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 Posted: Tue Jan 24, 2006 8:47 pm
when i was in elementary i never cared about my appearance, now thats all i think about. all the girls at school have the perfect bodies and the perfect boyfriends and the perfect life, not me i look terrible, my boyfriend didnt even call when i didnt show up for school for three days(well, actually he did but he didnt even ask why i was out of school),and i have a crapy life at home!
life sucks crying
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Posted: Sun Feb 12, 2006 8:09 pm
That's a really great story!!!
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Posted: Sun Feb 12, 2006 11:41 pm
While cute, I don't think that the poem really does justice to the way we tend to think about other peoples' lives.
When we're not living others' lives, we do not tend to see the bad parts of those lives. Hell, I used to be jealous of my friend with divorced parents because she got TWICE as many presents as I did.
But really, was that as important as having a loving family that was all together? I know she went through a lot of stress and pain because her parents divorced, while all I could do was think about how she got more presents on birthdays and Christmas.
Same goes with sexy women. It seems that they get the sexy guys and live the glamorous life, yet when all is said and done, they're often single, upset because they don't get called back, and get used by those types of men.
Sometimes it takes hard work to be really happy with yourself, but it's most easy to be happy with yourself when you are loved and validated by those around you.
It seems that once I found someone who could really and truly love me for me, that it was much easier for me to love myself.
Funny, that.
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Posted: Tue Feb 14, 2006 10:10 am
Oni-Angel While cute, I don't think that the poem really does justice to the way we tend to think about other peoples' lives. When we're not living others' lives, we do not tend to see the bad parts of those lives. Hell, I used to be jealous of my friend with divorced parents because she got TWICE as many presents as I did. But really, was that as important as having a loving family that was all together? I know she went through a lot of stress and pain because her parents divorced, while all I could do was think about how she got more presents on birthdays and Christmas. Same goes with sexy women. It seems that they get the sexy guys and live the glamorous life, yet when all is said and done, they're often single, upset because they don't get called back, and get used by those types of men. Sometimes it takes hard work to be really happy with yourself, but it's most easy to be happy with yourself when you are loved and validated by those around you. It seems that once I found someone who could really and truly love me for me, that it was much easier for me to love myself. Funny, that. i completely agree with you. apart from the last bit coz i haven't had a boyfriend yet, which sorta ties into the poem thing. but as nice as it is i can't help hating myself.
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Posted: Fri Feb 17, 2006 5:52 pm
to the girls who think they are "ugly"?
uh, doesn't that refer to most girls now days. i mean girls with in the ages of 12-17
i mean, the majority of girls i've been aroudn, (which around three hundred at one point) were all griping about how they wanted to be more beautiful and all that skinner and slimer glistening...and all that modle s**t.... and im not tryign to sya that anyoen of your say or think your ugly..but its just, ....being a guy i mena, it seem thats there are alot of girls who don't take their luck seriously. they've been grante dby the gods, with "NATURAL BEAUTY" not "ADDESIVE BEAUTY" which means, girls who put thousnads of pounds of make up on to make themselves look so ******** perfect that just lookign at them deperesses you.
natural beauty offers so much more. when a girl with natural beauty becomes a offical woman...9 times out of 10, they turn out to be very attractive. where as the girls who used make up to look good...5 times out of 10 don't look good.
so ..its just somethign to think about, if i had the choice to choose a girl with natural looks over paste on looks, i would. and i have before....only once though, she was my first, i kinda always seem to pick the ones who don't use make-up.
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Posted: Fri Feb 17, 2006 5:55 pm
princess101_smgm_2006 when i was in elementary i never cared about my appearance, now thats all i think about. all the girls at school have the perfect bodies and the perfect boyfriends and the perfect life, life sucks crying yes life does suck, why cause ytou chooce it to sweatdrop . now, what in your deffinition equals a perfect body, boyfriend and life?
