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 Posted: Sat Sep 25, 2010 3:35 pm
I am not sure if I could change my orientation if my significant other changed their gender. It's not that I am opposed to the idea of being in love with another woman, it's more of the fact that I get physically ill if I do more than hug another female.
So yeah, like Ch0, I'd probably love them for their personality, but I wouldn't be physically compatible with them anymore.
In the end, although it would be with much regret, I'd think such a relationship would end up being just a really good friendship.
tl;dr I would not change my orientation for love.
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Posted: Sat Oct 02, 2010 2:47 pm
I feel like changing your orientation is something that doesn't really happen all that often, and that the choice the person makes depends on their predisposition/openness to being gay/bi/lesbian.
If they can accept they can love the same/different gender regardless, then really, choosing to stay (in love or whatever it is they're choosing really) with the same person changing their sex/gender is just adapting to change.
I told my sweetie if he was a girl, I would still love him as he was, and would still be in the same boat as we are today. He on the other hand admitted if I was a guy, that things between us would be different.
I'm kinda in that same boat with Aneyana and Ch0.
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Nespin Fernagon Vice Captain
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Posted: Sun Oct 03, 2010 8:09 am
Y'know. I'm honestly not sure on this one. I don't think physical attraction would be there any longer, but would the emotional survive...? Hrm.
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Posted: Sat Oct 23, 2010 2:40 pm
I'm bisexual so the orientation thing doesn't apply to me, but a full physical change would definitely effect the relationship.
Going M to F is considerably easier on the body than F to M and either way you end up with some extremely heavy difficult issues to face as a couple like how large of breasts to get and what kind of implants if any or what sort of phallus to get.
I'd like to think that I'd just want the person I care about to be happiest.
On one hand:
I know someone who is thinking of going trans. S/he is pretty young (12) to be concretely dedicated to a decision. S/he has been sort of waffling between genders for years and has only relatively recently considered just picking one and sticking with it. What makes his/her case a bit more unusual is that s/he feels that s/he is a gay male on the inside.
Just in trying to be a supportive friend this makes thing awkward at times, making it hard not to say things like, you idiot, do you have any idea what kind of discrimination you'd be facing and how much of the world would turn against you and if you think you have boy problems now, think about what you'd have to deal with then! If it makes a friendship that difficult I don' think I'd
On the other
I knew this couple that began as a lesbian couple but then one acknowledged that he was male and went through the change. I knew them when he was well into the hormone treatment but still pre-op and the whole experience had just brought the two of them closer together.
Of course they were madly in love soul mates and the perfect couple, a rarity
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Posted: Sat Oct 23, 2010 2:57 pm
Well. I have thought of being a hot dude once.....what a nice dream. So i'd say I was ok. But how can this person afford it?
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Posted: Sat Oct 23, 2010 3:03 pm
Ugh, no, I won't lol, I'm attracted to certain features in women, I have zero interest in dating a male...But I won't down right shut my love out, I'll do my best to be a good friend instead
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Posted: Wed Dec 22, 2010 1:20 am
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Posted: Wed Dec 22, 2010 4:05 am
I'm honestly not sure if I would or not, I've never really been in love before so I'm I don't know If it's possible for me to answer honestly. But I think that I agree with the view that I'd still love them emotionally, but I don't think I'd be physically attracted to them if they changed to being a female. At the same time I'm not sure if I would love them enough to adapt and get it to work, I'd like to say that it's something I'd be able to do since I think it's something love should be able to live through, but I don't know what I'd actually do if the situation was to come up. I hope it's something I'll never have to deal with though.
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Posted: Wed Dec 29, 2010 3:05 am
♦ ♣ ♥ ♠
I think that's one of those situations where you don't really know until it actually happens exactly how you would handle yourself.
I'd definitely still love and care for the person on a psychological level, and I'd like to think that I'd be able to get over the shock and continue to love them in a physical sense as well- though I think the sheer change in the dynamic of the relationship that a gender change would cause might wreak more havoc than I'd be prepared to deal with.
I'm not opposed to change, nor transsexuals, nor same-sex marriages or any of that jazz- I just think the impact of knowing and bonding with someone in one form and then suddenly having them in another would be extremely shocking and hard to adjust to, if that makes any sense at all. I'd certainly try, though- if the person meant enough to me.
♦ ♣ ♥ ♠
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Posted: Wed Dec 29, 2010 8:32 pm
Yeah I would still love them it would be kinda akward at first though.
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Posted: Thu Dec 30, 2010 8:21 am
Im usually attracted to someone because of their personality not really their looks.
That being said I could careless about how someone looks, its mainly how they make me feel and such.
Usually people abandon me or ignore me or use me and then throw me away
but I'm Lucky I have Mickey, I would change for her, To be honest, I love her to bits.
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Posted: Mon Jan 03, 2011 4:48 am
i won't change my love. Many leaves them but I will not. I'm willing to change for the sake of love...
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