k less sensitive, but i also heard that that was COMPLETE BULLSHIT, but it doesnt matter anyway because women dont have penises. and im pretty sure there arent any other concerns. okay maybe itll get huge and terrible if you go elbow-deep, but i doubt thats much of a concern as long as you go gently.
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