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Posted: Sun Feb 19, 2006 5:44 pm
darkshadowofthegoths to the girls who think they are "ugly"? uh, doesn't that refer to most girls now days. i mean girls with in the ages of 12-17 i mean, the majority of girls i've been aroudn, (which around three hundred at one point) were all griping about how they wanted to be more beautiful and all that skinner and slimer glistening...and all that modle s**t.... and im not tryign to sya that anyoen of your say or think your ugly..but its just, ....being a guy i mena, it seem thats there are alot of girls who don't take their luck seriously. they've been grante dby the gods, with "NATURAL BEAUTY" not "ADDESIVE BEAUTY" which means, girls who put thousnads of pounds of make up on to make themselves look so ******** perfect that just lookign at them deperesses you. natural beauty offers so much more. when a girl with natural beauty becomes a offical woman...9 times out of 10, they turn out to be very attractive. where as the girls who used make up to look good...5 times out of 10 don't look good. so ..its just somethign to think about, if i had the choice to choose a girl with natural looks over paste on looks, i would. and i have before....only once though, she was my first, i kinda always seem to pick the ones who don't use make-up.
Then there's my pretty friend who isn't allowed to wear make-up, so she obviously doesn't. She doesn't dress like a slut, she's got a great personality. She's never had a boy friend. My other friend is the same way. Then there's me, the ugly duckling who will never be a swan. I could dress like a slut, but I don't want to be raped, and I could wear a ton of make-up, but I know it won't help my apperance.
Some girls get the idea in their head that they have to look like they have on stage make-up in order to look hot when they are around guys. A few chicks in my history class won't go out any where, even if it's to the store, unless they have perfect make-up, and perfect hair.
Who has boy friends? The pretty chicks, the chicks who wear to much make-up, the chicks who dress like sluts, and the chicks who are all of the above. Most of them time they have little to no personality, and little to no intelligence. Who doesn't have boyfriends? Plain chicks, or ugly chicks, who aren't any of the above, and have intelligence and personality. So really it seems that guys are incouraging the negative idea of a horribly dressed girl wearing to much make-up.
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Posted: Wed Mar 01, 2006 7:39 pm
~`Chepi`~ A lot of chicks are that way because it seems that that is the look guys aspire. They want the perfect, pretty, blonde, tiny, big boobed chick who dresses sluttish that will put out. That's how all the girls are at my school except my friends, and all of them have boy friends and are pretty girls who wear to much make-up. IE: The boys are going out with them to "score" and to brag to their friends about what they got their big boobed hussy to do for them in order to make herself feel worthwhile. A strong woman will know that she is way better off by herself than with a stupid man (cough, boy, cough). Quote: Then there's my pretty friend who isn't allowed to wear make-up, so she obviously doesn't. She doesn't dress like a slut, she's got a great personality. She's never had a boy friend. You mean that boys are used to the 'slut ho without a personlity' girls, so they're intimidated by a woman who actually respects herself and can hold her own. Boys in school don't have much confidence, so they tend to go after girls who don't have much self confidence and who would do anything to prove that they're attractive...somehow, to feel worth something. Quote: Then there's me, the ugly duckling who will never be a swan. I could dress like a slut, but I don't want to be raped, and I could wear a ton of make-up, but I know it won't help my apperance. Oh really? We are often the hardest on ourselves. I'll bet that after high school you don't have to worry as much, and that you'll meet someone who will be attuned to exactly what you're looking for. I know this because I met the love of my life AFTER high school. Quote: Some girls get the idea in their head that they have to look like they have on stage make-up in order to look hot when they are around guys. A few chicks in my history class won't go out any where, even if it's to the store, unless they have perfect make-up, and perfect hair. But who wants to work that hard, suffer that much, and as a reward get to give oral sex to a selfish little p***k who doesn't give a s**t about you without your makeup and your pornstar voice on? Quote: Who has boy friends? The pretty chicks, the chicks who wear to much make-up, the chicks who dress like sluts, and the chicks who are all of the above. Most of them time they have little to no personality, and little to no intelligence. They don't have boyfriends. They have "********" who are basically just the guys who want to brag about their ability to "get the wimmins" and make them do humiliating sex stuff without reciprocation. You like that? Quote: Who doesn't have boyfriends? Plain chicks, or ugly chicks, who aren't any of the above, and have intelligence and personality. So really it seems that guys are incouraging the negative idea of a horribly dressed girl wearing to much make-up. I don't know WHAT you're talking about. I don't wear make up. I don't go around primping all day. I am intellegent, cute, and obviously not perfect, but I have a loving fiance who wants me more than anyone else, and I have many "fanboys" who wish that they can have me. I used to think that I was ugly and gross, but the problem wasn't ME it was THEM. Most of the boys in school (and I do mean BOYS), were so immature and stupid, that they were still talking about poop and toilets and laughing about boogers when I was head over heels crushing on the Guy I Liked for all of high school. Seriously, the first thing you need to do is respect yourself, and then you need to say "******** it" to those stupid boys, because they're not worth it, they're ignoramous, egotistical, and vain little boys pretending to be Men. So, first thing to do is make YOURSELF happy, and be happy and content with WHO YOU ARE. Insecurity shows all over your face when you don't like yourself, but confidence makes you SHINE.
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Posted: Wed Mar 01, 2006 7:59 pm
Okay, excuse me. Besides the ugly kids as my self, the sluts who wear to much make-up like most of the teenage girl population, and the pretty but "plain" girls like my friends, there are the lucky few such as your self who are intelligent, cute, and have people who like/want you.
There's no point in respecting your self when you see no point in your own existence. But that's just my take on it.
But I'm glad you're happy. Really, I am. You don't see many people like that these days.
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Posted: Wed Mar 01, 2006 10:28 pm
It's because you see what you expect.
Have a pessimistic view and your brain puts on a filter to see the negative and filter out the positive. Have a positive view and the opposite happens, you tend to notice more good then bad.
So have a negative angsty view about who gets the boys and you'll notice them and not the other people. -shrugs-
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Posted: Thu Mar 02, 2006 4:52 pm
I'm not sure who else I am supposed to notice... But ok.
Sorry, my views aren't changing. Heh, I've been pessimistic my entire life. What is the point of setting your self up to be all happy when you constantly fail? I just think that makes life worse, but of course that is just my view on life.
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Posted: Thu Mar 02, 2006 6:54 pm
~`Chepi`~ I'm not sure who else I am supposed to notice... But ok.
Sorry, my views aren't changing. Heh, I've been pessimistic my entire life. What is the point of setting your self up to be all happy when you constantly fail? I just think that makes life worse, but of course that is just my view on life. It's so cliche to say, but you'll see a whole lot more clearly after high school is over. Promise.
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Posted: Fri Mar 03, 2006 4:01 pm
Promises are meant to be broken. I'll hold you to that.
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Posted: Fri Mar 03, 2006 4:56 pm
Pirate Dirge It's because you see what you expect.
Have a pessimistic view and your brain puts on a filter to see the negative and filter out the positive. Have a positive view and the opposite happens, you tend to notice more good then bad.
So have a negative angsty view about who gets the boys and you'll notice them and not the other people. -shrugs- Agreed, it's amazing to think how "concrete" I was in my thoughts and beliefs at age 17 versus being 23 now. If you've been pessimistic all your life and not had much luck or success, maybe that's a sign that it's obviously not working? Another cliche, but focusing on the positives in life has been my saving grace.
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Posted: Mon Mar 06, 2006 7:34 am
Kukushka Fatal_Rei my entire childhood (I mean through elementary, and junior high years. I'm only 16 myself), I thought I was incredibly ugly. I got picked on because I use to be real over-weight and very plain looking. Boys picked on me A LOT...I hated it. I never felt pretty. It made me feel like I didn't deserve anything good like having a good boyfriend, friends, etc. I got over it in highschool but it took finding someone who truly liked me to do it. Granted, I do wear make-up now and I've thinned out quite a bit due to martial arts, but still. kids can be so mean. Same here, actually. It's funny, I was always chubby but my grandma kept saying it was just "baby fat" and that I grow out of it. I always thought she was just being a grandma. But boom, 17th birthday and I grew about a foot and didn't gain any weight. What hurt the most, though, wasn't the teasing. It was when they would pretend to be nice. I always wanted to believe that were actually starting to like me or something and I fell for it every single time. I can't possible count how many times I had to walk home from some party or another crying. Yeah that's awful when they pretend to do like you, although some do it so badly you can spot it a mile off. It's actually quite funny when you play along and then tell them to go away.
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